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How Churches Can Help Abuse Victims (And How They Often Hurt Them Instead) [166]


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It’s hammer time.


I’ve broken down the problems churches face when abuse victims come forward (along with how churches usually react). Then, I smash through the fallacies their hurtful behavior is constructed on. Finally, I provide the building blocks of how to respond to abuse like Jesus did, so the church can be a tool of healing instead of just…tools.  


Cause there’s no point in demoing a building if you don’t intend to build something better. 


Here’s how the real church should respond to women begging for help from abusive partners. 


This tool belt of an episode hits on:

  • How to drill down to the truth (who the actual abuser is) when a partner reports abuse and asks for help
  • Why churches often leave victims with one impossible option (like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole)
  • What love truly means in this situation (it’s not a saved marriage
  • How asking questions can help the church measure twice and cut once (for example: What would motivate a victim to lie? Would a true abuser come forward for help? What does the victim gain by admitting what’s going on? And more)
  • Why letting the chips (and sawdust) fall where they may is foundational
  • The blueprints in a nutshell: Giving the victim her own power drill

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

I'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download

You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.com

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