In This Body

Join Ailey Jolie and Khan Porter as they explore how mental health and early childhood trauma can influence the relationship a cis-gendered male has with their very own body. Khan opens up about his formative childhood years as a young boy who was bullied for being isolated and overweight and how this influenced a perception of himself and his body that still lingers in the back of his mind today. In this episode, Khan reflects on his struggle with his mental health, specifically his experience of an eating disorder. This conversation is vulnerable, informative and helps to illuminate a path forward to dissect the influences that keep us in and out of our bodies. 

In this episode: 

• 01:04 Meet Khan Porter: Athlete and Mental Health Advocate
• 03:58 Khan's Early Struggles with Body Image
• 05:22 The Turning Point: Embracing Athleticism
• 09:00 Battling an Eating Disorder
• 17:50 The Fitness Industry's Dark Side
• 23:12 The Alter Ego Effect in Sports
• 30:09 Reconnecting with the Body
• 35:43 Exploring Altered States of Consciousness
• 36:42 Struggles with Self-Criticism and People-Pleasing
• 37:54 Philosophical Pursuits: Ethics and Existentialism
• 39:00 The Impact of External Validation
• 40:05 Connecting to Your Body: A Guiding Force
• 41:43 The Importance of Contentment
• 43:14 Navigating Negative Patterns and Physical Feelings
• 53:42 External Influences on Disembodiment
• 01:04:01 Balancing Mindful and Mindless Moments
• 01:07:14 Concluding Thoughts on Embodiment

You can read the show transcript here: https://share.descript.com/view/4UwgQrNtldB 

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Join Ailey Jolie and Paula Leech for the fourth episode of "In This Body." In this episode, Ailey and Paula speak to the crucial role embodiment plays in the expression of healthy sexuality. Paula shares the early influences of her work and what led her to become a sex therapist and relationship counselor. Together, they delve into topics such as the impact of culture on sexuality, the manifestation of intergenerational sexual trauma, the significance of vulnerability in sexual dynamics, the role of intimacy and trust in overcoming sexual anxiety, and the importance of viewing sex as a form of play and expression. Paula introduces her embodiment model, Sensate Focus, as a therapeutic technique to enhance body connection and sexual experiences. This episode is as engaging as it is educational. We hope you enjoy it.

• 00:00 Introduction to 'In This Body' Podcast
• 01:04 Meet Paula Leach: An Expert in Sex Therapy
• 03:18 Paula's Personal Journey into Therapy
• 06:23 Intergenerational Sexual Trauma
• 13:31 Growing Up in a Sex-Positive Household
• 17:00 Cultural Impact on Sexuality
• 20:02 The Concept of Sexual Performance
• 25:51 Sensate Focus and Mindful Embodiment
• 29:51 Understanding Initiation in Relationships
• 30:48 The Role of Body Image and Trauma
• 31:47 Quick Fix Culture and Sexuality
• 33:23 The Depth of Sex Therapy
• 36:38 Physiology and Sexual Functions
• 39:52 Sexuality as a Healing Process
• 41:57 Exploring Sexual Anxiety
• 43:56 Sources of Sexual Anxiety
• 46:02 Anxiety's Impact on Sexuality
• 48:22 Consent and Power Dynamics in Sex
• 51:13 Sexuality as Play and Exploration
• 55:47 Intimacy Challenges and Authenticity
• 57:49 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

You can read the show transcript here: https://share.descript.com/view/fJDg1ZFo6j3 

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Join Ailey Jolie and Dr Leslie Ellis for In This Body's third episode. In this episode, Ailey and Dr Ellis discuss focusing-oriented therapy, the transformative power of dream work, and how dreams serve as profound access points to the unconscious. Dr. Ellis shares her journey from journalism to psychology, her experiences working with trauma, and the importance of embodiment in addressing unfelt experiences. Together they  also explore the relationship between dream work and trauma, the often misunderstood nature of nightmares, and their potential for profound healing.We hope you enjoy the episode. 

• 01:04 Meet Dr. Leslie Ellis: Expert in Somatic Therapy and Dream Work
• 03:20 Leslie's Journey into Depth Psychology and Somatics
• 06:09 Integrating Focusing and Dream Work in Therapy
• 08:04 Challenges and Adaptations in Early Practice
• 09:03 The Unconscious in the Body: Insights from Pacifica
• 15:13 Focusing-Oriented Therapy vs. Traditional Therapy
• 19:17 Creating Safe Spaces for Trauma Healing
• 24:21 The Power of Focusing in Trauma Therapy
• 32:57 Dream Work: A Gateway to the Unconscious
• 36:11 The Nature of Dream Processing
• 36:43 Emotional Significance of Dreams
• 37:22 Dreams as a Therapeutic Tool
• 39:05 Bias Against Dreamwork
• 40:32 The Unconscious and Felt Sense
• 42:56 Understanding Nightmares
• 45:58 Case Study: Transformative Nightmare
• 51:20 The Value of Nightmares
• 56:40 Dreams and Embodiment
• 01:04:13 Resources for Therapists

You can read the show transcript here.

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Join Ailey Jolie and Ariel Giarretto for In This Body's second episode. In this episode, Ariel shares their personal path to discovering the deep connection between body awareness and sexual well-being. Ariel discusses the different approaches of a sex educator and a somatic sexologist, and why integrating a trauma-informed lens is critical when addressing sexuality and the body. Importantly, Ariel touches on cultural and societal barriers that lead to sexual and somatic disconnection. Ariel and Ailey explore what it means to be disconnected from one’s sexuality and the implications this disconnection has on individual and societal well-being. Ariel discusses her work in the full embodiment model, which entails a holistic approach to sexual healing and building body awareness. This discussion highlights the importance of being fully present in one’s body to live a life anchored in our values, our expression, and our truth. Join us for a rich conversation that not only explores the intersections of somatics and sexuality but also offers practical insights and inspiration for personal growth and healing. We hope you enjoy the episode. 

• 00:00 Introduction to 'In This Body' Podcast
• 00:55 Meet Ariel Giarretto: Her Journey into Somatic Therapy
• 03:32 Ariel's Early Influences and Career Path
• 06:16 Discovering Somatic Experiencing and Sexuality
• 10:40 Combining Somatic Therapy with Sexual Education
• 14:51 Developing the Full Embodiment Model
• 28:19 The Political and Cultural Dimensions of Sexuality
• 32:26 The Importance of Sexuality
• 34:14 Challenges in Developing the Model
• 34:34 Cultural Differences in Sexuality
• 35:28 Teaching Methods and Overcoming Barriers
• 38:21 Repatterning and Somatic Awareness
• 49:20 Embodiment and Infertility
• 58:54 Final Thoughts on Embodiment

You can read the show transcript here: https://share.descript.com/view/R01BWhR795L 

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Join Ailey Jolie and her interviewer, Giselle La Pompe-Moore for the first episode of In This Body. Giselle is a slow living advocate, author of "Take It In," artist, and writer of "Be Difficult, Darling" on Substack. Her approach to slow living emphasizes making joy, healing, and reflection more accessible to help us cope with fast-paced, distracted, and disconnected living. Giselle explores how we can find Quiet Joy in simple, everyday things, practice Quiet Rebellion by questioning hustle culture, and embrace Quiet Healing without the pressure of perfect wellness. Her ultimate goal is to inspire a Quiet Revolution, where we slow down enough to reconnect with our humanity and create meaningful social change.

In this episode Ailey reflects on her early childhood experiences of sexual abuse and neglect, and how this led to her life almost ending due to an eating disorder. She speaks to how struggling with an eating disorder was a result of wanting to numb the pain she had experienced as a young girl. Ailey reflects on how her personal experiences are woven into her professional life, and how her work as a psychotherapist is rooted in what her younger self needed. This interview is vulnerable, tender, and will open your heart to the grief and joy that is inhabiting a body. We hope you enjoy. 

In this episode: 

• 1.04 - Ailey speaks on why it was so hard to record her own solo episode
• 9.09 - Ailey reflects on how the relationship with her body has influenced her personal and professional life
• 14:40 - Ailey speaks to the unconscious mechanisms which led her to dancing
• 17:50 - The experiences that shaped Ailey’s understanding of embodiment
• 19:39 - Ailey shares some personal stories highlighting the journey it has been to connect with her body
• 22:09 - What Ailey wants everyone to know about the relationship she has with her body
• 25:04 - How Ailey reconciles feeling safe as an individual vs feeling unsafe as a woman in the world 
• 28:59 - What led Ailey to be so passionate about embodiment 
• 32:44 - The challenges Ailey had to overcome in her journey towards embodiment 
• 42:54 - How the relationship Ailey has with her body has influenced how she moves through life 
• 47:49 - How connecting to Ailey’s body impacted the relationships she has with others 
• 51:34 - The role people play in their own embodiment 
• 54:54 - How societal expectations affect the relationship Ailey has with her body 
• 59:44 - How Ailey’s work in embodiment contributes to deeper social and political change 
• 1:03:04 - How embodiment can lead you into authenticity with your Self 
• 1:11:04  - Ailey speaks to the misconceptions people have around embodiment 
• 1:14:49 - How your body can communicate with you
• 1:17:59 - The advice Ailey would give to her younger self
• 1:21:49 - What Ailey hopes listeners will take from this podcast

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In This Body is a podcast dedicated to providing thoughtful dialogue to demystify the unseen influence of the unconscious in your life. Through consciously curated conversations with leading experts from across the globe, we’ll uncover the silent stories woven into the fabric of our lives, unlocking the door to genuine change and deeper authenticity. Everything your mind has not processed lives inside your body. Everything your mind has not processed will rule your life until it is revealed. Repeating patterns isn’t fate. You are not destined to live the same life as your parents or keep dating the same type of people. In This Body will support you to bring more awareness to the wisdom that is within your very own skin.

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Learn more about Ailey Jolie:

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