Welcome to the anniversary episode of Just Ask Her! Gracie and Tracy celebrate a full year of empowering single men with honest, actionable dating advice. In this special episode, they reflect on the journey so far, the growth of their community, and the impact the show has had on listeners around the world.

To mark the occasion, Gracie and Tracy take your most-asked dating questions out of the studio and into the real world—specifically, the Mall of America! Hear candid, unfiltered answers from women of all ages and backgrounds as they share what really matters in dating, what green and red flags they look for, and their best advice for men looking to improve their love lives.

Highlights:

• The story behind the podcast’s evolution and its first anniversary

• Why men’s vulnerability and willingness to seek advice is so powerful

• The importance of mindset and community in dating success

• On-the-street interviews with women answering your top dating questions:

  • Most attractive qualities in a man

  • Approaching women: what works and what doesn’t

  • Dating apps vs. real life vs. mutual friends

  • Height, self-improvement, and who should pay for the first date

  • Biggest red and green flags

  • The best advice for single men

• Reflections on the value of honest conversations and the supportive Just Ask Her community

  
  

  Resources:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon ⁠

• ⁠Submit your questions for future episodes via the show’s submission form⁠

• Dating Differently Application

Thank you for being part of our journey! If you’ve found value in the show, the best anniversary gift you can give is to share this episode with someone who needs it and leave us a review. Here’s to many more years of real talk and real results!

It’s our one-year anniversary! To celebrate, Gracie and Tracy take your most-asked dating questions to the Mall of America, getting honest answers from real women. Tune in for fresh perspectives, heartfelt reflections, and practical advice that will help you date with confidence. Don’t miss this special episode packed with insights, laughs, and gratitude for our amazing community. Share, review, and keep your questions coming—because no matter where you are, you can always Just Ask Her.

Episode 51: Breaking Patterns & Building Self-Trust in Dating

Description:
In this episode of "Just Ask Her," Gracie and Tracy dive into three listener submissions that highlight the real challenges men face in modern dating. From navigating attachment styles and dating app fatigue to finding emotionally available partners and breaking free from self-sabotaging patterns, this episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt coaching. Plus, Gracie announces the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help single men reflect, grow, and date with intention.

Show Notes:

Intro & Halloween Banter

• Gracie and Tracy kick off the episode with some lighthearted Halloween talk, sharing personal stories and family traditions.

Submission 1: Sal’s Story

• Sal, a father of four and firefighter, shares his journey from anxious to secure attachment style.

• Struggles with dating app fatigue and finding emotionally available women.

• Gracie and Tracy discuss the pitfalls of over-labeling attachment styles, the scarcity mindset, and the importance of real-life connections.

• Advice: Leverage your strengths in real-world environments, seek shared purpose, and remember that every "failed" connection brings you closer to alignment.

Submission 2: Kyle’s Question

• Kyle wonders why it seems women don’t have hobbies and how to meet like-minded singles.

• Discussion on generational trends, burnout, and the importance of reframing blanket statements.

• Tips: Switch up your social activities, challenge self-sabotaging beliefs, and remember that the right partner will appreciate your diverse interests.

Submission 3: Greg’s Pattern

• Greg, an Australian Air Force sergeant, describes a recurring pattern of women pulling away.

• Gracie and Tracy explore confirmation bias, self-trust, and the importance of detaching from painful narratives.

• Practical steps: Name the pattern neutrally, detach from identity, decide what you’ll do differently, and let people reveal themselves over time.

Resource Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Now available on Amazon! Designed to help single men track dates, reflect, and grow. Limited first run—grab yours before they’re gone.

Listener Call to Action:

• If you enjoy the show, please rate and review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share with friends!

• Submit your questions for future episodes.

  • Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon ⁠

  • ⁠Submit your questions for the anniversary episode via the show’s submission form⁠

Connect with Gracie:

• Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

New episodes every Wednesday!

Episode 50: Real Dating Questions Answered – Confidence, Signals & Starting Over

Description:
In this milestone 50th episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener questions about modern dating. From overcoming shyness and reading signals to building confidence and starting over after a long relationship, Gracie and Tracy deliver no-nonsense advice straight from a woman’s perspective. Plus, they announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal and tease a special anniversary episode coming soon!

Whether you’re struggling to approach someone new, wondering how to get noticed, or navigating the dating scene after years away, this episode is packed with practical tips, research-backed insights, and encouragement to help you take control of your dating life.

Show Notes:

00:00 – Welcome & Introduction
01:30 – Listener Submission #1: Should I ask out the Home Depot girl?
05:00 – How to read signals vs. friendly behavior
08:30 – Building confidence and taking action despite shyness
12:00 – The truth about rejection and courage in dating
15:00 – Launch Announcement: Self-Made Man Dating Journal
18:00 – Listener Submission #2: Why don’t women notice me?
22:00 – The science of attraction and nonverbal cues
25:00 – How to shift from seeking validation to radiating confidence
29:00 – Listener Submission #3: Dating after a 30-year relationship
33:00 – Navigating small communities and changing your identity
37:00 – Advice for starting over and expanding your social circles
41:00 – Anniversary Episode Teaser: “Man on the Street” Q&A
44:00 – How to submit your questions for the special episode
46:00 – Final thoughts & where to find Gracie online

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon

• Submit your questions for the anniversary episode via the show’s submission form

• Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review Just Ask Her on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share it with your friends!

Episode 49: Ghosted, Blocked, and Bouncing Back — Real Dating Dilemmas & Self-Made Man Advice

Episode Description:Are you tired of feeling stuck in your dating life, confused by mixed signals, or left wondering why she ghosted you? In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener submissions about ghosting, blocking, and the emotional rollercoaster of modern dating.

From decoding sudden disappearances to reframing rejection and building emotional resilience, Gracie and Tracy offer no-nonsense advice straight from a woman’s perspective. They break down the “self-made man” mindset, share practical tips for handling heartbreak, and answer tough questions about honesty, closure, and moving forward.

Plus, enjoy a fun behind-the-scenes recap of their recent trip to Ireland, complete with cultural takeaways and travel mishaps!

Show Notes:

• 0:00 – Welcome & Introduction: Why dating feels so confusing today
• 2:30 – Listener Submission #1: Why did she ghost and block me after a great date?
• 18:00 – The “Self-Made Man” Mindset
• 25:00 – Listener Submission #2: “Why do I feel like I’m preparing women for other men?”
• 38:00 – Listener Submission #3: “Should I tell women my ex-wife is a lesbian?”
• 48:00 – Product Spotlight: The Self-Made Man Dating Journal
• 52:00 – Ireland Recap: Banter, culture shocks, and travel lessons
• 1:05:00 – Final Thoughts & How to Work with Gracie and Tracy

Resources Mentioned:

• The Self-Made Man Dating Journal (available on Amazon)
• Application link for coaching https://form.typeform.com/to/zJkel6VK?utm_source=xxxxx
• Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday!

Dating After Divorce – Confidence, Apps & Real Connections for Men Over 40 Ep. 48

Hosts: Gracie Pleschourt & Tracy Pleschourt

In This Episode:

• [00:00] Welcome & Introduction

• [01:30] Listener Question: Starting Over After Divorce at 45

  • Breaking old routines and building new momentum

  • Is there a “market” for divorced men over 40?

  • How to meet new women and rebuild your social circle

  • The fastest-growing demographic on dating apps

  • The importance of self-awareness: knowing what you want and what you bring to the table

  • Tips for getting comfortable with dating apps

  • How to treat dating as research, not a performance

• [18:00] The Self-Made Man Dating Journal Launch

  • How journaling can help you track progress and avoid repeating old patterns

  • Building confidence and clarity through reflection

  • Where to get the journal (Amazon link in show notes)

• [22:00] Listener Question: Revealing a Physical Difference (Amputee Experience)

  • How to talk about insecurities and physical differences with confidence

  • Why your story and self-acceptance matter more than “the reveal”

  • The power of vulnerability and authenticity in dating

• [30:00] Listener Question: Competing for Women’s Attention

  • Why confidence and self-value matter more than “winning” attention

  • Shifting from scarcity to abundance mindset

  • Practical tips to stand out: eye contact, conversation, and authenticity

  • How to become unforgettable by making women feel seen and at ease

• [40:00] Final Thoughts & Where to Find Gracie

  • Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

  • Apply for 1:1 coaching (link in show notes)

  • Rate & review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1

• 1:1 Coaching Application https://gracie.clickfunnels.com/optin1758810316648

• Follow Gracie: Instagram & TikTok @datingwithgracie

Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday!

Are you tired of feeling like someone’s backup plan in your dating life? In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener questions about complicated romantic situations, building self-confidence, and setting healthy boundaries.

From navigating “work spouse” dynamics and emotional gray areas to overcoming social anxiety with women and learning to trust yourself after heartbreak, Gracie and Tracy offer no-nonsense advice to help you take control of your love life. Whether you’re struggling to move on from a relationship, worried about making social mistakes, or wondering if you should pursue someone who’s already taken, this episode is packed with actionable insights and tough love.

Show Notes:

• [00:00] Welcome & Updates: Gracie and Tracy share personal updates, including an upcoming trip to Ireland and behind-the-scenes podcast planning.
• [04:00] Listener Submission #1: “Am I the Second Option?” — Advice for men caught in complicated relationships, why pursuing someone who’s unavailable is a losing game, and how to protect your self-respect.
• [18:00] The Self-Made Man Dating Journal Launch: Introducing a new tool for single men to track, reflect, and improve their dating experiences.
• [20:00] Listener Submission #2: “Social Mistakes with Women” — How to handle awkwardness, why confidence is really about self-trust, and why women care less about your blunders than you think.
• [35:00] Listener Submission #3: “Trust Issues After a Breakup” — Rebuilding trust in yourself, letting go of relationships that no longer serve you, and why your future happiness depends on your own decisions.
• [50:00] Key Takeaways: Why boundaries, self-awareness, and emotional resilience are the real keys to dating success.
• [52:00] Call to Action: Rate, review, and share the podcast; follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok @datingwithgracie.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Self-Made Man Dating Journal:
• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracie

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with your friends! Got a question for Gracie and Tracy? Submit it for a chance to be featured in a future episode.

Are you tired of feeling stuck in your dating life, striking out on dating apps, or wondering why nothing seems to work? In this episode, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt answer real listener questions and share no-nonsense advice to help men attract the women they want and build lasting confidence.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why dating apps might not be working for you—and what to do instead

• The mindset shifts that turn “invisible” guys into irresistible partners

• How to break free from self-sabotaging beliefs and rewrite your dating story

• Practical tips for meeting women in real life (and why it’s often more effective than apps)

• How to stand out at speed dating events and make a memorable first impression

• The truth about confidence, self-worth, and why women are drawn to men who trust themselves

• How to handle rejection, scarcity mindset, and the pressure to “have it all figured out”

Listener Questions Answered:

• “I’ve been on dating apps for 20 years with no luck. What am I doing wrong?”

• “How do I prep for a speed dating event and avoid the friend zone?”

• “Why do I feel like every woman is already taken, and how do I stop feeling average?”

Special Segment:

• Introducing the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—your new tool for tracking dates, building self-awareness, and making real progress in your love life. Limited batch available on Amazon—grab yours before they’re gone!

Join the Conversation:

• Take our poll on Spotify and let us know: Do you love the personal banter, or do you prefer us to get straight to the dating advice?

• Share your thoughts and questions for future episodes!

Connect with Gracie:

• Instagram & TikTok: @‌datingwithgracie

• Check out Gracie’s membership for hands-on coaching and support https://form.typeform.com/to/zJkel6VK?utm_source=xxxxx

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with a friend!

No matter where you are or what your situation is—just ask her.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Welcome & Listener Feedback

• 06:00 – Why Dating Apps Aren’t Working

• 18:00 – Mindset Shifts for Dating Success

• 30:00 – Real-Life Dating Tips & Speed Dating Advice

• 45:00 – Overcoming Scarcity and Building Confidence

• 55:00 – Introducing the Self-Made Man Dating Journal

• 60:00 – Final Thoughts & Calls to Action

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1

• Gracie’s Membership https://form.typeform.com/to/zJkel6VK?utm_source=xxxxx

Break the Cycle: Real Advice for Dating Confidence, Moving On, and Finding Love
Episode 45 – Just Ask Her Podcast

Episode Summary:
In this episode, Gracie and Tracy tackle some of the most common and challenging dating dilemmas sent in by listeners. From navigating on-again, off-again relationships to overcoming self-doubt and building confidence, this episode is packed with real talk and actionable advice for anyone looking to level up their love life.

What You’ll Learn:

• How to recognize and break free from unhealthy relationship cycles

• Why you can’t “save” someone else—and how to set healthy boundaries

• The truth about attraction, self-image, and why confidence matters more than looks

• How to handle rejection, negative comments, and the pressure of dating apps

• Practical tips for moving on after heartbreak and getting back into the dating scene

• When to follow up (and when to move on) in online dating conversations

• Why chemistry on the first date isn’t everything—and what to focus on instead

Listener Submissions Featured:

• Todd: Struggling with an on-again, off-again relationship and wondering if he should wait or move on

• Drew: Battling self-confidence issues and negative feedback while re-entering the dating world

• Anonymous: Unsure about next steps after a breakup and facing challenges with dating apps and first dates

Special Segment:
Gracie and Tracy announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help single men track their dating experiences, reflect, and grow. Limited quantities available on Amazon!

Resources & Links:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon

• Connect with Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @‌datingwithgracie

Support the Show:
If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share with your friends!

New episodes every Wednesday. No matter where you are or what your situation is—just ask her.

Episode 44: Living at Home, Gym Love, and Mixed Signals

Hosts: Gracie Pleschourt & Tracy Pleschourt

Struggling with dating while living at home? Unsure if you should make a move at the gym? Confused by mixed signals from someone you like? In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle your toughest questions with no-nonsense, real-world advice.

We answer listener submissions about:

• How to date confidently when you’re not financially independent or still living with your parents
• Navigating the tricky world of gym romance and whether you should look for love outside your workout routine
• What to do when someone gives you mixed signals after turning you down

Key Takeaways:

• Confidence and clarity about your life path are more attractive than financial status.
• Don’t apologize for your situation—own your story and values.
• Mixed signals usually mean “no”—don’t wait around for someone to change their mind.
• The gym isn’t the only place to meet active partners; try apps, clubs, and social events.
• Focus on what you can control and keep your dating mindset positive.

Connect with Gracie:

• Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

Support the Show:

• Rate and review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts
• Share this episode with friends

Purchase the Self-Made Man Dating Journal:

• https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1

New episodes every Wednesday!

Episode 43: Stood Up Again? Real Talk on Dating Disappointments, Blind Dates & Building Confidence

Show Notes:

• Why do people keep getting stood up on dates? Gracie and Tracy break down the stats, share real listener stories, and offer practical advice for handling rejection and disappointment in the dating world.
• Blind dates in 2025: Are they still a thing? The hosts discuss the anxiety of not knowing what your date looks like, how to handle awkward first impressions, and why short, low-pressure first dates are the way to go.
• Special segment: Navigating dating with ADHD and social anxiety. Listener Jack from England shares his experience, and Gracie and Tracy provide mindset shifts and actionable tips for building confidence and social skills.
• Launch announcement: The Self-Made Man Dating Journal is now available! Learn how this tool can help you track your dating experiences, reflect, and grow.
• Listener Q&A: How to avoid getting cynical, set healthy standards, and know when to walk away.
• Plus: The importance of self-awareness, communication, and not taking rejection personally.

Links Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1
• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracie

Episode Description:

Ever been stood up and wondered, “Is it me, or is this just modern dating?” In this episode, Gracie and Tracy get real about dating disappointments, blind dates, and the mindset shifts that can help you bounce back stronger. They answer listener questions about being stood up, navigating first-date nerves, and dating with ADHD or social anxiety. Plus, they announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—a must-have for anyone serious about improving their dating life.

Tune in for honest advice, practical tips, and a reminder that you’re not alone in the dating game. Whether you’re tired of ghosting, anxious about blind dates, or just want to build more confidence, this episode is for you!

New episodes every Wednesday. Don’t forget to rate, review, and share!