Have you ever realized you were chasing a life you never actually stopped to ask if you wanted? Same. This week we get into timelines, pressure, relationships, career, mental health, whether wanting kids is different than wanting family, and how impossible it can feel to separate what you actually want from what society tells you you’re supposed to want.

If you’ve ever felt behind, confused, scared of regret, or like everyone else got a manual you missed… this one’s for you.

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Have you ever gotten so used to struggling that you forgot to ask whether things actually have to feel this hard? Same. This week I’m joined by Alicia McCarvell and we talk about ADHD, medication, grief for the years you spent coping, changing your relationship with alcohol, internet criticism, building a life online, and realizing there’s actually no prize for suffering.

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Have you ever blamed every relationship problem on being anxiously attached and assumed you’re stuck like that forever? Same. This week, I’m talking to Dr. Amir Levine, relationship expert and co-author of Attached and Secure., about attachment styles, anxious and avoidant dynamics, why mixed signals feel addictive, and whether we can actually become more secure.

Dr. Amir Levine's MasterClass: The Science of Connection - Rewire Relationships to Last With Attachment Theory

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Have you ever been mad at someone, had a strong reaction and then started questioning whether you were justified or clinically insane? Same. This one features listener stories about reacting strongly to situationships, exes, roommates, and relationships gone wrong, plus input from my producer Daniel and I as we attempt to answer the ancient question: am I mad or am I right?

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Have you ever had a friendship that balances perfectly (because they are normal and you are anxious AF)? Same. My first guest episode featuring my emotional support bestie where we contrast how our different brains work and talk about how differently two brains can experience the exact same experiences. 

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Have you ever stayed after something you swore would be the final straw? same. this one’s about trauma bonds, attachment, denial and the netflix documentary “Should I Marry a Murderer?"

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Have you ever convinced yourself that if you just think about something long enough, you’ll finally land on the “right” answer (but instead just drive yourself insane)? Same. This one’s about OCD, thought loops, intrusive thoughts, mental compulsions, and why trying to figure everything out in your head usually does nothing but ruin your peace.

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Have you ever tried everything to feel better and still felt the same? Same. This one’s about medication, side effects, and how frustrating it is to find something that works.

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Have you ever felt like once you get the promotion, the relationship, the next stage, then you’ll finally be happy? Same. This one’s about why that feeling never actually goes away, and what to do instead.

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Have you ever felt like dating turns you into a completely different, borderline unstable version of yourself? Same. This one’s about overthinking, anxiety, and figuring out if it’s actually you… or just the person you’re dating.

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