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He Looked Perfect on Paper: Maile's Story [340]


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Ever fallen for someone who looked flawless on paper, but in real life turned out to be your personal nightmare with a Christian smile slapped on top? 


In today’s episode, I sit down with Maile, a bright spark in our Flying Free community, who thought she’d landed in God’s will when she married her second husband. Instead, she found herself suffocating under spiritual gaslighting, emotional sabotage, and escalating violence, all hidden behind the shiny veneer of “good Christian marriage.”

This is a real story of what it looks like to wake up, break free, and rebuild your life, even when you’ve already done the divorce thing once before, and the church ladies are clutching their pearls at you for round two.


In this episode:

  • The red flags Maile ignored during dating (love bombing, control, snooping)
  • How spiritual abuse kept her stuck under the “good Christian wife” lie
  • Why COVID became the unexpected wake-up call she needed
  • How she found the courage to leave, even after already being divorced once
  • What freedom and faith look like on the other side of abuse

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

  • Book mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk.
  • Some other survivor stories: Shelley’s story and Stacie’s story.


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