HR Coffee Time

Is there something at work you know you’re capable of… but in the moment, your nerves take over?

Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, handling a difficult conversation, or stepping into a high-pressure situation - that disconnect between what you can do and how you feel can be incredibly frustrating.

In this episode of HR Coffee Time, I share a simple but slightly unusual technique that can help you feel calmer, more in control, and more confident when it matters most.

It's called 'distanced self-talk', and it might feel a bit strange at first – but it’s backed by research and can make a real difference in those moments where your confidence wobbles.

• Why confidence can disappear in high-pressure moments
• A simple technique that helps you step back from anxious thoughts
• How this approach can reduce nerves and help you think more clearly
• Practical ways to use it before and during challenging situations at work
• Real examples of when to try it – including meetings, presentations, and interviews

• Chatter: The Voice in Our Head (And How to Harness It) – by Ethan Kross

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• Learn about Fay’s Essential HR Planner
• Learn about Fay’s Inspiring HR Leadership Programme

• Ep 1: How to feel more confident at work
• Ep 16: How to become more confident about networking
• Ep 36: Four simple but powerful techniques to banish imposter syndrome
• Ep 43: The one thing that will boost your resilience throughout your HR career
• Ep 49: 7 tips to help you feel more confident for your job interview
• Ep 73: 5 ways to feel more confident in your next interview, meeting, or presentation
• Ep 74: How to get better at presenting & feel more confident about it
• Ep 82: 5 tips to tackle a challenge at work when you aren’t feeling confident
• Ep 101: How to build confidence with networking for HR career success
• Ep 122: Unlocking confidence for your HR career – 5 tips from expert guests
• Ep 137: How to recognise & break free from the lies we tell ourselves at work
• Ep 162: How to Feel More Confident Speaking Up in Leadership Meetings

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Could you be making the biggest HR strategy mistake without realising it?

Creating an HR or People strategy can feel overwhelming - especially when many HR professionals are expected to do it without ever being shown how.

In this episode of HR Coffee Time, Fay Wallis is joined by Dean Corbett, Chief People Officer, psychologist, and coach, to explore one of the most common mistakes HR teams make when creating an HR strategy - and what to do instead.

Dean shares why traditional HR strategy documents can dilute impact, and explains how to connect HR priorities directly to the organisation’s business strategy.

You’ll also hear practical ideas for thinking more strategically about HR, identifying the people capabilities organisations really need, and using tools like OKRs (Objectives and Key Results) to bring strategy to life.

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• Learn about Fay’s Essential HR Planner
• Learn about Fay’s Inspiring HR Leadership Programme
• Connect with Dean on LinkedIn
• Visit Dean’s website: SOPEOPLE

• The Leadership Code: Five Rules to Lead By– Dave Ulrich, Norm Smallwood, & Kate Sweetman
• Playing to Win: How Strategy Really Works– A G Lafley & Roger L Martin
• Aligning Human Resources and Business Strategy– Linda Holbeche
• The Fifth Discipline: The Art and Practice of the Learning Organisation– Peter M Senge
• Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know– Adam Grant
• Perry Timms’ Substack

• Ep 164:Becoming More Strategic as an HR Team - 3 Ways OKRs Can Help
• Ep 148:Skills That Shape a Great CPO: Communication, Coaching & Curiosity (with Jane Beeston)
• Ep 147:How to Become a Successful Chief People Officer: Insider Insights (with Kanika Mehra)

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Struggling to feel confident when Finance conversations come up at work? Been told you need to be "more commercial" but not sure what that actually means? In this practical episode, Commercial HR Coach Jo Bailey demystifies what it means to be commercial in HR and shares actionable advice to help you speak the language of business with confidence.

You’ll Learn

• What "being commercial" actually means (and what it doesn't)
• Key financial terms explained: P&L, EBITDA, balance sheet, and cash flow
• How to approach setting an HR budget with confidence
• Questions to ask when building a strong business case
• How to position budget requests so you're more likely to get what you need
• Real examples of how to demonstrate commercial thinking in your HR role
• The cost of attrition and how to build the business case for retention initiatives

• Connect with Fay on LinkedIn
• Learn about Fay’s Essential HR Planner
• Learn about Fay’s Inspiring HR Leadership Programme
• Connect with Jo Bailey on LinkedIn
• Visit Jo Bailey’s Website: Financial Empowerment

Excellence in People Analytics: How to Use Workforce Data to Create Business Value, by Jonathan Ferrar & David Green

• Ep 147: How to Become a Successful Chief People Officer: Insider Insights (with Kanika Mehra) - has a great explanation of storytelling with data
• Ep 115: Why Negotiation Skills Can Help Your Career & How to Develop Them (with Simon Duncan)
• Ep 158: 3 Simple Ways to Build Business Acumen in Your HR Role

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What does it really mean for an HR team to be “strategic” – and how can you make that shift without adding more to your workload?

In this solo episode of HR Coffee Time, Fay explores a practical and accessible way to strengthen your team’s strategic focus: using OKRs – Objectives and Key Results.

If you’ve ever felt pulled between operational demands and the bigger picture, this episode will help you think differently about how HR goals connect to organisational priorities – and how to make that link clearer for your whole team.

Drawing on real examples (including a memorable orange analogy 🍊), Fay breaks down how OKRs can:

• Create clarity and accountability
• Connect HR activity to business impact
• Help team members see how their work contributes to the wider strategy

You’ll come away with three practical ways to use OKRs to strengthen your strategic focus as a team – without overcomplicating things.

[00:00] Why HR struggles to be strategic

[01:10] What being strategic really means

[02:45] Shaping the future in HR

[03:50] Solving the biggest organisational problem

[04:55] What OKRs are and where they started

[06:10] Understanding objectives using a simple example

[07:40] How HR objectives link to strategy

[08:55] What good key results look like

[10:10] Moving from activity to impact

[11:25] How OKRs support prioritisation

[12:35] Books and next steps for HR leaders

• "Measure What Matters. OKRS - The Simple Idea That Drives 10x Growth" by John Doerr
• "Radical Focus: Achieving Your Most Important Goals With Objectives and Key Results" by Christina Wodtke
• “Good Strategy/Bad Strategy: The Difference and Why It Matters” by Richard Rumelt
• “The Strategy Book: How to Think and Act Strategically to Deliver Outstanding Results” by Max Mckeown

If this episode has made you reflect on your own strategic impact, you might enjoy learning more about Fay’s:

• Inspiring HR Leadership Programme– designed to help existing and aspiring HR leaders build confidence, credibility and influence
• HR Leadership Impact Assessment– a free self-assessment to help you reflect on your strengths and development areas
• The Essential HR Planner– created to help HR professionals stay focused on what really matters

'Operate Strategically' HR Coffee Time Podcast Playlist

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Have you ever been told you’re “not strategic enough” after an HR interview – even though you know you are?

In this solo episode of HR Coffee Time, Fay Wallis tackles one of the most frustrating pieces of feedback HR professionals receive when applying for Head of HR, HR Director, Head of People or People Director roles.

In this episode, Fay breaks down what 'being strategic' means in a practical, accessible way and shares three simple but powerful ways to prove you’re strategic in your next HR interview – without sounding corporate or forced.

• What “being strategic” actually means in practice – and why it often feels so vague
• How using one specific word can make interview panels see your thinking more clearly
• A common mistake HR candidates make when answering interview questions – and how to fix it
• How to turn everyday HR examples into clear, strategic stories with business impact
• The types of interview questions that signal strategic thinking straight away

Fay also shares practical examples you can adapt for your own interviews, helping you move beyond listing what you’ve done to explaining why it mattered.

Whether you’re actively interviewing or simply want to feel more confident talking about your strategic contribution, this episode will help you articulate your value far more effectively.

• Connect with Fay Wallis on LinkedIn
• Visit Fay’s Bright Sky HR website
• Learn aboutThe Essential HR Planner
• Learn about Fay’sInspiring HR leadership development programme

'Operate Strategically' HR Coffee Time Podcast Playlist

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Do you ever leave a leadership meeting wishing you’d said something – only to replay it later and think, “Why didn’t I speak up?”

In this solo episode of HR Coffee Time, Fay explores why speaking up in leadership meetings can feel so daunting (even when you know you have something valuable to contribute). She shares practical, realistic ways to build confidence in those moments.

This episode is especially for HR and People professionals who find themselves second-guessing their ideas, worrying about being challenged, or holding back because the meeting feels high-stakes or fast-paced. Drawing on her coaching experience, Fay unpacks strategies to help.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why imposter feelings often show up more strongly in leadership meetings – and why that doesnotmean you do not belong there
• How your nervous system plays a big role in confidence, and simple ways to feel calmer and more grounded in the moment
• Breathing, grounding, and physical techniques you can use before and during meetings
• The different kinds of value you bring to leadership conversations – beyond having the “perfect” answer
• Why you do not need to be the loudest voice in the room to make an impact
• Practical strategies to make speaking up feel more manageable, including:
• Setting a small, realistic goal for your contribution
• Shaping meetings in advance so you are not waiting for the “right moment”
• Using professional phrases that buy you thinking time
• How to zoom out and remember that one meeting does not define your credibility
• Why confidence grows through familiarity and practice – not by forcing yourself to be someone you are not

• Connect with Fay Wallis on LinkedIn
• Visit Fay’s website
• The Essential HR Planner website
• Learn about Fay’sInspiring HR Leadership Programme

• Ep 86: How to stop other people taking credit for your ideas in meetings
• Build Your Professional Skills - HR Coffee Time Podcast Playlist

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The start of a new year is the perfect moment to pause and think differently about goal setting, especially when you work in HR or a people role where expectations, pressure and emotional load can be high.

In this episode, Fay Wallis shares her Triple Win Framework, a practical way to set goals that help HR and people professionals deliver real organisational impact, build career momentum and protect their wellbeing at the same time.

If you want goals that feel motivating, aligned and supportive of your long-term success, this framework offers a clear place to start.

You’ll Hear about:

• The Triple Win Framework explained
• Choosing impactful HR goals
• Aligning goals to organisational strategy
• Career-enhancing skills that matter
• Why wellbeing must be a goal

• The Build Your Professional Skills Playlist
• Connect with Fay Wallis on LinkedIn
• Learn About Fay'sInspiring HR Leadership Programme
• Learn More AboutThe Essential HR Planner

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Before we all sprint into 2026, I wanted to create this bonus episode to encourage you to pause and reflect on the year that's just passed. In it, I work my way through the 10 'Look Back to Look Forward' questions from the Essential HR Planner and share my own honest answers - including the achievements I'm proud of, the challenges I faced, what I learned, and the moments that shaped my year both personally and professionally.

This episode includes reflections on expanding the Inspiring HR Leadership Programme, navigating the realities of running a business, experimenting with video, taking a long break from the podcast, and working through some unexpected moments of vulnerability along the way. My hope is that by sharing my experience, you'll feel encouraged to complete the exercise yourself and head into 2026 with more clarity and intention.

• The Essential HR Planner
• The free HR Leadership Impact Assessment
• Read the full blog version of my reflections
• Connect with me on LinkedIn
• Learn more about theInspiring HR Leadership Programme

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5 Brilliant HR Books That Deserve a Spot Under Your Christmas Tree!

If you work in HR and you’re not sure what to ask for this Christmas – or you’d love to buy a thoughtful, genuinely useful gift for an HR colleague – this episode is for you.

Fay Wallis shares five brilliant HR book recommendations she’s read this year. Each one supports HR professionals in a slightly different way – from building resilience and confidence, to shaping culture, developing better people practices, and setting yourself up for a successful year at work.

All of the books recommended are practical, thoughtful, and grounded in real HR challenges.

• The Little Book of HR Resilience: Practical Strategies for Busy People Professionals – Dr Felicity Baker & Dr Jo Burrell
• The HR Confidence Playbook: The essential guide to being seen, heard, and respected in HR - by Kirsty Baggs-Morgan
• Work Rules!: Insights from Inside Google That Will Transform How You Live and Lead - by Laszlo Bock
• Let’s Talk Culture: The conversations you need to create the team you want - by Shane Michael Hatton
• The Essential HR Planner – by Fay Wallis

• Connect with Fay Wallis on LinkedIn
• Visit Fay’s website
• Learn about Fay’sInspiring HR leadership development programme

• Ep 35: Helping Teams Thrive with Personal User Manuals
• Ep 123: Avoid Burnout - How to Spot Signs Of Stress & Take Action (with Dr Jo Burrell)
• Ep 146: Lessons in HR Leadership: How to Succeed as a Chief People Officer: (with John Scrooby)

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What’s the best way to land your first Chief People Officer or CHRO role?

In this episode, Fay Wallis breaks down the four most common routes that real CPOs have taken to step into the top people leadership job for the very first time. You’ll also hear short clips from several CPO guests who generously shared their stories and insights.

You’ll hear about:

• Four routes into first CPO roles
• Internal discussions leading to job title changes
• Being headhunted by executive recruiters
• Strengthening your LinkedIn profile
• Applying directly for senior HR roles
• Preparing for high-level interviews
• Pitching for promotion with a business case

• Connect with Fay Wallis on LinkedIn
• Visit Fay’s website
• Learn about Fay’sInspiring HR leadership development programme
• Buy a copy of The Essential HR Planner

• Ep 31:3 little-known LinkedIn features which will help you get your next job
• Ep 106:7 types of posts to share on LinkedIn that will help your HR career
• Ep 149: The CPO Job Application That Worked, Strategic vs Operational HR, and Why Compassion Matters (with Funmi Onamusi):
• Audio link:https://brightskyhr.co.uk/hr-coffee-time-podcast/149/
• YouTube link:https://youtu.be/n-zYslILExc?si=dIJFbWDgo2SWlcUz
• Ep 154: Step-by-Step Career Advice to become a successful CHRO/CPO (with Nicola Lyons):
• Audio link:https://brightskyhr.co.uk/hr-coffee-time-podcast/154/
• YouTube link:https://youtu.be/tdqjSSbKMmM?si=WpaKhorECI5-ieFk
• Ep 147: How to Become a Successful Chief People Officer: Insider insights (with Kanika Mehra):
• Audio link:https://brightskyhr.co.uk/hr-coffee-time-podcast/147/
• YouTube link:https://youtu.be/R31JrBpT490?si=fikKsO8dJBahIRpx

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