How To Be Awesome At Everything

First - why make fast decisions? Because a decision that you need to make that is pending takes up your time and attention. That problem you need to solve or that conversation you need to have or that project you keep procrastinating on or that email you need to send. When things are pending, there can be this feeling of anxiety or pressure or overwhelm… because it's lingering. So if we can develop what I think is a total superpower- the ability to make fast decisions - we will move closer to our goals faster AND get all the things done that need to and want to … so we can chill out and relax and have fun with our favorite people or have some awesome self care time. This is one of those lessons I've learned from not being awesome at making fast decisions but now that I'm on the other side of it- it's amazing. We're talking about how to become a fast decision maker and all the ways it will free up your time and improve your life. First thing each day... Eat the frog Hug the monster! -Do the hard thing first! -What truly matters is the time and attention we spend things. -All of that anxiety could be removed if you just did the thing, made the decision. -You can move faster than most people if you make decisions faster. -It's not paying the attention cost!! You decide and move on. You just move through life faster. -The crazy thing is once you get the momentum of this, it's like the most empowering. It's like well that's done, what's next!? -To be decisive is also just confidence… it's like I'm going to tackle this! -You can't multi-task and make fast decisions. Because we need too focus and not make careless decisions. 2.0 Mindset Course & Community info: https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse CHEERS!!

How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life 1 Get Sunlight 2 Lift Heavy Weights 3 Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen 4 Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep 5 Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings) 6 Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes 7 Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility) 8 Take A Cold Shower/ Cold Plunge 9 Take A Hot Bath/ Sauna 10 Protect Your Happy Headspace 11 Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive 12 Do Some Grounding/ Feel The Earth 13 No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed 14 No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep 15 Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze) 16 Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative) 17 10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key) 18Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile) (waking up at 5am to work out is hard, being 50 lbs. overweight is harder- choose your hard) 19 Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success 20 Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe) These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME! They are the natural medicine for.. Stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life. Treat the cause, not the symptom! These key pillars will get us there!! CHEERS to the superhuman version of you!

Have you ever had a disagreement or gotten into an argument with someone and it was stressing and you thought about it for a while after but then, in hindsight, you realize the whole thing was really unnecessary and could have been avoided. This is the ultimate pick your battles conversation. But it's more than that. Even if someone insults you or pushes your buttons, if there's no real benefit that can come from hashing it out we're just not going to engage And the way we are going to do it is by reminding ourselves, that we hold ourselves to a higher standard than that person. Often times we feel like we have to prove our point or defend ourselves but if it's not someone that we love and their opinion really matters to us, it's a waste of bandwidth. We're not talking about being a people pleaser and just agreeing with everything you're told… we are talking about being a strategic about your headspace, and resisting the urge to engage when there is no real benefit in doing so. We are going to define unnecessary conflict as an interaction that you engage in that doesn't really matter or align with your core priorities. It just doesn't matter. It feels like a big deal because of how it was presented- but is it really? Do you really care? You are going to hold yourself to a higher standard than them. Even if it's justified to respond in the way that they talked to you, that's not who YOU are. We aren't going to let them - walking around with low standards for themselves - affect how we act. The most important opinion is how we feel about ourselves when we are by ourselves. So when you go to sleep at night, you have those reflection thoughts of the day. What happened and how did you handle it? Examples: -If someone puts a judgement on you that is clearly a reflection of their own issues or jealously -If someone gives you advice that you dont ask for and dont want -Road rage -People at work poking into your stuff -People you don't know on social media leaving a comment or judgment -Tricky family members -Political statements that push your buttons -Parenting criticism -It's the ability to just say ok- and move on. Or smile and walk away. Or say anything but argue or get it going. -Maintain your strong self but -We just see this differently and I'm ok with that. (And not in a rude way) CHEERS to resisting the urge to get into disagreements that don't matter and protecting our headspace! To learn more about Lindsay's Awesome Mindset Course- email her at [email protected] Have an awesome day!

What if your child, this holiday season, started a project to help other kids in need?

How cool would that be?!

During a time when it's naturally a lot of making lists about what you want and gifts and buying and stuff- which is all part of it, nothing negative there- but what if we shift the focus so it's some of that but it's also a lot of thinking about others.

In this episode I am going to walk you through how you can help guide your child so they can create their very own community service project. Their own plan to help make the holiday season special in some way, for kids who are struggling or living in overcrowded situations or in the hospital..

The amount of growth and empathy and kindness that comes from doing this is not even describable. Especially if your child or children can meet or experience the world that these other kids live in, it's an impact that can't be made in another way.

The way that we all help the world become a more kind place where people look out for each other, is though our kids. Today's episode is all about how you can do just that - and it's much easier than you think.

It can't be made from them watching us volunteer or donate. It's that deep feeling of appreciation and gratitude that only comes from experiencing something yourself.

**Action items

Contact shelters - ask them - how can we best support you

Know this going into it

Ask your child these questions (or answer htem for them if they are too little)

What are you most interested in right now?

(Examples: Spiderman, making bracelets, Legos, slime etc)

Talk to them about how other kids don't have the things that we are just used to.

Great opportunity to describe in an age appropriate way- how grateful you feel and how not everyone has these same comforts.

Ask them how they would like to help kids this holiday season.

Here are some examples:

Host their own toy drive

Plan to serve a meal in some way

Hot cocoa stand - raised money is used to buy toys for kids in a shelter or in a hospital for Christmas.

Set-up an adopt a family program

Create care packages

Whatever they love - do that- collecting Legos to donate to children in the hospital etc.

Host a drive - to build hygiene kits or

Build backpacks for kids for school

Help fund kids who need help paying for sports

Blanket drive for new blankets

Make friendship bracelets and sell them like a lemonade stand

Build holiday thanksgiving baskets with meals families can prepare for thanksgiving

The realistic ease of all of this...

**You don't have to pay for this- you guys are just the ones setting it up. Making the connections and the plan and then getting an army going to support your project.

CHEERS to teaching your kids about helping others at a young age, so it is ingrained in who they are.

I've learned that the best motivator for change and growth is not motivation, it's not in your morning routine… it's a actually PAIN.

Pain from the past or pain that you are going through now, can be your superpower and your driver for starting the next chapter.

Maybe someone in your life told you that you're a loser and you'll always be a loser- you can either sit in the pain and anger of that - or you can get to work.

There's only one actual type of revenue and it's called success.

I'd rather be at rock bottom than in a mediocre situation, which might sound crazy but I believe this 100%. Because at rock bottom you have FIRE to change. When things aren't great but aren't terrible, most people don't make the decisions that are best for them or have the conversations they need to have.

We're leaning into your pain today and actually making it your superpower.

The second title of this podcast was going to be - the best type of revenge - because it's all very similar.

It's like this… pain motivates faster than pleasure. Use your pain!

Pain is the best motivator for change and growth.

We can either sit with the pain and think about who's fault it is and how shitty this is… OR we can take that pain and use it to give us gas baby.

It's pain both ways- the pain of staying the same or the pain of change and struggle to become the person that you really want to be. I'll take the second type of pain all day.

SUCCESS is the only revenge.

You don't beat them - they fade away because of what you've become.

So many high performers have used their past to increase how hard they are willing to work.

Think about this … which is more powerful

Saying..

I want to live a better life.

OR

I want to prove my dad wrong who told me I've failed at this and that so I'll just going to keep failing.

Which gives you more fuel?

You think you'll go back to them later and be like SEE- you were wrong!! But here's the thing- by the time you get there - that won't even matter. You won't be thinking about them anymore.

But it helped you to get there.

Be honest about your pain- don't suppress or ignore or be self-conscious about it.

Define your goals and priorities- what will get you out of the current pain or what will make you move on from past pain?

Then let's turn that pain into FUEL baby!!

It's a burn the boat type of thing. It's all in. This is your new minimum standard for yourself.

Lose the ego… work on your resilience and toughen up muscles.

The things that hurt so bad in the short term can be what propel you so far forward in the long term.

GET SPECIFIC - I want to show this person that they're an idiot and what they said about me isn't.

This won't always be your fuel - it will fade away!

A chip on your shoulder could be a good thing!

Be SO specific about your pain is!

Dont say -

I hate my life I'm a loser.

Say...

I hate the way my dad makes me feel when he says im a loser and I won't achieve anything - and maybe because it stings because you worry the same thing.

It hurts the most when you feel like there is an element of truth to it.

If someone accusing you of being something that you aren't - it doesn't bother you as much.

Alex Hormozi says it this way.

"Success is the only revenge.

As you expand they shrink into irrelevance.

You don't beat them- you cast a shadow so big, nobody can see them to begin with."

CHEERS to focusing on the only type of revenge - success! And reshaping how we define and respond to our pain.

Have you ever woken up late and missed the work out you had planned? And you say something like God I always do that. I'm so mad at myself. Think about the identity that you are putting on yourself.

Now take that same example and your reaction is this… Wow… That's not like me.

I heard Ed Mylett say this, and it was such a massive lightbulb moment for me.

The first response is telling yourself - yup, that's who you are - you can't get your hot mess of a self up on time for the gym.

The second response is the opposite- it's saying… wow, this is not aligned with the person I see myself as.

This small reaction moment completely changes how this experience affects you and how you label it.

In the first way, you may feel frustrated with yourself all day and an overall lower opinion of your ability to get things done as planned.

And with the second response- you're like… ok let's pivot and carve out time at the end of the day to get it in because I'm a person that doesn't miss workouts.

This same method applies to so many areas of life that we are getting into today.

And it's just so simple - 5 words. Wow, that's not like me.

And the reason why this works so insanely well is because we know that stopping negative talk is more powerful than increasing positive talk.

You know, I love something that is easy to remember and apply to your daily life. This is one of those!

Whenever we make a mistake or make the wrong choice or fail, or lose it some thing… Instead of all the other negative things, we could say… What if we said… Wow, that's not like me.

You are recognizing that this action or behavior or choice or mistake… Whatever it is… Does not identify with the person you want to be.

Good activity - your life priorities list and brain dump the type of person that you are

Then schedule it!!

The other day, on the way home from school Presley was saying how she has so much homework and she really needs to get ahead… We walk in the door and she unpacks her backpack and she doesn't have her laptop.

It really hit her hard. She was crying and mad and said what is wrong with me… I always do this.

I sat down on her bed and said, wow, that's not like you.

Now for the record… This is the second time she has forgotten her laptop since we started school a few weeks ago

But I said to her… Did you forget your laptop yesterday… She's like no and I'm like what about the day before? And she's like no I'm like see?

I'm telling you… These five simple words, reframe how we label and interpret mistakes.

When you turn off your alarm and sleep through your work out… Rather than beating yourself up when you wake up… Your reaction is… This does not align with who I actually am!

Examples:

Losing it with your kids

Gossiping/ talking badly about someone

Talking bad about your own body

Wasting money

Being short with your spouse

Picking the wrong boyfriend

Overcommitting

Over apologizing

Wasting time scrolling

Going out of your way to make someone else's life hard

Picking a battle that you should have let go

Not supporting a friend like you wanted to

Eating super unhealthy to where you feel badly

When you go to beat yourself up- just stop yourself!! And say those 5 words - Wow, that's not like me.

It changes it all! And is a real secret to true self confidence.

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CHEERS to setting up this habit to instantly reframe how mistakes affect you. Now go put that post-it up so you use this in your life!

It will say…

Wow, that's not like me.

Now this can get tricky because a lot of times the choices that people make now this can be tricky because there's a very fine line here, but I think it is so important to spend time on.

The whole reason that this podcast episode is absolutely essential is because we are making decisions all day long about the people we interact with and who we lead into our inner circle… and this is a very clear issue to me… But only very recently.

Since we know that it is absolutely crucial for us to protect our happy headspace and really try to give our energy to things that drive us forward and are aligned with our main life priorities. So having people in our lives that make us feel shitty about ourselves, or are constantly running us down or being inconsiderate and hurting our feelings… is not part of the program.

This is one of those things that I've only just fully seen super clearly within the last few weeks.

And I think it's so crazy important because if you really take the time to think of it this way when you're in different situation… you will absolutely make the best decisions when interacting with them and also how much interaction you should actually have with them.

So let's define our terms… What do we consider a jerk and what do we consider someone who hasn't hasn't worked through their own issues yet.

JERK

To me, a jerk is someone who puts themselves first- so they are a good friend when it works for them… Often times the conversation is 90% about them and 10% about you… Now not all of these examples will of course apply to every jerk… I'm just giving you examples… Jerks sometimes say mean things just to be mean… They don't take accountability for their actions.

Often times if you look at how they treat other people… Not just you… It's easier to actually see who they are. I think it's also very important to believe people when they show you who they are, I really am an eternal optimist, but that can be to a disadvantage because sometimes I'll keep thinking… This person will see this new change… When the reality is… If someone shows you who they are over and over again… Responsibility is on you now not them… They showing you who they are and now it's your job to recognize it and protect yourself appropriately.

Examples:

Mind manipulates you - guilt trips etc.

Lack of compassion or empathy - often critical, always your fault, nit picks, causes fights

No accountability - blames you for all

Gaslighting - deny facts, rewrite history and even make you sought your own thoughts

Exportation - financial or emotional - use your resources for their own gain - without much in return

Control- often seen control of every part of the relationship

Friends are disposable - can abruptly end a friendship or relationship without any empathy.

SOMEONE WITH ISSUES

For a person who has issues they haven't resolved yet… The behavior can be similar, but if you look closely, there's usually a very clear difference.

Examples:

Projection - put their own negative emotions on you. Their insecurities or unresolved issue.

Mood swings- they can be angry or irritable with you without clear reasons

Overacting- they can have a big reaction to a minor issue - because they have a heightened emotional sensitivity

Blame shifting - its all your fault

Inconsistency - change their mind often, not sure what version of them you are going to get

Jealousy and envy- they feel inadequate so they can be competitive and not happy for your wins

Neediness- they might overly depend on you - which can be emotionally draining

Talk behind your back - because they feel insecure

HOW TO APPROACH BOTH- your blueprint

Jerk- distance- don't engage in the argument

Often not worth the time to explain how they hurt you or disregarded your feelings.

Someone with issues- depends on how close you are to them. Give them grace.

Or tell them- I know this is not the person that you are.

Give them time and space.

Be honest about how their actions affected you.

Offer support and a safe space

Keep boundaries - so their negative stuff doesn't impact you

Know when you have to walk away - at least for now

It's so important to know the difference and to proceed differently with both. You will feel so much freedom and spend so much more time in your happy headspace!

This is your wake-up call to stop doing things you don't want to do.

Right now - think of something that you've done recently or have something coming up - that you didn't want to or don't want to do.

Now, if you reallllly think about, I bet 99% of the time, you don't actually have to do it. You just think you do for so many reasons like…. It will be rude if you don't go or people might talk about you… or you can't quit the job you don't like because you don't have other options…

But here's the thing…. Most of this we put on ourselves! It's our lives- we're in the drivers seat- there are ways to not do all these things.

I think if we can figure out how to NOT do the things we don't want to do… while still being a very considerate, kind and good human… we've mastered it.

Because guess what- when you're doing things you don't want to do- you're usually not your most awesome self anyway. Cause you don't want to be there.

Today we're getting you out of all the things you think you should do, but don't want to do… without being an asshole.