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I Can’t Mediate! My Spouse is a Narcissist, Meanie, or Bully


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For many clients, the idea of facing mediation with a difficult spouse or co-parent is terrifying. It feels so much more comfortable to think about hiding behind an attorney and letting the justice system do its thing. But we know that not only is it possible, but it’s actually preferable to try to resolve things out of court with a difficult character. So today we're talking about helping clients feel confident that they can mediate with a narcissist, meanie or bully.

Side note: As a rule, we avoid the use of labels like narcissist, psychopath, borderline, or addict. Our goal is to help our client recognize patterns of behavior, identify what is within their control, and to empower them to take charge of their own decision making. We want to dispel the perception that this is happening TO them and instead support them in taking strategic actions and aligning their choices with their goals and values.

Experts in the field of conflict resolution are beginning to say that methods of alternative dispute resolution may work in your client’s favor and we discuss 8 of those reasons in today's episode.

  • Court is the high conflict person's playground
  • Costs can escalate quickly
  • The legal process moves slowly
  • Conflict can spiral out of control
  • Children get caught in the crossfire
  • Control is out of their hands
  • Lose the ability to use de-escalation strategies
  • Deceased compliance

So, while clients may feel that litigation is a safer alternative for dealing with their difficult spouse, by working with you they can gain the skills and confidence they need to try meditation. And by doing so, potentially avoid the expense, stress, and damage of a court battle.


Learn more about DCA™ or  any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

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Email: [email protected]

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: [email protected]

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