Feeling alone this Christmas Eve? You’re not the only one. In this special holiday episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt get real about why so many men find themselves single during the holidays—and what you can do to make sure next year is different.

We’re not here as coaches or experts, but as your family—your older or younger sister, your mom—ready to tell you the truth you need to hear. We’ll talk about the real reasons you’re stuck in your dating life, the stories you tell yourself that keep you from moving forward, and the steps you can take to break the cycle of loneliness.

Key topics include:

• Why comparing yourself to others on social media is sabotaging your happiness
• The truth about texting your ex (and why it never helps)
• How to get unstuck and start attracting the relationship you want
• The three steps to change: Decide, Get Clarity, and Do the Work
• Practical advice for building confidence, meeting new people, and becoming someone you’re proud of
• A 90-day challenge to transform your dating life

You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Tune in for honest, no-BS advice, encouragement, and a promise: next Christmas can be different—if you decide to do the work.

Subscribe for weekly episodes with actionable tips, real talk, and the support you need to change your dating life for good.

Merry Christmas from Gracie, & Tracy

Welcome back to Just Ask Her, the no-nonsense dating advice podcast for men who want real answers from a woman’s perspective! In Episode 56, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle your toughest dating dilemmas, from decoding mixed signals to making the most of first dates.

In this episode:

• How to tell if she’s interested or just being friendly
• The power of direct communication: Why “just ask her” is the best strategy
• Navigating texting habits, physical touch, and gift-giving in modern dating
• Coping with rejection and building confidence after loss
• Real listener submissions: Rekindled friendships, workplace crushes, and moving on after heartbreak
• The best first date ideas for online matches and in-person connections
• Are singles events and speed dating worth it? Pros, cons, and creative alternatives
• Special announcement: The Self-Made Man Dating Journal is now available on Amazon—track your progress and level up your dating life!

Plus: Rapid-fire Q&A, reality TV talk, and why being the chooser (not just the chosen) is the key to dating success.

Resources & Links:

• Grab your copy of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon
• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracie

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with your friends. Your support helps more men find real, actionable dating advice!

Tune in next week for a special holiday episode!

Show Notes

Episode 55: Why She Didn’t Text Back: Real Talk on Dating Apps, Instagram DMs, and Moving On

Welcome back to Just Ask Her—the no-nonsense dating advice podcast for men, hosted by dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt. In this episode, Gracie and Tracy tackle three listener submissions that highlight the most common struggles men face in modern dating: ghosting, mixed signals, and the frustration of online dating.

In this episode:

• Submission 1: A listener wonders if an ex’s Instagram like means she wants to reconnect, and Gracie and Tracy break down why social media signals are rarely what they seem—and how to move forward with confidence.
• Submission 2: Tyler asks why women don’t respond to his Instagram DMs, despite his best efforts and a strong profile. The hosts explain the hidden variables of online messaging, why your worth isn’t tied to replies, and the “Rule of 100” for building dating resilience.
• Submission 3: Dan shares his story of heartbreak after divorce and struggles to find connection on dating apps. Gracie and Tracy offer advice on reframing rejection, increasing your “reps” in dating, and why your past doesn’t define your future.

Plus:

• The launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help single men track their dating progress, reflect, and grow.
• Why mindset is the most important factor in dating success.
• How to separate facts from stories when facing rejection.
• The importance of volume and persistence in online dating.

Key Takeaways:

• Don’t read too much into social media interactions—focus on real communication and alignment.
• Your value isn’t determined by how many replies you get; it’s about choosing yourself first.
• Dating is a numbers game—get more reps before drawing conclusions.
• Healing from heartbreak is a journey, and every experience is a step toward the right relationship.

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon
• Follow Gracie on Instagram and TikTok: @datingwithgracie

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and share with your friends! New episodes every Wednesday.

Should You Approach Her When She's Alone? Ghosting, Rejection & Building Real Confidence (Ep. 54)

Show Notes:

Listener submissions spark honest conversations about:

• The right (and wrong) ways to approach women in different contexts
• How to handle mixed signals and trust your instincts after being hurt
• Why ghosting and rejection don’t define your worth
• The hidden pitfalls of dating apps and how to reframe “rejection”
• Building confidence and self-awareness for better connections

Plus, Gracie and Tracy share personal stories, Thanksgiving chaos, and announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help you track, reflect, and level up your dating life.

Don’t miss the practical advice, mindset shifts, and real talk that will help you date with more confidence and clarity.

Listener questions featured from: James, Kyle, Jake, and Miguel.

Resources mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal (available now on Amazon
• Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

New episodes every Wednesday!

You’ll learn:

• When (and how) to approach women respectfully—alone or in groups
• Why ghosting and rejection aren’t reflections of your worth
• How to trust your instincts and set healthy boundaries
• The truth about dating apps and self-sabotaging beliefs
• Actionable tips for self-awareness and authentic connection

Plus, hear about the new Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help you track your progress and break old patterns.

Tune in for honest advice, relatable stories, and the mindset shifts you need to succeed in modern dating.

Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday, and follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok @datingwithgracie.

Grab your copy of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal on Amazon

Episode Description:

Gratitude, Growth, and Real Talk: Navigating Dating Challenges & Self-Trust

In this special Thanksgiving and birthday episode, Gracie and Tracy reflect on the power of gratitude, embracing new chapters, and the lessons learned at 25.

They answer listener questions about moving on after betrayal, dating after divorce, and how to handle fast-paced connections in the digital age. Plus, they introduce the Self-Made Man Dating Journal—designed to help you track your progress and date with intention.Feeling stuck in your dating life or struggling to move on after heartbreak?

In this episode, Gracie and Tracy get real about gratitude, personal growth, and the messy realities of modern dating. They answer listener questions about letting go of toxic relationships, dating after divorce, and how to communicate your needs and boundaries.

Whether you're navigating new connections or healing from the past, you'll find practical advice and encouragement to help you trust yourself and date with intention.

Plus, discover the new Self-Made Man Dating Journal—your guide to tracking progress and building better relationships.

Listen now for a dose of honesty, hope, and inspiration!

Welcome to the anniversary episode of Just Ask Her! Gracie and Tracy celebrate a full year of empowering single men with honest, actionable dating advice. In this special episode, they reflect on the journey so far, the growth of their community, and the impact the show has had on listeners around the world.

To mark the occasion, Gracie and Tracy take your most-asked dating questions out of the studio and into the real world—specifically, the Mall of America! Hear candid, unfiltered answers from women of all ages and backgrounds as they share what really matters in dating, what green and red flags they look for, and their best advice for men looking to improve their love lives.

Highlights:

• The story behind the podcast’s evolution and its first anniversary

• Why men’s vulnerability and willingness to seek advice is so powerful

• The importance of mindset and community in dating success

• On-the-street interviews with women answering your top dating questions:

  • Most attractive qualities in a man

  • Approaching women: what works and what doesn’t

  • Dating apps vs. real life vs. mutual friends

  • Height, self-improvement, and who should pay for the first date

  • Biggest red and green flags

  • The best advice for single men

• Reflections on the value of honest conversations and the supportive Just Ask Her community

  
  

  Resources:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon ⁠

• ⁠Submit your questions for future episodes via the show’s submission form⁠

• Dating Differently Application

Thank you for being part of our journey! If you’ve found value in the show, the best anniversary gift you can give is to share this episode with someone who needs it and leave us a review. Here’s to many more years of real talk and real results!

It’s our one-year anniversary! To celebrate, Gracie and Tracy take your most-asked dating questions to the Mall of America, getting honest answers from real women. Tune in for fresh perspectives, heartfelt reflections, and practical advice that will help you date with confidence. Don’t miss this special episode packed with insights, laughs, and gratitude for our amazing community. Share, review, and keep your questions coming—because no matter where you are, you can always Just Ask Her.

Episode 51: Breaking Patterns & Building Self-Trust in Dating

Description:
In this episode of "Just Ask Her," Gracie and Tracy dive into three listener submissions that highlight the real challenges men face in modern dating. From navigating attachment styles and dating app fatigue to finding emotionally available partners and breaking free from self-sabotaging patterns, this episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt coaching. Plus, Gracie announces the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help single men reflect, grow, and date with intention.

Show Notes:

Intro & Halloween Banter

• Gracie and Tracy kick off the episode with some lighthearted Halloween talk, sharing personal stories and family traditions.

Submission 1: Sal’s Story

• Sal, a father of four and firefighter, shares his journey from anxious to secure attachment style.

• Struggles with dating app fatigue and finding emotionally available women.

• Gracie and Tracy discuss the pitfalls of over-labeling attachment styles, the scarcity mindset, and the importance of real-life connections.

• Advice: Leverage your strengths in real-world environments, seek shared purpose, and remember that every "failed" connection brings you closer to alignment.

Submission 2: Kyle’s Question

• Kyle wonders why it seems women don’t have hobbies and how to meet like-minded singles.

• Discussion on generational trends, burnout, and the importance of reframing blanket statements.

• Tips: Switch up your social activities, challenge self-sabotaging beliefs, and remember that the right partner will appreciate your diverse interests.

Submission 3: Greg’s Pattern

• Greg, an Australian Air Force sergeant, describes a recurring pattern of women pulling away.

• Gracie and Tracy explore confirmation bias, self-trust, and the importance of detaching from painful narratives.

• Practical steps: Name the pattern neutrally, detach from identity, decide what you’ll do differently, and let people reveal themselves over time.

Resource Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Now available on Amazon! Designed to help single men track dates, reflect, and grow. Limited first run—grab yours before they’re gone.

Listener Call to Action:

• If you enjoy the show, please rate and review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share with friends!

• Submit your questions for future episodes.

  • Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon ⁠

  • ⁠Submit your questions for the anniversary episode via the show’s submission form⁠

Connect with Gracie:

• Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

New episodes every Wednesday!

Episode 50: Real Dating Questions Answered – Confidence, Signals & Starting Over

Description:
In this milestone 50th episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener questions about modern dating. From overcoming shyness and reading signals to building confidence and starting over after a long relationship, Gracie and Tracy deliver no-nonsense advice straight from a woman’s perspective. Plus, they announce the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal and tease a special anniversary episode coming soon!

Whether you’re struggling to approach someone new, wondering how to get noticed, or navigating the dating scene after years away, this episode is packed with practical tips, research-backed insights, and encouragement to help you take control of your dating life.

Show Notes:

00:00 – Welcome & Introduction
01:30 – Listener Submission #1: Should I ask out the Home Depot girl?
05:00 – How to read signals vs. friendly behavior
08:30 – Building confidence and taking action despite shyness
12:00 – The truth about rejection and courage in dating
15:00 – Launch Announcement: Self-Made Man Dating Journal
18:00 – Listener Submission #2: Why don’t women notice me?
22:00 – The science of attraction and nonverbal cues
25:00 – How to shift from seeking validation to radiating confidence
29:00 – Listener Submission #3: Dating after a 30-year relationship
33:00 – Navigating small communities and changing your identity
37:00 – Advice for starting over and expanding your social circles
41:00 – Anniversary Episode Teaser: “Man on the Street” Q&A
44:00 – How to submit your questions for the special episode
46:00 – Final thoughts & where to find Gracie online

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Available on Amazon

• Submit your questions for the anniversary episode via the show’s submission form

• Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review Just Ask Her on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share it with your friends!

Episode 49: Ghosted, Blocked, and Bouncing Back — Real Dating Dilemmas & Self-Made Man Advice

Episode Description:Are you tired of feeling stuck in your dating life, confused by mixed signals, or left wondering why she ghosted you? In this episode of Just Ask Her, dating expert Gracie Pleschourt and certified life coach Tracy Pleschourt tackle real listener submissions about ghosting, blocking, and the emotional rollercoaster of modern dating.

From decoding sudden disappearances to reframing rejection and building emotional resilience, Gracie and Tracy offer no-nonsense advice straight from a woman’s perspective. They break down the “self-made man” mindset, share practical tips for handling heartbreak, and answer tough questions about honesty, closure, and moving forward.

Plus, enjoy a fun behind-the-scenes recap of their recent trip to Ireland, complete with cultural takeaways and travel mishaps!

Show Notes:

• 0:00 – Welcome & Introduction: Why dating feels so confusing today
• 2:30 – Listener Submission #1: Why did she ghost and block me after a great date?
• 18:00 – The “Self-Made Man” Mindset
• 25:00 – Listener Submission #2: “Why do I feel like I’m preparing women for other men?”
• 38:00 – Listener Submission #3: “Should I tell women my ex-wife is a lesbian?”
• 48:00 – Product Spotlight: The Self-Made Man Dating Journal
• 52:00 – Ireland Recap: Banter, culture shocks, and travel lessons
• 1:05:00 – Final Thoughts & How to Work with Gracie and Tracy

Resources Mentioned:

• The Self-Made Man Dating Journal (available on Amazon)
• Application link for coaching https://form.typeform.com/to/zJkel6VK?utm_source=xxxxx
• Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday!

Dating After Divorce – Confidence, Apps & Real Connections for Men Over 40 Ep. 48

Hosts: Gracie Pleschourt & Tracy Pleschourt

In This Episode:

• [00:00] Welcome & Introduction

• [01:30] Listener Question: Starting Over After Divorce at 45

  • Breaking old routines and building new momentum

  • Is there a “market” for divorced men over 40?

  • How to meet new women and rebuild your social circle

  • The fastest-growing demographic on dating apps

  • The importance of self-awareness: knowing what you want and what you bring to the table

  • Tips for getting comfortable with dating apps

  • How to treat dating as research, not a performance

• [18:00] The Self-Made Man Dating Journal Launch

  • How journaling can help you track progress and avoid repeating old patterns

  • Building confidence and clarity through reflection

  • Where to get the journal (Amazon link in show notes)

• [22:00] Listener Question: Revealing a Physical Difference (Amputee Experience)

  • How to talk about insecurities and physical differences with confidence

  • Why your story and self-acceptance matter more than “the reveal”

  • The power of vulnerability and authenticity in dating

• [30:00] Listener Question: Competing for Women’s Attention

  • Why confidence and self-value matter more than “winning” attention

  • Shifting from scarcity to abundance mindset

  • Practical tips to stand out: eye contact, conversation, and authenticity

  • How to become unforgettable by making women feel seen and at ease

• [40:00] Final Thoughts & Where to Find Gracie

  • Follow Gracie on Instagram & TikTok: @datingwithgracie

  • Apply for 1:1 coaching (link in show notes)

  • Rate & review the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Resources Mentioned:

• Self-Made Man Dating Journal https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F9B7M5B3?th=1

• 1:1 Coaching Application https://gracie.clickfunnels.com/optin1758810316648

• Follow Gracie: Instagram & TikTok @datingwithgracie

Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday!