Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

My guest today is Julie Lythcott-Haims.  

Casey and Julie chat about Julie’s newest book, “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult,” including what topics are covered, reactions from young adults & parents, and what Julie was hoping for while she wrote this book. They talk on how young adults learn to “fend for themselves” and find self-acceptance. Casey and Julie dig into how and when young adults claim their own narratives and the challenges of when that’s different from your vision for them. They get into the unknown and lifelong effects of Gen Z and the pandemic and wrap-up by touching on how great self-agency and problem-solving feels for everyone, especially these young adults.

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My guest today is Alicia Robertson. 

Casey and Alicia discuss how to keep and grow your self-worth, healthy boundaries, communication, and confidence during and after divorce. Alicia advises on what to share with kids about your divorce and how to give them (and yourself) safety, security, and stability during this complex, emotional time. Casey and Alicia talk custody agreements, single parenting, co-parenting challenges, and tweens and teens having a parental preference. They wrap up by digging into dating after divorce.

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Another throwback!! Love going into the vault to revisit some of the Joyful Courage solo shows of the past. This one is especialy sweet. Our teens are doing the best they can with the tools they have in the moment. They are responding to the external events and experineces around them. Listen in as I guide listeners through an experiential activity that highlights how the WAY we communicate influences how our kids are feeling, thinking and deciding to do.

You're kids are not manipulating you.

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My guest today is Todd Adams. 

Todd and Casey talk about raising young, straight, cis-gendered, white men and how to balance teaching them about the responsibility that comes with their privilege without over-burdening them. They discuss what it means to “be a man” and how to nurture a young man’s emotional intelligence & the importance of modeling. Todd shares how important it is for parents to be self-aware, curious, and willing to learn. He gives strategies for connecting with and calling-in teenagers and why to connect when they’re ready. Casey and Todd remind us that there’s not a perfect script, but an ongoing conversation, when it comes to tough topics like consent, substance use, & being advocates. Todd wraps up by talking about what healthy masculinity and “mature masculinity” look like to him.

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My guest today is Dr. Anjali Ferguson.  

Dr. Anjali Ferguson and Casey dig deep in this episode on how to be in conversation with teens about social-political issues, including abortion. Dr. Ferguson weighs in on if we should bring up tricky topics or wait for children to ask questions and gives tips on how to be ready for emotionally-charged topics. They share advice on when and how to take a moment during challenging conversations and the work that’s needed to parent differently than we were parented. Dr. Ferguson explains how to validate and hear what your teen is sharing, even when you have a difference of opinion. Casey asks Dr. Ferguson about best practices for being open with tweens and teens, especially regarding reproductive rights. They talk about the pros and cons of teenagers getting news and information from social media like TikTok. Dr. Ferguson shares how Parenting Culture provides resources for and supports families of different races, faiths, and cultures to address tough topics and difficult questions. She wraps up by speaking on openness, racial socialization, and cultural identity.

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So glad to be highlighting this show again - wowzer. This is such a profound invitation, every day, to be who our teens need then to be. Yes, love them with all of you, stand by them, AND give them space to discover all there is to learn from mistakes and risks, triumphs and failures - these are THEIRS to experience. Doesn't mean we abandon them, it DOES mean that we love them through it all regardless of how it looks. This is what all kids need, even those adult ones!

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Aly shares about her own tough teen years and how she started working with parents of teens. Casey & Aly dig into what misguided ideas parents of teens have and what new brain science is showing us, like behavior-based parenting (ie: punishments and rewards) leading to acting-out & defiance and how much brains grow & change during puberty. Aly explains what a boundary truly is, and why children & teens should not and cannot be responsible for parent’s feelings. She shares how common co-dependence is for Gen X and Gen Y and how that can lead to controlling or catering to your teen along with a sense of responsibility for others feelings and behaviors. Casey breaks down being kind & firm at the same time. Aly defines boundaries and expectations with examples as well as how & why to stay compassionate and curious with your teen. Aly wraps up by explaining what teens need to show their best effort, including in an antiquated school system.

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I'm outta here!!

For real. I am on a plane with Julietta Skoog, my partner at Sproutable headed out on a WORLD TOUR!! We land later today in the UAE and will be speaking at the Parenthood Unconference next week, alongside so many amazing speakers.

Listen to this SHORT solo show to hear all about it! 

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My guest today is Domari Dickinson. 

Domari shares how she got started on her Conscious Parenting & Positive Discipline journey. They discuss what Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, & Gentle Parenting mean and if those are helpful labels. Domari shares her tips for those of us who are transitioning to a different parenting style, including identifying & digging into your own triggers, leading with love & grace, and feeling all of your feelings.

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Listeners - you are in for a TREAT!! This Thursday the Joyful Courage podcast feed is being taken over by my good friend, Julie Neale, host and brilliance over at Mothers Quest Podcast. 

Julie has powerful conversations with incredible guests and I am honored to be sharing one of those convos here with the Joyful Courage community.

Julie's guest is Jonathan Mooney, father, writer, speaker, activist, and self-described “do-gooder.” He is the author of Normal Sucks, How to Live, Learn and Thrive Outside the Lines.

Jonathan forged his own path to Brown University where he co-founded an organization and co-wrote a book to help neurodivergent students like himself succeed in college.

He has been a champion for neurological and physical diversity for more than two decades, and goes deep and wide with Julie about the pervasive impact of institutionalized and cultural ableism and his quest to help himself and others with differences understand they are not deficient.

You are IN FOR A TREAT MY FRIENDS!! 

While you're at it, be sure to check out MothersQuest episode 93 where Julie's son, a freshman at UCLA, interviews Jonathan about neurodivergent activism and more!

Appreciating you all so much!

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