Covert narcissism hides behind shyness, false humility, and comparison. They may come off as a dreamer but the psychological mechanisms lurking behind the surface are far more sinister.

If you’re a high-performer with a big heart, you’ve likely been targeted by people like this. In this hard-edged breakdown, Bizzie Gold separates envy vs jealousy, exposes the covert narc's tactics of projection, deflection, splitting, and walks through triangulation, gaslighting, and the idealization-to-devaluation cycle.

You’ll get the Top 10 ways to identify a covert narcissist, why they’re drawn to empathetic, overcommitted leaders, and how to confront the pattern without getting trapped in the victim narrative.

What we cover:

• Covert narcissist traits and tactics •
• Why ownership is nearly impossible for a covert narc
• Why highly empathetic ( and distracted) leaders are a prime target
• Envy as the core driver
• How to cut off triangulation and bring truth to light
• Structured, logic-based rewiring vs talk-therapy loops

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Most of you think fights start with words. Wrong. Words rank dead last. Long before you open your mouth, people are reacting to your eyebrows, body language, assumptions, and projections—and that’s why your communication keeps blowing up in your face.

In this episode of Decoded, Bizzie Gold rips apart the myth that “good communication” is about what you say. You’ll learn the inverse hierarchy of information processing (why people trust their trauma over your words), how to stop throwing conversational “footballs” no one can catch, and why clinging to fairness guarantees you’ll stay stuck in conflict.

If you’re ready to stop being misheard, misquoted, and manipulated, this is your manual. It’s not about talking more—it’s about rewiring the way you aim, throw, and land every message.

What you’ll learn:

• Why assumptions outrank words every time

• How to stop communication from getting distorted

• The pre-conversation script that cuts conflict in half

Are your wellness habits secretly working against you? In this episode of Decoded, Bizzie Gold reveals how control-based health obsessions, overdiagnosis, and rigidity can lock your nervous system in a chronic stress loop—keeping you sick even while you’re trying to heal. Learn the difference between preparedness and panic, how brain pattern types affect your response to health protocols, and why faith isn't just spiritual—it’s biological.

This episode delivers practical tools like the Health Hierarchy, 3x3 Support Routine, and Controlled Surrender—all designed to help you step off the hamster wheel of obsession and back into joy, presence, and vibrant health.

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Ever felt anxious, foggy, or flushed after a meal or hot shower—only to feel fine hours later? That unpredictability might be Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS).

In this episode, Bizzie Gold breaks down:

• The science of histamine and its 4 receptors

• Why MCAS symptoms appear in sudden surges

• The overlap between MCAS, PMDD, and postpartum depression

• The stress–immune feedback loop fueling mood shifts

• Practical steps to track triggers, reduce flares, and restore balance
  

This isn’t “all in your head.” MCAS is your immune system directly influencing your brain chemistry. Learn how to identify the signs, take action, and move toward lasting relief.

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 Acceptance isn’t always harmless—it can be a dangerous game with generational consequences. In this episode, Bizzie Gold takes you deep into the psychology, history, and hidden agendas behind normalization—the subtle (and sometimes coordinated) process by which ideas, behaviors, and even harmful patterns become “just the way things are.”

From doctors prescribing cigarettes in the 1950s to the quiet shifting of infant developmental milestones, from porn addiction to the “new normal” of 2020—Bizzie unpacks how normalization can hijack your beliefs, prime your brain, and keep you stuck in labels that limit your potential.

You’ll also learn why belief is the real gatekeeper of change, how to spot inorganic normalization campaigns, and the critical role of deviance in restoring personal sovereignty. Whether you’ve accepted a medical or mental health label, or you’ve been told “this is just normal now,” this episode will challenge you to break the cycle, reclaim your agency, and rewire your future.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The definition of normalization and how it shapes culture, policy, and personal behavior

• Historical examples of normalized harm (cigarettes, lobotomies, etc.)

• The role of media, slogans, and influencer campaigns in manufacturing belief

• How belief dictates what you see as possible—and how it can cap your potential

• The difference between organic and inorganic deviation

• Why mental health and medical labels can become self-fulfilling prophecies

• Three steps to push back against limiting labels and reclaim control of your trajectory
  

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Historical cigarette ads featuring doctors

• The shifting of infant developmental milestones

• Usain Bolt and the psychology of athletic records

• The “new normal” narrative during COVID-19

• Break Method’s approach to dismantling labels and rewiring belief systems
  

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Carson Meyer joins Decoded to expose the hidden truth about pregnancy, postpartum, and what most couples get disastrously wrong about childbirth. From boundary breakdowns to emotional disconnection, we break down why birth can make or break a relationship—and what it takes to prepare emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Carson shares wisdom from her new book Growing Together, including:

• The radical importance of postpartum boundaries (and how to enforce them)

• Why most baby showers are a trap

• How emotional trauma shows up in birth outcomes

• Her hot take on “hands-off” midwifery and birth trauma cover-ups

• And how we can babyproof our relationships before the chaos begins

If you're pregnant, planning to be, or healing from a past birth—this episode is essential. It’s raw, real, and radically practical.

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After years of managing lupus with diet and discipline, everything stopped working. I was inflamed, gaining weight, and losing myself—until peptides changed everything.

In this episode, I unpack:

• The peptide stack that reversed my autoimmune symptoms

• Microdosing terzepatide + BPC-157 for real healing

• Why FDA approval means nothing to me

• Muscle loss, nausea, and other myths debunked

• The training effect: how peptides help rewire habits

• Gut repair, hormone balance, and sustainable results

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What if your food behaviors had nothing to do with hunger—and everything to do with emotional survival?

In this episode, Bizzie Gold exposes how your subconscious uses food as a tool for control, avoidance, and sabotage. From childhood programming to gut-brain dysfunction, she unpacks why some people forget to eat when stressed while others spiral into shame-fueled binge cycles.

You’ll learn:

• How your early food environment shaped your emotional eating

• The difference between self-regulation and co-regulation patterns

• Why gut health is the missing link in emotional rewiring

• What neuroscience and clinical research say about gluten, casein, schizophrenia, and panic attacks

If you want true freedom from food loops, you have to change the pattern—not just the plate.

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If you've ever felt stuck in overwhelm, dismissed important decisions out of sheer exhaustion, or justified actions you later regretted by saying, "I'm just stressed," this episode will transform your understanding. Today, we're decoding overwhelm as more than just a vague feeling. It's an emotional trap created by cycles of fear, anxiety, and anger. You'll learn exactly why these feelings keep showing up, how to spot your unique emotional addiction cycle, and how subtle shifts in perception and language can stop the spiral before it starts. Using practical analogies and real-life examples, you'll see how overwhelm isn't inevitable. It's a predictable pattern that can be broken. By the end, you'll have the tools to stop justifying behavior with vague terms and start reclaiming control over your emotional landscape.

Highlights 

00:00 Defining the word “overwhelm” 

03:23 What “emotional mud” is hiding

05:10 Defining emotions

08:05 The emotional addiction cycle

13:33 Recognizing your emotional shift

17:16 Signs you’re about to self-sabotage

20:48 The shame loop after emotional escalation

24:10 How emotional state distorts perception

29:23 Why rapid-onset emotions block new strategies

40:38 Real language of emotional patterns

52:30 The “white shag rug” analogy for emotional damage

55:27 Relationships can be rewired

56:12 Self-deception in every brain pattern

57:28 Breaking the cycle is possible

Resources

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If you’ve ever stayed quiet to avoid conflict, mistaken chemistry for compatibility, or found yourself reliving the same relationship pattern with different people, this episode will give you clarity. Today, we’re breaking down It Ends With Us through the lens of behavior cycles and brain patterns, and decoding why Lily’s dishonesty, Ryle’s black-and-white thinking, and Atlas’ wounded savior energy created a perfect storm of emotional chaos. You’ll see how characters like Lily, Ryle, and Atlas aren’t just fictional people – they’re blueprints of real, lived trauma loops. And if you see yourself in them, this will show you how to break the cycle.

Highlights

00:00 What Lily’s brain pattern reveals about dishonesty. 

05:00 What 92% on Team Atlas gets wrong about the real abuse cycle.

12:00 Break Method’s 4-phase cycle and how it plays out in relationships.

23:30 Lily’s pattern: hiding, appeasing, and walking on eggshells.

35:30 When avoidance meets obsession: Ryle and  Lily’s dynamic.

47:45 The moment things turn physical and why it didn’t have to.

59:20 Why Atlas and Lily lack true chemistry.

01:04:45 Can abuse cycles be broken?

Resources

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