Are there ANY heroes when it comes to social media? Today’s episode is a deep dive into the immorality of the metasphere as they rake in billions from the “scammiest scammers” (their words), if it's possible to create ethical online spaces, what the future holds for how we all lead and scale our communities, and whether the return of Vine will be the saviour we’ve been waiting for.

Spoiler alert: we’re gonna have to save ourselves.

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This week, Xanthe is joined by somatic depth coach Antonia Dolhaine, in a conversation around identity, impact, and desire. Our discussion was RICHHHH with insight around topics like:

• How to safely share personal information online as someone who works in support of others

• Choosing a business model that scales depth, impact, and rest

• Amplifying your values through your community without relying on social media

• Being an eternal student and how to lead when you’re still in process

• The emotions that can guide you toward uncovering your true desires

• Looking at your work as a channel for your creative energy rather than a niche you’re stuck in

• Our societal obsession with self-definition and why we’ve become so obsessed with titles

• Detaching your identity from your leadership and learning who you are outside of it

Antonia is a former Cirque du Soleil acrobat turned somatic depth coach for uncommonly curious, creative, and ambitious beings seeking to answer the question: “what’s next?”. She draws from extensive training and experience in somatics, depth psychology, and systems-oriented work to support her clients to reach their peaks by befriending their depths.

CONNECT WITH ANTONIA:

antoniadolhaine.com

spaceunknown.substack.com

instagram.com/antoniadolhaine

TODAY, WE TREAT YOU TO:

• The latest porn-inspired optimization trend: nutmaxxing

• A disturbing pattern of woman-hating on the fall fashion runway

• Why you probably don’t want to follow the “betrayal list” trend

• The badass results of Gen Z’s global political activism

• A promising cultural advancement for fans of the Irish Goodbye

• Instagram’s latest updates to make it even harder to connect on their app

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IN THIS EPISODE ↓

• A follow-up re: Taylor Swift and why the album may be growing on us but the intent behind it is not

• The dangers of tying your income to your art and whether or not it’s possible to make money from things that matter to you

• What Barcelona has taught us about collaborative vs. competitive business models

• The “intimacy economy” and how folks are exploiting TMI-style content as an attempt at fake connection

• Why banning social media for minors is an optimistic vote for the future

• The concept of the “consideration span” and what it means for keeping attention on your long-form content

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Well, Taylor Swift’s worst album just dropped and we are giving our fulllllll review. That's alongside some updates we’re making to our business (and the podcast!) this quarter, a truly brutal FMK surrounding french delicacies, and Xanthe’s passionate take on read receipts in relationships. ENJOY.

Finally, some optimism! Online dating is dying! Flex culture is just faking it! Butter yellow is still in style! We don’t have to move again for a long fucking time! Also, we ask a question at the end that we’d genuinely love to know: what are 3 things you can talk about for 3 hours with no prep? Send Xanthe a DM at @xanthe.appleyard once you have your answer!

Except, no we don’t! Today’s episode goes deep into:

• The implications of government censorship in the U.S. as Jimmy Kimmel gets taken off air

• Trump’s new TikTok project and what an insular MAGA-led social platform could mean

• How to keep our private spaces safe from hateful viewpoints

• Why it can be valuable to follow people who don’t share your politics

• Impacting positive political change by taking your head out of the sand

• We also share a little update around our move to Barcelona as we get setup and settled!

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This week's episode gets into ↓

• Why Xanthe’s had a violent change of heart about re-entering TikTok

• Another super creepy initiative from Meta’s AI department

• How social media is informing the way books are written and promoted

• “Performative intellectualism” and Taylor Swift’s role in it

• The new Sabrina Carpenter album and its influence on the youth of today

• Alo Yoga’s alarming foray into luxury handbags

• The ghosts of the cottage trying to keep us from leaving

Annnnd, Social Life is launching to the waitlist right now and so you can save major money! Hop on it here.

Just a full-on LIFE UPDATE EPISODE detailing the BTS of securing our long-term lease in Barcelona, a status report on the cottage Airbnb launch, and everything we’re focusing on for the week before we officially relocate to Europe! ENJOYYYY.

XANTHE’S MOM IS ON THE PODCAST!!! We cover:

• Her career journey from pregnant college student to CEO of a major healthcare organization

• How she balanced being a present single parent, healing herself, and making ends meet

• Living below the poverty line and resourcing community as “her village”

• Our family dynamic of loving roasts, self-awareness, and intellectual intimacy

• Her experience as an artist whose relationship to creativity has evolved over decades

• Being the parent of an entrepreneur and how she really feels about all the risks we take

And so, so SO much more.

Sue Phipps is the CEO of Hamilton’s Canadian Mental Health Association. You can learn more about their work here.