
Sign up to save your podcasts
Or


Episode 84: In today’s episode, I sit down with “Olivia,” a woman I worked with one-on-one during the early days of her unraveling a 21-year marriage marked by deep narcissistic abuse. What unfolds in this conversation is one of the most raw, courageous, and unflinching portraits we’ve ever had on the podcast of what it means to wake up inside a marriage and realize: this isn’t love. Not the kind that sees you. Not the kind that holds you.
Together, we trace Olivia’s journey from the exhaustion and confusion of her lowest point—when the gaslighting and emotional manipulation were so constant, she barely recognized herself anymore—to the firestorm of her divorce and, ultimately, to the quiet, grounded peace she’s found on the other side.
She shares what it cost her to stay: the subtle erasure of her identity, her joy, her voice. She shares the moment she realized she was no longer standing up for her kids. And perhaps most importantly, she shares how she clawed her way back—learning to borrow hope, hold boundaries, and honor the wild, beautiful pulse of her own truth.
This episode is an offering for any woman who has doubted what she feels. For those who know something isn’t right but can’t yet name it. For those who are starting to see the cost of staying too long. If you’ve ever whispered to yourself, “I can’t do this anymore,” let Olivia’s story be a companion in the dark and a reminder: your freedom is real, and it is possible.
Show Notes:
Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
Awake - Jen Hatmaker
The Let Them Theory - Mel Robbins
Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨
Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️
Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫
YouTube Channel
The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive
Stay or Go Community
By Britta Jo4.7
157157 ratings
Episode 84: In today’s episode, I sit down with “Olivia,” a woman I worked with one-on-one during the early days of her unraveling a 21-year marriage marked by deep narcissistic abuse. What unfolds in this conversation is one of the most raw, courageous, and unflinching portraits we’ve ever had on the podcast of what it means to wake up inside a marriage and realize: this isn’t love. Not the kind that sees you. Not the kind that holds you.
Together, we trace Olivia’s journey from the exhaustion and confusion of her lowest point—when the gaslighting and emotional manipulation were so constant, she barely recognized herself anymore—to the firestorm of her divorce and, ultimately, to the quiet, grounded peace she’s found on the other side.
She shares what it cost her to stay: the subtle erasure of her identity, her joy, her voice. She shares the moment she realized she was no longer standing up for her kids. And perhaps most importantly, she shares how she clawed her way back—learning to borrow hope, hold boundaries, and honor the wild, beautiful pulse of her own truth.
This episode is an offering for any woman who has doubted what she feels. For those who know something isn’t right but can’t yet name it. For those who are starting to see the cost of staying too long. If you’ve ever whispered to yourself, “I can’t do this anymore,” let Olivia’s story be a companion in the dark and a reminder: your freedom is real, and it is possible.
Show Notes:
Subscribe to Stay or Go on Substack
Awake - Jen Hatmaker
The Let Them Theory - Mel Robbins
Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨
Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️
Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫
YouTube Channel
The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive
Stay or Go Community

752 Listeners

566 Listeners

231 Listeners

306 Listeners

516 Listeners

142 Listeners

699 Listeners

274 Listeners

19,818 Listeners

285 Listeners

33 Listeners

44 Listeners

17 Listeners

87 Listeners

145 Listeners