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Ever found yourself freezing mid-conversation, overreacting to a small comment, or walking away from a talk thinking, “That didn’t come out how I meant it to”?

You’re not alone. In this episode, we explore why communication feels impossible when you’re triggered—and how your attachment style, nervous system, and past experiences all play a role.

If you’re tired of miscommunication, emotional spirals, or feeling misunderstood, this episode will help you connect the dots—and start healing your communication patterns from the inside out.

What We Cover:

• Why “just use your words” doesn’t work when you’re dysregulated
  
  
  
• How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles show up in communication
  
  
  
• The nervous system’s role in fight/flight/freeze responses mid-conversation
  
  
  
• Why small things feel huge when you’re triggered
  
  
  
• The real reason you shut down, fawn, or over-explain
  
  
  
• How to expand your window of tolerance so you can stay present
  
  
  
• Why learning to communicate is a healing process—not just a skill
  
  

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• Say what you mean (without spiraling after)
  
  
  
• Stay grounded when conversations get tense
  
  
  
• Understand and shift your attachment-driven patterns
  
  
  
• Build secure communication, even when it feels vulnerable
  
  
  

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Let’s talk about the subtle ways we push people away - even when we don’t mean to.

In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 communication habits that can quietly damage connection, especially if you’ve learned to protect yourself by not being fully honest about what you need.

Here’s what we cover:

• Why over-explaining isn’t clarity - it’s a nervous system trying to feel safe
  
  
• How emotional distance and avoidance can cause resentment and fuel conflict
• The sneaky habit of expressing needs through small, surface-level complaints instead of saying what’s really going on
  
  
  

These patterns aren’t about being “bad at communication.” They usually form when it hasn’t felt safe to be direct, or when your needs were ignored or dismissed in the past.

This episode will help you spot the moments you disconnect from your truth and away from healthy communication. 

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🗓️ Join the online workshop on how to manage conflict and have hard conversations

MAY 17th 11am-1pm GMT+1  🚨 Book by May 10th for Early Bird Pricing 🐥
 

If you shut down in conflict or get stuck in anxious-avoidant dynamics, this is for you.

I’ll be guiding you through how to manage conflict so you don’t resort to childlike behaviour or become unnecessarily critical. I’ll teach you how to respond in a way that builds connection without abandoning yourself.

👉🎟️ Grab your spot here to join the Workshop👈

• Learn the communication mistakes that make conflict worse and how to change it
• To shift your usual communication style so you can be clear, concise and rational
• How to stop people pleasing and over explaining yourself 

Imagine:

• Not spending days overthinking what you could have said better
• Communicating from a place of calm instead of insecure attachment 
• Feeling more connected in your relationships so you don’t have to fear abandonment and rejection 

Spots are limited and I’d love to have you join us.

Full Details for Speak to be Heard Workshop on May 17th 2025 

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Healing Childhood trauma is back after a break! 

In this episode, I’m talking about five emotional habits that might seem harmless—or even polite—but are actually signs you’re disconnected from your emotional needs.

These patterns are common if you grew up in a home where your emotions weren’t welcomed or validated, and they often show up in the way we relate to ourselves and others as adults.

We’ll cover:

• Why constantly invalidating your own experience feels “normal”
  
  
  
• How over-apologising chips away at your sense of self
  
  
  
• The long-term cost of not expressing your emotions
  
  
  
• Why emotional avoidance keeps you stuck in the same cycles
  
  
  
• How guilt around resting is a trauma response, not a productivity issue
  
  
  

AND how this all relates to attachment trauma 

If you’ve ever said, “I don’t want to make a big deal out of it” or felt guilty just for taking a break—this one’s for you.

It’s not about shame—it’s about awareness. And small shifts in how you treat your emotions can change everything.

✨ Let’s explore what it looks like to come back to yourself.

Episodes referenced in the episode:

Therapist Tips on Having Hard Conversations and Dealing with Conflict 

4 Attachment Styles in Relationships 

📣 🗓️ P.S. I’ve got a brand-new workshop coming up in May.

It’s for anyone who shuts down in conflict or gets stuck in the anxious-avoidant cycle. If you want practical tools and deeper insight into why this happens, stay tuned—details will be landing in your inbox soon.

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In this episode of healing childhood trauma, the anxious and avoidant attachment style dynamic is explored. 

It’s why the relationships that seem to make sense in the beginning, often end up in frustration and dissatisfaction. 

In this episode you’ll understand where anxious and avoidant attachment begins 

How these patterns show up in the early stages of a relationship 

Why people with anxious attachment are drawn to people with avoidant attachment 

Why people with avoidant attachment can appear to be secure in the early stages of a relationship

and lots more

This is the in-depth answers to attachment that you’ve been looking for that help you to improve your attachment patterns 

Previous episode on attachment 4 Attachment Styles in Relationships [Ep 2]

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Lizandra is a trauma informed psychotherapist who works with relational trauma in adults. Healing Childhood Trauma is a mental health podcast about healing from the past, breaking unhealthy patterns and becoming secure, so you can have the best relationships.

This podcast is for you if you find yourself asking questions such as

How do I heal from Trauma? 

Can I change my attachment style? 

Why am I a people pleaser? 

How do I get over my fear of being alone? 

Why do I feel triggered by my partner’s behaviour? 

How do I set boundaries with toxic family members? 

Why do I not feel good enough even when things are going well? 

What are signs of childhood trauma affecting me as an adult? 

In this episode, Lizandra reveals her own personal experience and insight into managing when you feel emotionally overwhelmed? 

Key points: 

A trauma-informed approach to emotional wellbeing when you have experienced trauma 

The importance of connecting with your body for effective trauma healing

This episode is like a relaxed conversation with a friend but with psychological tips to help you get out of feeling the freeze response and shutting down when overwhelmed 

How to regulate your nervous system and being more in connection with yourself for secure attachment 

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In this episode we explore the root cause of an insecure attachment and father wounds in daughters.

Attachment is often related to romantic relationships but the patterns of abandonment and rejection are often much deeper. 

As a therapist that works with childhood relational trauma, psychotherapist Lizandra offers insights from clinical practice and experience. 

Key learnings: 

How to consider your safety when working with trauma so that you don't feel overwhelmed. 

When happens when you are the daughter of the emotionally absent or critical father

Why do you feel drawn to relationships where you never feel good enough? 

At the end - you'll hear three key steps to begin healing from father wounds to feel more secure in yourself and the relationships that are important to you. 

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Join psychotherapist and relationship therapist Lizandra for this real talk episode that unpacks red flags in relationships and dating. 

Do you ignore the early warning signs in relationships? Ever wish you could have spotted the signs of a toxic relationship early on? 

In this episode you'll discover how we repeat relationship patterns we've learned from our parents

The early signs to spot problematic and narcissistic behaviours you shouldn't ignore

Why we normalise toxic behaviours in relationships

and 

The patterns of behaviour that indicate a lack of boundaries 

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In this episode, we dive deep into the struggles of maintaining your sense of self in relationships when you have an anxious attachment style. If you find yourself constantly overthinking, people pleasing, or feeling like you’re "too much," this episode is for you. 

We’ll explore why anxious attachers often lose themselves in relationships, how childhood trauma plays a role, and practical steps to regain self-worth and emotional independence.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding anxious attachment and why it leads to self abandonment in relationships.
• How early attachment wounds from childhood create patterns of overdependence and fear of rejection.
• Practical strategies for maintaining boundaries, building self-trust, and staying grounded in your identity while still being in a relationship.
• What makes your triggers worse when you don’t pay attention to your relational needs 
• A secure attachment approach to having relationships and meeting your own needs 

If you’re ready to stop losing yourself in relationships and start healing from anxious attachment, don’t miss this episode. 

Listen now and take the first step toward emotional freedom and secure relationships. For more support, download my free guide on healing attachment patterns, and join the conversation in my Facebook group, Becoming Secure.

Previous episode mentioned:

How to heal from anxious attachment 

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What do you do when the most toxic person you know is your mother?

It’s hard dealing with a narcissist. 

It's even harder when that person is your mother. 

In this episode we explore the dynamic of mother daughter relationships and the traits that narcissist mothers have with their daughters. 

Find out the seven signs of a narcissistic mother

What this means about your own attachment style 

How this can impact your friendships, romantic relationships and how you parent

and 

A surprising way that narcissistic mothers handle dealing with boundaries 

If you’ve been wondering how to heal from this toxic dynamic, stick around until the end to find out how to heal from the past.  

As a daughter of a narcissistic mother, learn what you need to do for yourself to heal your attachment wounds so you can have better relationships.  

Lizandra is a psychotherapist who works in private practice helping women to heal from the past so they can thrive in life, work and relationships. 

Ready to start your healing journey? If you are in the UK and EU you can book your 1:1 therapy session 

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Do you get anxiety about having anxiety?

In this episode we explore the mind and body approach to working with the physical and mental signs of anxiety. 

Experienced psychotherapist Lizandra discusses an integrative approach from clinical practice that helps clients to recognise their signs of overwhelm and stress to feel calmer. 

This episode also includes anxiety strategies that help to regulate your nervous system and why there can be a benefit to experiencing anxiety. 

The Anxiety Workbook referenced in the show - learn these skills and more to reduce your anxiety and emotional triggers. 

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