We discuss how paying attention to the books, movies, or TV shows someone loves can provide profound insights into their character and inner life. Our happiness hack shares surprising research that shows we're actually terrible at choosing our own most flattering photos; strangers select better images of us than we do ourselves. Plus we talk to Rich Benjamin about his compelling new memoir, Talk to Me, in which he explores the history and secrets that have haunted his family.

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• Pre-order your copy of Secrets of Adulthood
• Join me on book tour starting April 1, 2025
• Talk to Me by Richard Benjamin (Amazon, Bookshop)
• Outer Order, Inner Calm by Gretchen Rubin 
• Elizabeth is reading: War and Peace and nothing else these days! (Amazon, Bookshop)
• Gretchen is reading: Crush by Ada Calhoun (Amazon, Bookshop)

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Sometimes, the title of a movie manages to become shorthand for entire life situations—think "The Matrix," "Gaslight," and “The Devil Wears Prada.” Also, this collection illustrates my deep appreciation for the pleasure of examples. 

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• More Happier episode 
• My “24 for 24” list

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First in a new discussion series on happiness: Friendship Roundtable. Joining me is a longtime friend, Laurie Santos, and a new friend, Reshma Saujani. We talk about how our friendships have changed over time, how to handle conflict, and how to make new friends in adulthood. Yale professor Laurie Santos is host of “The Happiness Lab” podcast. Reshma Saujani is founder of Girls Who Code and Moms First and host of the “My So-Called Midlife” podcast. 

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• Four Tendencies Quiz 

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We explore the powerful “Rule of More” that we can make our lives happier—or less happy. We share an easy yet highly effective hack for prompting the entire family to help clear clutter. Plus we share listeners’ excellent Secrets of Adulthood.

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• Pre-order your copy of Secrets of Adulthood
• Join me on book tour starting April 1, 2025
• "Read 25 in 25"
• Here are my favorite products to get organized
• Elizabeth is reading:  Say Everything: A Memoir by Ione Skye (Amazon, Bookshop)
• Gretchen is reading: Orbital by Samantha Harvey (Amazon, Bookshop)

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In my version of a traditional teaching story, a village is terrorized by a crocodile. This story explores the dangers of dismissing threats to others while hoping that we’ll be spared. 

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In a conversation with the brilliant and hilarious Ramit Sethi, we talk about “money for couples.” We discuss issues such as the four money types, how to handle conflict within a relationship, when to start talking about money when dating, red flags, and more.

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• Become a Super-Fan! 
• Money for Couples by Ramit Sethi (Amazon, Bookshop)

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We explore the big question of whether to get a dog, sharing results from our listener poll, research on how pets boost happiness, and hilarious "worst-case scenarios.” We share a hack for getting tasks done more quickly and pleasantly. Plus we feature a rich collection of listener insights on restaurant plate-rotating secrets, balance-building while tooth-brushing, how grief can lead to new friendships, and more.

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• Pre-order your copy of Secrets of Adulthood
• Join me on book tour starting April 1, 2025
• We mention the podcast Side Hustle School
• The Library of Congress
• National Archives
• A Little Happier: The Efforts that Allow a Grandmother's Love to Speak Across Time
• Elizabeth is reading: Code Girls: The Untold Story of the American Women Code Breakers of World War II by Liza Mundy (Amazon, Bookshop)
• Gretchen is reading: Legendborn by Tracy Deonn (Amazon, Bookshop)

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Through my "Operation Knicks Knowledge" experiment, I've discovered that basketball rules evolve constantly—and one particular change reveals a profound truth about human nature. We manage what we monitor, and we encourage what we reward.

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In honor of our tenth anniversary, we revisit a fan-favorite episode: The one where Elizabeth talks about giving a Ped Egg to her mother-in-law. Many listeners cited this segment as one of the all-time funniest discussions on the show. We also discuss Gretchen’s travel hack, the “Bowl of Requirement,” and our favorite wedding readings.

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• Collection of Wedding Readings

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We explore a helpful approach for handling important tasks that can’t be dealt with at present, by stashing them in the metaphorical "messy closet" without guilt. Our happiness hack offers expert advice for managing social situations with difficult people. We also feature a special interview with legendary author Judy Blume about fostering a love of reading, her experiences with book banning, and insights from owning an indie bookstore. 

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• Pre-order your copy of Secrets of Adulthood
• Join me on book tour starting April 1, 2025
• Take the Four Tendencies quiz
• Elizabeth is reading: Code Girls: The Untold Story of the American Women Code Breakers of World War II by Liza Mundy (Amazon, Bookshop)
• Gretchen is reading: Stone Yard Devotional by Charlotte Wood (Amazon, Bookshop)

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