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  • Mitch shares his sister's MS battle
  • Laura puts her foot in it
  • We put Britt's boyfriend to the test
  • Mitch got caught in a compromising position 

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Hey Lifers!

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas!

Britt is particularly chirpy today because her 5 month unintentional celibacy is over! Ben is in town! Laura doesn't have the time for p*rn but she does have the time for an instagram trend that involves you all breathing out all the way and screaming... This isn't our most intellectual episode!

Vibes for the week:
Britt - Apples Never Fall on Binge
Keeshia - "Hale" on Spotify Hale Breathwork.  
Laura - We the wild Neem Oil Spray

Then we get into your questions:

• PUTTING A FAKE AGE ON DATING APPS
  I matched with a guy on a dating app and we met up for lunch yesterday. I made a comment about how he and I were of a similar age and generation (me being 38 and him 40) to which he said, “Oh, no, I’m actually 45.” This is not the first, second or third time this has happened. I have had this happen innumerable times and there is always the excuse that, “the app wouldn’t let me change it.” To which my thought is, “well if you were honest in the first place, you wouldn’t need to change anything.”
  Questions:
  1. Do women put an incorrect age in the dating apps too? My experience is with dating men and I am curious about whether this is something everyone does or not.
  2. He was otherwise lovely so is it better to just brush it aside as being a mistake and go on another date? Or do I take this as a sign of being insincere and an amber flag and move on to another match?

• HIS EX KEEPS REACHING OUT TO MY PARTNER AND HIS FAMILY
  My partner of 2 years (he is wonderful, definitely my penguin, we own a house together, but currently doing long distance due to work) has let me know that his ex (they were together for 8 years and separated amicably) has been in contact with him (sending lots of one way messages asking to catch up which he hasn’t replied to) but she has also been in contact with his family and grandparents and has organised to meet up with them in the next few weeks 😬 and has also asked to see him and his mum. He told me straight away and has said that it’s up to me whether he goes to see her or not. I trust him completely so it’s not like I am concerned anything will happen between them, but the situation has made me feel really uneasy! I know that 8 years is a long time to be in a relationship, and that you can get pretty close with family, but to continue be in contact after 2+ years of being separated and continue to organise catch ups does make me feel unsure about the situation, and also where I stand with his family (we have always gotten along swimmingly). For context I live in a different state to him and his family. What should I do? I feel like I really can’t be the one to say that she shouldn’t be in contact with him/family anymore because I’ll be the “bad guy”, and am I just being insecure about the fact that the ex and my partner's family have a close relationship! 
  
  
• PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WATCH ME GIVE BIRTH
  The most recent podcast about pregnancy/ childbirth got my boyfriend and I talking about when we are in the situation. He just told me that he doesn’t know if he will be able to watch! Is that a normal reaction for blokes? I’m so offended he wouldn’t want to watch. I also think that when he is actually in the situation it’ll be different. Thoughts??

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Joining the podcast today is domestic violence advocate Bianca Unwin. Bianca has degrees in both criminology and psychological sciences and she is joining us today to speak about a loophole known as ‘emergency management days’ that over 7000 prisoners could be using to receive reductions in their prison sentences. Many of these convicted offenders are violent and high risk offenders.

Bianca’s sister Katie was a 29 year old mother of two when her partner Shane Robertson beat her to death while the couple’s child slept in a room next door. Shane was convicted but received a below average sentence of 19 years without parole. However, due to legislation enacted by the Victorian government allowing sentence reductions for prisoners under ‘emergency management days,’ a provision especially impactful during COVID-19, his sentence may be substantially reduced.

Bianca joins the podcast today to speak about the contrast between what we all seem to be screaming from the rooftops in our fight to protect women, and the government’s leniency on reducing the sentence of violent criminals. We also speak about the inadequate rehabilitation of violent perpetrators and how we all need to be showing the government that these reductions in sentences are not what the community wants.

Please take the time to click on this link and sign Bianca’s petition

PLEASE SIGN THE CHANGE.ORG PETITION

You can listen to Bianca's previous episode here!

Some further resources are available below:

Crimes Amendment (Remissions of Sentences) Bill 2021

Released Prisoners Returning to Prison

CORRECTIONS ACT 1986 - SECT 58E Emergency management days

Victorian prisoners get unfair sentence reductions as a result of COVID-19 restrictions, Opposition says

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Hey Lifers!
First up, Britt is served a slice of humble pie for some risky fashion choices. Laura has a stye... it's just a sh*tshow today. 
Laura and Matt went back to where they got married & the kids were a bit disappointed in comparison to last time.

Do you feel as though you can maintain relationships with people who have different values to you? We speak about the response from the Kelce brothers to Harrison Butker's controversial speech two weeks ago.
We discuss the ins and outs of whether different religious, political or moral values dictate if you can have relationships with people. 
We speak about the privilege involved with 'whether' you care about certain view points and whether it's the intensity of those values that might be the line in the sand. 

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

ON THE SHOW

• Mitch professes his love for Matty J
• Uk's hottest man is not who you expect
• Mitch gets a nit treatment
• Laura's bathroom confession
• Mitch's walks for MS

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Lauren Wasser was born into a family of models and started modelling at just 2 months old. She was a fit tom boy and had begun to make a name for herself in the modelling industry. When Lauren was 24 years old she developed Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS).

In this chat we speak about Lauren’s personal experience of feeling a ‘bit off’ one day. 24 hours later she was fighting for her life. The syndrome caused a life threatening situation and Lauren ended up needing to have both of her legs amputated in an effort to keep her alive. Now, 6 years since the infection, Lauren is modelling with her golden legs. 

Lauren also speaks about growing up with one view of beauty, and how our perceptions of beauty have evolved. Lauren speaks about her journey of recovering from her amputations and advocates for better after care for patients who experience similar changes to their lives. 

This episode has been reviewed and approved by two medical doctors registered in NSW. 

You can find more information about toxic shock syndrome in the links below:

https://www.vdh.virginia.gov/epidemiology/epidemiology-fact-sheets/toxic-shock-syndrome/

TOXIC SHOCK SYNDROME AND STREPTOCOCCAL TOXIC SHOCK

health direct

government of SA

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Hey Lifers,

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark dilemmas! 

Britt has some really exciting personal news about her sister Sheri and her husband Jay.

Vibes for this week:
Britt - Bodyparts on Nine Now 
Keeshia - Three Identical Strangers on Netflix
Laura - No Filter Patrick Gagne is a sociopath

Then we jump into your questions!

• SHOULD I ATTEND THE FUNERAL?
  I was with my ex for 12 years. During the last 3 of those years my ex-Mother in Law (MIL) lived with us; I knew her very well. I'm now happily remarried with two kids and haven't spoken to anyone from my ex's family for around 6 years. Recently, I found out my ex-MIL has gotten very sick and it got me thinking about when she passes away. I would want to pay my respects to her given she was a huge part of my past life, but I don't know if attending her funeral and seeing my ex and his family for the first time since leaving him would only add to their pain. My question is: who do you attend a funeral for? Is it for the person who has passed away? Or their loved ones left behind?
  
  

• I DON'T WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH MY COWORKER

  How do I let a work colleague know that I have no interest in being friends with them outside of work (or even at work TBH)? I really struggle working with this particular person, but that's clearly unbeknownst to her as she continually asks me to do things outside of work! I always come up with excuses not to go, but it's getting harder and harder. Also these are not big group things where everyone is invited, it's literally just the two of us and maybe one or 2 other people. Do I need to be more direct? Or just say yes and make it a really bad time so she doesn't want to hang out anymore? Or just keep putting up with it and coming up with excuses?
  
  

• SHOWER ETIQUETTE

  What is the etiquette when using someone else’s shower while staying with them? Do you bring your own shampoo/conditioner/body wash etc? Or is it acceptable to use theirs?
  
  

• DO I CONFRONT/ASK HIM OR PLAY IT OUT

  Last week my husband asked me to pick up a parcel for him from the post office and said it was a tool for work. When I picked up the parcel, I noticed it was from a silversmith so I googled them. I didn’t look any further as Mother’s Day was approaching and didn’t want to ruin my surprise. I didn’t get jewellery for Mothers Day. I looked on the website and it could be fingerprint jewellery but it’s way out of our budget.

  I mentioned it to my best friend to see what to do. After naming the jeweller, she said our mutual friend is mates with the jeweller, maybe our friend is going to propose and use my husband and our address for secret delivery.

  The 3 possible situations are:

  1. My husband bought someone else jewellery
  2. Fingerprint jewellery that will be back in a few weeks
  3. My husband is in on our friend's proposal and is keeping it secret (fair enough).

  My question is, do I ask my husband about the parcel or do I wait and see if something happens in the coming months? Clearly it’s bothering me haha.

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Imagine yourself married to the person you love when they’re diagnosed with terminal cancer. You’ve been their carer and support during such an emotionally difficult time. But, then you find out that they have been cheating on you since your wedding day.
Do you continue to care for them?
Today’s guest didn’t have to imagine this scenario. She lived it.

Kerstin Pilz grew up in Germany and was working as an academic at Macquarie University here in Australia. She was married to her job when Gianni, a charming Italian, turned her life into a champagne-coloured fairy tale.

Soon after their runaway wedding, her new husband was diagnosed with cancer. Kerstin became his dedicated carer. But when she discovered that he had been cheating on her throughout their relationship, she was faced with a difficult choice: walk away, or continue to care for the man who betrayed her. 

In this chat we speak about: 

• Being faced with this emotionally charged conundrum
• The complexities of loving a narcissist
• Whether it’s better to find out about infidelity or not
• How to heal after cheating
• Whether infidelity poisons your memories and if they were ‘real’ moments
• Forgiveness being radical self care
• Kerstin’s choice to not have children and whether she regrets that 

Kerstin has written a book titled Loving My Lying, Dying, Cheating Husband and you can get a copy of it here

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Hey Lifers,

Today's episode has a lot of variation of light and shade. 
Britt has done something that could be one of the funniest stories of something embarrassing that she's ever told. Salt & pepper squid anyone?

Laura and her family have been navigating a really hard time in their personal lives as her step dad has entered the last phase of his terminal cancer. They had a celebration of his life and today Laura shares what this experience has been like behind the scenes. Please if there is one thing about today's episode, it's to reach out to the men in your life who are over 50 and ask them when their last prostate check was.

Footage of a horrific, violent assault by Sean 'Diddy' Combs on his ex girlfriend Cassie Ventura has spread over the weekend. He has now released an 'apology' video that completely contradicts a statement he made in December where he said that he was completely innocent and that the allegations made against him were by "individuals looking for a quick pay day".
We speak about women not being 'reliable narrators of their own experiences' until there is video evidence of abuse. We speak about 'reputational apologies' and how different laws complicate this particular scenario. 

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

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• What did the cleaner find
• Chat GPT is helping us flirt
• Mitch's paying for goods and services
• Ellie Cole - and same sex parenting books being banned 
• Bumble really cocked up this billboard

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