How do you turn someone down romantically without creating awkwardness or burning bridges? In this episode, my partner, Danny, and I tackle one of the trickiest aspects of non-monogamous relationships: rejection. Inspired by a question from one of our Patreon supporters, we explore how to say "no" in a way that’s respectful, kind, and true to your own boundaries.

Key Topics We Cover:

• Why Over-Explaining Hurts More Than It Helps: Learn how to set boundaries without feeling the need to justify yourself.
• Handling Social Dynamics After a Rejection: Discover strategies for maintaining positive connections in your community.
• Balancing Honesty with Kindness: Find out how to express your needs without hurting others unnecessarily.

Practical Tips and Personal Stories

We both open up about our own experiences with rejection, sharing valuable advice on how to:

• Stand firm in your boundaries and desires.
• Communicate with clarity and confidence.
• Handle rejection with grace when it happens to you.

A Conversation Rooted in Self-Worth

We also discuss how to deal with the sting of being turned down. From navigating feelings of hopelessness to rebuilding self-worth, this episode provides actionable insights for building resilience and honoring your authentic self in all interactions.

"What I want matters more than what others want for me."

Bonus Segment for Patreon Supporters:

Want an extra does of insight? For our dedicated Patreon friends, we've included an exclusive "Just the Tip" segment with additional insights and a spicy tidbit you won't want to miss. Head over to patreon.com/notmonogamous to to unlock ad-free episodes, Q&A calls, and more perks.

Whether you're new to non-monogamy or been on this ride for years, this episode offers tools for navigating rejection with confidence and compassion. Tune in for a conversation that will transform the way you approach saying—and hearing—"no."

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