Grace & Grind

By Dr. Pamala Brown-GrinionBusiness Religion & Spirituality Christianity Education Self-Improvement Management

Grace & Grind episodes

September 12, 2024The Etiquette of Grief: Sustaining Poise Through Personal Loss with Maisha Beard
Ep. 8 Grief is deeply personal, and there’s no one way to navigate it. In this emotional episode of Grace & Grind, host Dr. Pamala and guest Maisha Beard, founder of The Maisha Experience, share their raw and real experiences of losing their mothers. 💔 Together, they unpack the complexities of grief, from the physical toll it takes to the ways it reshapes our daily lives.
If you’ve ever experienced loss or want to support someone who has, this conversation offers profound insights into healing with grace, patience, and authenticity.
Tune in for a heartfelt discussion about the importance of expressing emotions, avoiding harmful clichés, and finding the strength to thrive even in the midst of grief. 🖤
Key Takeaways:
Understanding Grief: Grief is not a destination, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Each person's journey is unique, and it's essential to allow oneself to feel and express emotions authentically.

Physiological Impacts: Grief can manifest physically, affecting one's memory, energy levels, and causing hair loss, chronic pain, and other health issues.

Expressing Emotions: Authentic expression of emotions, whether it's crying, talking about the loved one, or engaging in self-care practices, is crucial for healing.

Support Systems: The importance of a supportive network that offers patience and empathy, rather than quick fixes or clichés, is highlighted as vital for those in mourning.

Mom's Eternal Presence: Memories and small gestures can keep the spirit of a loved one alive, providing comfort and motivation to continue thriving.
Notable Quotes:
"When I look good, I feel good. So I try to keep myself together. That helps." – Maisha Beard

"It's okay to feel how you feel. And no one can tell you that you are wrong for feeling this way." – Maisha Beard

About the Guest:
Maisha Beard is a retired beauty industry hairstylist, business beauty coach, and keynote speaker. She is the founder of The Maisha Experience, LLC, a movement born from her journey through grief after losing her mother in March 2023. Maisha helps entrepreneurs thrive, and she uses her voice to share her story, advocating for understanding and processing grief, and inspiring hope among those who are navigating similar challenges.

RESOURCES & CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC

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57 min
August 29, 2024Can a Sister Get a Raise? Advocating for Pay Equity with Dr Angelia Smith Wilson
Ep. 7 Do you know your worth? America seems to think it's 70% less than a white man's. Dive into the deep intersection of race, class, and gender, and learn why building a community of support is essential for driving systemic change.
Today on the Grace and Grind podcast, Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion and her powerhouse guest, Dr. Angelia Smith Wilson, are pulling back the curtain on pay equity for Black women. Discover the shocking truth behind why Black women earn just $0.31 for every dollar a white male makes—and what you can do about it.
Dr. Smith Wilson shares her personal journey from disbelief to determination, turning the wage gap into a lifelong mission to empower others to claim what they deserve.
From mastering the art of self-advocacy to her game-changing "Act Up" approach, this episode is your guide to assessing your worth, building the courage to demand what you're owed, and standing firm in your value.
💡 Key Takeaways:
The harsh reality of pay disparities Black women face—and why it’s time to speak up for raises.

How to consistently advocate for your worth, not just during annual reviews.

Dr. Smith Wilson’s "Act Up" method to power your pay negotiations.

Why courage must come before confidence—and how to unlock your inner treasures.

The crucial role of community in championing pay equity and supporting your journey.

Don’t just listen—take action. Your worth is undeniable, and it's time to claim it. 🎧 #PayEquity #BlackWomenAtWork #GraceAndGrind #SelfAdvocacy
Friends in Recovery New York: Website

Pay Equity Acts: Modern Pay Act, Paycheck Act, and Equal Pay Act
RESOURCES & CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
About the Guest:
Dr. Angelia Smith Wilson is the Executive Director of Friends in Recovery New York, a statewide advocacy organization dedicated to supporting individuals in recovery and their families through policy change and community engagement. Dr. Smith Wilson has a robust background in change management, strategic planning, program evaluation, and is deeply passionate about advocating for pay equity for Black women. Her work spans various sectors including education, state services, and policy advocacy.

Chapters:
0:00 Advocating for Pay Equity for Black Women in the Workforce
6:46 Navigating Pay Disparities in State-Level Executive Positions
9:55 Strategies for Black Women to Address Pay Inequities
21:17 Building Self-Worth Through Assessment, Courage, and Treasure Mapping
23:57 Empowering Black Women to Navigate Workplace Challenges
33:10 Navigating Silent Rage and Personal Growth as Black Professionals
40:13 Gracefully Fighting for Pay Equity and Knowing Your Worth

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48 min
August 15, 2024Relationship Etiquette 102: Navigating Relationship Stages with Coach Kim Love Jones
Ep. 6 You're ready for a relationship, but are you actually prepared to maintain one? Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion and relationship coach Kim Love Jones are back to explore the nuances of readiness versus preparedness in relationships. They discuss the importance of communication, friendship, and setting healthy boundaries, while also touching on love languages and feminine energy. Through personal stories and expert insights, they offer practical advice for cultivating lasting, meaningful relationships.
If you missed part one, you can listen to it here
We dive into managing our own emotional landmines, learning to love the perfectly imperfect person you're with, and the nuts and bolts of saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Kim hammers home the importance of getting the love languages down pat and how powerful it can be when you speak to the very best in your partner.
Key Takeaways:
Self-Reflection: Understanding oneself is crucial before engaging in a relationship. It helps in recognizing personal triggers and managing expectations.

Boundaries: Setting and respecting healthy boundaries ensures mutual respect and helps define the contours of a relationship.

Communication: Effective communication, based on empathetic listening and understanding your partner's needs, is foundational to a strong relationship.

Friendship in Romance: Building a romantic relationship on a solid foundation of friendship enhances trust, empathy, and long-term connection.

Feminine Energy and Wisdom: Leveraging feminine energy with wisdom can create a nurturing and peaceful environment in a relationship, helping to resolve conflicts amicably.
Notable Quotes:
"You need to find out how they need to be loved, and then from there, you love them the way that they need it." – Kim Love Jones

"Knowing when to speak and when not to speak is wisdom." – Kim Love Jones
Resources:
“The Five Love Languages”

Work with Relationship Coach | Kim Love Jones (reallovejones.com)
CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Chapters:
0:00 The Difference Between Being Ready and Being Prepared for Relationships
3:42 Navigating Relationship Deal Breakers and Core Values
10:54 The Importance of Friendship in Romantic Relationships
16:49 Stages of Relationships and Authentic Communication
23:28 Setting Healthy Boundaries in Relationships
27:23 Effective Communication Strategies for Strengthening Relationships
31:16 Balancing Feminine Energy and Wisdom in Relationships

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40 min
August 01, 2024Relationship Etiquette 101: Building Safer Spaces and Stronger Bonds with Kim Love Jones
Ep. 5 How often do we think our relationship issues are all about the other person, only to realize that self-awareness and emotional intelligence might be the real game-changers? This week on the Grace and Grind podcast, we dive into a conversation on relationship etiquette with Kim Love Jones, a certified relationship coach.
We delve into the vital roles of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in achieving happiness within relationships, debunking common misconceptions. Kim delivers key takeaways about the significance of personal growth and self-love for nurturing successful relationships.
The conversation is enriched with real-life scenarios and professional guidance, making it a treasure trove of knowledge for those striving for more profound and fulfilling connections.
Resources:
Work with Relationship Coach | Kim Love Jones (reallovejones.com)
CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC

Key Takeaways:
Self-Love and Happiness: Only you can make yourself happy. Relationships should enhance, not define, your happiness.

Emotional Intelligence: Being aware of your triggers and emotional responses is crucial for successful relationships.

Vulnerable Communication: Honest and compassionate communication creates a safer space for both partners.

Self-Awareness: True self-awareness involves inner understanding and emotional intelligence, crucial for meaningful relationships.

Mature Relationships: Mature relationships require both partners to be prepared to support each other emotionally and practically.
Notable Quotes:
"Your silence is violence to the relationship." - Kim Love Jones

"Being aware of how you feel is self-awareness, being aware of your triggers." - Kim Love Jones

"Just because you think you're ready doesn't mean you're prepared." - Dr. Pam

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39 min
July 18, 2024Mastering First Impressions with Philip Sykes of The British School of Excellence
Ep. 4 Today on Grace & Grind, host Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion sits down with her personal development coach Philip Sykes, CEO of The British School of Excellence, to delve into the intricacies of professional etiquette and cultural awareness.
This episode focuses on empowering professional women to navigate the workplace with confidence and poise, stressing the importance of self-belief, emotional intelligence, and the power of a memorable first impression.
Moreover, the episode unveils the exciting collaboration between The British School of Excellence and Dr. Pamala's Totally You-nique Institute of Excellence to bring accredited etiquette training to the USA, starting in Rochester, New York.
Key Takeaways:
Maintaining one's femininity can be a strength in professional settings; it's crucial to bring your authentic self into the workplace.

Cultural awareness and sensitivity are essential in today's globalized work environment.

Building a strong first impression through appropriate dressing, body language, and confidence can significantly impact professional interactions.
Notable Quotes:
"Surround yourself with people better than you, that push you, that encourage you, that advocate, that become advocates for you." - Philip Sykes

"Act until you become." - Philip Sykes

"In a world where you can be anything, just be kind." - Philip Sykes

"Dress the Way You Want to Be Addressed" - Phillip Sykes
Resources:
British School of Excellence: British School of Excellence

City and Guilds: City and Guilds

Forbes Article on Imposter Syndrome: Forbes

Amy Cuddy's TED Talk on Body Language: TED Talk
CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Chapters:
0:00 Empowering Women Through Etiquette and Leadership Skills
5:43 Importance of Accreditation
13:17 Empowering Women to Overcome Imposter Syndrome in Male-Dominated Industries
19:26 Making a Memorable First Impression Through Appearance and Confidence
26:41 Importance of Cultural Awareness in Professional and Personal Growth
31:01 Debunking Etiquette Myths and Emphasizing Kindness Over Wealth

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41 min
July 05, 2024Leading with Grace: Lessons from London on Poise and Professionalism
Ep. 3 In this enlightening episode of Grace & Grind, host Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion recounts her transformative eight-day trip to London and shares her experiences and observations. She reflects on the impeccable conduct and civility she encountered in the UK, attributing this to the exemplary leadership modeled by the late Queen Elizabeth. The episode delves into how societal and organizational leadership can significantly influence individual behavior.
Dr. Pamala also discusses her role at the British School of Excellence, where she trained international cohorts in the "Train the Trainer" program. She emphasizes the importance of focusing on the social and emotional development of youth, showcasing her passion for creating a holistic approach to etiquette and personal development.
This episode encapsulates powerful lessons on leadership, the profound impact of environment on behavior, and the critical need for soft skills training in today's workforce.

### Key Takeaways:
Influence of Leadership: Dr. Pamala believes that the exemplary behavior she witnessed in London was influenced by the late Queen's top-notch leadership, suggesting that people often mirror the characteristics of their leaders.

Holistic Youth Training: Emphasizing the importance of addressing the whole child, Dr. Pamala advocates for integrating social and emotional learning into etiquette training.

Diverse Professional Experiences: Dr. Pamala shares the enriching and diverse interactions she had with professionals from around the world during her training sessions in London.

Skills Gap in New Generations: Highlighting research on Gen Z and Gen Alpha, she points out the critical need for social skills training, as many young people feel unprepared for the workforce.

The Role of Etiquette Professionals: Dr. Pamala stresses the importance of etiquette and personal development professionals in filling the gaps left by traditional education and parenting.

RESOURCES & CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC

Chapters:
0:00 Introduction and London Trip Overview
1:21 Podcast Mission Statement
1:56 Observations on London Etiquette
4:28 Leadership and Influence
6:36 Family Structure and Leadership
8:19 Example: Personal Presentation and Conduct
9:48 Be the Change You Want to See
10:01 Emma Parnell's Testimonial
11:56 Invitation to London and Training Experience
15:05 Training Approach and Objectives
16:28 Student Testimonials
19:44 Diverse Group Interaction in London
21:12 Improving Soft Skills for the Workforce
24:25 Conclusion and Call to Action
26:26 Final Reflections and Takeaways

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30 min
June 20, 2024Elevate Your Grind with Grace: How Dr. Pamala is Transforming Women's Lives Through Etiquette and Personal Development
Ep. 2 Emmy-winning journalist Elaine Houston joins your host Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion to explore the podcast's mission to empower women through etiquette and personal development, focusing on internal and external transformation. Discussing the challenges women, especially women of color, face in balancing professional life while retaining their femininity, the episode delves into societal expectations, navigating impostor syndrome, and the importance of self-awareness.
Key Takeaways:
Grace and Grind Philosophy: Understanding the balance between maintaining elegance and femininity (grace) while striving hard in professional endeavors (grind).

Addressing Stereotypes: Overcoming negative stereotypes associated with women of color by exhibiting professionalism and self-respect.

Self-Development: The importance of inner personal development to foster outwardly positive behaviors and attitudes.

Healing from Within: Addressing and healing from past traumas to build confidence and self-esteem in professional and personal life.

Practical Advice: Real-life strategies for improving social skills, professionalism, and personal etiquette to excel in various settings.
Notable Quotes:
"We need to demystify this stereotype that all Black women or women of color are angry or ratchet or ghetto."

"We have to stop and say, hey, this isn't working for me, so maybe I need to fix that."

"You don't ever have to walk alone again because you now have a big sister."
RESOURCES & CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.
Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Elaine Houston's new role: Business for Good

Subscribe now and tune in the next episode, "Can a Sister Get a Raise?" where the discussion will focus on addressing and dismantling the wage gap for women.

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26 min
June 07, 2024Rising Above: Lessons in Leadership, Resilience, and Empowerment for Women of Color
Ep. 1 Welcome to the debut episode of Grace and Grind, hosted by Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion. This podcast aims to redefine what it means to act like a lady and think like a boss, focusing on aiding female professionals in workplace navigation. In this first episode, Dr. Brown-Grinion addresses questions sent in by her mentees and coachees, sharing her insightful journey and experiences.
Throughout the episode, Dr. Pamala candidly discusses the challenges she has faced as a black woman in predominantly White spaces, emphasizing the importance of confidence and remembering one's roots. She also highlights essential leadership lessons, the value of mentorship, and the significance of helping others rise. Dr. Pamala reveals her motivations behind starting the podcast and sheds light on her personal life, including balancing career and passions, dealing with discouragement, and building resilience through spiritual grounding and learning from past mistakes.
Notable Quotes:
"I remind myself of who I am and what I'm capable of... you belong in the room."

"Send the elevator back down, but don't just send it down. Be on the elevator, go down, get a baby sister."

RESOURCES & CONNECT
Learn more about Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, Founder of Emotional Etiquette™, and explore resources on trauma-informed leadership, women's professional development, Emotional Authority™, executive transformation, professional etiquette, and executive presence.

Website: totallyyou-nique.com
Instagram: @iamdrpamala
TikTok: @iamdrpamala
YouTube: @iamdrpamala
LinkedIn: Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion | @iamdrpamala
Facebook: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC
Home of Emotional Etiquette™: Totally “You”-nique Educational Consultants, LLC

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28 min
May 22, 2024 Grace & Grind Podcast Launches June 6th [TRAILER]
Welcome to 'Grace and Grind, the podcast redefining what it means to think like a lady but act like a boss while helping female professionals navigate the intricacies of the workplace with poise, confidence, and grace.

Hosted by Dr. Pamala Brown-Grinion, CEO of Totally You-nique Educational Consultants and certified in international etiquette, manners, and life skills by the British School of Excellence. I have trained thousands of women and girls in personal and professional development and that work continues at my newly opened etiquette school in Rochester, NY.

New episodes every other Thursday starting June 6 2024. Subscribe now!

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4 min