Are you navigating the dating world in your 40s—or beyond—and wondering why things feel so different? You’re not alone! In Episode 406 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating In Your 40's (And Beyond):  Special Dateable Edition” Kimmy is invited onto the dynamic Dateable Podcast with hosts Julie and Yue. The conversation dives deep into the world of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond 

The tables are turned as Kimmy sits in the guest seat, opening up about her own experience moving cross-country, dealing with divorce, rediscovering herself, and re-entering the dating scene as a single mom. She reveals the pivotal moment that reignited her confidence: the famous red dress story, where shopping for something outside her comfort zone became the catalyst for a complete mindset (and life) shift.

The conversation dives into the real-life challenges of dating in your 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond: from evolving attraction and patterns, to balancing careers, family, and social lives, to confronting limiting beliefs about “the dating pool” at any age. Kimmy unpacks why your “second act” can be your strongest yet, and how clarity, confidence, and a willingness to try new things—whether that’s a new outfit or a new approach to flirting—can make all the difference.

 You’ll hear:

• Why dating after 40 isn’t a consolation prize — it’s often a “reset” filled with wisdom, clarity, and deeper authenticity.

• How to break out of old “types,” refresh your flirt game, and finally have fun again—even if you haven’t dated in decades.

• First-hand advice for navigating dating apps, balancing busy lives, and prioritizing your own happiness.

• The truth about age, attraction, and that so-called “shrinking dating pool” (spoiler: it’s all about mindset and action—not your birth date).

If you are a later dater and getting caught in the friendzone often or not feeling the chemistry on dates, join Kimmy for her next co-ed interactive workshop called Unleash Your Sexy Confidence where you will learn the art of attraction and chemistry.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register.

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Feeling like your dating life is stuck in a rut? You’re not alone! In Episode 405 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: Top 6 Tips to Up Your Dating Game” Kimmy guides you through the essential steps to transform your love life from the outside in. Whether you’re returning to the dating scene after a long break or wrestling with low confidence, Kimmy shares actionable tips, eye-opening mindset shifts, and real-life success stories to help you polish up your social and flirt skills and enjoy dating again.

In this episode, Kimmy covers everything from revamping your dating image, clarifying what you truly want, to breaking free from self-sabotaging checklists and learning to enjoy the process of meeting new people. You’ll discover why waiting for the "perfect time" never works, the importance of focusing on your own happiness, and how making small changes—like updating your wardrobe—can spark a sexy new confidence.

Whether you’re discouraged, confused, or simply looking for a little motivation, this episode is packed with inspiration and clarity.

 You’ll hear:

• Six game-changing steps to refresh your approach—including ways to stop waiting for the “right moment” and have fun on your path to finding love

• Actionable advice for overcoming insecurity, building a social circle, and taking small steps toward flirting, connecting, and feeling good in your own skin

• The story of a client who shifted from “giving up” to “excited and confident,” just by tweaking his mindset, updating his dating appearance, and learning to enjoy the process

• Why so many of us feel out of sorts when it comes to dating—and the simple truth that you’re not alone.

If you’re hating dating and want help putting yourself out there, start taking action by booking a FREE private call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/.  

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever felt pulled toward someone by an invisible force, only to watch the connection fizzle out over time? Or wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner, despite your best intentions to date differently? In Episode 404 of The Charisma Quotient, “Cosmic Compatibility:  Secrets to Lasting Love with Carol Allen” Kimmy talks with renowned Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, Carol Allen, to decode the mysteries of relationship patterns, cosmic compatibility, and lasting love.

Carol and Kimmy have a dynamic discussion about how the interplay of your past and family dynamics combined with astrology can shape your relationships.  Carol shares her personal journey from relationship confusion to becoming a renowned astrologer, including the fascinating story of her own marriage. She reveals how astrology—and especially Vedic techniques from India, which have been used to arrange marriages for centuries—can shed light on why certain connections are so compelling or challenging, the timing of love, and what truly makes a relationship work beyond surface-level compatibility.

The episode dives into the concept of "cosmic compatibility": what really happens when two people meet and there’s an undeniable energetic flow. Carol unpacks how Vedic astrology analyzes both individual and combined charts to reveal innate temperament, relationship “capacity,” timing (your seasons and cycles), and specific compatibility factors.   She explains why some couples experience effortless harmony while others feel like they’re constantly hitting invisible walls, regardless of how hard they try.

 You’ll hear:

• Why you keep attracting the same type of partner or experiencing painful relationship patterns

• How unconscious patterns and “love shields” influence your dating life and emotional connections.

• What “cosmic compatibility” means, how Vedic astrology can reveal relationship patterns, and the factors that determine lasting love.

• How to use both personal growth and cosmic timing to break old cycles, increase self-awareness, and open up to the right partnership.

If you are wanting to break patterns in your love life, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and find ways to attract the right partner for you.

book a FREE call with her here: https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣.  Want to get a personalized reading with Carol?  Book it here https://carolallen.isrefer.com/go/wgr/kseltzer/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

What does it really mean to be empowered as a woman in today’s world—and how does it show up in your relationships, dating life, and even your own sense of self?  In Episode 403 of The Charisma Quotient, “Empowered Dating: Interview with Brad Walsh” Kimmy dives deep with Brad Walsh, professional photographer and host of the Empowerography podcast, to unpack the hidden challenges and unique strengths of women navigating visibility, self-worth, and empowerment.

Kimmy and Brad discuss why so many women feel invisible, carry the hidden burdens of past rejection or body image issues, and sometimes lose themselves in relationships. Through powerful personal stories and Brad’s unique perspective as a man championing women’s empowerment—both behind the camera and on the mic—they explore how embracing your feminine energy and authentic self is the key to confidence.

Brad shares how his journey started in photography, the profound transformation he sees in women after a shoot, and why self-love and self-care go far beyond surface-level routines. You’ll learn what sets empowered women apart, how to break free from old patterns and step into visibility, and actionable strategies to start seeing—and truly believing in—your own worth.

 You’ll hear:

• Why so many women (and men!) feel invisible or “not enough” when it comes to dating, relationships, and self-image.

• The transformative power of truly being seen—how a single photo shoot, or a shift in body language, can spark radical self-confidence.

• How to exude feminine energy and body language hacks that showcase your sensual and open side

• The crucial importance of self-care and setting boundaries—not as selfish acts, but as the foundation of healthy, empowered relationships.

If you are feeling invisible, small or holding yourself back from finding love, hop on a private call with Kimmy to flush out what might be causing that and to help you find ways to shine.  Book it here https://go.oncehub.com/kimbreakthrough

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Sometimes sex feels like love or chemistry but that is not the only kind of intimacy there is.  But you might get caught in a cycle where you are leading with sex to get a connection and in the end not finding the right partner for you.  And then, you might shut down and be nervous about showing your flirty, sexy side after being hurt.  In Episode 402 of The Charisma Quotient, “When Sex Feels Like Love: Breaking the Cycle of Fast-Tracked Intimacy” Kimmy does a live coaching session with Nicolle, a vibrant and self-assured woman who has embraced her sexuality for years, brings a unique perspective to the conversation.

After years of leading with sex and enjoying pleasure for her own sake—not for love—Nicolle finds herself in a new chapter. She’s now seeking a meaningful relationship but feels unprepared when it comes to the art of dating and emotional pacing. Nicolle candidly shares her experiences: from disappointing app dates and challenges around being truly seen as a plus-size woman, to her struggles with playfulness and letting her sensual, flirty nature shine without fear of being objectified.

Kimmy and Nicolle dive deep into the balance of maintaining a sexy, playful energy while also requiring potential partners to earn intimacy and trust. Kimmy offers practical strategies—like finding your conscious tribe, practicing self-focused dating, and building authentic emotional intimacy—as she reflects on reclaiming her sense of self.

 You’ll hear:

• Why so many women confuse sex with love—and how childhood experiences shape this belief
• Body image realities: what it’s really like dating as a plus-size woman who feels sexy, but battles internalized doubts
• Real-world app dating struggles—and the differences between authentic connection and transactional “hookup culture”
• The importance of expressing your emotions instead of always describing or interviewing, and how this shift makes you magnetic

If you relate to some of Nicolle’s story and feel confused about how to safely show your sexy side, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process.  You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register now.

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever felt like you were on the outside looking in—guarded by fear, overwhelmed by old patterns, or unsure how to take that first step back into dating after heartbreak or disappointment? In Episode 401 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Without Attachment: Lisa’s Dating Transformation Journey” In this powerful episode of the Charisma Quotient, Kimmy is joined by the inspiring Lisa, whose courageous journey from emotional pain to empowered dating will resonate with anyone who has ever felt invisible, stuck, or scared to put themselves back out there. After years of hiding behind layers of oversized clothes, fear, and insecurity, Lisa took a chance encounter into a life-changing adventure with Kimmy aired on TV NBC 9 News segments filled with self-discovery, a striking outer makeover, and the even more profound work of building her inner confidence.

In this episode, Kimmy pulls back the curtain on what it really means to "date without attachment"—a liberating approach that prioritizes curiosity and self-awareness over pressure and expectations. Listen in as Kimmy coaches Lisa live through her fears of being “too accommodating,” wrestles with old patterns shaped by conditional love, and guides her toward setting healthy boundaries, pacing herself emotionally, and embracing playful, purposeful dating. 

 You’ll hear:

• How Lisa went from feeling invisible to glowing with new confidence.

• Why “dating without attachment” is the most freeing mindset for re-entry.

• Real talk about people-pleasing, boundaries, and the power of self-worth.

• Actionable tips you can use to break free from old relationship patterns.

If you are hiding and have some love shields up which is preventing you from dating or feeling attractive, come to Kimmy’s next co-ed workshop Unleash Your Sexy Confidence: The Art of Attraction and Chemistry. to get you out there to find opportunities to build your confidence and have fun in the process.  You’ll learn EXACTLY what you need to know and do in order to turn yourself into a sexy magnet.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com to register now.

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Join Kimmy as she celebrates 400 episodes of client coaching calls, solo episodes, talking with experts, and hearing success stories from people who have worked with Kimmy In Episode 400 of The Charisma Quotient, “400th Episode Special: Confidence Hacks That Turn Dates Into Love” we’re looking back at some of our favorite episodes throughout the years around the themes of getting past fears, increasing confidence and conversation hacks.

This special episode dives into the heart of her most popular coaching: how dating yourself and learning the skills will lead to love. You'll hear highlights from the most downloaded and talked-about episodes—featuring expert guests like Dr. John Gray, Kym Douglas, Allison Raskin, Katie Krimitsos, and Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu. You’ll also hear clips from episodes featuring some great client calls and Where Are They Now stories about how to get over common fears that come with dating.

Discover actionable conversation hacks for introverts, high achievers, and anyone stuck in the perpetual “boring date” loop. Kimmy shares how to create instant chemistry, break out of perfection paralysis, and make a memorable impression—without feeling fake or forced. Plus, there's a peek into her upcoming interactive workshop, “Conversation Hacks That Convert to Dates.” 

 You’ll hear:

• Highlights from our most popular episodes (including date-turning advice from experts like Dr. John Gray)

• Real client breakthroughs and success stories

• Proven strategies for making small talk easier and turning conversations into unforgettable connections

• Ways to break through awkwardness and perfection paralysis, especially if you’re an introvert, high achiever, or just feeling rusty in the dating scene

If you struggle with your confidence and not getting anywhere on dates that seem boring or contrived, come to Kimmy’s next interactive co-ed workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones.  Register at www.stophatingdating.com

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wanted to strike up a conversation with a stranger—at a coffee shop, in line at the store, or on a first date—but felt totally tongue-tied or worried you’d seem awkward? In Episode 399 of The Charisma Quotient, “Beyond the Swipe: How to Meet People in Real Life with Jena Kingsley” Kimmy sits down with the fearless and funny Jena Kingsley. Jena is a comedian, writer, and the viral sensation behind daring, hilarious social experiments that turn the everyday awkward into unforgettable moments. Featured on CNN, MTV, The Today Show, and with her popular book Darcy Dates: An Unfiltered Dating Diary, Jena brings unmatched insight on how to break out of your shell and connect in real life.

Kimmy and Jena tackle the mental barriers that hold most of us back—fear of rejection, negative self-talk, overanalyzing interactions—and reveal how curiosity and authenticity can turn those fears upside down. You’ll learn why embracing spontaneity and sharing simple observations can spark genuine conversations, plus why it’s better to focus on whether you like them rather than worrying if they like you.

You’ll hear some of Jena’s most memorable stories, like the time a rainstorm in LA led to a flirty chat at a bar, or her viral New York subway pole-dancing prank that proves sometimes you just have to leap…and trust it’ll work out.

 You’ll hear:

• Why “perfect” opening lines actually don’t matter—imperfect, spontaneous comments often lead to the most real connections

• How practicing small risks, like playful social challenges or “scavenger hunt” dates, can massively boost your social confidence

• Jena’s favorite mindset hacks for ditching self-censorship and staying present 

• Stories of awkward elevator moments, viral public pranks, and what they teach about authenticity, humor, and breaking the ice—even with total strangers

Want to finally shed your social anxiety and start connecting for real? Come to Kimmy’s next interactive workshop, Conversation Hacks to help you get from boring conversations to flirty ones.  Register at www.stophatingdating.com

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Do you ever wonder how your self-worth is secretly impacting your dating life? Are you stuck in the same painful patterns—chasing the unavailable, feeling unworthy, or never quite connecting with the right match? In Episode 398 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Self-Worth Sabotages Your Dating Life:  Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy coaches Jessica, a single mom and nurse who’s struggling with insecurity, self-concept, and a cycle of unfulfilling dates. Together they unpack why feeling “not enough” can become an unconscious magnet for the wrong partners—and why genuine confidence, not external validation, is the real key to love.

In this episode, Kimmy dives deep into how low self-esteem, formed long before your first date, acts as a silent magnet, influencing who you're drawn to, the choices you make, and even your body language.

Jessica bravely shares her journey—from a 15-year marriage and a supportive family, to the struggles she faces dating after divorce. Despite external affirmations of her attractiveness, Jessica wrestles with persistent feelings of not being "the pretty one," a pattern rooted in childhood and shaped by past relationships. Together, Kimmy and Jessica explore how past wounds, perfectionism, and protective shields can keep you stuck in unsatisfying dating loops—chasing after emotionally unavailable partners and feeling disconnected from those who are present and genuine.

Kimmy offers relatable coaching and actionable steps, encouraging Jessica to step into her confidence, get comfortable being seen, and shift the way she views herself inside and out. 

 You’ll hear:

• Why unresolved insecurities silently run the show in dating

• How early experiences and family patterns fuel attraction to the wrong people

• Real-life coaching moments and simple challenges to boost confidence and presence

• Actionable steps to move towards more self confidence

If you are finding yourself not able to attract love or even date due to self worth issues, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?” Or maybe you’re out there dating, putting yourself out there, but it just never seems to click or you think there are no good men or women out there left?  In Episode 397 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why you keep attracting the wrong people:  Uncovering your love blocks with Orna and Matthew Walters” Kimmy welcomes Orna and Matthew Walters, internationally acclaimed dating coaches, co-founders of Creating Love on Purpose, and co-authors of the powerful new book “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free from Your Hidden Blocks to Lasting Love.” With over two decades of experience helping thousands find real and lasting love, Orna and Matthew bring a unique blend of expertise, personal vulnerability, and actionable advice to the table. 

In this episode, Kimmy, Orna, and Matthew unravel why our brains cling to the familiar—even if it hurts—and how family-of-origin experiences lay down a “love imprint” that shapes our future relationships. You’ll learn why even smart, successful singles fall into “job interview” dating or keep a long checklist to protect themselves, and why vulnerability feels so unsafe until you finally break the cycle. Orna and Matthew walk listeners through their three-step system found in their new book.  They offer powerful personal stories: Orna’s courageous journey as a survivor of domestic abuse and how she learned to trust herself and love again, plus Matthew’s honest admission of once being a “toxic bachelor” and his transformation through deep self-work. Together, they share concrete, real-life examples (like the “fig fight” that helped them build healthier conflict resolution), proving lasting love is possible—no matter your past.

 You’ll hear:

• Why lasting relationships require both chemistry and compatibility.

• An explanation of ‘love imprints,’ the deeply ingrained beliefs about love that shape your emotional patterns and behaviors in relationships

• Why so many high-achieving, analytical daters struggle to “let go,” flirt, and reveal their true selves.

• Step-by-step exercises you can use today to start re-wiring your love patterns and building a relationship from a place of wholeness and confidence

If you keep attracting the same patterns and want to know about your personal love blocks, book a FREE private call with Kimmy to discuss ways of overcoming your love challenges:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com