You’re clear on what you want, so why aren’t you getting it?

There’s a painful in-between many of us find ourselves in: knowing what we want, and still not receiving it.

In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I revisit a simple but powerful analogy (we’re going to the ice cream shop) to explore why clarity alone isn’t always enough, and how settling for what doesn’t truly align can keep us stuck in relationships, jobs, or situations that drain us.

This is a conversation about discernment, self-trust, and learning how to stop accepting “vanilla” when your body is asking for chocolate.

What you’ll learn in this episode…

* Why knowing what you want doesn’t always lead to getting it

* How settling sends mixed signals to yourself (and the Universe)

* Why impatience and unworthiness keep us stuck

* How to stop accepting what you don’t actually want

This episode is for you if…

* You’re clear on what you want but keep getting something else

* You struggle with settling out of fear or impatience

* You’re practicing discernment in relationships or work

* You’re healing codependency or the mother wound

Your invitation…

I invite you to think about what your “chocolate ice cream” is. You might consider this as the type of relationship, job, or home you wish to have.

What is your chocolate ice cream?

Remember, try to get as specific as you can. Ask yourself:

How do I desire to feel? What do I value? In a relationship? In a job? In a home?

If this episode resonates, you’re invited to continue these conversations inside the Codependency Alchemy membership— a space where we practice witnessing the parts of us we neglect, or reject, building safety in our bodies through nervous system and somatic work, and generational healing together.

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