Life Is Love School

By Yumay ChangEducation Self-Improvement

Life Is Love School episodes

May 03, 2022 Signs You Might Have the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style
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In relationships, do you oscillate between anxious behaviors like clinginess, jealousy, and keeping score and avoidant behaviors such as withdrawing and ghosting?
People with a fearful-avoidant attachment style tend to have either tumultuous relationships filled with ups and downs or very tenuous, distant ones that lack real intimacy or commitment.
If you feel like this might be you, this episode is for you. I share 3 signs to help you ascertain if you might have the Fearful-Avoidant attachment style and, more importantly, how to move towards Secure.
10 min
March 28, 2022 Healing the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style
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The Fearful-Avoidant attachment style is rare; only about 2% of people have this as their predominant attachment style.
This style combines the worst features of the Anxious and Dismissive-Avoidant attachment styles and leads to confusing and contradictory behavior in relationships.
You desperately want love, and yet you are also terrified of intimacy. In relationships, you flip-flop, run hot and cold, and you never can relax because you never feel safe.
If this is you, this episode is for you. The good news is, just like any other insecure attachment style, you can heal, and you can move towards Secure Attachment.
14 min
March 15, 2022 Understanding the Fearful-Avoidant Partner
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The fearful-avoidant attachment style is both the rarest and least understood form of attachment style.

This attachment style is generally born out of trauma and is a combination of the preoccupied and dismissive-avoidant styles of insecure attachment.
This episode covers how a fearful-avoidant person sees herself, her worldview, how she shows up in relationships, and why.

Depending on viewer interest, I am happy to do follow-up videos on 1) how to heal from this attachment style and 2) how to manage relationships with someone who has this attachment style.

If you are interested in either topic, drop a comment on YouTube and let me know your preference (it's okay to choose both!).

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As always, if you would like to accelerate your healing journey, joined me in the TRIBE membership group. In TRIBE, you can ask questions specific to your situation and join us on live calls to interact with the community and me.

If you tend to feel stuck, unsure if you're making the right choice, I think you will benefit a lot from TRIBE. You will be supported by not just me, but an entire community of smart, empowered, and compassionate women.
11 min
February 08, 2022 How to Do Low Contact Like a Pro
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Is there someone in your life that drains your energy every time you spend time with them, but you have trouble letting them go?
Maybe it's a family member, a friend you've known for a long time, or an ex.
No matter who they are, part of you resents them for not respecting you, your time, and your space, yet you are not ready to completely cut off contact for a variety of often very good reasons.
Many people who cannot go no contact with a toxic person choose low contact instead.
Doing low contact well is not easy. In fact, it is often harder than no contact because it requires you to still interface with this toxic person and be mentally strong against their onslaughts, whether it's passive-aggressive behaviors or their attempts to guilt-trip you.
In this episode, I share three key strategies to help you manage low contact like a pro.
This discussion initially came up in our women-only TRIBE membership group. In TRIBE, members bring up issues that trouble them, and we have in-depth discussions to help them think through options, see multiple perspectives, and pick the best path forward.
If you tend to feel stuck, unsure if you're making the right choice, I think you will benefit a lot from TRIBE membership.
You will be supported by not just me, but an entire community of smart, empowered, and compassionate women.
See you on the inside!
15 min
January 18, 2022 3 Reasons Your Partner Give For Not Marrying That Are Just Excuses
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Have you been in a relationship for a while, but it doesn’t seem to be progressing toward marriage?
In this episode, I cover some of the most common reasons people bring up for not marrying you: these reasons are almost always hiding something deeper and what you can do to get to the truth so you can make the right decision for yourself.
11 min
January 02, 2022 Is Cohabitating Before Marriage a Good Idea?
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If you've been dating for a while, the topic of whether to move in together will come up. Close to 70% of people cohabitate before marriage, and the number has been rising over the years because people are waiting to marry and rising housing prices.

Some people see living together as a trial for marriage, while others see it as a matter of "why not" when living together confers conveniences and cost savings.

What's interesting is that research shows that divorce rates are higher post the one-year mark for people who cohabitated prior to marriage, and marital quality is lower among those who started living together before engagement or marriage too.

Why is this the case when intuitively, it would seem the opposite should be true?

If you're interested in finding out, check out this episode. I also cover some of the oft-overlooked issues of living together that people forget to consider before calling the moving company.
10 min
December 26, 2021 Anxiously Attached: Handling Abandonment Triggers in Relationships
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If you have the anxious attachment style, there's a high chance that you could misread your partner's behavior as a sign of abandonment.
You get into a vicious cycle in which you have fear and anxiety around loss, make attempts to keep that loved one(s) close, but these attempts make the person want to distance from you, and your fear around loss is confirmed.
If this describes your relationship dynamic, this episode is for you. You'll learn how to skillfully manage abandonment triggers and communicate your needs, so conflicts become an opportunity to bring your partner closer to you instead of driving them away.
Relationships can be challenging if you have insecure attachment styles, but there's no reason to struggle alone!

Join me and fellow women inside TRIBE, where we have discussions on love, boundaries, and how to handle tricky relationship issues.
11 min
December 18, 2021 What happens when you love someone with Low Self-Esteem
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Are you dating someone with low self-esteem?
We all know that people who have low self-esteem suffer from feeling unlovable and not good enough, but being in a relationship with someone with low self-worth poses unique challenges as well.
Do you know what they are and why?
If you're curious to learn more, this video is for you.
On this note...if you want 2022 to be the year where you make major breakthroughs in relationships, consider joining us inside TRIBE, our women-only membership program.

In TRIBE, you'll not only get my coaching through live zoom calls and digital courses, but you'll also get amazing support through the community of TRIBERS who are also on the growth journey.
14 min
December 13, 2021 What Keeps People Stuck In Toxic Relationships
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Is there someone you care about that's stuck in a toxic relationship and can't seem to leave?
Maybe they left then went back, and this back and forth happened repeatedly over the years.
You're doing your best to be supportive; you're there to listen to their complaints, to affirm their worth, and to validate that, yes, they are not overreacting.
One day, they seemed to finally "get it." The two of you excitedly hatched a plan for them to leave and build a new life.
You are relieved that their nightmare is finally over.
But your hope is short-lived.
Right before your eyes, in the not-so-distant future, they do a 180 and choose to stay.
They now claim that the relationship isn't as bad as it sounds and that "maybe I should take some blame too."
They might even stop talking to you because you know too much.
You're left wondering what's going on — why are they so stuck when leaving is the obvious choice?
The psychology behind this baffling phenomenon is more complex than it looks.
Learning what it is can help you support this person you care about better and, at a minimum, alleviate some of your frustrations towards their behavior when they don't leave.
This episode covers why people get "stuck" in toxic relationships and the key to getting free.
If you know someone feeling stuck, please share the video with them so they know they are not alone in dealing with these feelings. It will also help them understand that they can feel these feelings and still choose to leave when they are ready.
12 min
December 05, 2021 Why Do I Miss My Toxic Ex (And How To Stay Strong Post Leaving)
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If you've just left a toxic relationship but are struggling emotionally, you are not alone.
Many survivors of toxic relationships are baffled why they still miss their ex when the relationship brought them so much pain. "What is wrong with me?" is a common refrain, often said with much self-blame.
In this episode, I explain why euphoric recall, or the selective remembering of only the good, is a normal and expected part of detaching from a toxic relationship.
I also give you several tips to help you stay calm and strong during this critical period.
11 min

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