How To Be Awesome At Everything

By Lindsay DickhoutBusiness

How To Be Awesome At Everything episodes

March 05, 2024 283. How To Be Awesome At Managing Health With A Broken Healthcare System
You know I focus on the positive always and even though this title might not sound positive, it's empowering to call things what they are and make a plan to proceed in the best way possible. Rather than getting mad about the way things are, we have to recognize what we can control and what is out of our control and make a plan with based on that. This isn't just about avoiding disease and living as long as possible. It's that but it's also how to have more energy and strength now and as we age. How to feel sharp and healthy. I don't think it's even controversial anymore to say that the traditional healthcare system is not set-up to keep us healthy and prevent disease. It's set-up to treat symptoms rather than the cause and lean heavily on medication rather than considering lifestyle and natural options first. I'm all for medications and treatments when needed- I just think it's not a great system when there is so much money in treating illnesses and there isn't a lot of money in getting people healthy or finding cures. Today we're looking at the health landscape as it is now and making the best plan for us and our families. This new outlook involves shifting from sick care to well care and reactive medicine to proactive medicine. For the last 15 years, I have spent so much time in hospitals and doctors offices, and I think I come with a unique perspective… sometimes as a patient, but usually taking care of other people. In Tony Robbins new book… Life Force - they explain new technologies like gene therapy, stem cells and hormone replacement therapy to give the audience hope and knowledge for the future. He talks about how heart disease and other chronic illnesses can be reversed by optimizing four factors. How you eat How active you are How you respond to stress How much emotional support you receive We have the power to control so much of our health and heart health. Exercise, eating the right foods, quality sleep, building muscle and reducing stress. Good health is the foundation of quality of life. As the old saying goes, a healthy person has a thousand wishes; a sick person only one. It's a powerful reminder to make the most important commitment you can make. You must become the CEO of your health.

That's how you keep your energy, vitality and a good quality of life.

A few of my other favorite books on this topic are Outlive by Peter Attia, Lifespan by David Sinclair, and Super Human by Dave Asprey.

We've learned that you must continually challenge the status quo and find what's best for you. By understanding that you must be in control of your health and by not expecting the traditional healthcare system to take on this role… you will make better decisions for your own health and out of your family.
26 min
February 27, 2024282. How To Be Awesome At Figuring Out Your Impossible Goal
Talking about one of my favorite books- 10x IS EASIER THAN 2X
By Dan Sullivan and Dr. Ben Hardy Excerpt from the book: What is a 10x goal? A massive goal that feels impossible. Doing more of what you're currently doing will get you to 2x. 10x goals require a new plan and push you outside of your current level of knowledge and assumptions. To figure out your 10x goal, as yourself… What do you truly want, more than anything else? What would excite you more than anything else to be, do and have? What would you be and do if you weren't afraid of what others thought or the repercussions? -Let's focus on wants vs needs When you live life based on need, you're stuck playing a finite game. When you play a finite game, you're driven and controlled by outside forces. You're competing for scarce resources. When you live life based on want, rather than need, you're playing an infinite game. You see that reality is created and chosen. In order to go 10x, we have to let go of scarcity and competition-based needing and replace it with abundance and creativity-based wanting. -Focusing on FREEDOM! Committing to what you want most is the only way to be free. To be free, you must first be completely honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself starts with admitting to yourself what you want most. Not what you think you want. Not what you think you need. But what you truly- at your core-want. Until you can admit and commit to what you want, then you are not free. Living in a world of needs and rationalizations is prison. It locks you into relationships and situations you don't want but maintain out of fear and perceived security or obligation. Llet's think about what you are doing now… Anything you are currently pursuing. Ask yourself what is the source of that...

Where did you get that idea?

Is it from your parents?

Is it from social media?

Is it because your friend did something or because your friend got promoted?

OR did you get that idea because it makes you FEEL ALIVE? It takes work to unlearn what we've been taught and put ear plugs in so we don't hear the judgment or the opinions of others. It's our job to make sure we are running our own race. We have to be intentional about what success means to us and stop at nothing to get there. -Once you have it down, what next… Start with your 10x goal, then figure out the steps, not the other way around. When we are working towards 2x goals, we are doing the same thing, just more of it. When we are working towards 10x goals, we must completely shake up the plan. So rather than starting with step 1 and making a plan, we start with the massive goal in mind, then figure out a plan to make it happen. To check out the 2.0 Habits System and 2.0 Mindset Master Course, click here. Have an awesome day!
28 min
February 17, 2024 281. How To Be Awesome At Weekend Adventures
I think most people would love to have more adventures and new experiences in life but the tricky part is… we get so busy with our routine and all the things that must get done in life, that often, we rarely go new places or try new things. Which is why I absolutely love this idea by Jesse Iztler. It's part of his concept about building your life resume more than your professional resume. He calls it the Kevins Rule, named after his friend Kevin who showed him how fulfilling it can be when you plan out new experiences. Here's how it works. You put 6 new adventures on your calendar each year. One every other month and it could be a day on the weekend or the entire weekend. The point of this is that by intentionally adding this things to the calendar, you prioritize time with people you love plus more fun and learning. Being intentional with our calendar planning and putting these 6 mini adventures on the books allows us for 24 experiences (that we wouldn't have otherwise) in the next 4 years. It also sets us up to be proactive with how we spend our leisure time (advance planning) rather than reactive (planning around invitations that come your way.) We're planning out your 6 mini adventures for the year today. Planning for 6 mini adventures per year allows for new experiences and challenges. By adding these days or weekends to your calendar, you prioritize time with people you love, fun and adventures. Lots of ideas… Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing, visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience, find a local path and plan a hike, go camping for the weekend at a local spot, take a photography workshop class with friends, set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area, plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries, learn to kayak at a local river, road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit, plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch, plan a ride in a hot air balloon, get a group to go indoor rock climbing, book a rental cabin for the weekend, take the train on an adventure! Cheers to alllll of your new adventures!!
27 min
February 14, 2024 280. How To Be Awesome At Mastering The Last Hour Of Your Day
The last hour of your day is so important because it determines the quality of sleep that you get and how you approach the next day. I've learned the most about this in my own life from doing things the wrong way to be honest. Staying up too late, eating too late or just sort of tinkering here and there and I couldn't even tell you what I really did for those last 2 hours. All these things I did without intention and just because I was getting tired and just doing whatever slowly without a plan. Taking all of this as lessons learned and on this journey to do everything with intention - now, having a plan for the last hour of the day. So even if you're tired or you've run out of motivation for the day, when you plan things ahead of time with intention, you don't have to get up the energy because you aren't making the decision, you're just following the plan that you designed. It requires discipline, which is hard at first, but it gets sooo much easier to do when you see the benefits of these new awesome habits. We are revamping bedtime.
From the book, 10X is Easier Than 2x:

The final hour of the day determines the quality of your sleep as well as the quality of your next day. Over 90 percent of people are 2x at night, where they fall to unhealthy habits and consumption, especially random online scrolling.

For 10x sleep, put your phone on airplane mode at least 30-60 minutes before bed. Write in your journal and include 3 wins you had that day.

These wins can be any forms of learning or progress you had.

Then after you've framed the day as a win, write down what you want for tomorrow.

Other tips:

-Have a few other healthy wind down habits like meditate or stretch or a moment of connection with someone you love and then commit to sleep. Be excited and happy to fully shut down.
-Create an optional environment - dark, cool and comfortable. -Having a healthy wind-down process is key. Avoid thinking about stressing topics and solve problems or have tricky discussions earlier in the day. In prioritizing sleep, we have to wrap things up and let things go earlier in the day. Do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said so you don't go to bed with crumbs! You will sleep better without a racing mind when you go to sleep. Journal to wind down and figure out what else sets you up for the best nights sleep. -Quality sleep over quantity of sleep - The quality of sleep is so much more important than the number of hours. -Get a schedule going - Have a set bedtime and wake time and don't vary it too much or you'll experience "jetlag." -If you want to read more on this- Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson. Many of these strategies were learned from this book. CHEERS to being intentional about how you end your day, for the most awesome days!!
25 min
February 09, 2024 279. How To Be Awesome At Developing Deep Self Confidence
Today we are talking about deep self confidence. How to get it, what it feels like and how to make it attainable. I'm a big fan of taking complicated concepts and turning them into simple daily actions. Here is how I define confidence. A belief in yourself and clarity of purpose. A feeling that is grounded in authenticity and comes from doing. Confidence is often talked about like this big feeling at the finish line, but that feels unattainable and hard to figure out how to make progress on. My favorite quote about confidence is by Alex Hormozi. He says "You don't become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self doubt." I love this way of thinking about confidence because it puts you in the drivers seat. Your self confidence isn't based on what other people think about what you are doing or some level of success, but it's more about the process and more about what you do, than what you say. When you feel this deep self confidence, it impacts all other areas of your life. You're less likely to be offended and more likely to let little things go. You're more likely to charge your big goals and less likely to let judgment slow you down. It's a superpower and we're talking about how to tackle it! Why have deep self confidence: -It makes you less affected by the opinions of others. -It keeps you in control of your mood and happiness. -It helps you communicate better because you feel comfortable expressing yourself clearly. -It positions you as a leader rather than someone who is easily influenced. -It makes you more adaptable as you trust in your ability to navigate change. -It allows you the freedom to really pursue your passions. How to get deep self confidence: -Put things on your daily habits like that move your towards your goals, personally and professionally. -Every week, try new things, do hard things, continue to learn and push yourself. -Since we know that confidence comes from doing, just keep doing things that align with your goals and priorities. What it feels like to have deep self confidence: -Confidence comes from doing the things you say you are doing to do. It's this deep feeling of trusting yourself. -You feel empowered. Like you can take on any challenges. -This sense of inner peace. You are comfortable with you are and trust in your own abilities. -You're optimist because you have a positive outlook and a strong foundation so you're able to believe in a bright future. -You're fearless because you know you can handle whatever comes your way. -You're authentic because you're running your own race. -You set boundaries, especially with people who are negative or don't make you feel great. You respect yourself enough to know your headspace is top priority. -You're grateful because you appreciate the journey you've been on and the one you are on right now. -You're inspirational. When you know someone with deep self confidence, it makes you believe you can be the same way. How to make progress on the daily: -Follow the plan! -Make your list of tasks, then execute. -Avoid distractions and don't talk yourself out of it. -Set big goals, then focus on the daily actions, not the goals. -Do what you tell yourself you are going to do. -Set realistic habits so you are set-up for success. CHEERS to embracing the things that bring you deep self confidence!
34 min
February 05, 2024 278. How To Be Awesome When Someone Comes At You
I don't know what's going on lately but I feel like I've been in several situations where someone is coming at me and I've had some friends who have had to deal with some pretty wild situations so I thought, yup, this needs to be a podcast episode. Let's define some terms. By coming at you I mean - verbally trying to start something. It's different than an argument because it's like someone having a problem with you or just straight up casting judgment on you. Our instant reaction is to respond and defend ourselves or get hot with them back… but here's the thing, most of the time, it's just not worth it. So I think before we do anything we should ask ourselves, what would I gain from engaging? We often respond out of emotion, but because we know our priority is protecting our happy headspace and our emotional energy, I think we need to approach it differently. We are going through some awesome strategies today so the next time someone comes at you, you're ready to handle it strategically rather than emotionally. When this happens, here are your options… 1. IGNORE Literally say nothing. Don't reply to the email or text or DM or walk away if in person. 2. AGREE - it ends it!! When you don't want to engage or if there is truth to what they are saying. When we are insulted, pay attention to it. If there is something that is true to it - then agree. And move on. 3. HASH IT OUT - onlyyyyyy if it's really worth it! Only if it's someone in your inner circle that you love. 90% of the time, it's not worth it. Alex Hormozi says "The only insults that hurt are the ones we believe." I tell myself… I don't negotiate with terrorists. When you get REALLY good at this… it becomes so powerful because it doesn't affect you for more than a few minutes. It's almost additive because it feels so good to be able to control your emotions and you always win in the situation. You can't negotiate with crazy so don't try- there's no point! It's awesome and it saves you so much unnecessary headaches!! Remember this the next time someone comes at you, take a minute and decide how you want to really handle it. Have an awesome day!!
32 min
February 02, 2024 277. The Most Awesome Daily Habits To Feel Your Best
The goal of this episode is to give you lots of ideas of habits that you can add into your daily life that make you feel awesome. I am super passionate about doing things with intention. Not just going through the motions and routine of life but really being open to trying new things and being willing to change things up when you're in a funk. I am equally passionate about designing your days so you love them. Not only looking forward to the weekend or the vacation out of town, but designing a life that feels exciting to you. And the best way to do it is not with one big event, it's with lots of tiny habits that you do everyday that add up to fulfilling days, weeks and months. Let's get to allll of the ideas of daily habits to feel your best. One of the coolest things about social media is that I think you can really good ideas by seeing what other people do and what their days are like. Make a list of your 10s! Then plan to get them in! Replies from IG… -Daily workouts -Eye patches every morning -Meditation/prayer/journaling -Intermittent fasting -Acupuncture every week -Audiobooks in the car -Using planner to stay organized -Yoga in the morning -Skincare routine -Quite time -Time to read -Morning coffee time -Sunless tanning -Massage My ideas… -Grounding - put your feet in the ground -Have a really delicious last bite of food for the day -Have a crazy comfortable bed that you can't wait to get into -Massage/facial/mani/pedi -Having a set bedtime and wake time -Sauna can be so relaxing -Have a 0 to 100 plan and a 100 to 0 plan -Connecting with someone in your inner circle every single day -Have a done tasking time - day is done- whatever carries over has to happen tomorrow -Long hot shower with a podcast or YouTube video -Hair care routine By really thinking about the habits that really make us feel great, we make them a priority. Then we are more intentional about how we spend our time and we get so many more of them in each day. CHEERS to adding in habits that make you feel your best! And you're on your way to designing your awesome life!
27 min
January 17, 2024 276. How To Be Awesome At Having The Hard Conversation
Take a quick pause on what you're doing right now to fully think about this question… what conversation should you have that you haven't had yet? What difficult conversation have you been avoiding? What should you tell someone that feels so hard but would relieve pressure or stress by doing it? Often times we sacrifice what we really want OR we assume someone feels a certain way about something OR we don't want to have to deal with a conflict or disappointing or upsetting someone… so we don't have it. Sometimes for weeks or months and sometimes for yearssss. It becomes normal not to actually have the hard conversation that would make something better. Today is the wake up day on this - we are unpacking hard conversations. We're pulling wisdom from lots of people who have studied this topic today. Starting with business strategist, Alex Hermozi. He said, "the life you want is in the other side of a few hard conversation and you're living a life you hate because you're too afraid to have them." He says… Whenever I feel anxious or insecure or sad Im like- What conversation do I need to have that im not having? Usually if you think for not that long You'll know - this is the conversation ive been putting off. And then, just have it. The time between when you know you need to have it and the time when you actually have it gets shorter and shorter. You dread it but after you do it - you're like how many more of these can I have?! It's like the freedom of it makes you crave more. WHY have these talks? 1. Your stress can literally kill you. It's not worth carrying this with you. 2. You will be 90 one day. We can't numb life and avoid these things. The regret at 90 would be worse than the pain of having it now. It might be horrible during. But when you think about being 90 years old - you have the courage. And whatever their reaction is - it's like - I'm doing what I need to do and what I will regret least. For relationships - sometimes things just keep going the way they've been and maybe you need to uncover something that happened that affects the entire relationship. Often times you dread it - but maybe you were both assuming things - and it wasn't accurate. Your only regret will be not doing it sooner. The pain of having these conversation is nothing compared to the gain that you get afterwards. You need something to give you the springboard to do it - for me it's the thinking of being 90 - and not having the same oppotunries that I do now. And we do not want regret at age 90. So let's have those really hard conversations now. Examples: You don't quit the job because you love who you work for - but no growth is there. You're deeply hurt by what a family member did but you just sit with it and let it grow. You don't talk to a friend because another friend had a dispute with them - so you've been loyal but it doesn't make sense anymore and you want that friend back. Your husband is consistently inconsiderate in a certain way and you just accept that that is how he is - but maybe you need to have the hard conversation! Maybe you have a bad friend that you need to break up with? You have these rapid periods of growth that happen because once you do it - you have courage to do the next one. Maybe you break up with someone that you know you need to. It SUCKS during and after but when you expand the time horizon, you're like man I feel F-ing fantastic!! Who else do I need to talk to? I hope this episode makes you really ask the question - what conversation do I need to have that I'm not having? CHEERS to embracing the uncomfortable and having the hard conversation as soon as possible!
24 min
December 29, 2023 275. Life Lately And Lessons Learned
In this episode, Lindsay shares the story of her father's battle with cancer and the heartbreak from all of it. She's sharing lessons learned and gems of information that she thinks will be helpful as we all go through life together. Even though the topic is very heavy, Lindsay wanted to make sure that listening to this doesn't make you sad, but rather think about who is really important to you and make sure you are spending enough time with them… and her new life mantra… If you have a chance take it If you have a dream chase it About really LIVING each day/month/year FULLY Also… Have the uncomfortable conversations. Be crazy proactive about your health - listen to your body and go in on the first day that you don't feel right. Be open to alternative treatment options. Spend time with people that you love and be very intentional about who that is. You have to pick- not go with what you should do or have always done. Thank you for listening and for being a part of this community. Sharing this very personal story is important and special to Lindsay and we are grateful for the lessons that come with it. Email Lindsay if you want to chat - [email protected].
1 hr 14 min
November 13, 2023 274. How To Be Awesome At Dealing With Fails
Let's talk about failing. I've come to embrace failure in a way that I wish I did in years past. Because here's the thing.. if you're failing here and there as you go, it means you're out there doing stuff and trying new things and learning along the way.

If you tend to beat yourself when something does work… or you are super self conscious about it and worry what other people will think or say… or you stop trying the thing you were working towards- lean in here because I used to do all that and it's so much better on the other side.

I think the very first thing we do is own it and make it known. It's the only way to not keep thinking about it or worrying if people will realize. Listen, people are more concerned about what they're doing anyway- take full ownership of it, say it out loud and move on! It's not who are you - it doesn't mean you should stop- because now you have that lesson that you didn't before.

We are talking about so many healthy strategies when it comes to failing today like - learning fast from it and flip the script- it's not a setback - it's a set-up for a comeback! Know that your attitude about it is actually everything and how to position gratitude into this whole thing. We're talking all things failing and getting back up today.

Own It & Face The Reality

Don't blame others or the universe. Own your failures like they're your favorite success story waiting to happen. Failures happen. Own it, acknowledge it and figure out the lesson.

No Excuses Winners don't need excuses. That's it- we own it, even if it could be partially on someone else too.

Learn Fast

Failures can be the universe's way of telling you to level up. Learn from them at the speed of light. Extract the lessons, embrace the suck, and move on.

Flip the Script

It's not a setback; it's a set-up for a comeback. Use it as fuel for the fire burning inside you. Adjust the Strategy, Not the Goal: Your goal is non-negotiable, but your strategy might need an overhaul. Be flexible in your approach, but relentless in your pursuit of the goal. Fail Forward: Failure is not falling down; it's staying down. Use each failure as a stepping stone to a higher level of success. Reinvest Your Pain: The pain of failure is an investment. Reinvest it into your next move. Let it fuel your determination to come back stronger.

Have Patience

Zoom out and have patience with your journey, but when it comes to fixing your failures, move fast.

Embrace the Hustle:

If you're not failing, you're not hustling hard enough. Embrace the hustle, embrace the grind. Failures are just stepping stones on the path to achieving your goal.

Double Down on Strengths:

Your failures might be highlighting your weaknesses, but double down on your strengths. That's where the magic happens. Focus on what you're great at and watch the game change. Get help for what you're not great at.

Crush It Next Time

Failure is not the end- it's the setup for the next big win. Crush it next time. Use the pain of failure as momentum for a big comeback.

Gratitude Over Grief!

"Instead of grieving your failures, be grateful for the lessons they bring. Failure is a gift if you unwrap it with the right mindset."

Attitude is Everything!!

Your attitude will define your success. It's everything when it comes to this!! If you can shift the way you think and react to your failures, they can actually be some of your greatest gifts! Embrace your fails - it might just be what makes you actually soar!!

27 min

About How To Be Awesome At Everything

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The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how…