_*]:min-w-0 gap-3 standard-markdown">

We talk a lot about the emotional stages of a breakup — acceptance, anger, denial. But what about the small, everyday things we actually do in response to those emotions? The behaviours that make you wonder, "is this normal?"

In this episode, I walk through the phases of healing that don't usually make it into the conversation — from the early daze and the urge to check up on your ex, to the grief that hits after you've stopped checking, to what happens when you start dating again (and why that can go really well, or really badly, depending on the work you've done first).

I also share a bit of my own story — what dating looked like for me right after my divorce versus 18 months later, once I'd actually done the inner work.

None of these stages happen in order, and you won't necessarily go through all of them. But if you recognise yourself in any of this, it means you're on the right track.

In this episode:

• Why the early "daze" phase isn't a sign something's wrong with you
• The link between checking your ex's activity and avoiding your grief
• Why acceptance often brings a deeper wave of grief, not relief
• What determines whether dating again feels good or triggers you
• The difference between real safety within yourself and just saying the right things

Want to know where you're at in your healing? Take my free Breakup Recovery Health Check — it measures your emotional coping, clarity, grief processing, and self-connection, and gives you a personalised report. Take the Health Check