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Do you ever wonder how your self-worth is secretly impacting your dating life? Are you stuck in the same painful patterns—chasing the unavailable, feeling unworthy, or never quite connecting with the right match? In Episode 398 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy coaches Jessica, a single mom and nurse who’s struggling with insecurity, self-concept, and a cycle of unfulfilling dates. Together they unpack why feeling “not enough” can become an unconscious magnet for the wrong partners—and why genuine confidence, not external validation, is the real key to love.
In this episode, Kimmy dives deep into how low self-esteem, formed long before your first date, acts as a silent magnet, influencing who you're drawn to, the choices you make, and even your body language.
Jessica bravely shares her journey—from a 15-year marriage and a supportive family, to the struggles she faces dating after divorce. Despite external affirmations of her attractiveness, Jessica wrestles with persistent feelings of not being "the pretty one," a pattern rooted in childhood and shaped by past relationships. Together, Kimmy and Jessica explore how past wounds, perfectionism, and protective shields can keep you stuck in unsatisfying dating loops—chasing after emotionally unavailable partners and feeling disconnected from those who are present and genuine.
Kimmy offers relatable coaching and actionable steps, encouraging Jessica to step into her confidence, get comfortable being seen, and shift the way she views herself inside and out.
You’ll hear:
Why unresolved insecurities silently run the show in dating
How early experiences and family patterns fuel attraction to the wrong people
Real-life coaching moments and simple challenges to boost confidence and presence
Actionable steps to move towards more self confidence
If you are finding yourself not able to attract love or even date due to self worth issues, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough
Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.
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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life.
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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?
Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/
Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough
Instagram: @kimmyseltzer
Twitter: @kimmyseltzer
Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers
Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
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Do you ever wonder how your self-worth is secretly impacting your dating life? Are you stuck in the same painful patterns—chasing the unavailable, feeling unworthy, or never quite connecting with the right match? In Episode 398 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy coaches Jessica, a single mom and nurse who’s struggling with insecurity, self-concept, and a cycle of unfulfilling dates. Together they unpack why feeling “not enough” can become an unconscious magnet for the wrong partners—and why genuine confidence, not external validation, is the real key to love.
In this episode, Kimmy dives deep into how low self-esteem, formed long before your first date, acts as a silent magnet, influencing who you're drawn to, the choices you make, and even your body language.
Jessica bravely shares her journey—from a 15-year marriage and a supportive family, to the struggles she faces dating after divorce. Despite external affirmations of her attractiveness, Jessica wrestles with persistent feelings of not being "the pretty one," a pattern rooted in childhood and shaped by past relationships. Together, Kimmy and Jessica explore how past wounds, perfectionism, and protective shields can keep you stuck in unsatisfying dating loops—chasing after emotionally unavailable partners and feeling disconnected from those who are present and genuine.
Kimmy offers relatable coaching and actionable steps, encouraging Jessica to step into her confidence, get comfortable being seen, and shift the way she views herself inside and out.
You’ll hear:
Why unresolved insecurities silently run the show in dating
How early experiences and family patterns fuel attraction to the wrong people
Real-life coaching moments and simple challenges to boost confidence and presence
Actionable steps to move towards more self confidence
If you are finding yourself not able to attract love or even date due to self worth issues, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough
Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.
************************************************
Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life.
************************************************
Would you like to connect with Kimmy?
Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/
Chat: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough
Instagram: @kimmyseltzer
Twitter: @kimmyseltzer
Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers
Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com
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