Episode 41 – Flirting, Ghosting, and Setting Standards: Real Dating Advice for Men

In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle some of the most vulnerable and confusing moments in modern dating. They answer real listener questions about:

• How to show romantic interest without falling back into toxic masculinity or getting stuck in the “friend zone”
• What to do when you’re ghosted after a promising connection—and how to separate facts from painful stories your mind creates
• Why chemistry isn’t always enough, and how to set and hold your dating standards even when things don’t work out

Gracie and Tracy share research-backed flirting tips, advice for building confidence, and practical strategies for moving on after rejection. They also discuss the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help single men reflect, grow, and date with intention.

Whether you’re struggling to make the leap from friendship to romance, reeling from a sudden ghosting, or just want to date with more clarity and confidence, this episode is packed with honest insights and actionable advice.

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Self-Made Man Dating Journal (now available on Amazon)
• How to use self-compassion to recover from rejection
• The importance of being direct, setting boundaries, and choosing yourself first

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Episode 40: From Heartbreak to Healing – Real Advice for Men Ready to Date Again

Welcome back to Just Ask Her, the no-BS podcast for real dating advice straight from a woman’s point of view! In this milestone 40th episode, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle your toughest questions about moving on, healing, and dating with confidence after heartbreak.

In this episode:

• Submission 1 (Chris, 32, UK Firefighter):
  Chris finds himself repeatedly attracting women who are fresh out of relationships and struggling emotionally. Gracie and Tracy break down the “rescuer” dynamic, discuss the difference between chemistry and true connection, and offer practical steps for setting dating standards, recognizing patterns, and staying in the “chooser” role.

• Submission 2 (Anonymous, 27, Med Student):
  After a nine-year relationship, Anonymous is back in the dating world and wonders if a recent date didn’t work out due to timing or lack of interest. The hosts share how to separate facts from stories, process rejection, and keep moving forward without waiting for a “maybe.”

• Submission 3 (Matthew, 28, Law Student):
  Matthew is healing from a recent breakup and wants advice on both moving on and planning a new date. Gracie and Tracy discuss the importance of not waiting until you “feel ready,” making decisions ahead of time, and taking small, confident steps forward.

Special Segment:
The Self-Made Man Dating Journal is now available on Amazon! Gracie and Tracy introduce their new journal designed to help single men track their dating experiences, reflect, and grow with intention. Limited first run—grab yours before they’re gone! (Link in show notes)

Key Takeaways:

• Don’t let past experiences define your worth or what you deserve.
• Set clear dating standards and stay in the chooser role.
• Rejection is a normal part of dating—use it as a learning opportunity.
• Healing is an active process; don’t wait for closure to move forward.
• Take small, actionable steps to rebuild confidence and momentum.

Resources & Links:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1
• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracie

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Episode 39: Dating After Divorce, Overcoming Insecurities & Navigating Workplace Romance

In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt answer real listener questions about the challenges men face in modern dating.

Topics Covered:

• Dating After Divorce: Daniel, a recently divorced dad living in the Caribbean, asks how to navigate dating with kids, a limited dating pool, and emotional healing. Gracie and Tracy discuss emotional availability, redefining relationship goals, and the importance of self-awareness.
• Overcoming Insecurities (Height): Lucas from Canada shares his struggles with dating as a shorter man and feeling stuck in the friend zone. The hosts offer practical tips for building confidence, expressing romantic interest, and leveraging your unique strengths.
• Workplace Romance: Shane wants to know how to tell if a coworker is interested or just being friendly, and whether it’s appropriate to ask her out again. The conversation covers reading signals, respecting boundaries, and balancing professionalism with personal interest.
• Bonus: Gracie introduces the Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help men track their dating experiences and grow in self-awareness.

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional readiness and bandwidth are different—define what you want in this season of life.
• Confidence comes from action and self-acceptance, not just external validation.
• Flirting and expressing interest can be learned skills—start with small, bold steps.
• Workplace relationships require extra care and respect for boundaries.

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon
• Free guides on dating apps, starting conversations, and building chemistry at www.datingwithgracie.com

Connect with Gracie:

• Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

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In this episode, Gracie and Tracy tackle three powerful listener submissions about dating challenges, online reputation, and moving on after heartbreak. They offer no-nonsense advice on handling public shaming in online groups, building momentum with a newly single neighbor, and recovering from a whirlwind romance that ended abruptly. Plus, they announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help men reflect and grow in their dating lives.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 – Introduction

  • Gracie and Tracy welcome listeners and celebrate 38 weeks of the podcast.
  • Quick banter about pregnancy timelines and podcast milestones.

• 02:00 – Listener Submission #1: Anthony’s Story

  • Anthony shares his experience of being publicly shamed in a women’s Facebook group after a breakup.
  • Gracie and Tracy discuss the origins and current state of “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” groups.
  • Advice on handling online defamation, reclaiming self-trust, and whether to pursue legal action.
  • Key takeaway: Let your integrity and self-awareness guide you, and don’t let drama-filled groups define your dating future.

• 25:00 – Announcement: Self-Made Man Dating Journal

  • Gracie and Tracy introduce their new journal for single men, available on Amazon.
  • The journal helps track dates, reflect on experiences, and build self-awareness.

• 28:00 – Listener Submission #2: Alex’s Story

  • Alex, new to dating, wonders if he missed his chance with a neighbor after helping her through a tough time.
  • The hosts discuss the importance of momentum, meaningful interactions, and not overthinking timing.
  • Advice: Focus on genuine conversations, set healthy boundaries, and don’t attach expectations to every interaction.

• 40:00 – Listener Submission #3: Jake’s Story

  • Jake describes a fast-moving, long-distance romance that ended suddenly after a deep connection.
  • Gracie and Tracy explain “emotional fast-tracking” and the risks of future-tripping in new relationships.
  • Advice: Let relationships unfold at a natural pace, integrate emotional lessons, and practice patience as you move forward.

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  Get Gracie’s Free Guides at: 👉https://datingwithgracie.com/

  Check out the Dating With Gracie Community at: 👉⁠https://www.skool.com/dating/about⁠

  Want to be featured on the podcast? Submit your story & question: 👉  "Just Ask Her" Podcast Submission

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Hosts:
Gracie Pleschourt (Dating Expert) & Tracy Pleschourt (Certified Life Coach)

Episode Summary:
In this episode, Gracie and Tracy tackle real listener questions about dating challenges, mindset shifts, and taking control of your love life. They offer no-nonsense advice from a woman’s perspective, helping single men date with confidence and intention.

Listener Submissions & Key Takeaways:

1. Dakota’s Dilemma:
   A 31-year-old entrepreneur struggling to find quality matches while living with family and rebuilding financially.
   Advice:

   • Don’t wait passively for love—be open and intentional about meeting new people.

   • Own your journey and talk about your growth with confidence.

   • Geography matters on dating apps, but don’t let location limit your options—explore new ways to meet women.

   • Your ambition and integrity are attractive; focus on sharing who you’re becoming.

2. Kyle’s Missed Connection:
   A 32-year-old crane operator wonders if he missed out on a romantic opportunity after a church encounter fizzled.
   Advice:

   • You did nothing wrong—sometimes timing just isn’t right.

   • Don’t dwell on “what could have been.” Stay open to new opportunities in places you enjoy.

   • Contentment is great, but combine it with curiosity and intention to avoid stagnation.

   • Emotional readiness is key to relationship success.

3. George’s Unrequited Interest:
   A 34-year-old man questions whether to keep talking to a woman who isn’t ready to date.
   Advice:

   • When someone says they’re not interested or ready, believe them.

   • Set boundaries and move on to free your energy for the right relationship.

   • Don’t confuse hope with reality—choose clarity and self-respect.

Special Segment:

• Product Launch: The Self-Made Man Dating Journal is now available on Amazon! Designed for single men to track dates, reflect, and build self-awareness for better dating outcomes. Limited first run—grab yours before they’re gone!

Calls to Action:

• Rate and review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to help others find the show.

• Share this episode with friends who could use real, actionable dating advice.

• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @‌datingwithgracie

New Episodes:
Tune in every Wednesday morning for fresh, honest dating advice—no matter where you are or what your situation is, just ask her!

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It’s one of the most painful dating experiences: everything feels amazing… and then she disappears.

In this raw, relatable episode of Just Ask Her, we unpack three powerful submissions from men navigating ghosting, rejection, and confusion after what felt like real connection:

• Luke opens up about an overseas trip that changed everything with a woman he thought he was building something real with. Now she’s gone—no warning, no clarity—and he’s still holding on.

• Spencer shares the story of his whirlwind 4-date romance with a woman who seemed all-in—until she ghosted him after planning two more dates. What gives?

• Conor bravely tells us what it’s like being 30, never having been in a relationship, and constantly getting close—only to be shut out. He asks: What am I doing wrong, and how do I keep going?

💬 Gracie and Tracy go deep in this one, breaking down what ghosting really means, why it often has nothing to do with you, and what women are thinking when they pull away after connection. We also explore:

• What to do when you still have feelings but she cuts contact

• The truth about mixed signals and sudden disappearances

• Why “perfect dates” don’t always lead to commitment

• How to rebuild your confidence after being ghosted

• When (and how) to reach out again—or let go completely

Whether you’ve been left on read or still playing back every moment of your last date, this episode will give you clarity, closure, and hope.

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She said she only wanted something casual… but your heart didn’t get the memo.

In this episode of Just Ask Her, we’re diving into three real stories that hit home for a lot of men:

• A 36-year-old man rekindles something with the woman who once ghosted him—only to find himself falling all over again. Is she just bored… or is there still a chance?

• Another listener goes from intimate and honest connection to total silence after dating a single mom—what happened, and how do you respond to ghosting that makes no sense?

• Plus, we talk about first-date anxiety with a guy who knows he’s a catch… but struggles to show it early on.

If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re being patient or just played, this episode will give you honest advice, a woman’s perspective, and the clarity you need to stop spinning in circles.

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This week on Just Ask Her, we’re tackling three very real (and wildly different) dating dilemmas from our listeners:

• Carlos wants to know if there’s any hope for a conservative guy dating in a liberal city—or if he should hold out for a future move.

• Mark has rekindled things with his high school sweetheart… but there’s one big problem: she’s still best friends with his ex-wife.

• And an anonymous bachelor is wondering how to strike up a conversation with the woman he always runs into—but never has a chance to talk to.

We’re talking dating across political lines, what to do when the past gets in the way of the present, and how to approach a girl you barely know without being weird about it. Let’s dive in.

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In today’s episode, we’re diving into three powerful stories from men navigating the messy middle of modern dating:

💔 Luke thought he was one step away from proposing—until she blindsided him with a breakup.
😓 Josh is tired of being the one who always initiates, and he’s starting to feel the desperation creeping in.
🥲 Jerome had the best first date of his life… but now she’s gone quiet, and he’s left wondering if he should reach out again.

We’ll talk about what to do when effort feels one-sided, why some women emotionally check out long before they leave, and how to find clarity when the door hasn’t fully closed.

If you’ve ever felt blindsided, confused, or stuck on “what could’ve been,” this episode is for you.

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