Worry is universal, yet it’s also damaging to ourselves and our relationships. Suzanne aptly refers to the “chem trails” we put out when we’re in a state of anxiety-fear-worry. Jody remarks that worrying and the energy it gives off “is the biggest repellent… when I’m in that state, I am sending all the wrong signals out… .” She shares that realizing this was “one of the initial catalysts to say, I really need to work on this.”

But how do we unlearn these ingrained habits and behaviors? The Families Speak co-hosts do a deep dive into worrying, and share their experience with worry as the parents of Loved Ones with substance use and mental health struggles. Hear how CRAFT helped them put new patterns into place.

Read Isabel's 2018 post entitled "Does Worry Prove I Love You."

https://alliesinrecovery.net/does-worrying-prove-i-love-you/

** Starting in August of 2025, the support group that Kayla facilitates will be offered on a sliding scale.

• Wednesdays at 6:30pm ET
• Email [email protected] to join or learn more

(Cost should not be a barrier— please reach out if you're interested)  **In our FAMILIES Speak series, psychotherapist Kayla Solomon invites members from the support group she facilitates for Allies in Recovery to share their experiences navigating addiction in the family. These parents have faced similar struggles to so many others—but with Allies in Recovery, they’ve found a new way forward.

A membership at Allies in Recovery provides: 
✔ A structured online platform to learn CRAFT skills step by step 
✔ Support groups and a community that truly understands 
✔ A Q&A blog with expert advice 
✔ And much more! Start today—visit Allies in Recovery to begin creating change in your family.  

Are you a "YES person" or a "NO person?" According to Kayla, each of us has a tendency in one direction or the other. Find out what practice she recommends for "YES people" and why. But why is it so hard for so many of us to say "no" to people we love?

Bridget, one of our co-hosts, admits that in her relationship with her Loved One, she used to operate from a place of fear. "I thought if I said 'no', I'd never see him again."

Join us for a pertinent exploration of a laden subject. "YES" and "NO" often happen automatically for us, but what would start to shift for the better if we became more mindful of why we're answering that way?

The support group that Kayla facilitates is now offered on a sliding scale.

• Wednesdays at 6:30pm ET
• Email [email protected] to join or learn more

(Cost should not be a barrier— please reach out if you're interested)

In our FAMILIES Speak series, psychotherapist Kayla Solomon invites members from the support group she facilitates for Allies in Recovery to share their experiences navigating addiction in the family. These parents have faced similar struggles to so many others—but with Allies in Recovery, they’ve found a new way forward.

This topic came up organically when we came together to record and most of the team admitted they were in a strange place. We decided to explore just that – those moments when you realize you’re just not on your game (feeling off, disconnected, out of it, tired, not quite right… know what I mean?). Whether the cause is related to your Loved One’s substance use or mental health struggles, or any other stressor, how do you identify what you’re feeling, and move into a more balanced place?

As always, the Families Speak team dives deep and shares in a generous, wise and pertinent manner.

The support group that Kayla facilitates is now offered on a sliding scale.

• Wednesdays at 6:30pm ET
• Email [email protected] to join or learn more

(Cost should not be a barrier— please reach out if you're interested)

In our FAMILIES Speak series, psychotherapist Kayla Solomon invites members from the support group she facilitates for Allies in Recovery to share their experiences navigating addiction in the family. These parents have faced similar struggles to so many others—but with Allies in Recovery, they’ve found a new way forward.

Words are important. But what may be even more important than words is the energy behind them. How do our body language, the tone of our voice, the thoughts we’re thinking, the feelings we’re feeling, and what we’re grappling with in any moment, affect things with others around us, for example with our Loved One? As we reorient and become more aware of our energy, it’s astounding what we’re able to heal in our relationships. Learn some simple ways to diffuse the tension and clean up your side of the street.

** Starting in August of 2025, the support group that Kayla facilitates will be offered on a sliding scale.

• Wednesdays at 6:30pm ET
• Email [email protected] to join or learn more

(Cost should not be a barrier— please reach out if you're interested)  **

In our FAMILIES Speak series, psychotherapist Kayla Solomon invites members from the support group she facilitates for Allies in Recovery to share their experiences navigating addiction in the family. These parents have faced similar struggles to so many others—but with Allies in Recovery, they’ve found a new way forward.

A membership at Allies in Recovery provides: 
✔ A structured online platform to learn CRAFT skills step by step 
✔ Support groups and a community that truly understands 
✔ A Q&A blog with expert advice 
✔ And much more! Start today—visit Allies in Recovery to begin creating change in your family.  

A message from Isabel Cooney about some podcast changes.

** Starting in August, the support group that Kayla facilitates will be offered on a sliding scale.

• Wednesdays at 6:30pm ET
• Email [email protected] to join or learn more

(Cost should not be a barrier— please reach out if you're interested) **

At Allies in Recovery, we know that change starts with us. When we learn to self-regulate, it transforms our relationships with our Loved Ones struggling with addiction.

Visit ⁠⁠Allies in Recovery⁠⁠ to start your new path towards healing addiction in your family.

“Humor is a release,” insists Kayla Solomon. If you can laugh, the perceived danger dissipates. Co-host Suzanne shares, “Even in the face of total darkness, we can laugh at the insanity. I think the line between humor and tragedy is very, very fine indeed.”

In this lighthearted episode, our team offers deep thoughts about humor, including how to access it… as well as some unexpected tips such as co-host Elizabeth’s “viking horns” recommendation. Find out which caveat Kayla warns about as you pursue your quest to bring more humor into your world.

Starting in August, the support group that Kayla facilitates will be offered on a sliding scale.

• Wednesdays at 6:30pm ET
• Email [email protected] to join or learn more

(Cost should not be a barrier— please reach out if you're interested)

In our FAMILIES Speak series, psychotherapist Kayla Solomon invites members from the support group she facilitates for Allies in Recovery to share their experiences navigating addiction in the family. These parents have faced similar struggles to so many others—but with Allies in Recovery, they’ve found a new way forward.

Those of us who’ve been learning and practicing CRAFT as taught by Allies in Recovery tend to agree: this stuff should be taught in schools! All parents should know about this! All humans would benefit!

As co-host Kenny explains, “In this journey, I’ve come to understand that the CRAFT skillset is really about relationships, generally, as much as it is how you maintain or develop a relationship with someone who’s in the throes of a substance use disorder.”

Not to mention, as Kayla points out, “It’s a massive growth opportunity for the person practicing it.” Practicing CRAFT in our daily lives not only heals relationships in general but also prepares us to act more skillfully with our struggling Loved Ones. Listen in and see if we convince you.

Starting in August, the support group will be offered on a sliding scale.

• Wednesdays at 6:30pm ET
• Email [email protected] to join or learn more

(Cost should not be a barrier— please reach out if you're interested)

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Isabel Cooney interviews her beloved colleague, Kayla Solomon. Kayla admits that when she was first trained in CRAFT, the 12-week framework of the method felt artificial — "It got stuck in my craw," she says. You'll hear the myriad ways that Kayla, through her work with families at Allies in Recovery, has tweaked and embellished the approach.

Kayla Solomon, a regular co-host of this podcast, is a psychotherapist with broad experience in the world of addiction and recovery. She instigated the creation of the Allies support & skills training group for family members, and continues to facilitate this transformative group every week.

** Starting in August, the support group that Kayla facilitates will be offered on a sliding scale.

• Wednesdays at 6:30pm ET
• Email [email protected] to join or learn more

(Cost should not be a barrier— please reach out if you're interested) **

At Allies in Recovery, we know that change starts with us. When we learn to self-regulate, it transforms our relationships with our Loved Ones struggling with addiction.

Visit ⁠Allies in Recovery⁠ to start your new path towards healing addiction in your family.

When accumulated trauma and worry have our anxiety levels running high, we are often in a place where we simply expect that (more) bad things are going to happen—even when, objectively, things seem to be going well. It can actually be just this, things going well, that feel so out of the ordinary that we assume it won’t last and start to live in a state of suspension. This in-between state prevents us from living in the moment, from celebrating even small successes or positive steps. Our team looks at how they’ve managed to combat this life-sucking tendency.

At Allies in Recovery, we know that change starts with us. When we learn to self-regulate, it transforms our relationships with our loved ones struggling with addiction.A family member (whose loved one is currently in recovery for over a year) recently said this about joining Allies: “I would say, just do it! It’s like the Bible of Healing Ourselves. It truly has changed the way I look at people, the way I see the world.”

Visit Allies in Recovery to start your new path towards healing addiction in your family.

Though designed for families to help shepherd Loved Ones into treatment and recovery, CRAFT turns out to be a versatile framework that you can use anywhere, with anyone. And since our relationship with our Self is foundational for all the rest, it’s only logical—essential, Kayla says—that we’d find ways to practice CRAFT on ourselves.

Does this sound confusing and strange? Let our families explain how they've approached this.

Our Families Speak series features a wonderful team of people navigating life with an addicted Loved One. They are all members of Allies in Recovery, an online platform providing proven, research-based training, guidance, support and resources for families with a Loved One struggling with substance use.

Alongside psychotherapist Kayla Solomon, they openly share their experiences, insights, and the CRAFT-based tools that have helped them shift the dynamic at home.

Join Allies in Recovery today to access expert guidance, support, and resources that help families create real change.