Heather talks about the stages of change model. Making major changes that last concerning substance use is not easy for our kids. Knowing and understanding the stage of change your child is in will help you know what to do to support them and remove barriers to make it easier for them to move to the next stage.  

3 things you’ll learn from the episode:

The 6 stages of change

What happens in each stage

Strategies for motivating change and offering support at each stage

Episodes to Listen to next:

1. Episode #11 Boundaries

2. Episode #24 Mastering Your Response To Your Child’s Addiction

3. Episode #49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Helps People Change with author Nicole Kosanke PhD

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Heather and guest Nicole Miller who is a certified drug and alcohol counselor and teaches addiction pharmacology to college students talk about how the brain is affected by substance use. The better we understand addiction the easier it is for us to collaborate with and support our kids. It also helps us take it less personally and have more compassion.

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Heather and returning guest Kelly Hatcher talk about what it was like when their kids went to rehab. They both experienced a major gap between their expectations about what rehab and sobriety would be like vs reality. Addiction and recovery are complex. Rehab and sobriety are stops on a lifetime journey. They are not destinations. Heather and Kelly hope that that by sharing their experience it will make rehab and sobriety easier for you and help you support your child as well.

3 things you’ll take away from the episode:

The unrealistic expectations Heather and Kelly had before their kids went to rehab (maybe you have the same expectations)

Their reality check – what the experience was really like

Heather & Kelly’s advice for you based on their experiences with multiple rehabs

Episodes to Listen to next:

Episode #34 What To Do When You’re In A Funk (guest Kelly Hatcher)

Episode #52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too

Episode #30 Celebrating Your Life In The Middle of Addiction (guest Kelly Hatcher)

Kelly Hatcher’s Website:

https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/

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When you're supporting your child through addiction, there are many uncomfortable and even painful experiences. The more capacity you have to tolerate emotional pain, the more capable and confident you feel about yourself and your ability to support your child. A willingness to learn from any experience, openness to change, and the capacity to express unpleasant feelings leads to emotional strength and resilience. Being able to experience your own emotional pain also makes it easier for you to tolerate the discomfort of your child's emotional pain as well. It also makes it easier to engage in difficult conversations.  Emotional mastery is an essential skill to help you through your journey with your child's addiction.  

Topics Discussed In This Episode: 

How emotions only last 90 seconds 

Why some emotions seem to last longer than 90 seconds 

How allowing and feeling your unpleasant emotions leads to a life you love 

Why we use distractions to avoid feelings 

Dr. Joan Rosenberg’s website 

Buy 90 Seconds To A Life You Love 

Episodes to listen to next: 

Episode 16 Self Coaching Model 

Episode 17 Processing Feelings = High Quality of Life 

Episode 18 Understanding Buffering Can Help You Understand Addiction 

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Harm reduction is a set of practical strategies and ideas aimed at reducing negative consequences associated with drug use. It incorporates a spectrum of strategies that includes safer use, managed use, abstinence, meeting people who use drugs “where they’re at,” and addressing conditions of use along with the use itself. Harm reduction is critical to keeping people who use drugs alive and as healthy as possible. 

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How many times have you heard you can only help yourself? It's critical to help yourself, but it's not the only thing you can do. You can invite change in your child and create space for them to decide they want to change. We're constantly told that our kids won't change unless they want to, but we're rarely told that we can create favorable conditions for them to want to change. You can help your child.

Episode to listen to next:

Episode 49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Help People Change author Nicole Kosanke PhD

Episode 41 Interview With My Daughter 

Links that were mentioned in this episode:

Al-Anon’s core purpose, mission, and strategic goals

CRAFT Studies

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Join Heather as she explores three vital messages that can transform your perspective and help you navigate your  journey with renewed strength and resilience:

1. Your Personal Recovery Matters: Discover the significance of your own healing journey and why it's equally important alongside your child's recovery. Heather shares insights into dispelling the

2. You Are Not Alone: Suffering in silence is a heavy burden. Explore the healing power of community and the importance of connecting with others who share similar experiences. Together, we find solace and support.

3. Connecting Through Love: Learn why connecting with your child through love, not guilt or shame, is paramount. Through personal stories, Heather illustrates the profound impact of love in building resilient relationships.

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

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Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

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We're always dancing with the fine line between help and support that comes from a place of love and fixing that comes from a place of fear. Fear can show up in such sneaky ways that you don't realize you're trying to fix your child again.  The way out of that is going to the "safe zone" of focusing on connection. In this episode I give you 4 ways to identify that you're in fear and 3 ways to stop fixing and start connecting again.

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Even I struggle with fears of enabling. For many years I was a student of the tough love approach, trying to control, and beliefs that didn’t serve me about addiction. No matter how much time I put into creating beliefs that serve me and learning healthy ways to support Helanna, the fear of enabling rather than helping her was always there.

As the result of much introspection about where things went wrong and insight from Helanna’s journal, I want to share 3 things I wish I did differently last year and why I wish I had done them differently.

This is not about blame. It’s about being open minded and learning from the past.

I went into this episode with intention and 3 important factors:

1. Tons of self compassion

2. Knowledge that I could have done all three of those things differently and Helanna still could have died

3. Hope that sharing my experience will make it easier for you to make the best possible decision for your family when faced with similar situations

I can’t change what happened, but I can use it to give you perspective in the tremendously difficult area of navigating your child’s addiction.

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Guest Nicole Kosanke, one of the authors of the book Beyond Addiction How Science And Kindness Help People Change and I talk about the book. Hear powerful insights about using CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training), positive reinforcement, and other strategies to help yourself and your child that's struggling with addiction.

In this episode we discuss:

More resources about CRAFT:

https://cmcffc.org/

https://invitationtochange.com/

https://motivationandchange.com/family-services/resources-for-families/

Resources From Heather Ross Coaching

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GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!

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