Life Uncut

Hey Lifers! 
We kick off this week with Britt calling in from Italy (hungover, again 👀) and why it took us YEARS to stop performing on camera and actually just be ourselves with our naturally low voices. 

Laura had a suspicious parcel arrive at her front door. It was full of syringes, tiny vials, and one very tanned man who came to collect it. We speak about the world of Melanotan, carrot maxing, and the very real question of whether eating 20 carrots a day will make you glow.

The roommate phase
Is your relationship resting or rotting? There's a big difference, and we break it all down from the red flags that say you're rotting to why the roommate phase is actually really common, and sometimes even kind of… nice? We chat about the trenches of parenthood, feeling a little flat in your relationship and finding novelty.  Keeshia opens up about where she's at in her relationship and why she's genuinely embracing the rest. 

We wrap up with sucks and sweets; Britt is a year into marriage and almost forgot her anniversary, Laura's baby Poppy is pulling herself up on everything and immediately face-planting, and Laura's heading to India with her sister.

TIMESTAMPS

• 0:00 — Britt's calling from Italy, hungover (again)
• 2:00 — 7 years of podcasting and our voices have completely changed
• 7:40 — The mysterious package
• 14:00 — What IS carrotmaxxing?
• 17:20 — The roommate phase: is your relationship resting or rotting?
• 19:30 — Having kids and the relationship shift — does it have to be negative?
• 22:30 — How to tell if you're just in a lull vs. something more serious is happening
• 30:00 — Keeshia opens up: she's embracing the roommate phase
• 35:20 — Resting vs rotting and what the real line is between the two
• 43:00 — Suck and Sweet

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Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions!

Vibes of the week:

• Britt - Imperfect Women on Apple TV+ 
• Laura - Kidnapped: Elizabeth Smart on Netflix 
• Keeshia - Kylie on Netflix
  
  

Then it's into your questions!

Q1: MY BOYFRIEND HAS BEEN USING MY TOOTHBRUSH. REGULARLY.
Six months in, she catches her boyfriend putting her toothbrush back in the holder. He casually says, "I thought we were at that stage." She was so shocked she didn't react. Now she has the biggest ick of her life and doesn't know how to bring it up.

Q2: OUR FRIENDS COPIED OUR ENTIRE RENOVATION
After years of work, late nights, and an enormous amount of emotional labour, her renovation is done and she loves it. Then her friends started their reno, asked a lot of very specific questions — and have now copied the whole thing. Right down to the tiles, stones and room colours. Her husband doesn't see the issue. She does.

Q3: I THINK MY BOYFRIEND MIGHT BE SECRETLY RICH AND HIDING IT FROM ME
Eight months in, she loves him and can see a future with him. But he's weirdly intense about splitting everything to the dollar and she's accidentally seen investment account balances, a large transfer, and a land tax invoice on his kitchen bench. He's never mentioned any of it.

Q4: FIANCE BROKE OFF ENGAGEMENT AFTER ‘FALLING OUT OF LOVE’
They'd been together four years, engaged for one. Both mid-20s. This was her first relationship and therefore her first heartbreak. He told her he'd been dealing with doubts internally for months before finally saying he'd fallen out of love and ending the engagement. She moved back home to her mum's. They've had three weeks of no contact and it's killing her. She still loves him and wants to know: can people fall back in love?

TIMESTAMPS

• 0:00 — Intro
• 2:57 — Vibes of the week
• 10:31 — Q1: My boyfriend has been secretly using my toothbrush. Regularly.
• 15:40 — Q2: Our friends copied our entire renovation
• 22:52 — Q3: I think my boyfriend is secretly rich and hiding it from me
• 34:44 — Q4: My fiancé ended our relationship three weeks before our engagement party

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Hey Lifers! Welcome back to your weekend treat.

The nom nom nom discourse is real, it is divisive, and the feedback has been received. Laura is personally victimised. We will poll you.

Then we get into it:

• Taylor Swift is getting married and there’s plus one drama. We ask if wedding guests have a right to feel hurt when their partner doesn't make the cut?
• A woman on TikTok cried on camera because 39 children took over the pool and hot tub at her hotel; a hotel she specifically chose for the pool and hot tub.
• You can hire a woman for $500 to turn up to your funeral. It’s petty, but it’s also impactful.
• The Enhanced Games just wrapped up in Las Vegas. We speak about legal doping, $1 million prize pools, and Aussie Olympic swimmer James Magnussen throwing himself back in a decade after his Olympic career ended. Did anyone break any records? Is the IOC being petty? Should the Olympics just pay their athletes more? We get into all of it.
  
  

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

0:00 — The nom nom nom saga

7:56 — Taylor Swift's wedding: no venue on the invites, no plus ones, and is Blake even invited?

21:16 — Woman goes viral crying over 39 kids taking over the hotel pool and hot tub

30:57 — The $500 funeral mourner: arrives in a limo, cries, disappears 

39:49 — The Enhanced Games: legal doping, $1 million prize pools, and it just happened in Vegas

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Hey Lifers!

Ellie Gonsalves is an Australian model, actress, podcaster and Wildlife Warriors Ambassador with a collective audience of over 5 million followers. Ellie first rose to prominence in the modelling world and has since built an international career, appearing in major campaigns like superbowl commercials and has transitioned into acting. Ellie has also been very open about some deeply personal experiences like losing her father to suicide, going no contact with her mum and the kind of life she wants to live.

One of the things that sparked huge conversation online was Ellie’s viral list of “117 reasons not to have kids,” a post that challenged expectations around motherhood and opened up a much bigger conversation about choice, pressure and what a fulfilling life can look like.

We chat:

• Ellie’s excellent driving skills
• How a Facebook page turned into a Super Bowl commercial and a Hollywood career
• 17 years with partner and manager Ross
• The dark side of Hollywood
• Losing her dad to suicide and the phone call that changed everything
• Cutting off her mum completely and how she responds when people say "but she's your mum"
• The viral list — 117 reasons she doesn't want kids — and what she says to people who call it selfish
• Why moving back to Australia during Covid made her fall back in love with this country
  
  
  

TIMESTAMPS

• 0:00 — Intro
• 1:20 — Most embarrassing story
• 4:18 — Growing up a tomboy, modelling rejections & building a following
• 8:58 — Getting discovered on Instagram & the Super Bowl commercial
• 10:15 — 17 years with Ross
• 12:38 — Filming Fighting with My Family with Dwayne Johnson
• 14:30 — The viral list: 117 reasons she doesn't want kids
• 26:39 — Losing her dad 
• 33:08 — Estrangement from her mum
• 42:25 — Ross as chosen family 
• 45:12 — The reality of Hollywood vs the glamour
• 49:30 — Falling back in love with Australia

You can find everything from Ellie Gonsalves here 

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Hey Lifers! 
We come to you today after 2.5 hours of technical chaos. Britt nearly got deported from Italy. With ten days until she legally had to leave the country, Ben revealed he had not, in fact, sorted the visa that he was meant to. 

Laura's baby Poppy had what we are calling an incident involving the family dog Buster and sensory play. Buster was mortified. Poppy was unbothered. 

There's also a Slimy Rock Johnson update. The garden snail that Marlie Mae brought home five weeks ago, that half of you were very invested in, has been ceremonially released to the garden after Laura quietly became the only one caring for him. 

Then the story that has been living rent-free in our heads for two weeks. Katie Price, UK glamour model, national treasure of chaos, recently married a man named Lee Andrews after knowing him for approximately two days. Lee lives in Dubai. Lee is allegedly a billionaire. Lee has photos with Elon Musk and Kim Kardashian that are so obviously photoshopped you will need to sit down.

Multiple women have come forward saying Lee is a serial romance scammer who took significant amounts of money. A Texan nurse lost over £123,000. His previous fiancée is apparently wearing the same ring Katie now has. Lee was supposed to fly to the UK to appear live on Good Morning Britain to prove he could leave the country and instead called Katie from the airport to say he was being bundled into a white van and cable-tied. He has been "kidnapped" ever since.

We unpack the whole unhinged saga including Katie’s particularly interesting timing to be doing CBD gummy ads. We speak about tactics that romance scammers use like ‘future faking’ and the ‘double trauma’ that victims of romance scams experience. Britt also has some personal experience with why people might not listen when someone tries to warn you.

You can listen to our chat with Cecilie and Pernilla from the Tinder Swindler here 

TIMESTAMPS

• 0:00 — Tech chaos, cross-continent recording 
• 2:00 — Britt almost got deported from Italy
• 12:30 — What life actually looks like in Italy day-to-day
• 21:00 — Poppy's dog poo incident. 
• 25:00 — Slimy Rock Johnson's farewell ceremony (RIP)
• 30:30 — Katie Price: who is she and why is the whole world watching right now
• 34:00 — Lee Andrews, the fake kidnapping and a van with cable ties
• 45:00 — Why women stay: love bombing, isolation and the psychology of the con
• 54:00 — The embarrassment of being scammed and why Katie might already know
• 1:01:00 — Can we laugh at this? Where the comedy ends and the concern begins
• 1:02:30 — Suck & Sweet of the week

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Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deepest, darkest and most burning questions!

We kick things off with Britt's very public apology to an unnamed language app she accused of scamming her last week. Spoiler: she wasn't scammed. She just used the wrong email. She's back on track to becoming fluent in Italian.

Vibes of the week:
Britt - Olivia's House podcast
Keeshia - Mac Locked Kiss Ink 24 Hour Lip Colour
Laura - The Crash on Netflix  

Then it's into your questions!

IS IT A BAD IDEA TO SLEEP WITH MY EX'S MATE?
My ex and I were together for 9 years. The last couple of years were pretty rough. I officially left in September 2025 but didn’t move out straight away. We briefly got back together over December/January for about 5 weeks, but I knew it wasn’t right. I moved out properly in February. We have 2 kids together, and I have them 100% of the time.
Anyway, I jumped on Tinder the other night because, honestly, a girl has needs. I came across one of his friends. They used to be really close, but over the last couple of years they barely talk anymore.
I always thought he was attractive but obviously never acted on it. We ended up matching and started talking, and we agreed it would just be a one night thing. Neither of us would ever tell my ex, and I genuinely don’t think he would either; he’s not the drama type.

So… is this a terrible idea? I’ll probably do it anyway because I trust him, already know him, and find him attractive. Also, I haven’t been with anyone else in almost 10 years, so I’m feeling every emotion right now.

DO I KEEP MY WEDDING DRESS AND RING? (CALLED OFF THE WEDDING)
I called off my wedding in March last year with 6 weeks to go. However, my fiance and I remained together and tried to work on the relationship. After a year of giving it everything, I finally decided that I could no longer continue the relationship and asked him to move out in March this year. I bought my beautiful wedding dress and also selected and paid for my own ring. My question is, would you keep the wedding dress so you can one day wear it, or is the dress now "tainted" and it's better to sell and buy a new one (if I had another wedding with a different guy). Also, given I paid for the wedding ring, is it weird to wear it on a different hand (like an occasional ring), or is that too sad?

IS IT THE NORM TO TELL NEWS PUBLICLY ON SOCIALS SAME TIME AS YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS?
Over the past couple of years, I’ve had a few close friends go through major life milestones like engagements, pregnancies and the birth of a baby, and the way that I’ve found out is through Instagram… at the same time as everyone else. I know nobody owes anyone private access to their news, but for me personally, if I had huge life news, I’d instinctively tell my closest friends privately before posting it publicly. So now I’m wondering, is this just the new norm or is this weird and am I justified in feeling a little hurt by it? I also never know whether it’s something worth bringing up with them, or if that just makes it seem bigger than it needs to be. 

MY EX CRIED AFTER WE HAD SEX. WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
I have an unusual one for you. For context, I was with my partner for a little over a year when we broke up. Now, I recently slept with him after eight months of no contact. And to be honest, it was incredible. But then something happened. He cried immediately after. I don't actually know what this means and I'm too scared to ask. It has been ten days now since the crying sex. What should I do? 

TIMESTAMPS

• 0:00 — Britt's apology
• 1:55 — Vibes of the week
• 7:52 — Q1: Is it a bad idea to sleep with your ex's mate?
• 19:48 — Q2: Do I keep my wedding dress and ring after calling it off six weeks out?
• 26:22 — Q3: Is it normal to find out your friends are engaged/pregnant on Instagram?
• 36:52 — Q4: My ex cried immediately after we had sex — what does it mean?
  
  

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Welcome to Offcuts, where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend!

We chat:

• Laura's post-baby hormones are cooked
• Conservatives are calling Alex Cooper's pregnancy a "gotcha moment" 
• Kylie Jenner wore a ponytail to a basketball game and TikTok called it a revolutionary new hairstyle
• The plastic bag partner
• Neutrogena dropped Hayden Panettiere under a morality clause after she spoke openly about her postnatal depression

TIMESTAMPS

0:00  Intro

7:30 Conservatives vs Alex Cooper 

18:56 Kylie Jenner's ponytail 

25:10 The plastic bag partner

34:20 Neutrogena fired Hayden Panettiere for speaking about her postnatal depression

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Harrison James is an award-winning activist, author, and co-founder of the national law reform campaign #YourReferenceAintRelevant. Before all of that, he was a 13-year-old boy who became a victim of abuse that no child should ever experience.

After his parents separated, Harri moved in with his father at 13, seeking connection and a fresh start. What followed was years of grooming and sexual abuse at the hands of his stepmother; abuse that resulted in a pregnancy, a daughter Harri was forced to call his sister, and a web of silence and shame that nearly cost him his life.

Harri has since channelled that pain into something extraordinary. His #YourReferenceAintRelevant campaign,which he co-founded with fellow survivor Jarad Grice, has now driven legislative change across multiple jurisdictions, abolishing the use of good character references in the sentencing of convicted sex offenders. He's also the author of Transform Your Pain into Purpose, a part-memoir, part-practical guide for survivors and advocates.

We chat:

• The turbulent household Harri grew up in and why his parents' divorce made him so vulnerable
• How grooming actually works and why it looks exactly like love and care to a child who's starved of both
• The moment Harry's dad walked in on the abuse and did nothing
• What it was like to be a 15-year-old boy secretly caring for his own baby daughter while calling her his sister
• The day his stepmother fled to the Philippines 
• How Harry ended up at a mental health facility at 19, and why that saved his life
• His first experience of good character references: watching them being read aloud at his own father's DV sentencing
• Why good character references are not just unfair they're the very thing that enables abuse to happen in the first place
• The long, politically complicated road to law reform, and what's still left to do
• Harry's partner Bella, their unexpected love story, and the baby girl they're expecting
  
  

You can follow Harrison on Instagram @itsharrijames

You can get Transform Your Pain into Purpose at all good bookstores.

Timestamps

• 0:00 — Trigger warning & introducing Harrison James
• 2:30 — What Harri's childhood looked like before his parents separated
• 5:45 — Choosing his dad at 13: the appeal of freedom and a fresh start
• 9:12 — How the grooming started
• 16:28 — His dad walked in on the abuse. His response was devastating
• 20:06 — The vasectomy: his dad's impossible denial of what was right in front of him
• 21:08 — Finding out his stepmother was pregnant on the school bus
• 33:00 — Telling his mum the truth for the first time
• 37:12 — Going public in 2022: why Harry posted that raw 11-minute Instagram video
• 40:30 — The good character references read aloud at his father's DV sentencing and how the campaign was born
• 46:48 — Writing Transform Your Pain into Purpose 
• 48:30 — Meeting co-founder Jarad over a beer at the pub
• 52:00 — How abuse warped Harry's understanding of love and how Bella changed everything
• 56:17 — The campaign's wins: NSW, ACT, Victoria, Tasmania and New Zealand
• 58:20 — Sitting in the courtroom at Paul Frost's sentencing, and the moment he walked past the Downing Centre knowing it had changed
• 1:06:00 — Why this campaign isn't just legislative: it's a cultural shift
• 1:08:30 — His message to every survivor: you don't have to change a law to be worthy

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Hey Lifers! 
Have we been scammed by Meta? Britt is trying to learn Italian but she’s faced some hurdles! We talk about Meta ad scams and the great bot clear out of 2026.

Laura shares a story about… how do we encapsulate this?? a reformer Pilates machine, a spread eagle and someone who shouldn’t have been there to see it.

We also talk about a new phase of parenting that Laura has entered: her kids have worked out how to play Matt and Laura off against each other. How do you get back on the same page when your kids have found the gap?

Shoe Gate 2026.
An influencer fight that none of us should care about as much as we do.
Here's the timeline:

• Female founder Lexi Ioannou (daughter of Real Housewives' Dina Manzo) sent a pair of shoes from her brand Nou to Bethenny Frankel.
• Bethenny wore them multiple times but never tagged the brand.
• However, when a follower directly asked where the shoes were from, Bethenny linked an affiliate dupe instead.
• Lexi posted a now-viral callout video.
• Bethenny said that she did this because the shoes were sold out and that would annoy her followers, and that Lexi has played the ‘short game’ and has some business lessons to learn.

We unpack both sides: the value of celebrity endorsement even without a tag, whether the exchange is ‘fair’, whether the affiliate link is the villain, and what it means when a small female-founded brand watches their product get replaced with a paid link. 

TIMESTAMPS

0:00 - Britt's in Italy and may have been scammed by a language app

9:16 Laura's nanny situation and the thing she shouldn’t have seen

16:00 New parenting phase: the kids are playing mum and dad off against each other

25:19 Shoe Gate 2026: Bethenny Frankel, Lexi Ioannou and the affiliate dupe

49:46 Suck and sweet of the week

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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas!
There’s some very spicy questions going down in our facebook group and most of it is done using nicknames. We need to poll if you want us to keep the nicknames or not!

Vibes and Unsubscribes
Britt - Unsubscribe from non Aussie actor being used in APEX
Vibe - Should I Marry A Murderer? on Netflix
Keeshia - @jeromecooksfood
Laura - Yuka App 

Then we jump into your questions!

TRANSACTIONAL W*NK
So I listened to today’s episode when you asked who is wanking their partner off without sex?! The answer is me. I am doing that and have been for many years! My husband and I have been together for 10 years and he often asks for a wank so casually as if he is asking me to put the kettle on. I don’t even pretend to be in the mood, it almost just feels like a transaction and I have told him this, it doesn’t seem to bother him. 

For context, we both have very mismatching libidos. I wouldn’t say he wants sex a lot, probably just the normal amount, but I literally never want it. It comes up as a problem regularly in our relationship but we never seem to do anything about it. I have floated the idea of how he would feel about an open relationship if he feels his needs are not being met but he won’t entertain the idea. I also have said he has 2 perfectly good hands if he wants to sort himself out but that doesn’t work either! I have told him I just don’t enjoy sex and I would happily go the rest of my life without it. I’m never satisfied and I just give in to satisfy him but leaves me feeling icky like I’m just pretending. I never orgasm. Both alone and together we have tried using toys but still no joy! Sorry for the long message but would appreciate any advice to help me stop a lifetime of transactional wanks!

GRANDPARENTS DON’T CARE ABOUT MY KID, THEIR 9TH GRAND CHILD
My parents aren't really interested in being grandparents anymore, or that is how it feels. I am the youngest child in my family, when my siblings had children, especially the first 2 my parents were besotted, they saw them everyday, took photos, and showered them with affection. My son is the 9th grandchild and it just feels like they are over it, nothing is exciting or new. They never ask about him, they don't ask for photos, they have never offered to mind him. He is beautiful and well behaved most of the time. They are older now and both have health issues, my sister is also a single mom and they have given her a lot of support. I just spent a week at home and I barely saw them. I am starting to feel very resentful toward my siblings even though it's not their fault. I don't feel like I can say anything but I just feel so sad about it. I don't have one but I am finding motherhood so lonely. My husband's parents have passed and it is really hitting me that we won't have support. Has anybody else been through this?

I DON'T WANT TO GO TO MY BROTHERS DESTINATION WEDDING - AM I BEING A BRAT OR REASONABLE?
My brother is getting married next year and it’s a destination wedding on a tropical island, but the wedding is the day before my 30th birthday. I know a wedding is obviously a way bigger deal than a birthday, and I’m not expecting everyone to make it about me. But turning 30 feels like a big milestone, and I already know my actual birthday will probably just become the recovery day after his wedding. Because it’s mostly siblings and friends going, I also probably won’t even have my parents with me on the day. What makes it worse is that I’m doing a Master’s, working in a hospital, and completing specialist training, so I’m already flat out. The wedding is also one month before my specialist written exam, so the timing feels awful. I feel guilty saying this, but I genuinely don’t want to go. Am I being a brat, or is this understandable? And how do I tell my brother and family without causing huge drama?

For more context, this won’t be my brother’s only wedding. They’re also having a bigger wedding back home with our extended family and all the older relatives, so it’s not like I’d be missing the wedding altogether. Part of why I feel so torn is that this island wedding is mostly made up of the bride’s friends and people from her side. On my brother’s side, it’s really just one of his high school best mate, me, and one cousin he’s close with. So if I don’t go, I honestly feel like there’ll barely be anyone there for him from our side, and that makes me feel really guilty. At the same time, I know I’d probably feel so out of place. Her friends and family are all very glamorous, influencer-type people, and I’m just really not that kind of person. I’m pretty low-key, I barely wear makeup, and I’m not into partying or drinking, so a destination wedding like this just isn’t something I’m excited about at all. I’m also worried that if I do go, I’ll be uncomfortable the entire time and it’ll show all over my face. I really don’t want to bring that energy to his wedding, which almost makes me feel like not going would be better than showing up and clearly not wanting to be there. I’d really love to know what you girls think, because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being selfish or if this is a fair thing to be so torn over. Thank you so much for reading this and for always helping people make sense of life’s messier situations, it really means a lot.

PARTNER HAS TOO MANY HOBBIES
My fiancé, the father of our two children (7 and 4 months old) is a rather social butterfly. He is often out at the pub, fishing, surfing, checking the surf and working 5 days a week on top of that. He very rarely plans anything in advance; it's commonly spontaneous (especially fishing and surfing as its condition based). I feel so frustrated with him as he is out living his life like he’s a bachelor. I try to set a time for him to come home. He’s ALWAYS late anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour. I ask him to come home to help with the children and it’s always met with a “yep soon” and that’s always anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour. It drives me crazy! When I speak to him about my frustrations and concern about him being out more than he's spending time with his family he meets me with a “well I’m here now and because I want to be” but I feel like he doesn’t. Like if I didn’t ask or set a time he wouldn’t be home for hours! He spends up to 6 -10 hours at a time with his mates at the pub or out doing other stuff with them…is this normal? Am I crazy?

TIMESTAMPS

• 0:00 — Intro
• 4:43 — Vibes of the week: 
• 14:22 — Q1: The Transactional Wank 
• 26:30 — Q2: My parents have run out of grandparent energy 
• 37:27 — Q3: I don't want to go to my brother's destination wedding
• 49:40 — Q4: Is my husband living his best bachelor life while I have a 4-month-old?

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