May 21, 2026

How to Win at Marriage (The Way You Win at Work) | Patrick Lencioni

1 hour 12 minutes

Your marriage is a team. Most people are running it like a dysfunctional one and have no idea why nothing is working.

Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Patrick Lencioni, author of The Five Dysfunctions of a Team and one of the world's leading experts on organizational health, to break down what makes teams fall apart, why the same dysfunctions destroying companies are destroying marriages, and what it actually takes to build real trust, real loyalty, and a relationship that functions like a winning team.

This is not a business conversation. It is an attachment science and leadership psychology breakdown of why the skills that build great organizations are the exact same ones that build great families.

What you will learn in this video:

1- Why trust is the single greatest competitive advantage in business and in marriage and why most people never build it

2- Why vulnerability is not weakness and what it actually unlocks biochemically in the people around you

3- Why the five dysfunctions of a team show up identically in marriage and what to do about each one

4- What Working Genius is and why understanding yours and your partner's changes everything overnight

5- Why your partner may have been loving you in the way God made them and you completely missed it

6- Why couples date nights make disconnected marriages worse not better and what to fix first

7- Why the most bitterly resentful couples usually want the exact same thing and just never knew it

8- How to run a marriage like a business in a way that creates more joy not less

9- Why unhealed wounds always find their way back into the marriage no matter how hard you try to keep them out

10- What secure attachment and organizational health have in common and why both require the same foundation

If your marriage feels like a dysfunctional team, this conversation will show you exactly why and what to build instead.

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