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Hey Lifers!
Britt is living it up in Italy. It’s only been a week but she’s already tried to replace us. She’s gone on a blind-ish friend date and it didn’t exactly go perfectly.
Meanwhile Laura’s oldest daughter Marlie-Mae has a new arch nemesis from the community garden. What did your kid have to learn the hard way?
We need to talk about Victoria's Secret and whether children should ever be involved in the marketing of ‘sexy’ brands. Their Mother's Day campaign features model Elsa Hosk alongside her four year old daughter. Elsa is in revealing lingerie. Her daughter is in… a trench coat, a robe and her mum’s high heeled shoes. Victoria's Secret has since removed the carousel from their page, but the images are still on Elsa’s instagram. We walk through exactly what's in each photo, why we all felt uncomfortable when we saw it, and the much bigger question of whether this was an oversight or something far more deliberate; especially given Victoria's Secret's deeply tainted history with Jeffrey Epstein.
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Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions.
Keeshia arrived at work wearing a bodysuit with no underwear and we need to talk about it. Are you supposed to wear underwear under a bodysuit? And who on earth signed off on the press stud placement?
Vibes for the week:
Britt - @my_strange_addictionz
Keeshia - Sisuu Magnesium Recovery Spray Cedar Veil
Laura - @bratbustersparenting
Then we jump into your questions!
I GOT ENGAGED WEEK OF MY FRIENDS WEDDING AND SHES MAD
I lost one of my best friends after getting engaged the week of her wedding. I was her bridesmaid in NZ last November. My boyfriend and I went early for a holiday, and he surprised me with a proposal on the first day. He had asked permission from her and her partner beforehand and they said yes. After that, we travelled separately and rejoined two days before the wedding so we wouldn’t take attention away. The wedding week itself was great, but at my engagement dinner weeks later she made a few comments that absolutely threw me and spiralled into full blown tears with her telling me she wasn’t comfortable he proposed on her wedding week.
Her issues included feeling like they helped plan the proposal & picked the ring (alluding that my partner did nothing) that we “used” her content creator on her wedding day to get engagement shoot photos (we didn’t), that my fiancé made comments about the week being “ours,” and that we invited them to our engagement dinner ‘too soon’ after their wedding. For context, we had the engagement dinner quickly because my dad had just been diagnosed with terminal cancer and might not make it to the wedding… and I’m so happy we did as he sadly passed away a month later. We had a long emotional conversation and left things “okay,” but it’s felt off ever since. Not to mention she only sent a surface level I’m sorry for your loss text after my dad passed. Now I don’t even know if I want her at my wedding, let alone as a bridesmaid. I’m heartbroken that this has damaged our friendship during what should’ve been a happy time and especially that she wasn’t really there for me when my dad died. What would you do? I can’t stop thinking about it, but I don’t feel like it’s on me to fix things.
SHOULD I BUY MYSELF A SPENNY PUSH PRESENT?
Just wondering if you think it’s weird if I buy myself a ring for a push present? My husband thinks it’s a lot of money and believes it’s silly for me to want another ring. In his defence, he spent quite a significant amount of money on my engagement ring and wedding band. I’m due in 7 weeks and really want a ring, and have said to him when else will I ever get a ring/nice piece of jewellery again. For context, the ring is $3.5k. Should I (A) leave it and not get a ring, (B) keep pushing for him to buy me a ring, or (C) buy it myself? Or is it so weird/sad to buy myself a ring?
I HAVE A CRUSH ON MY DOCTOR. DO I SHOOT MY SHOT?
I’ve got a crush on my doctor. He’s NOT my GP. I go to see him every 3–4 months for Botox injections to treat my migraines. We're the same age (34) and he doesn't wear a ring, but I don’t know if he’s single. I can’t even say why I’ve got a crush on him. Physically, he’s not my type at all, but ever since I first saw him, I’ve felt drawn to him. I’m on the verge of messaging him on Instagram and asking if he’d like to go on a date with me. If he says yes, then of course I’ll switch doctors. But now for the big question: what should I even write? Please help a girl out!
DOES BRIDAL PARTY HELP PLAN WEDDING?
What are the realistic expectations of a bridal party in terms of involvement in wedding planning? I’m currently a bridesmaid for one of my close friends and I’m trying to understand what’s considered “normal” in terms of bridal party responsibilities I’m very happy for her and want to support her where I can but I’m starting to feel a bit overwhelmed with how much is being delegated to us. At the moment, the bridal party is being asked to help with things like sourcing quotes (transport, hires for the day) invites, organising logistics and contributing to DIY elements for the day On top of that, I’m also organising the bachelorette What’s making it feel heavier is that her partner doesn’t seem to be involved in the planning at all, so a lot of that responsibility is falling onto her and then onto us. I don’t mind helping but I also have limited time and capacity (and to be honest, I’ve had a pretty rough year personally) so I’m trying to figure out what’s reasonable vs. where it’s okay to set boundaries how involved were you expected to be? What’s typical and what’s too much?
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Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekend snacky snack.
Laura has discovered a hidden talent, ventriloquism. It came out of a three hour drive back from Ulladulla. We also take a trip down memory lane with Healthy Harold the giraffe.
Henry Cavill has gone viral for his dating advice: "if you like her, just ask her out. It's always worked for me." The internet has thoughts. We do too. When your face card is Superman, you are officially disqualified from giving the rest of us romantic guidance.
We also can't stop talking about little 12-year-old Billie Eilish crying over Justin Bieber and the full circle Coachella moment that just happened that is genuinely the most wholesome thing on the internet right now. Laura had the same energy for Zac Hanson.
Then we unpack the Ugly Duckling Theory. David Haye on I'm A Celebrity described his model girlfriend as having "the personality of an ugly girl" as a compliment. We unpack why the intention doesn't really matter, why this theory only ever gets applied to women, and what it says about how we value women's personalities as a consolation prize for looks.
And finally Jimmy Nicholson's lawn war. His neighbour mowed right up to the property line and left Jimmy's one metre strip wild. We debate whether that's un-Australian.
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If you're in need of a laugh and a reminder that life in your 40s can actually be the best chapter yet, this is the episode for you. Our guest today is Lizzy Hoo. You'll know her from Have You Been Paying Attention, The Cheap Seats, and her own Amazon Prime special. She's also the host of The Lizzy Hoo Show podcast and has been performing standup comedy all over the country since 2017, when she walked into a standup course on a complete whim and accidentally found her calling.
We chat:
You can find more from Lizzy’s website and her Instagram
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Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne
Produced by Keeshia Pettit
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Hey Lifers!
Britt has officially landed in Italy with a one way ticket! She's back with her husband after nearly four months apart and we are a cross-continental podcast once again.
But before she left, something scary happened. On the last day of filming MAFS After The Dinner Party, Britt completely lost track of what year it was. Her neurologist says it's a new type of migraine symptom.
Laura meanwhile survived a truly feral Sunday with the kids, and then found something in a memory box from her mum that explained a lot; her old school report cards. A five year old Laura's year one teacher wrote that her "incessant talking is annoying" and her "incessant fidgeting distresses others." We get into what that means for a kid who probably just needed support, the difference between how schools talked about kids then vs. now, and Laura's secret coping mechanism she's never fully explained before.
We also had a one hour Uber ride with a man who hunts Yowies, Australia's answer to Bigfoot, and believes one tried to save him from alien abduction.
Then we talk about Aubrey Plaza, who recently announced she's pregnant with her new partner less than a year after her ex-husband died by suicide. The internet has had a lot to say, and we unpack why:
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Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions.
Vibes for the week:
Laura - Habitual Beauty Hydrating Sleep Mask
Britt - Tell Me Lives on Disney
Keeshia - Trust Me: The False Prophet on Netflix
Then we jump into your questions!
SEXY STALEMATE
My partner and I have been together for nearly 4 years. We’ve always had a healthy and positive sexlife. Recently he expressed that he’d love me to wear sexy lingerie for him. We picked something out together (and shared the expense of it) and it started that I’d wear it for more ‘special’ occasions. But recently he’s been more insistent that I wear it every time we’re intimate or that I surprise him with it on when he gets home (which I have done a couple of times). He often asks me to change into a particular lingerie set even when we’re just kissing etc. and he is disappointed when I don’t want to wear it. It feels performative to me and I want to be enough as I am for him without wearing something ‘sexy’ every time. I’ve told him how I feel and he said ‘it’s what turns him on’. He says he understands why I’m upset but it’s caused a stalemate in our sex life as his insistence for the lingerie has given me the ick. Am I being unreasonable? I’d like to add, I enjoy dressing up occasionally and the lingerie makes me feel sexy but I don’t want it to be the condition as to whether we have sex or not.
HUSBAND CHEATED WITH MY SISTER, THEY’RE STILL TOGETHER 4 YEARS LATER I CAN’T MOVE ON
5 years ago I eloped with my boyfriend, 5 months after getting married we separated due to many issues. A couple of months later, I found out he was cheating on me with my sister. My sister is younger, and has been my best friend since she was born. Our relationship fell apart, but continued to talk on a family basis to keep the peace and half of our family doesn’t know, as she keeps him and family life very separate, they are still together now, 4 years later. It has been an exhausting and difficult time for me, having a massive impact on my mental health. I was hoping eventually their little game of sneaking around would become boring and they would move on, however, that is not the case and they have now brought a house together.
This has completely broken me and I don’t know what to do. I guess my question is, should I continue keeping the peace with my family and talking to her as she still keeps things separate? I don’t want to lose my family over this. Do I call a family meeting and try again on telling her how I feel even though I have tried many times, and she doesn’t care. Do I completely cut ties with her and distance myself? Which might be difficult at family events. I’m just so angry, and hurt, and don’t want to have to keep dealing with this anymore, I need to move on somehow!
IS “TAKING TIME APART AND FINDING OUR WAY BACK’ EVERY REALISTIC?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years — he’s truly my person and has made me incredibly happy. We’ve lived together for 3 of those years, but recently moved apart so he can save money while studying and living with his grandma. I’m planning on moving away from the city also for a while (and he will also be going overseas next year). We have talked about possibly separating in a few months and maybe coming back together in the future after growing individually. As we truly see a future together. For context we are both in our late twenties. But recently, over the weekend he told me he was studying, but actually went out with our mutual friends and didn’t invite me. I felt a bit hurt, especially as my birthday had just passed, but I didn’t think too deeply into it at the time. A couple of days later, he told me he kissed one of the girls that night — a mutual new friend. He said it was just a small kiss and that he regretted it straight away, but also mentioned that he thinks sleeping with other people could be “fun.” Now I just feel really confused and hurt as we have always been truthful with each other. I’m trying to figure out if this is something we can work through, or if it’s a sign that we’re no longer on the same page. And is “taking time apart and maybe finding our way back” actually realistic — or just delaying the inevitable?
SHOULD THE WAITRESS HAVE TAKEN OUR FOOD?
Ok this is a bit of a lighthearted one but interested to see what you think is the right way to handle this. Went out for dinner just with my 2 kids and so I was solo parenting the night (6 and 4yo) kids ate free so wasn’t passing that up, plus $6 wine One kid had to go to the toilet so that meant taking both. I left all our stuff on the table to indicate we were still there. I covered my drink with a coaster, and I covered the kids with their kids pack hoping that all this would give the impression we weren’t done. Came back and they had taken the kids food The lady was there so I just mentioned “oh we weren’t done with those” she responded with “you left your table unattended” and I just gently said “yeah but with all our things still here”. She insisted there wasn’t much food left anyway and that we didn’t see the items (there was definitely a decent amount of food). We ended up getting an extra bowl of chips so all ok but she was rather rude about it all.
I have worked in hospitality previously, and for a long time, pubs, bars, restaurants etc and usually in those instances we would just leave the food and drinks until we definitely knew they had gone or checked with the customer. So what do you think? I left the table so basically free range? Or the servers should have just left it?
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Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne
Produced by Keeshia Pettit
Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley
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Welcome to Offcuts, your weekly delivery of everything that caught our eye, wrapped in a light, fun package to kickstart your weekend.
This episode is bittersweet- it’s our final one with Britt for a while before she heads overseas!
In true Britt fashion, she’s leaving us in a whirlwind of chaos, including the minor detail of forgetting to book her own farewell dinner at one of Bondi’s busiest spots.
We chat:
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Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne
Produced by Keeshia Pettit
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Today’s episode is going to have you in a belly laugh. We have had Joanne McNally on the pod before and if you listened to that episode you already know that she is one of the funniest, most chaotically brilliant people we have ever had on this show.
In that episode, “The art of riding a lover to sleep” we spoke about what led her to comedy, being adopted, her non-existent pelvic floor and wild dating past.
Since we last spoke, Joanne's life has changed a lot. On the career front, she's absolutely on fire. Her current tour Pinotphile has already sold across the world and she is about to make history as the first Irish female comedian to headline the 3Arena solo. She has come to the conclusion that she is, possibly, in the middle of a midlife crisis. Or as she now prefers to call it, a midlife audit.
We chat:
You can follow Joanne on Instagram at @joannemcnally
You can listen to My Therapist Ghosted Me
Get tickets to Joanne's Pinotphile tour here
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Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne
Produced by Keeshia Pettit
Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley
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Hey Lifers!
Britt is officially leaving on Friday and flying back to Ben after nearly four months apart. We also have an update on the plan (or lack thereof) for the rest of 2026.
We also get into white lies in relationships; the ones partners tell each other and know the other is telling. Laura lied to Matt about the fence quote. Keeshia is apparently unaware of what a missing testie looks or feels like.
Then we're deep in MAFS territory and this one is big. Spoilers ahead from the ‘After the Reunion’ episode! We unpack:
Are we outsourcing our relationships to AI? We polled you and 40% of lifers said yes, they've used ChatGPT for relationship advice. We get into:
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Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx
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Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. A question came up in our Facebook Discussion Group about a partner who plays soccer 4 nights per week with a baby and a pregnant partner at home. We unpack whether the prioritisation of exercise is a common ‘issue’ in relationships and whether it’s ‘fair’.
Vibes for the week:
Britt - Amanda Knox Hosts | DOUBT: The Case of Lucy Letby
Keeshia - Pivot podcast
Laura - Love on the Spectrum Season 4 on Netflix
HE LOVE BOMBED ME AND NOW I MISS THE FAKE VERSION OF HIM
I’ve been in a relationship for 7 months now. It started like a movie. He texted constantly, planned elaborate dates, told me I was the one within weeks and even introduced me to his family after a month. I felt more seen than I ever had in my life. Six months in and he's a completely different person now. He’s often distant, distracted and puts in almost zero effort. I know what love bombing is and I know logically that the first version of him wasn't real. But I genuinely miss that version so much that I'm staying in the relationship hoping that one day it might get back to that phase. Do you think it’s worth sticking around and waiting for him to put more effort in and prioritise me like he used to or is this just a normal part of a relationship that turns into a long term relationship? I’ve never dated anyone for more than a few months.
CAN RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE WITHOUT ROMANCE?
I’ve been with my partner now for just over two years. From the start we’ve always talked about marriage and aiming for a long term relationship. We’ve recently moved in together & most aspects are going so well. We’re best friends, have great sex & share the same opinions about big life things. My question is, can a relationship survive without romance? Something I’ve always found difficult & confusing to understand is our lack of romance outside of the bedroom. We’ve had many conversations about it & still nothing has changed. My partner doesn’t buy me flowers, organise dates, plan trips away, write me letters, etc. These have always been initiated by me. It's something I recognised early on in the relationship but I ignored it and brushed it off at first, thinking it would automatically improve.
But I’m now beginning to feel lonely, neglected and resentful of our relationship. My frustration is growing given I have communicated my desires many times and nothing has changed. Do you think my expectations are too high to desire these things? Given it’s my first relationship I’m struggling to understand whether I’m expecting too much
IS PORN RUINING HIS DESIRE FOR ME?
Married for 4 years. My husband & l have an 8 year age gap, l’m in my early 30s & he is in his late 30s. We have no kids yet, currently 5 months pregnant. My husband is a good guy in some areas however l feel we have mismatched libidos which is causing a problem in our relationship. I tend to want sex more than he does. I sometimes try to initiate sex when l feel like it, however most of the time he turns me down which leaves me feeling like shit and rejected. This tends to make things awkward as l really get into my head about it. We seem to only have sex when he feels like it. I don’t want to use a toy on my own as l get intense guilt from using a toy (I’m from a Christian background). l don’t mind when using it with him. I have tried to talk to him in the past however he says he will fix it but nothing has changed.
Recently while l was helping him with something on his phone l found a private browser that was locked and in the browser he had porn websites open. I deleted the browser and didn’t ask him as l didn’t want him to feel like l was snooping around in his phone. This has been bothering me ever since, l have multiple questions in my head and l just don't have the answers to. A few days after l checked again and saw he had the porn browser open again which makes me think that he probably watches porn often. I’m going mad with all these questions in my head. Does he prefer to watch porn than having sex with me? Is he a porn addict? How do l handle this? He doesn’t take feedback well at all; he gets defensive and feels like it’s an attack. We usually have sex once every week to a fortnight. Or maybe l’m just wanting too much.
I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SPLITTING IVF COSTS
After a few unsuccessful rounds of ovulation induction, I am going to be progressing to IVF. The fertility treatment is needed because of my PCOS. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and own a unit together. My partner earns about $15k more than me atm and is currently paying off our car but I have more in savings. I feel like it is fair for me to pay the IVF costs given it is my issue that requires it and I am in the fortunate position that I can afford to pay the whole amount. However, my mum is adamant that this should be a shared cost. My partner is extremely generous and I’m sure would not bat an eyelid about splitting it but I just feel uncomfortable about it. Is this an expression of my guilt that I’m robbing him of the joy of trying for a baby naturally?
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