We will learn:

·      Why your childhood experiences might be secretly driving your adult decisions (and how to change that)

·      The surprising reason why you and someone else can experience the exact same event completely differently

·      How understanding your core motivations can free you from repeating the same patterns over and over

Imagine you're trying to untangle a complex knot. You could just pull at random strings, hoping to make progress. Or you could study the pattern of the knot first, understanding exactly how it's twisted and turned, making the untangling process much more intentional and effective.

That's what these frameworks can do when we use them wisely. Instead of using them to build our identity, we can use them to understand our attachments, our default patterns, and the stories we've been telling ourselves. They become mirrors showing us where we might be stuck, where we tend to grasp too tightly, and where we might need to pay extra attention in our personal growth work.

This revelation hit me particularly hard when I started diving deep into the Enneagram system. Unlike other personality frameworks I'd encountered, this one seemed less interested in putting me in a box and more focused on showing me the box I'd already put myself in – and more importantly, how to think outside of it.

Today our guest is Stephanie Hayes, an Enneagram expert who brings a fresh perspective to this ancient system of understanding human behavior. She's written "Enneagram in Real Life" and specializes in helping people use the Enneagram as a practical tool for growth rather than just another label to collect.

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