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How to Find Peace When Your Marriage Feels Toxic [342]


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Do you ever feel like you’re drowning in guilt, shame, and Christian “shoulds” while trying to survive a toxic marriage, a brutal divorce, or the aftermath of both? What if I told you that letting go, accepting reality, and loving yourself isn’t just a cliche, but it can actually change everything?


In this episode of Flying Free, I dive into the “Let Go, Accept, and Love” tool (a.k.a. LAL, because who doesn’t love an acronym?). Plus, you’ll hear how one brave mama used these steps in the middle of a soul-crushing custody battle, and she came out stronger, freer, and a whole lot wiser.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 

  • Why believing the actual good news (and not the toxic “dirty worm theology”) matters more than you think.
  • The three steps of the LAL tool
  • How one Flying Free member used LAL to survive a painful separation from her child with compassion instead of despair.
  • The messy, real-life lessons another member learned during her custody evaluation, and why showing humility beats trying to look like “Super Perfect Christian Mom.”
  • Practical ways to prepare for divorce and custody evaluations without losing your sanity.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

  • Check out the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, my newest podcast specifically for divorced women rebuilding their lives.
  • The Mirror Bible is a refreshing Bible translation I highly recommend. 
  • Go follow Gretchen Baskerville’s YouTube channel. Also check out a recent interview I did with her, “Do Marriage Intensives Help to Heal Abusive Marriages?
  • Need a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)? Rhonda Noordyk will help you with financial clarity and advocacy in divorce.


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