Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread?  Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship? 

I was there too but you can turn things around.  Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference. 

It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of your actions take over.  Apologize to your partner, forgive yourself, and push yourself to get back to normal as quickly as possible.

In fact:

• Research shows couples who recover quickly from disputes have higher relationship satisfaction
• One partner's ability to recover quickly can positively impact the other partner
• Quick recovery helps prevent conflict spillover into other areas of the relationship

Here are some common things to avoid but there's so much more packed in this episode:

• Getting defensive when partner isn't ready to accept apologies
• Seeking excessive reassurance
• Engaging in catastrophic thinking

   
Shanenn also shares some recovery strategies like:

• Use "I" statements when explaining your perspective
• Focus on impact rather than intent
• Give partner space to process their emotions
• Return to normal daily routines
• Avoid forcing immediate reconciliation

   

## Resources Mentioned
- Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp
- Individual coaching options
- ForYourMarriage.com
- PsychologicalScience.com

Something to highlight from the episode: 
"As bad as it gets, if you start making the changes, remember, you can make big changes with small steps."

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