Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, even though you seem to have it all together in your career and personal achievements? What if the secret to meaningful relationships isn't about doing more, but about truly connecting to how you feel and who you are? In Episode 424 of The Charisma Quotient, "Emotional Healing for Deeper Connection: Interview with Rebecca Silence" Kimmy welcomes renowned emotional healing expert Rebecca Silence to explore the powerful shift from achievement-driven living to deep emotional alignment.

In this episode, Kimmy and Rebecca delve into the hidden patterns that high achievers—especially women—face in dating and relationships. Drawing from personal experience, Rebecca Silence shares how her own journey through trauma, success, and a life-changing cancer diagnosis helped her uncover the true foundation for authentic love: emotional alignment and vulnerability. The conversation moves far beyond typical dating advice, revealing how taking inventory of your emotions, owning your triggers, and prioritizing boundaries can radically change your relationship patterns.

You'll hear:

• Why high achievers often struggle in relationships, despite their "success"

• The hidden connection between achievement, childhood trauma, and love patterns

• What it means to attract partners from your "healed self" instead of your "survival self"

• The 3-step "Make Your Triggers Your Bitch" process for emotional freedom

• How women can embrace feminine energy, receive more, and create healthy boundaries in dating

If you're ready to move past survival into joy and excitement, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

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Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

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Have you ever sat across from someone on a first date and wondered, "Why does this feel so awkward? Why isn't there any chemistry?" Are you stuck in your head, anxious about what to say and worried if you're coming across as interesting or fun? In Episode 423 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: Creating Conversation and Chemistry: Coaching with Kimmy" Kimmy dives deep into these common dating dilemmas and explores how you can take control of your energy, spark chemistry, and break free from repetitive, boring conversations.

In this episode, welcomes Kay, who's struggled to move past dry, fact-based interactions on dating apps and in person. Together, they unpack what keeps conversation stuck at surface level, why being "in your head" creates barriers, and how shifting from reactive to proactive – bringing emotional context and playfulness – can transform your dating experience. Kimmy coaches Kay to open up, share feelings, and weave personal stories into her chats, making connections more lively and authentic. You'll walk away with actionable strategies for loosening up and injecting true connection into any date, even if you think your interests are a little offbeat!

You'll hear:

• Why first dates often feel boring—even with "nice" people

• How your mindset and body language influence date chemistry

• The difference between fact-based and emotionally connected conversations

• Practical exercises to help you move from reactive to proactive dating

• How to be less "in your head" and more present on dates

If you've been feeling discouraged about dating — burned out by apps, not feeling the connection with your dates or awkward small talk, sign up for Kimmy's Co-ed Love Is Blind Dating Game Virtual Experience — so you can build connection before chemistry and confidence before commitment. Think: old school dating game meets Love is Blind series! This is a virtual experience that is guaranteed to change YOUR dating game. Go to www.stophatingdating.com for more information and to register. Spaces are limited!

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered why old anger or resentment keeps resurfacing, even when you think you've moved on? Are you curious how forgiveness—not just for others, but for yourself—could change your relationships, your dating life, and your sense of peace? In Episode 422 of The Charisma Quotient, "How Forgiveness Frees Your Heart: Interview with Dr. Dravon James" Kimmy dives into the transformative power of forgiveness with renowned transformation specialist, Dr. Dravon James.

Throughout this honest and heartfelt conversation, Kimmy and Dr. Dravon James unpack the many barriers to forgiveness, including emotional exhaustion and lack of self-awareness. You'll hear real stories of clients weighed down by past resentment and discover why forgiving yourself is often the missing key to healthier, more intimate relationships. Together, they explore how practicing self-love and open communication builds trust, how codependency attracts unhealthy partners, and why leaning into conflict is essential for true healing. Ultimately, this episode shows how forgiveness isn't just about letting someone "off the hook"—it's about setting yourself free.

You'll hear:

• How unresolved anger and resentment can leak into your dating life and relationships

• Why forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving others

• The link between self-awareness and emotional healing

• How codependency can attract partners with narcissistic traits

• Strategies for processing and moving through emotional exhaustion

If you're ready to work towards forgiveness, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Why are dating shows so wildly popular? Do you ever wonder if those wild moments from reality TV have anything to do with your real-life dating struggles? What lessons—good or bad—are these shows teaching us, and how do we handle the ever-evolving swipe culture and its endless options? In Episode 421 of The Charisma Quotient, "Swipe Culture, Dating Disasters & Reality TV with Zack Peter" Kimmy Seltzer and Allison Melody sit down with pop culture expert Zack Peter to tackle these big questions, blending reality TV drama with practical, real-world advice (and lots of laughs).

The conversation kicks off with stories from Zack's own journey through podcasting, his show "Disaster Daters," and his own dating mishaps. The trio dives into the nuances of modern dating, bad dates over coffee to decoding signals like hair flipping and the infamous "resting bitch face." The three of them play a game dissecting wild moments from "Love is Blind," "The Golden Bachelor," and more. They dig deep into why meeting people in real life feels so daunting, the pitfalls of dating app culture, and why commitment can feel so elusive. Tune in to hear Kimmy coach Zack on his dating blunders and gives him some challenges for an upcoming date. Throughout, Kimmy jumps in with her expert advice, challenging Zack and Allison to shift their approaches, embrace playful flirtation, and build authentic connections—both on and off screen.

You'll hear:

• How subconscious signals like hair flipping and body language influence flirting (and what to do intentionally!).

• An honest discussion about meeting people IRL vs. on dating apps, and why both can be equally daunting.

• What makes a "promise ring" such a hot topic—and why it might be better to skip it altogether.

• The impact of swipe culture and the myth of finding someone who checks every box.

• Kimmy's practical, therapist-approved tips for flirting, building approachability, and meeting people outside your comfort zone.

If you're ready to step out of your comfort zone, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever found yourself wondering if your spark has faded? Do you think it's possible to feel sexy, confident, and truly alive—no matter your age, your relationship status, or the life curveballs thrown your way? What does "age gracefully" really mean beyond creams, serums, and green juices? In Episode 420 of The Charisma Quotient, "Rediscovering Your Spark: Renee Halverson's Golden Bachelor Journey" Kimmy and her co-host Allison join pop culture guru and podcast host of So Bad It's Good, to peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice.

In this episode, Kimmy is joined by Renee Halverson, a standout contestant from the first season of ABC's Golden Bachelor and former NFL Chicago Honey Bears cheer captain. Together, they dive into the real meaning of sexy confidence and aging vibrantly. Renee shares her whirlwind experience on the Golden Bachelor and how, even when stepping out of comfort zones, she learned the importance of self-focus, sisterhood, and maintaining her sparkle. Kimmy and Renee unpack not just the glamorous moments, but also the doubts, personal reinvention, and challenges faced when dating later in life—especially after years spent caretaking and putting others first.

You'll hear:

• What "sexy confidence" and aging vibrantly mean—beyond physical appearance and beauty routines

• Renee's personal story: transitioning from caretaker to Golden Bachelor contestant

• The behind-the-scenes reality of casting, preparation, and life on the Golden Bachelor

• Honest revelations about comparing oneself to others and dealing with self-doubt

• The importance of female friendship, sisterhood, and support systems in later-life dating

If you're ready to rediscover your spark, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered what actually happens behind the scenes at a dating retreat inspired by reality TV? How can you bring more excitement and authenticity to your dating life, especially as you navigate dating later in life? Can reality television actually teach us meaningful lessons about forming connections? In Episode 419 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Lessons from the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat: Golden Bachelor Recap S2 E8" Kimmy and her co-host Allison are live in the Golden Bachelor Mansion in Temecula. They give you the full tour of the place before diving into episodes on the latest episode and Kimmy's retreat!

In this lively episode recorded Live From the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat, hosts Kimmy Seltzer and Allison Melody invite you into the heart of their dating retreat in Southern California—where the glitz of reality TV meets the depth of personal transformation. They kick things off with a whimsical walk-through of the mansion, sharing behind-the-scenes details and honest vibes, all while prepping for the arrival of retreat guests. The conversation weaves through reflections on the latest Golden Bachelor episode—breaking down on-screen chemistry, emotional availability, and the real-world parallels to authentic relationships. Kimmy draws insight from her experience as a dating strategist, therapist, and image consultant, while Allison keeps things raw with practical suggestions and witty commentary.

You'll hear:

• A candid mansion tour revealing the setup for a transformational dating retreat.

• A recap and analysis of the latest Golden Bachelor episode—did Mel choose chemistry or compatibility?

• The importance of balancing playfulness, relaxation, and deep connection when dating later in life.

• Why emotional availability and boundary-setting are key (and how not to be boring on dates).

• The power of friendship and camaraderie in the dating journey—especially when facing life's transitions.

If you're ready to rediscover your spark, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

How does confidence play a role in dating, reality TV, and the way we present ourselves to the world? What really separates genuine connection from fleeting chemistry, especially in the sometimes surreal world of reality dating shows? In Episode 418 of The Charisma Quotient, "Golden Bachelor Recap: Real Talk on Reality with Ryan Bailey" Kimmy and her co-host Allison join pop culture guru and podcast host of So Bad It's Good, to peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice.

This episode dives deep into the intersection of entertainment and life as Kimmy, Allison, and Ryan discuss everything from the psychology of reality TV contestants, the allure and pitfalls of influencer culture, to what "sexy confidence" really means—especially for later-life daters. With honest, often hilarious storytelling, you'll hear candid confessions about personal struggles with confidence, lessons learned from coaching both real-world singles and reality stars, and the true magic that comes from leaning into your quirks, mistakes, and vulnerabilities. Plus, the Golden Bachelor gets dissected, from its friendships to its controversies, and we even get the inside scoop on Ryan Bailey's own romantic journey—including the baby news and his take on dating apps.

You'll hear:

• Why reality TV makes confidence both easier and more complicated—and what happens when the cameras shut off.

• The truth behind pop culture's influence on dating trends and the rise of influencer-first attitudes.

• Kimmy's four Cs of dating: how being compelling, having chemistry, being compatible, and compromise are essential for a healthy relationship.

• Insights from the Golden Bachelor: friendships, disappointments, and what really goes on behind the scenes.

If you're ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

What does it really take to open your heart after heartbreak or divorce? Why do we attract certain types of partners, and how can we break free from guardedness to find authentic connection? How much should we share about our past traumas, and when is the right time to get real about what we truly want in a relationship? In Episode 417 of The Charisma Quotient, "Unlocking Love After Loss: Real Talk with Real Bachelors," you'll get a special look at Kimmy's new show Dating Real Talk where Kimmy and her co-host Allison Melody, and special guests Doug and Mark—two real-life bachelors sharing candid insights.

This episode explores the heightened emotions and drama of the "Golden Bachelor," but quickly goes beyond TV to extract powerful lessons for anyone dating in their second act. Kimmy Seltzer leads a lively discussion with co-host Allison Melody and two real-life bachelors, Doug Bass and Mark Primiano, about body language, pressure in dating, and the pitfalls of seeking commitment too soon, connecting reality show moments to what actually happens in the world of dating after divorce. The group tackles the differences (and surprising similarities) between men and women when it comes to vulnerability, attraction, and the pain of love lost. Plus, Doug and Mark reveal what it feels like to date post-divorce, how trauma and guardedness affect their desire for openness, and the lively banter around authentic connection versus superficial "fun."

You'll hear:

• The real-life male perspective on dating after divorce (what's different, what's hard, and what's hopeful)

• Insights from watching and dissecting "The Golden Bachelor"—and what applies to your own dating life

• How to recognize body language cues that reveal true feelings (and the risks of ignoring them)

• Candid discussion on when (and how) to share your past traumas with a new partner

• The power of authenticity, self-love, and real energy in attracting the right relationship

If you're ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever looked in the mirror and questioned whether you're still desirable or wondered if finding love later in life is even possible? What if everything you've been told about aging — especially when it comes to love, relationships, and sensuality — was wrong? In Episode 416 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Over 50: Why Aging Is Your Superpower with Golden Bachelor's Natascha Hardee," Kimmy dives deep into the powerful truth that aging isn't a decline, but a dynamic redesign and a superpower for living vibrantly..

In this episode, Kimmy welcomes Natascha Hardy, a pro-aging advocate and one of the standout stars from The Golden Bachelor, for an honest and joyful conversation about reinvention, visibility, and reclaiming joy and flirtation in midlife. Kimmy and Natasha share transformative stories from their own lives and the lives of their clients—like the 85-year-old woman learning to flirt at a bar or the transformational moment when covering mirrors turned into rediscovering beauty in oneself. You'll also hear funny behind-the-scenes moments from the first season of the Golden Bachelor. They explore why so many feel "past their prime" and reveal how you can cultivate radiance and confidence, rewrite your story, and connect meaningfully with others regardless of age.

You'll get expert insights on mindset, navigating the shifting landscape of relationships, and breaking free from societal expectations. From revelations about dating as a skill and tackling emotional intelligence, to actionable advice on self-love and setting boundaries, every moment is geared towards showing you how to live life large at any age.

You'll hear:

• Tips for reinventing your dating life, even after decades away from the scene.

• Why aging amplifies your wisdom, confidence, and sensuality, not diminishes it.

• The skill of dating: how it's learned, practiced, and why it matters more now than ever.

• Real talk about emotional intelligence and the differences between how men and women approach relationships in midlife.

• Actionable ways to prioritize self-love, set boundaries, and cultivate community in your second act.

If you're ready to redefine sexy, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Ready to transform your dating life—whether you're just jumping in, coming back after a hiatus, or navigating dating's "second act"? In Episode 414 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Real Talk: Where Reality TV Meets Real Life Love," Kimmy shares episode 1 of her new live show "Dating Real Talk - your destination for all things love, attraction, and confidence, blending the juicy drama of reality TV with actionable, empowering advice for today's singles.

In this episode, Kimmy is joined by her friend and fellow podcaster Allison Melody. Kimmy kicks off the series by introducing her own transformation story: from a "frumpy" newly single mom in LA to finding her confidence (and style!) again after divorce. Allison and Kimmy dive into how themes from pop culture—specifically, The Golden Bachelor—mirror the real-world dating experiences of those "in their second act."

Together, they unpack why taking action trumps simply "doing the work" in dating, the importance of first impressions (and the surprising science of the red dress!), and how to balance authenticity with making a memorable entrance—especially on a first date. The hosts debate the do's and don'ts of sharing your personal story early on, discuss the concept of "trauma bonding," and offer practical advice for both men and women navigating modern dating norms.

You'll hear:

• The key first impression mistakes people make (and reality TV examples to avoid)

• How trauma bonding shows up in dating—and what true vulnerability looks like

• The difference between "pink flags" and "red flags," and how to spot them early

• How to break the cycle of overthinking and show up more playfully on dates

• Real talk on where to go for a first date and why "coffee isn't flirty"

If you're ready to get fun and flirty, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com