When you’ve grown up in trauma and have normalized some behaviors, you miss what is known as “red flag” in others.

I’m giving full credit of this episode to Nate Postlethwait. because he talked about this on one of his posts and it got me thinking. One of the things we as women tend to do when we have grown up in trauma, is we think we know people (or should I say men) and we get into relationships that the average person would see as “red flags” but we have learned to normalize this behavior. 

Over the years, I’ve learned to always help yourself first when coming out of a trauma filled family or relationship. It’s imperative that you are healthy first before you allow someone into your life. 

Also, never feel embarrassed if you have allowed someone to take advantage of you. We always think we can “fix” others because a lot of the time, we have had to do this in our childhoods. We have big hearts, there is nothing wrong with this, except to say, give your heart to the person who is worthy of it. 

This may be a good time to seek out therapy OR  if you are ready to take a step forward and just need someone to come alongside you, this is where coaching can be a beautiful partnership! 

I love helping women find their stride in life. Having someone be your true cheerleader may be the only push you need to help you start growing more confident in thinking in a new way and knowing that God will help you out of any hard situation!

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*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.