Thanks to I conference I attended recently, I've been thinking a lot about what my origin story is. Why do I do what I do? What brought me here?

As the pieces have come together in my mind, I realized that I've never shared it on the podcast! So here's my story of how I discovered life coaching, and where it has brought me.

I hope you're able to relate to some of the challenges I've had in my relationships, and know that it can get so much better!

Now that we've all had a good long break for summer, I'm going to be taking on some new clients. Please reach out to me for a FREE 30 minute consultation, and let's see how we can improve your relationships!

Email: [email protected]

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Welcome to our last episode for the summer!

Today we're going to be talking about zooming in and out the focus on our lives.

When we're feeling a sense of urgency or anxiety, it can help so much to just zoom out for a bit. We can zoom out anywhere from a few minutes to the span of eternity. Whatever we are worried about is probably going to be just fine! And even if we don't know it, we can trust that Heavenly Father does.

Sometimes zooming out feels overwhelming and scary. It's these moments that we can hit the pause button and zoom in. What do you feel right now? What do you see? Hear? Smell? Taste? These small moments where we just commit to being present help us to appreciate that everything is okay right now. These moments bring us joy!

As President Russel M. Nelson has said, "My dear brothers and sisters, the joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives."(October 2016 General Conference talk "Joy and Spiritual Survival)

Here's a link to Brooke Snow's Instagram, who I quoted in today's episode and love and admire!

If you're loving the podcast, I would really appreciate if you'd take the time and leave me a review. That's the biggest way to help the podcast grow and reach more people! Thanks so much, and have a great summer!

Breakups are hard, no matter what age you are. And watching your teenager go through a breakup can bring all those negative emotions right back to the surface.

I've had three different people ask me to talk about breakups in the past week, so I figured it was a sign! Here are some tips I'll talk about in today's episode of what is your job when your teen goes through one.

1. Clean up your thinking!

2. Allow your children to have whatever experience they need to have.

3. Believe in your child.

4. Validate their feelings without "jumping in the pool with them."

I hope this helps! Have a great week!

I had a teenager that was constantly "talking back" to me. For a while, it drove me absolutely CRAZY! I told myself it meant all sorts of things like he didn't respect me as a mother, he thought he was smarter than me, etc. But I came to realize, he was simply expressing himself. He was trying to be understood just like I was.

Once I made this shift in my mind, I realized just how valuable this skill of questioning and trying to understand for himself was. And I LOVE the independent adult he has turned out to be! And through this process, I was able to teach and model (and learn for myself) how to have respectful conversations when you disagree with someone. Maybe having a child who "talks back" isn't so bad after all!

P.S. I have some summer coaching spots open! We can be super flexible with scheduling. Email me  at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram to learn more about my program!

Today on the podcast I want to talk to you about something that has been incredibly helpful for me in my coaching journey and in my life in general. I want to talk about how our brains work.

Specifically, I'll teach you just a little bit about the primal brain that seeks pleasure, our emotional brain, and our "higher self" brain. Don't worry, we'll keep it super simple. But learning this information has helped me to be able to see why I'm having the thoughts that I'm having, and subsequently, make choices based on what the most advanced part of my brain knows is right.

Here are the extra resources I promised:

The Teenage Brain by Frances E Jensen

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

(A warning about that one- it's absolutely fascinating, but is about our body and mind's relationship with trauma, so can get disturbing)

What an intriguing question that is- how do you want to feel? If you've been listening for a while you know that we get to choose our thoughts that create our emotions.

Often when I ask my clients that question they automatically respond that they want to feel neutral. All they know is that they're in pain and they want it to stop. But we also know that our brain looks for evidence to confirm whatever we're focused on. So even if we're focused on "I don't want to feel this way," our brain is automatically going to look for evidence to support that feeling.

Instead, try and focus on the thoughts and feelings you DO want to feel. Just making this small change can truly change your life and your relationships.

Need help getting more specific? Schedule a free consultation with me by clicking here or visit me on Instagram!

It happens pretty often in my house that a kid doesn't react how I would have liked them to. They don't like the rules, they ask for my advice but don't really want it, they want to blame things on everybody else, etc. It can be so tempting to fight them on it- to get into a power struggle that won't ultimately benefit anybody.

But instead, I want to give you some responses to some scenarios that a lot of my clients ask about. These responses eliminate the power struggles and take the drama out of it. They are full of truth and give your teen an opportunity to grow and learn for themselves, rather than you trying to control them.

If you need help with a different scenario, or wish there was something I had covered that I didn't, shoot me an email at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram. I'd love to talk it through with you!

No matter what stage of life you're in, it's full of transitions. Some good- a wedding or a new house or a baby, and some hard- the death of a loved one or loss of a job. As humans, we naturally want to be comfortable. So even if we are excited about a change, it's probably going to come with some amount of discomfort, which can be a challenge for us.

However, I have some suggestions on how to embrace these transitions that will inevitably come as part of our experience here on earth. If we slow down and check in with ourselves, separate the clean pain from the dirty pain, be willing to feel all of the emotions and be present in the experience, and look for the gratitude, these times of change can become much less daunting.

One of my favorite parts of coaching is helping clients through the transitions in their life and providing support. If this sounds like something you could benefit here, reach out on Instagram or click here to schedule a free consultation with me.

As always, thank you so much for listening and I will talk to you next week!

Additional references:

Of Things That Matter Most by Dieter F. Uchdorf

Episode 61: Clean Pain, Dirty Pain

Episode 54: This is What It's Like to Be Human

I'm in a Facebook group of wives asking all sorts of questions and opinions, and lately I've been noticing a pattern. Someone will tell a story about their husband not meeting their expectations or their mother-in-law not respecting their wishes, etc. Then they'll pose this question in some form- "Should I be upset?"

The short answer is- you can if you want to, but it probably won't do you any good. I think in most of these situations, we're mostly looking for people to agree with us (like me when I'm pregnant ranting to my sister about Taco Bell getting my order wrong). And that's totally fine! We just have to be careful that we don't get stuck in those negative emotions and let them become our norm.

If you're having a hard time applying this, you're not alone. Schedule a free consultation with me here or reach out on Instagram, and we can dive deeper!

What if I told you you're probably not completely telling the truth in your relationships? I'm not talking about purposely lying to the people you care about, but believe it or not, this is something we ALL do!

I was first introduced to this concept as a young parent from a book by Dr. James Jones, and since then have noticed so many situations in which I (and my clients) may be speaking out of fear or trying not to hurt someone's feelings instead of being completely honest. Have a listen to today's episode for lots of examples on where you might not be telling the truth, and how you can fix it in a kind, loving way.

Have a great week!