January 1st has a certain energy to it.

Not the loud, performative kind — but the quieter kind that asks real questions.

Questions like:

1. What do I actually want this year?
2. What am I willing to stay committed to when things get hard?
3. And what keeps me going when motivation fades?

In this week’s episode I talk about something I believe matters more than goals, resolutions, or discipline:

Finding your North Star.

Your North Star isn’t a checklist item.

It’s not a vague intention or a temporary burst of motivation.

It’s the deepest reason you’re on the journey at all.

The WHY that keeps pulling you forward — even when life gets messy, slow, or discouraging.

In the episode, I share a powerful story about a boy born into extreme hardship — poverty, violence, and limitation — who still kept moving toward a future he couldn’t yet reach or even fully imagine.

Not because life was easy.

But because he had a North Star.

And I share why this matters so much for your life — especially if you’ve ever felt like change starts and stops, or like you’re constantly resetting instead of moving forward.

Timestamps:

02:17 — Why meaningful change is never a straight line

03:42 — When life gets in the way (and why that’s not the real problem)

07:27 — What happens when you don’t have a clear North Star

09:52 — A grounded process to begin finding your own North Star

I also guide you through a simple but profound reflection — a process of asking “why” again and again until you reach the place where your body responds before your mind does.

That moment when the noise falls away and something inside you says,

“Yes. That’s it.”

That’s your North Star.

If you’re standing at the beginning of a new year and wondering how to stay committed — not just in January, but all the way through — this episode is an invitation to start from a deeper place.

Not pressure.

Not perfection.

But purpose.

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