Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!

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In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain how a vagina should smell. Great article on vaginal smells The Body Drama Book has great info about female bodies and more - including a bunch of photographs of different vulvas! Resources

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Do you remember all those terms that got tossed about? Did you know what they meant?

Your kids will hear sexual slang for private body parts and sex acts and you need to be ready to explain them, or, even better, tell them what they are before they ask. Autistic, ADHD, and other neurotypical kids need to know these words and phrases because they are more likely to be confused and say them at the wrong time.

Check out my book, Sex Talks With Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It, for scripts on just about everything. You don't have to find the words because I've done it for you.

Got some thoughts or questions? [email protected]

It's a tossed salad of questions from parents: periods, gayness, and circumcision. I was a little out of whack, so be patient as you listen/watch. Zoom changed something (where's the f-ing pause recording button?!!!), and I was malnourished.

Stuff I mentioned:

Celebrate Your Body (and Its Changes, Too!): The Ultimate Puberty Book for Girls

Celebrate Your Body (Book Two)

The Girl's Body Book

Understanding and Supporting Puberty in Autistic Girls and Boys, Academic Video I mentioned.

Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent

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BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

30-minute Quickie Consultation

Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most concerning sex talk question.

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent

All the topics you'll need to cover as your kids grow up! Puberty, consent, relationship, and sex (of course)!

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Autistic, ADHD and other Neurodivergent Kids

Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.

The Porn Talk Info Kit

Simple tools for the porn and online safety talks—plus videos and tech tips to calm your worries. Includes a specific video for parents of neurodivergent kids.

In this replay episode, I talk about how to explain intersex people to your kid.

RESOURCES

What is Intersex?

What's it like to be intersex?

Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent. Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover.

Watch here:

• All Kids Episode on YouTube

• ND Kids Episode on YouTube

Got some thoughts or questions?

[email protected]

Learn more!

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It!

Struggling to find the words? Worried you'll say too much? Not to worry, my book is all scripts, so you don't have to figure this out on your own.

30-minute Quickie Consultation

Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most concerning sex talk question.

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent

All the topics you'll need to cover as your kids grow up! Puberty, consent, relationship, and sex (of course)!

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.

The Porn Talk Info Kit

Simple tools for the porn and online safety talks—plus videos and tech tips to calm your worries. Includes a specific video for parents of neurodivergent kids.

Lots of parents wonder if they should put their teen on birth control. There are pros and cons, and in my mind, it's mainly pros. Teens have sex without planning for it all the time. It "just happens", remember? When your teen is on birth control before they need it, it's a good thing. It can make their periods easier and prevent an unplanned pregnancy.

At the very least, they should have easy access to condoms and a clear understanding of how they work and why to use them.

Vids for Kids (and you):

• Birth Control Basics
• How Do I Properly Put on a Condom

Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent. Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover.

Watch here:

• All Kids Episode on YouTube
• ND Kids Episode on YouTube

Got some thoughts or questions?

[email protected]

Learn more!

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It!

Struggling to find the words? Worried you'll say too much? Not to worry, my book is all scripts, so you don't have to figure this out on your own.

30-minute Quickie Consultation

Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most concerning sex talk question.

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent

All the topics you'll need to cover as your kids grow up! Puberty, consent, relationship, and sex (of course)!

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.

The Porn Talk Info Kit

Simple tools for the porn and online safety talks—plus videos and tech tips to calm your worries. Includes a specific video for parents of neurodivergent kids.

Many parents of autistic, ADHD, and otherwise neurodivergent kids wonder if it's okay to put their kids on birth control. This is a "yes and maybe" for me. They often think their child is "too young" due to their developmental level, but their bodies can be ahead of their brains. This can put them at risk for being taken advantage of or making impulsive decisions.

At the very least, they should have easy access to condoms and a clear understanding of how they work and why to use them.

A very wordy, ND friendly description of birth control is here.

Vids for Kids (and you)

• Birth Control Basics
• How Do I Properly Put on a Condom

Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent. Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover.

Watch here:

All Kids Episode on YouTube

ND Kids Episode on YouTube

Got some thoughts or questions? [email protected]

Learn more!

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It!

Struggling to find the words? Worried you'll say too much? Not to worry, my book is all scripts, so you don't have to figure this out on your own.

30-minute Quickie Consultation

Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most concerning sex talk question.

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent

All the topics you'll need to cover as your kids grow up! Puberty, consent, relationship, and sex (of course)!

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.

The Porn Talk Info Kit

Simple tools for the porn and online safety talks—plus videos and tech tips to calm your worries. Includes a specific video for parents of neurodivergent kids.

Crushes can be soooo painful! And fun! And confusing! All the things. I've been a terminal crusher my entire life, so, for better or worse, I'm kind of an expert.

Explaining them can be a little tough because crushes are amorphous in just about every way. Hope this helps!

Why your kid's crush should be taken seriously. I'm featured in this CNN article from 2022. I totally forgot about it.

What Are The Differences Between Behavior And Attraction? Terrific video from Amaze.org

Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent. Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover.

Watch here:

All Kids Episode on YouTube

ND Kids Episode on YouTube

Got some thoughts or questions?

[email protected]

Learn more!

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It!

Struggling to find the words? Worried you'll say too much? Not to worry, my book is all scripts, so you don't have to figure this out on your own.

30-minute Quickie Consultation

Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most concerning sex talk question.

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent

All the topics you'll need to cover as your kids grow up! Puberty, consent, relationship, and sex (of course)!

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.

The Porn Talk Info Kit

Simple tools for the porn and online safety talks—plus videos and tech tips to calm your worries. Includes a specific video for parents of neurodivergent kids.

Crushes can be extra confusing for ND kids. There's physical, social, and emotional stuff that goes on that can be a bit mystifying.

Feelings in their bodies, misunderstanding chatter about who's crushing on whom (#grammar police), and trying to figure out how they fit into all this can be tough.

Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent. Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover.

Watch here:

All Kids Episode on YouTube

ND Kids Episode on YouTube

Got some thoughts or questions?

[email protected]

Learn more!

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It!

Struggling to find the words? Worried you'll say too much? Not to worry, my book is all scripts, so you don't have to figure this out on your own.

30-minute Quickie Consultation

Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most concerning sex talk question.

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.

In this replay episode, I give you scripts to explain polyamory to your kid.

Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent. Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover.

Watch here:

• All Kids Episode on YouTube

• ND Kids Episode on YouTube

Got some thoughts or questions?

[email protected]

Learn more!

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It!

Struggling to find the words? Worried you'll say too much? Not to worry, my book is all scripts, so you don't have to figure this out on your own.

30-minute Quickie Consultation

Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most concerning sex talk question.

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent

All the topics you'll need to cover as your kids grow up! Puberty, consent, relationship, and sex (of course)!

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.

The Porn Talk Info Kit

Simple tools for the porn and online safety talks—plus videos and tech tips to calm your worries. Includes a specific video for parents of neurodivergent kids.

In this replay episode, I explain how to talk to kids about erections.

Your next step? Check out The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent. Your one-stop shop for all the topics you'll need to cover.

Watch here:

• All Kids Episode on YouTube

• ND Kids Episode on YouTube

Got some thoughts or questions? [email protected]

LEARN MORE

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It!

Struggling to find the words? Worried you'll say too much? Not to worry, my book is all scripts, so you don't have to figure this out on your own.

30-minute Quickie Consultation

Get clarity fast with a focused 30-minute session on your most concerning sex talk question.

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent

All the topics you'll need to cover as your kids grow up! Puberty, consent, relationship, and sex (of course)!

The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.

The Porn Talk Info Kit

Simple tools for the porn and online safety talks—plus videos and tech tips to calm your worries. Includes a specific video for parents of neurodivergent kids.