You’ve probably heard of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. It’s a pyramid that puts survival at the bottom and self-actualization at the top. But what if Maslow has it upside down?

In this episode, grace invites us to imagine self-actualization not as a prize for doing the work, but as the pulse and driving force behind everything you are doing, everything you are trying to achieve.

She traces the path to the Desire behind the desire behind the desire. Because it turns out: You have nothing to prove — only layers of longing to follow.

we discuss —

• how Maslow inverted an indigenous Blackfoot paradigm
• unlocking + embodying your fullest, most true expression
• the false promises of Success without Self-actualization
• why things often fall apart in midlife
• next steps for finding your path

If you enjoyed the episode, check out —

• finding your true Gift
• the gritty synthesis of holistic, soul-led entrepreneurs w— Portia Barnett-Herrin

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Dark Matter is the biggest mystery of the cosmos. We’re in Her universe, not ours.

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We can’t do anything unless we have a grasp on our attention. But how do we reclaim it amidst the endless stream of distractions?

Today Amelia Hruby returns to the podcast for a conversation about social media, creative practice, and sacred attention.

We explore digital consciousness, material reality, energetic sovereignty, and what’s really at stake when we live our lives online.

Amelia Hruby is a feminist writer, podcaster and producer with a PhD in philosophy. She is the founder of Softer Sounds podcast studio, and the host of Off the Grid, a podcast about leaving social media. Her new book, *Your Attention is Sacred Except on Social Media* is out now.

we discuss —

• The nonlinear paths of writing books
• Amelia’s experience leaving social media
• Taking full possession of ourselves
• The cultural transition from skepticism to desire
• What happens when you live a digital drone lifestyle
• Why everyone’s talking about attention right now
• Shifting from economical to ecological frameworks
• Stepping back from social media to make space for change
• Why transformation without space can feel like trauma
• From “paying” attention to “giving” attention

LINKS

If you enjoyed the episode, check out —

• Your Deep Alignment is a Portal
• Redefining Acts of Service through Connection w— Amelia Hruby
• Business as Initiation & the Power of Deep Alignment — grace on Amelia’s podcast Off the Grid

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• Visit Amelia’s website
• Buy Amelia’s book
• Listen to Off the Grid

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Today, I’m joined by my dear friend Portia for a conversation about naming and embodying the sacred roles that shape our work.

We explore the challenge of finding words that honor what we do without diminishing it.

Then we trace the paths of the teacher, priestess, jester, and more — slowly weaving the webs that hold us in the world.

Portia is a London based filmmaker and coach. She works from a holistic perspective with flower essences to support anyone wanting to recalibrate emotional issues. She specialises in supporting freelancers, those navigating the creative industries and anyone moving into creative work. All her services can be found at www.newwoo.uk

we discuss —

• What it means to be a teacher
• Learning through presence
• Comparing sacred work to the role of the jester
• Venusian veneration
• How grace stepped into the role of Priestess
• Alchemical clarity + severity

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• the Mother in the Dark w— Clark Strand
• erotic devotion for modern mystics

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• NewWoo.uk

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Clark Strand was a Zen Buddhist monk. Now he writes books of love poetry to Kali Ma and manifestos to the Dark.

In this conversation, we trace his spiritual path from childhood Protestantism through monasticism and massage school — ultimately leading him into deep devotion to the Divine Mother.

Listen in, as we step into the Dark together.

Clark Strand has been studying the world’s spiritual traditions for more than thirty years. The author of several books including Waking the Buddha, Meditation Without Gurus, Waking Up to the Dark and Now is the Hour of Her Return, Strand has written for The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and the Washington Post/Newsweek “On Faith” blog. He is the founder of Way of the Rose, a growing nonsectarian rosary fellowship open to people of any spiritual background, with members around the world. He lives on a dark road with no streetlights in the southern Catskill Mountains.

we discuss —

• the many paths of spiritual devotion
• the patriarchal traditions of many world religions
• how Clark encountered the Divine Mother
• feeling safe in the dark
• why Now is the hour
• human civilization vs human culture
• the power of simple-hearted devotion
• writing poems for Kali
• remembering our birdsong

LINKS

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• Many Mothers + Many Lifetimes: Ancestral Connection w–Perdita Finn

More about our guest —

• The Way of the Rose.org
• Waking Up to the Dark, book by Clark Strand
• Now is the Hour of Her Return, book by Clark Strand

Mentioned in the episode—

• The Gospel of Sri Ramakrishna
• The Gospel According to the Dark

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a soft, simple guided practice to interrupt you, re-center you, into the flickering flame of your Heart.

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Intimate relationships are a magnifying glass and a mirror for how we meet life itself, but most relationship advice focuses on behavior control rather than the deeper spiritual transformation that devotional partnership requires. 

Listen in, as I break down the most common patterns I see blocking authentic intimacy and why becoming a lover is the big spiritual work.

"With enough devotion, ANY THING and ANY MOMENT and ANY CHAPTER of your relationship can become a sacred site." — grace allerdice

we discuss —

• The perfect partner fantasy and how comparing your relationship to an imaginary ideal perpetuates unworthiness and punishment cycles
• Why commitment alone doesn't make relationships rewarding and why time alone doesn't heal them
• The independence and self love trap that blocks true intimacy
• How projecting cultural narratives onto your partner recreates toxic dynamics
• Your partner can read your energy, I promise
• Being vs. doing: the energetic work that transforms relationships from the inside out
• Why radical acceptance is ground zero

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• RIP Good Girl 🪦
• from Judgement to Mystery 🌀
• Love & Stories w— Michael J Morris

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In this episode, grace traces her journey over the past six years — from ego death to erotic devotion and shares more about the driving forces behind her work these days.

If you’re curious about: embodying paradox, touching Life as your full Self, and the path of the alchemical Feminine, this episode is for you.

Thank you for listening. 

we explore —

• How an epic failure and ego death led grace to start home—body
• Embracing the position of priestess
• Reclaiming your spiritual imagination
• Eroticism and relational wholeness
• Existing at the edges and intersections
• Mary Magdalene and Freedom as an inside job
• Spiritual bypassing versus being okay with uncertainty
• Finding the hologram at the center of your Center

If you enjoyed the episode, check out —

• finding your true Gift
• NOW is Grace : Love the World. 🌎❤️‍🔥

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• Join the waitlist for MA 🌹
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• grace’s offerings 🐍
• Widening Circles, Joanna Macy’s memoir
• Active Hope, Joanna Macy
• Rilke’s Book of Hours, translated by Anita Barrows & Joanna Macy
• Gospel of Mary Magdalene, translation and commentary by Jean-Yves Leloup

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What were you born to give? And how do you live into your fullest expression?

In this episode, grace guides you down the path and offers some clues for recognizing your life’s work. She explains why a career counselor probably can’t be your guide for this, and she gently reflects that this isn’t about saving the world.

If you’re ready to refine how you relate to your life’s work and move more exquisitely into your life’s Beauty, this episode is for you.

we discuss —

• Reframing your life’s work as what you were born to give
• The overarching economy of unfulfilled getting
• Lessons from the fully expressed flower
• Detoxing the word “mission”
• Why saving the world isn’t your calling
• Releasing the fear of Death as fuel for your work
• What masks as Compassion + how to more authentically be with
• Why your connection to Beauty is more than enough

LINKS

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• Beauty is Everything
• Transform your Guilt
• The Initiation Deficit : Part 1

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• The Initiation Deficit : Part 1

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