Life Is Love School

By Yumay ChangEducation Self-Improvement

Life Is Love School episodes

November 30, 2021 How to Connect with A Dismissive-Avoidant Partner
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If you want more intimacy, dating a partner who has the dismissive-avoidant attachment style can be quite painful. Everything seems to be going well, but next thing you know, they are backtracking and pushing you away. The relationship seems to take two steps forever, one step back.
If you are in a relationship with a dismissive-avoidant partner and wish to build more intimacy with them, this video is for you.
Remember: You can't control them, but there are things you can do to stay centered, own your power, and help steer the relationship towards healthy.
18 min
November 21, 2021 What To Do When Someone Guilt Trips You
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For many people, breaking the people-pleasing pattern and setting boundaries poses a unique challenge during the holidays.
If you were taught that your value lies in how much you do for others, then setting limits or saying no can feel very uncomfortable, and you may find dealing with guilt trippers especially challenging.
But weakness, uncertainty, or wavering signals are to guilt trippers what blood is to a shark.
If you cave or seem frightened, they will become emboldened and bully and manipulate you even more.
If you find dealing with guilt trippers difficult, this episode is for you! I cover why people use guilt trips to coerce compliance and ninja moves to deal with this manipulation.
13 min
November 12, 2021 9 Dating Mindsets Mistakes (And What To Do Instead)
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The wild world of dating can be a tricky one to navigate. After all, "How to Date" is not a skill they teach you in school, but dating well is essential to your ability to find and keep a great partner.
You might have read books that focus on strategies, and many of these books advocate game playing. If you've tried their tactics, you might see some short-term results in the best case, but things will almost always end up badly in the long run.
In this video, I share 9 common dating mistakes almost everyone who has an insecure attachment style makes, and I cover the mindsets to hold instead if you want to win at the game of dating.
15 min
November 03, 2021 When To Leave A Relationship
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It isn't always clear when to leave a relationship. How do you know if your partnership can be fixed, or is beyond repair?
Of course, emotional and physical abuse are always signs to leave a relationship. But outside of that, the decision isn't always as easy.
You can get stuck in the decision process because you don't want to make a hasty decision to leave if the relationship is workable. At the same time, you also don't want to waste more time if the situation is hopeless.
In this video, I share a simple framework you can use to help you make a clear decision, so you can march forward with clarity and conviction that you have made the right choice.
11 min
October 07, 2021 Autumn's Story: How healing myself healed my children
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In today's episode, I interview Autumn, TRIBE founding member, mom of four sons, ICU nurse manager, and one of the most courageous, inspiring, and growth-minded people I know.
Autumn and her siblings were forcibly removed from her biological parents when Autumn was just one year old. For the next two years, the system shuttled her to a succession of twelve foster families; the rapid changes meant she could not attach to anyone, and she missed her siblings terribly.
Later, after reuniting with her birth parents, she was molested by a babysitter. Though the adults around her knew what was going on, she was told to keep quiet, and the abuse continued for over a decade until she finally put a stop to it at age 16 by reporting the childcare agency to the authorities herself.
Like many of us that suffered childhood trauma, Autumn later married an abusive man. She felt a lot of guilt towards her sons for not providing them a safe home, and she blamed herself for not being a better mom.
If you suffered trauma in childhood, a toxic marriage, or guilt as a parent, I know Autumn's story will resonate with you. In this episode, Autumn shares:
— How she mustered the courage to leave her abusive ex-husband
— How she dealt with the guilt of letting her kids down
— How her renewed self-esteem empowered her to set boundaries at work
— How she overcame shame through sharing her story
Since she started her healing journey a few years ago, Autumn's life has been transformed. She lost over 100 lbs, built a workout habit, started a new job, and got promoted into a supervisory role managing ICU nurses. But more importantly, her inner transformation inspired her family to evolve with her, and she inspires fellow TRIBE members to grow with her too.
I am personally deeply inspired by Autumn, and I hope her story will give you hope that even though healing is hard work, the effort is absolutely worth it.
One day, you will look back and be amazed at how far you've come and how much better your life has become. There's no shortcut to healing, but you will reap the rewards for all the effort you put in!
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36 min
October 03, 2021 5 Tips to Finding a Healthy Relationship If You Are Anxiously Attached
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If you’re constantly worrying about your partners, feel like they don’t like you as much as you like them, want to see them 24/7, need constant reassurance from them, then you’re probably anxiously attached.
Relationships can be rough for the anxiously attached. There are so many situations in intimate partnerships that can trigger the attachment trauma in an anxiously attached person that many are reluctant to date, and those in relationships are often miserable because of abandonment anxiety. The good news is if you are anxiously attached, not only can you move towards becoming securely attached, but there are specific things you can do today to help yourself be in a healthy relationship.
In this episode, I share 5 tips you need to know to help you find and keep a healthy relationship.
13 min
October 03, 2021 How to Handle Gaslighting
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A form of emotional abuse common to many toxic family systems is gaslighting. Experiencing gaslighting in any relationship is damaging, but the effects can be even more devastating when coming from a parent and the gaslighting happened when you were little. Small children unconditionally trust their parents' point of view, so if the parents invalidated how they feel or what they saw or blamed them for things they are not responsible for, the child learned not to trust her own reality and to over-apologize.
Unfortunately, this type of conditioning sets up the child to grow up to become an adult who is vulnerable to similar abuses by others.
Gaslighting is a pernicious form of abuse. Often, it comes on so subtly and slowly that you don't even realize it's happening until it's too late. Getting educated on gaslighting is important so you can catch the early warning signs and stop it in its tracks before the damages are done.
If you suspect you've been a victim of gaslighting, I think you will find this video helpful!
13 min
September 08, 2021 How to Overcome the Fear of Failure
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Have you ever wanted to take a risk, whether that's in your love life, your career, or moving to a new place, but fear of failure holds you back from taking that first step?
Children and adults who have experienced childhood trauma have a lower ability to tolerate stress than people who grew up with a normative childhood. Trauma sensitizes the amygdala to threat perception, and fear responses are triggered over time by less and less stress.
Specifically, over 90% of trauma survivors suffer anxiety disorders, with the most prevalent anxiety disorders experienced by survivors being Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Panic Disorder, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and Social Phobia (or Social Anxiety Disorder).
The underlying feeling of anxiety is fear, and the most common types of fears people experience are:
- Fear of failure
- Fear of the unknown
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of what others think
- Fear of being an embarrassment
- Fear of losing control
- Fear of being trapped
It is not difficult to see how change and doing something new can trigger many of these fears!
In this episode, I share a Q&A I had with a TRIBE member on her question, "How do I overcome the fear of failure?" TRIBE is Life Is Love School's women-only membership program. Besides asking questions in our Live Calls, members also have access to a TRIBE member-only FB group where they can ask the group and me questions anytime.
This question was originally posted in the TRIBE member-only FB group, which I condensed and share in the video with the member's permission. If you find yourself wanting to live to your full potential but struggling with the fear of change and fear of failure, I think you'll find the discussion helpful!
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26 min
August 20, 2021 How To Deal With My Sister's Criticism
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We often think that our friends and family should have our back, but sometimes they are the ones that pour a bucket of cold water down our heads. In this episode, I answer a question about how to handle the criticism of other people, including those closest to you.

10 min
August 17, 2021Understanding The Dismissive-Avoidant Partner
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The dismissive-avoidant is one of the most misunderstood attachment styles. A dismissive-avoidant often show up in relationships as someone who:
Prefers keeping the connection on the surface-level

Focuses on sexual intimacy but avoids emotional closeness

Runs "hot and cold" with their affection

Pulls away when someone starts getting close

Resists vulnerability — comes off as ultra independent and emotionally invincible

May actively sabotage the relationships when things are going well
Many people believe that dismissive-avoidants cannot connect, do not want intimacy, and do not feel pain when a relationship ends. Some even go as far as calling dismissive-avoidants insensitive jerks or equate them with being a narcissist.
However, these characterizations could not be further from the truth.
In this episode, I will dispel the misunderstandings by taking you into the world of the dismissive-avoidant — their childhood, what shaped their relationship view, and their inner voices — so you can get to know them on a deeper level.
Understanding them helps you not only avoid unnecessary relationship pain but dramatically increases your odds of connecting with them in a meaningful way that brings them closer.
If you have a dismissive-avoidant in your life that you would like to connect with, this is an episode you do not want to miss.
21 min

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