Chemistry and availability aren’t the same thing—and that’s a key reason dating can feel confusing. In this episode of Just Ask Her, Gracie and her mom/co-host (certified life coach) Tracy answer three real submissions about mixed signals at work, dating after a layoff, and why first dates from apps often get canceled last-minute.

If you’re dating with intention and you keep wondering “What did I do wrong?”, this episode helps you separate the facts from the story your brain is trying to write—so you can move forward with more confidence and less overthinking.

You’ll hear practical scripts and mindset shifts for navigating modern dating dynamics (especially on the apps), plus how to protect your time and self-respect while still staying open to connection.

In this episode:

• Why “chemistry” doesn’t equal “availability” (and how faith/values can change outcomes)

• Friendly vs. flirty in work settings—and how to get clarity without spiraling

• Should you mention unemployment on your dating profile? (Spoiler: no)

• How to talk about a recent layoff on a first date with confidence

• Why app dates get canceled so often—and how not to take it personally

• The better response when someone cancels (so you don’t carry the whole reschedule)

• Why comparison is wrecking your confidence (and what to do instead)

  
  

  
  

Time Stamps / Chapters:

00:00 — Welcome to 2026 + new studio setup

00:02:21 — Submission #1: Mixed signals at work + mini golf invite “180”

00:05:56 — Friendly vs. flirty: how to get clarity (especially at work)

00:10:42 — Faith/values + “two truths can coexist”

00:13:02 — Lesson: you can do everything right and still not control outcomes

00:15:44 — Submission #2: Laid off—how it affects dating + your profile

00:19:06 — Why you shouldn’t disclose unemployment on apps (and what to say instead)

00:24:11 — Mind drama, shame, overexplaining: what actually hurts your dating life

00:28:49 — Submission #3: Dates keep canceling + confidence crash from comparison

00:32:05 — App reality: most matches don’t meet + lots of day-of cancellations

00:37:49 — What to text when she cancels (and why “pick a new time” backfires)

00:45:00 — Stop over-texting before the date: save conversation for in-person

00:47:32 — Episode wrap: Episode 59 + what’s next

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Are you ready to take control of your dating life and attract the women you want? In Episode 58 of the "Just Ask Her" podcast, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt celebrate a year of growth, share their impressive Spotify Wrapped stats, and answer real listener questions about dating challenges, mindset shifts, and self-confidence.

In this episode:

• The Just Ask Her podcast’s first full year recap and top Spotify Wrapped achievements (Top 5% of videos, most shared show, and more!)
• Meet Noodle, the adorable new dachshund puppy joining the show
• Listener submissions: Navigating dating with neurodivergence, overcoming “bad luck” in relationships, and embracing singlehood with confidence
• Mindset advice for men who feel stuck or defeated in dating
• The importance of self-awareness, communication, and taking the lead in your dating journey
• Announcing the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help single men track, reflect, and improve their dating experiences
• Exciting updates for 2026, including a new production team and upgraded video setup

Whether you’re struggling with dating setbacks, wondering how to be the “chooser” in your love life, or just want to hear real, no-nonsense advice from women who get it, this episode is packed with actionable tips and inspiration.

Resources mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon
• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracie

Don’t forget to rate, review, and share the show on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to help more listeners find us!

Feeling alone this Christmas Eve? You’re not the only one. In this special holiday episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt get real about why so many men find themselves single during the holidays—and what you can do to make sure next year is different.

We’re not here as coaches or experts, but as your family—your older or younger sister, your mom—ready to tell you the truth you need to hear. We’ll talk about the real reasons you’re stuck in your dating life, the stories you tell yourself that keep you from moving forward, and the steps you can take to break the cycle of loneliness.

Key topics include:

• Why comparing yourself to others on social media is sabotaging your happiness
• The truth about texting your ex (and why it never helps)
• How to get unstuck and start attracting the relationship you want
• The three steps to change: Decide, Get Clarity, and Do the Work
• Practical advice for building confidence, meeting new people, and becoming someone you’re proud of
• A 90-day challenge to transform your dating life

You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Tune in for honest, no-BS advice, encouragement, and a promise: next Christmas can be different—if you decide to do the work.

Subscribe for weekly episodes with actionable tips, real talk, and the support you need to change your dating life for good.

Merry Christmas from Gracie, & Tracy

Welcome back to Just Ask Her, the no-nonsense dating advice podcast for men who want real answers from a woman’s perspective! In Episode 56, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle your toughest dating dilemmas, from decoding mixed signals to making the most of first dates.

In this episode:

• How to tell if she’s interested or just being friendly
• The power of direct communication: Why “just ask her” is the best strategy
• Navigating texting habits, physical touch, and gift-giving in modern dating
• Coping with rejection and building confidence after loss
• Real listener submissions: Rekindled friendships, workplace crushes, and moving on after heartbreak
• The best first date ideas for online matches and in-person connections
• Are singles events and speed dating worth it? Pros, cons, and creative alternatives
• Special announcement: The Self-Made Man Dating Journal is now available on Amazon—track your progress and level up your dating life!

Plus: Rapid-fire Q&A, reality TV talk, and why being the chooser (not just the chosen) is the key to dating success.

Resources & Links:

• Grab your copy of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon
• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracie

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with your friends. Your support helps more men find real, actionable dating advice!

Tune in next week for a special holiday episode!

Show Notes

Episode 55: Why She Didn’t Text Back: Real Talk on Dating Apps, Instagram DMs, and Moving On

Welcome back to Just Ask Her—the no-nonsense dating advice podcast for men, hosted by dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt. In this episode, Gracie and Tracy tackle three listener submissions that highlight the most common struggles men face in modern dating: ghosting, mixed signals, and the frustration of online dating.

In this episode:

• Submission 1: A listener wonders if an ex’s Instagram like means she wants to reconnect, and Gracie and Tracy break down why social media signals are rarely what they seem—and how to move forward with confidence.
• Submission 2: Tyler asks why women don’t respond to his Instagram DMs, despite his best efforts and a strong profile. The hosts explain the hidden variables of online messaging, why your worth isn’t tied to replies, and the “Rule of 100” for building dating resilience.
• Submission 3: Dan shares his story of heartbreak after divorce and struggles to find connection on dating apps. Gracie and Tracy offer advice on reframing rejection, increasing your “reps” in dating, and why your past doesn’t define your future.

Plus:

• The launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help single men track their dating progress, reflect, and grow.
• Why mindset is the most important factor in dating success.
• How to separate facts from stories when facing rejection.
• The importance of volume and persistence in online dating.

Key Takeaways:

• Don’t read too much into social media interactions—focus on real communication and alignment.
• Your value isn’t determined by how many replies you get; it’s about choosing yourself first.
• Dating is a numbers game—get more reps before drawing conclusions.
• Healing from heartbreak is a journey, and every experience is a step toward the right relationship.

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon
• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracie

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with your friends! New episodes every Wednesday.

Should You Approach Her When She's Alone? Ghosting, Rejection & Building Real Confidence (Ep. 54)

Show Notes:

Listener submissions spark honest conversations about:

• The right (and wrong) ways to approach women in different contexts
• How to handle mixed signals and trust your instincts after being hurt
• Why ghosting and rejection don’t define your worth
• The hidden pitfalls of dating apps and how to reframe “rejection”
• Building confidence and self-awareness for better connections

Plus, Gracie and Tracy share personal stories, Thanksgiving chaos, and announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help you track, reflect, and level up your dating life.

Don’t miss the practical advice, mindset shifts, and real talk that will help you date with more confidence and clarity.

Listener questions featured from: James, Kyle, Jake, and Miguel.

Resources mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal (available now on Amazon
• Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

New episodes every Wednesday!

You’ll learn:

• When (and how) to approach women respectfully—alone or in groups
• Why ghosting and rejection aren’t reflections of your worth
• How to trust your instincts and set healthy boundaries
• The truth about dating apps and self-sabotaging beliefs
• Actionable tips for self-awareness and authentic connection

Plus, hear about the new Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help you track your progress and break old patterns.

Tune in for honest advice, relatable stories, and the mindset shifts you need to succeed in modern dating.

Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday, and follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok @datingwithgracie.

Grab your copy of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon

Episode Description:

Gratitude, Growth, and Real Talk: Navigating Dating Challenges & Self-Trust

In this special Thanksgiving and birthday episode, Gracie and Tracy reflect on the power of gratitude, embracing new chapters, and the lessons learned at 25.

They answer listener questions about moving on after betrayal, dating after divorce, and how to handle fast-paced connections in the digital age. Plus, they introduce the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help you track your progress and date with intention.Feeling stuck in your dating life or struggling to move on after heartbreak?

In this episode, Gracie and Tracy get real about gratitude, personal growth, and the messy realities of modern dating. They answer listener questions about letting go of toxic relationships, dating after divorce, and how to communicate your needs and boundaries.

Whether you're navigating new connections or healing from the past, you'll find practical advice and encouragement to help you trust yourself and date with intention.

Plus, discover the new Self-Made Man Dating Journal—your guide to tracking progress and building better relationships.

Listen now for a dose of honesty, hope, and inspiration!

Welcome to the anniversary episode of Just Ask Her! Gracie and Tracy celebrate a full year of empowering single men with honest, actionable dating advice. In this special episode, they reflect on the journey so far, the growth of their community, and the impact the show has had on listeners around the world.

To mark the occasion, Gracie and Tracy take your most-asked dating questions out of the studio and into the real world—specifically, the Mall of America! Hear candid, unfiltered answers from women of all ages and backgrounds as they share what really matters in dating, what green and red flags they look for, and their best advice for men looking to improve their love lives.

Highlights:

• The story behind the podcast’s evolution and its first anniversary

• Why men’s vulnerability and willingness to seek advice is so powerful

• The importance of mindset and community in dating success

• On-the-street interviews with women answering your top dating questions:

  • Most attractive qualities in a man

  • Approaching women: what works and what doesn’t

  • Dating apps vs. real life vs. mutual friends

  • Height, self-improvement, and who should pay for the first date

  • Biggest red and green flags

  • The best advice for single men

• Reflections on the value of honest conversations and the supportive Just Ask Her community

  
  

  Resources:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon ⁠

• ⁠Submit your questions for future episodes via the show’s submission form⁠

• Dating Differently Application

Thank you for being part of our journey! If you’ve found value in the show, the best anniversary gift you can give is to share this episode with someone who needs it and leave us a review. Here’s to many more years of real talk and real results!

It’s our one-year anniversary! To celebrate, Gracie and Tracy take your most-asked dating questions to the Mall of America, getting honest answers from real women. Tune in for fresh perspectives, heartfelt reflections, and practical advice that will help you date with confidence. Don’t miss this special episode packed with insights, laughs, and gratitude for our amazing community. Share, review, and keep your questions coming—because no matter where you are, you can always Just Ask Her.

Episode 51: Breaking Patterns & Building Self-Trust in Dating

Description:
In this episode of "Just Ask Her," Gracie and Tracy dive into three listener submissions that highlight the real challenges men face in modern dating. From navigating attachment styles and dating app fatigue to finding emotionally available partners and breaking free from self-sabotaging patterns, this episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt coaching. Plus, Gracie announces the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help single men reflect, grow, and date with intention.

Show Notes:

Intro & Halloween Banter

• Gracie and Tracy kick off the episode with some lighthearted Halloween talk, sharing personal stories and family traditions.

Submission 1: Sal’s Story

• Sal, a father of four and firefighter, shares his journey from anxious to secure attachment style.

• Struggles with dating app fatigue and finding emotionally available women.

• Gracie and Tracy discuss the pitfalls of over-labeling attachment styles, the scarcity mindset, and the importance of real-life connections.

• Advice: Leverage your strengths in real-world environments, seek shared purpose, and remember that every "failed" connection brings you closer to alignment.

Submission 2: Kyle’s Question

• Kyle wonders why it seems women don’t have hobbies and how to meet like-minded singles.

• Discussion on generational trends, burnout, and the importance of reframing blanket statements.

• Tips: Switch up your social activities, challenge self-sabotaging beliefs, and remember that the right partner will appreciate your diverse interests.

Submission 3: Greg’s Pattern

• Greg, an Australian Air Force sergeant, describes a recurring pattern of women pulling away.

• Gracie and Tracy explore confirmation bias, self-trust, and the importance of detaching from painful narratives.

• Practical steps: Name the pattern neutrally, detach from identity, decide what you’ll do differently, and let people reveal themselves over time.

Resource Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Now available on Amazon! Designed to help single men track dates, reflect, and grow. Limited first run—grab yours before they’re gone.

Listener Call to Action:

• If you enjoy the show, please rate and review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share with friends!

• Submit your questions for future episodes.

  • Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon ⁠

  • ⁠Submit your questions for the anniversary episode via the show’s submission form⁠

Connect with Gracie:

• Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

New episodes every Wednesday!

Episode 50: Real Dating Questions Answered – Confidence, Signals & Starting Over

Description:
In this milestone 50th episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener questions about modern dating. From overcoming shyness and reading signals to building confidence and starting over after a long relationship, Gracie and Tracy deliver no-nonsense advice straight from a woman’s perspective. Plus, they announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal and tease a special anniversary episode coming soon!

Whether you’re struggling to approach someone new, wondering how to get noticed, or navigating the dating scene after years away, this episode is packed with practical tips, research-backed insights, and encouragement to help you take control of your dating life.

Show Notes:

00:00 – Welcome & Introduction
01:30 – Listener Submission #1: Should I ask out the Home Depot girl?
05:00 – How to read signals vs. friendly behavior
08:30 – Building confidence and taking action despite shyness
12:00 – The truth about rejection and courage in dating
15:00 – Launch Announcement: Self-Made Man Dating Journal
18:00 – Listener Submission #2: Why don’t women notice me?
22:00 – The science of attraction and nonverbal cues
25:00 – How to shift from seeking validation to radiating confidence
29:00 – Listener Submission #3: Dating after a 30-year relationship
33:00 – Navigating small communities and changing your identity
37:00 – Advice for starting over and expanding your social circles
41:00 – Anniversary Episode Teaser: “Man on the Street” Q&A
44:00 – How to submit your questions for the special episode
46:00 – Final thoughts & where to find Gracie online

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon

• Submit your questions for the anniversary episode via the show’s submission form

• Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review Just Ask Her on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share it with your friends!