Both the addict and the partner suffer from the loss of time, meaning, and clarity. Connecting together through pain, shame, and helplessness (vulnerability) enables them to recreate a shared story of suffering and recovering together. Learning to grieve one's own losses is critical for individual recovery; learning to grieve shared losses is critical to relational recovery.

When the addict, in particular, learns to walk through the partner's experience there is an empathic exchange that recreates a new story in the safety of being seen, heard, and felt. Grief is clarified in that the past takes on new meaning. Both the addicted partner and the betrayed partner begin to view their history as a shared truth. As a result, they are empowered to experience growth toward an entirely new and different relationship — one that is healthy and life-giving.

Links:
http://apsats.org
http://go.chooseconnectionsummit.com
http://daringventures.com/windell

How Intimacy Clarifies Grief and Empowers Growth

Betrayal is traumatic, and those who have been betrayed by partners living secret lives of sexual addiction deserve to be empowered and supported with knowledge and resources to allow them to move from shock through grief and into growth. On Betrayal Recovery Radio, our host, Dr. Jake Porter, lays out important topics for both sex addicts and their betrayed partners through conversations leading to hope and healing.

Betrayal Recovery Radio is the official podcast of The Association of Partners of Sex Addict Trauma Specialists (apsats.org). Dr. Jake Porter can be reached at drjakeporter.com.

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In today's episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, we delve into the complexities of the holiday season, a time filled with joy but often marred by the challenges of betrayal trauma. Joined by Rebecca Ray, we'll navigate the delicate dynamics faced by those affected by betrayal, whether as the betrayed or the betrayer.


Rebecca Ray is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, licensed in Texas, Colorado, Missouri, and Florida and owner/founder of Ray Family Therapy in Houston, Texas. Rebecca is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, and certified in EMDR therapy. Rebecca is married, has three children ages 18, 14, and 9. In her free time, she loves reading, hiking with her dog, and when it isn't too hot she does HIIT workouts in her garage. In January, Ray Family Therapy will offer training to therapists and coaches to develop practical skills working with adoptees and adoptive families; Treating Adoptees and Adoptive Families Across the Lifespan. As an adoptee, Rebecca understands first-hand the trauma experienced in foster care and the adoption process. Additionally, Rebecca wrote an ebook, The Ultimate Guide for Creating a Healthy Relationship, to help couples get off autopilot and into the core awareness of their core needs and desires. 


Links to find Rebecca:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rayfamilytherapy
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rayfamilytherapy
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/rayfamilytherapy
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/rebeccaraytherapist
Ray Family Therapy: www.rayfamilytherapy.com
Ray Family Therapy Adoption Training: https://www.rayfamilytherapy.com/adoptiontraining


To download The Ultimate Guide for Creating a Healthy Relationship go to:
https://keap.page/ivx304/creating-healthy-relationships.html

Navigating the Holiday Season in the Midst of Betrayal with Rebecca Ray

In this interview I share the results of my Masters thesis which show that rates of domestic violence are considerably higher in the lives of partners of sex addicts than in the general population. This is significant because women are arriving daily on therapists’ doorsteps seeking help for betrayal trauma, but with their experiences of DV under recognized and under disclosed. Moreover the study looked into what factors were associated with more frequent violence and damaging types of violence (i.e., physical and sexual) and what factors were associated with violence mitigation. 


Links to find Lisa!
https://beyondbetrayal.community


https://nakedtruthproject.com/get-help/


2024 Daring Way Retreats: https://go.drjakeporter.com/daringway2024?r_done=1

The Prevalence of Domestic Violence in the Lives of Partners of Sex Addicts | With Lisa Taylor

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, hosted by Dr. Jake Porter. In this engaging installment titled "Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast," we delve deep into the complex landscape of betrayal within relationships.


Joining Dr. Jake in this enlightening discussion are esteemed colleagues: Wendy Conquest, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone, and Tim Stein. These experts are not only colleagues but also close friends who co-host the Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships Podcast. Their chemistry is palpable, and their wisdom profound.


In this episode, we confront the challenging questions frequently posed by those grappling with the revelation of betrayal in their relationships. You'll witness a civil and enlightening exchange of perspectives, showcasing the power of dialogue and empathy in navigating the intricate web of betrayal.




Links in this episode:


Check out Conversations!:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2ZpYca91XJ0DIkTt2CCjSZ


https://podcasts.apple.com/is/podcast/conversations-on-sex-addiction-and-relationships/id1576738924


Dan Drake: https://www.banyantherapy.com


Wendy Conquest: https://wendyconquest.com


Jeanne Vattuone: https://jeannevattuone.com


Time Stein: https://timsteinmft.com


Jake Porter: https://go.drjakeporter.com/?r_done=1

Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast


Often when doing couples recovery work, the approach is from a neurotypical lens following betrayal trauma and sex addition. This may work for many couples, but what about when these approaches aren’t working for the long term healing of the relationship? Many couples share that it can be frustrating and discouraging especially when both partners in the couple ship desires growth and change. We are going to be talking about another lens and perspective to consider when one or both partners are autistic, have Asperger traits, or wonder if they may be on the spectrum. We will be:

•  Recognizing this may be a consideration to explore

•    Understanding the impact on healing and recovery

•    Moving forward with adjustments and unique tools

Navigating The Depths Summit: navigatingthedepths.com



Considering the Impact for Neurodiverse Couples with Autism and Asperger Traits | with Shawna Meek

In this podcast episode, we explore the Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training (BTRL), a customized program designed for professionals within religious and faith-based communities. Our interview with Aviva Kohl and Barbara Steffens uncovers the core of BTRL, focusing on the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). Attendees learn to provide response, assessment, and support to those experiencing betrayal trauma, incorporating faith into their approach. The four-day training, supplemented with mentorship groups, equips participants with the skills needed to serve their religious community, emphasizing empathy and understanding, and enabling various religious organizations, non-profits, and clinicians to address betrayal trauma within their specific faith setting.



Links:
https://www.apsats.org/BetrayalTraumaReligiousLeader

http://www.apsats.org
http://drjakeporter.com






How Intimacy Clarifies Grief and Empowers Growth

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