LOVERS by Shan

And despite my husband not being there, it was an incredible experience that taught me so much. In this episode I share my top three epiphanies, the reason why the father not being there was the best choice for our family and what this all means for this podcast going forward.

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In todays Episode Jared takes over the podcast because Shan is full term and needs a break. Jared opens up about the struggles of living with a pregnant woman. It gets raw, real and unfiltered. If you have been pregnant before or lived with a pregnant women before can you relate! 

Note from Shan: This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!

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I'm 38 weeks pregnant and terrified that I still feel so negatively about my current life and the idea of life with two babies under two...so in this episode I unpack these very ugly feelings with some beautiful souls: actor Shanola Hampton (mother of two) and performance coach Lauren Morrison (mother of two). With them I ask the million dollar questions: what happens when the way you know you're supposed to feel, has little resemblance to your reality? And more frighteningly... What if that never changes?

This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!

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Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still...

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Here is the exercise Tee and I did together:

 

Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should go

Section Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life:

1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness?

2) Who are you, at your current best? 

3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost?

 

4) What is your vision for your future?

5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality?

 

Section Three - answering the hard questions

1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be?

2) Is this a familiar pattern?

3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel? 

4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner? 

5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner?

6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner?

7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today

8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship?

9) Should it be this much work?

10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now?

11) How will my life change without this person?

12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it?

13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship?

14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have?

15) If this is all there is, will it be enough? 

16) How often do you fight with your partner?

18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else?

 

Section Four
I pulled those prompts from this research article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550617722834

You can also find a table of the prompts here in this article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201708/how-do-we-decide-whether-or-not-break

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Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends?
 

According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning. 

You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds.

This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.

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Let’s get right into this week’s episode: do many straight men utilize sex education, outside of watching mainstream porn, in order to ensure they’re really putting it down?

In my opinion…no… as both a sex educator and as someone who’s had sex with straight men, I gotta say The ego that I’ve been met with from straight men has been toxic at times and really sad at others. And to me ego is both the biggest turnoff and biggest, for lack of a better term, cock blocker to actual great sex.

In this episode I get a group of straight men, a male sex coach and Tim Chantarangsu to shed light on why men are often too proud to engage in sex education.

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Male Sex Coach

Alex Grendi is a male sex coach that specializes in helping men with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. He also helps men integrate what they've learned about becoming superior sexual lovers into all areas of their life.

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To submit to someone else is defined as accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the authority or will of another. So, how does that play out in romantic partnerships? Actor, comedian and bestie in your head Jasmin Brown shares why she joyfully submits to her man unconditionally. Jasmin also sheds light on the power split, sexual dynamic, as well as the roles and responsibilities that often come with identifying as a submissive woman to an alpha partner. 

Has the art of submission in love and dating been lost? At the end of the episode I discuss this with a panel of my lovers and friends: Jared Brady, Lauren Morrison and Chris Morrison 

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If you give head, blow jobs, top, and/or oral sex on a penis…why not be the best of it? I brought together research from top experts, a medical penis expert, a self-proclaimed grade A head giver and a group of men to weigh in on the do's, don’ts and maybes that will make you a master at sucking dick.

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Resources for better oral sex on penis’ mentioned in this episode

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What's the relationship between toxic self-love and a toxic life? This is the question that Nina Parker was forced to answer when she turned 40. Her journey to discovering and then correcting what she found when she looked at her life honestly led her to the happiest time in her life!

In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Emmy nominated Television host and Fashion Designer Nina Parker shares how she got through her darkest time during the pandemic. Now, she’s gotten her life together in ways she never expected. As Nina put it, it's a rom-com … WITHOUT a partner. ENJOY! 

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Astrology … what has your experience been with it (especially) when it comes to dating? What if someone has a different perspective on it than you? Oftentimes, it can be a judgmental, mean, hot-ass mess when one person believes in the stars and astrological signs and the other does not. Personally, I think we can all collectively do better with it. In this episode, we dive into how believers and non-believers of astrology can come together and focus on what really matters.

This episode addresses and then attempts to bridge the divide. I am joined by famed astrologer Aliza Kelly as well as my astrology-loving friends Amber's Closet and Toni Romiti.

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ALIZA KELLY is a celebrity astrologer, columnist, bestselling author, and host. Aliza has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, InStyle, The Cut, and numerous other publications. She's the author of three books: Most recent being This Is Your Destiny: Using Astrology to Manifest Your Best Life Get Aliza's book here: https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Destiny-Astrology-Manifest/dp/1250763142/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=You can also listen to Aliza's podcast "Stars Like Us" wherever you listen to podcasts

Amber Whittington is one of the leading voices fighting for equality for the LGBTQ+ community.  A content creator, activist, host and actress, Amber is changing the world by using her platform to educate global audiences on the black and queer experiences. Amber is an avid astrology enthusiast.

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Toni Romiti is an athlete-turned-singer who parlayed viral fame into pop stardom. She has created music Alongside rapper Ty Dolla $ign, guested on DJ Carisma’s 2020 single “That’s Facts.” And is an avid astrology enthusiast.

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