When you first get introduced to your boyfriend or girlfriend’s family, when is it a good time to talk about your hard past? If you have experienced a different upbringing than the family of your significant other, it can be hard to explain your past. The biggest question is can they embrace you into the family when you have come from a completely different background?

There are some questions to think about after listening to this episode: 

When is it a good time to bring up specifics about your family?

What happens if they don’t think you are good enough for their son?

Where does the relationship go if it becomes a battle between him and his parents?

How can you show them who you are in spite of the rough upbringing?

I had to experience this exact situation when I first met Mike’s family. His family isn’t perfect but they definitely had a different upbringing than I did. It wasn’t the easiest at times, but opening up to peoples family’s takes time. It takes time to show them who you are. 

Never be ashamed of where you have come from, but make sure you are working on yourself to be confident in where you are now. Listen as well as talk to the people asking the questions. You don’t need to defend something you had no control over. You do have to present yourself as someone they can trust. This takes time.

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*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.