How to Do It with Stoya and Rich

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a man who’s concerned he’s cheating on his girlfriend—with his wife. Then they hear from a woman who wonders how bad it is that she kept a secret from a new romantic interest.

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

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This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a letter writer who wonders what he can do about “COVID dick.” Then they hear from a letter writer who doesn’t know if she’s capable of having casual sex—even though she wants it. Guests this episode: Charles Welliver and Ashley G. Winter.

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RestoreX

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

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This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a letter writer who’s been traumatized by her husband’s new “look.” Then they hear from a letter writer who wants to bring spanking outside of the bedroom.

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a letter writer who’s keeping a neighborly secret. Then they hear from a letter writer who wonders how to bring up a touchy subject with her boyfriend.

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a letter writer who feels left out of her partners’ escapades. Then they hear from a letter writer who’s bothered that they don’t know why they didn’t get another date.

Mentioned in the episode:

Out of the Shadows by Walt Odets

Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now for just $25 off your first year.

Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a letter writer who wonders if what she just did counts as cheating. Then they hear from a man who wonders how to get his husband to agree to indulge his new desire in bed.

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a man who just found out something about his girlfriend that disgusts him. Then they hear from a letter writer who’s wondering what to do about his in-laws’ peculiar pre-wedding tradition.

Mentioned in the episode:

Shameless by Nadia Bolz-Weber

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who can’t quit men. Then they hear from a man who is about to have sex for the first time since he lost his wife. 

Mentioned in the episode:

She Comes First by Ian Kerner

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a man who’s getting highly aroused at an inopportune time with his girlfriend. Then they hear from a letter writer who wonders what to do about her husband’s strange penis.

Mentioned in the episode:

“Sexual interest as performance, intellect and pathology: A critical discursive case study of dacryphilia”

The Little Death (2014)

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

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This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who wonders if she got duped by her boyfriend—including feedback from listeners like you. Then they hear from a letter writer who wonders if it’s weird that they hate the most basic form of intimacy there is. 

Mentioned in the episode:

“The reasons humans started kissing,” BBC Future, Aug. 15, 2021

Stoya’s How to Do It column on kissing

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

Production by Chau Tu.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.