Secret Life

Limerence in the Workplace — When the Fantasy Follows You to Work


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Have you ever gone to work and found yourself checking if they emailed you? Replaying every conversation. Analyzing their tone. Wondering if they looked at you differently today. Your entire mood rising and falling based on whether they gave you attention.

That's not a crush. That's limerence. And it is one of the most consuming, disorienting experiences a person can have — made worse by the fact that you have to sit ten feet away from it every single day.

In this solo episode, Brianne breaks down exactly what limerence is, why the workplace is the perfect breeding ground for it, and — most importantly — how to get yourself out of it.

In this episode:

  • What limerence actually is and why it's not the same as attraction or a crush
  • Why work environments create the ideal psychological conditions for obsessive attachment
  • The three most common workplace limerence dynamics — including why an unavailable coworker works like a slot machine on your brain
  • Why limerence is almost never about the other person
  • The role of attachment wounds, anxious attachment, and emotional neglect in making you vulnerable
  • 10 signs you're currently in workplace limerence
  • 6 steps to get out — including the one most people skip
  • The critical difference between emotional intensity and emotional safety
  • Why anxiety is not intuition, obsession is not soulmate energy, and dysregulation is not deep love

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt consumed by someone at work — and couldn't understand why they couldn't stop. You're not crazy. You're not weak. Your nervous system is caught in a loop. And loops can be broken.

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