By Loving BDSM
We help kinksters have happy, healthy power exchange relationships.
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Another week, another BDSM Reddit response episode — and this one has some heavy topics. Including one that comes with a content warning. If that section is something you want to avoid, skip ahead... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
This week’s episode is brought to you by our own personal stressors and more inspiration from Therapy Jeff! We’ve mentioned in the past that – when you can – it can be helpful to... The post Navigating Stress Before It Happens...
After an unplanned week off, we’re back with a topic that we know too many people have faced — breadcrumbing. We’re talking about what it is, what it can look like in power exchange... The post Breadcrumbing vs Doing the Little...
Thanks to Hurricane Idalia, we were a little out of sorts this week. The storm missed us, thankfully, but our heads weren’t in it, so we turned this week into a bonus section/random episode... The post A Random Episode appeared first...
We let y’all help us out over on Instagram this week and asked for kinky hot takes and unpopular opinions. We’re also celebrating our 8th podcast anniversary with a huge giveaway! That part took... The post Responding to Kinky Hot Takes...
Those of a certain age might recognize that line. It’s from En Vogue’s My Lovin’ (You’re Never Gonna Get It). “Never gonna get it, never gonna get it!” If that song is in your... The post And Now for a Break(Down)...
This week, before we take a week off, we’re answering you asked over at the handle I will forever fucking hate on Instagram! In this episode: We’re on a break next week. We have... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
This week, we’re responding to BDSM questions and situations kinksters have shared on the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community on Patreon! Submissive who doesn’t want to follow rules... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
This week, we’re answering more non-kinky relationship questions. These came from a marriage coach on Instagram who labeled these questions as conversation starters to deepen your connection. We’ll see about that, lol. In this... The post Answering More Non-Kinky Relationship Questions...
Pay attention to the air quotes because in this conversation, we had serious questions about this list. Joy Love Dolls compiled a list of the “most popular” kinks and fetishes using Google search data,... The post Most “Popular” Kinks and Fetishes...
Back in January we talked about how we’d started an OnlyFans page for our kinky fuckery and mentioned we might do a six-month update. Well, here it is! In this episode: Consider this episode... The post Our Kink Life on OnlyFans...
The real question is: Should D/s relationships be 50/50? We have definite opinions on this one. In this episode: Subscribe to our weekly newsletter and get a free BDSM checklist! This week’s episode was... The post Are D/s Relationships 50/50? appeared...
In this week’s podcast episode, we’re focusing on the positive and looking at how kink and power exchange have improved our lives – both as individuals and as a couple. In this episode: We... The post How D/s Has Improved Our...
We thought this was a “No thoughts, just vibes” kind of episode – because we didn’t have the energy to focus on a topic and there’s just been a lot going on lately. And... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first...
This week, we’re talking about the mental load each partner carries in power exchange. It’s a topic that touches on a lot of previous conversations: decision fatigue, burnout, the need for self-care, and on... The post Mental Load in Power Exchange...
We’re baaaaa-aaaaaack! Our break was good but now we want to have a bit of fun, so let’s respond to kinky situations shared on Reddit! In this episode: Try out our Patreon free for... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
We’re back with another episode where we answer relationship questions we found online. These questions are meant to help partners get back in touch with how much they love each other. And we found... The post Answering Relationship Questions to Reconnect...
We’re hitting a lot of milestones after 10 years in a D/s relationship. One we didn’t expect is that how we’re negotiating parts of our dynamic has changed. Here’s what that looks like for... The post How Our D/s Negotiations Have...
We’re trying something new, and it’s based off of our weekly newsletter. Each week, we include a section called BDSM in the News and share articles Kayla finds about BDSM and kink. Some are... The post BDSM in the News appeared...
Procrastination shows up in so many parts of our lives. Does that include our D/s relationships and kinky fuckery? Let’s talk about it! In this episode: Check out the kink resources we recommend including... The post Procrastination in Power Exchange appeared...
Ever feel like you could not make one more decision! As a Dom or a sub? Us too. So let’s talk about it! In this episode: We do all the things! Links below, lol.... The post Decision Fatigue in D/s Relationships...
We’re back with another BDSM Reddit response episode! Thanks to silentwinged who sent us a few questions to look at plus we found a couple on our own. One had Kayla’s blood boiling and... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
We’re back with a Q&A; episode! We asked for questions over on that handle Kayla fucking hates on Instagram and then took questions from the YouTube live stream. In this episode: Join us on... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
This week, things get a bit heavy as we discuss our (ongoing) experiences with depression as a Dom and sub in a power exchange relationship. We don’t get into too many details but if... The post Our Experience with D/s and...
A post on Reddit got us talking about topping from the bottom…seven years after the first time we talked about it! While a lot of the sentiments are the same, this is a different... The post Topping from the Bottom |...
We’re using quotes in the title for a reason, y’all! Is the Bible Belt kinkier than most people probably realize? Absolutely! Does this survey prove that? Ehhhhhh….let’s talk about it. In this episode We... The post Survey “Reveals” How Kinky the...
In this week’s episode, we’re taking a question we received in a previous Q&A; and expanding it to a full conversation. The question: How do I figure out my kink style and identity? These... The post Figuring Out Your Kinky Self...
We’ve discussed aspects of sensation play – pain, wax, electroplay – many times in the past, but we’ve never discussed the broader topic of sensation play. Until now! Is this fully comprehensive? Of course... The post Sensation Play appeared first on...
In this week’s episode, we take “silly but serious” questions posed by a therapist on social media and answer them from the perspective of our long-term D/s relationship. In this episode: Register for the... The post Answering Silly But Serious Relationship...
We needed an easy one this week – as we’re both still recovering from being sick – so we went with a response to questions asked on the BDSM side of Reddit. In this... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
This week’s episode is similar to other episodes in the archive but with a twist. Yes, we’re talking about what we’ve learned over the years but with a focus on how we’ve changed and,... The post How We’ve Evolved in BDSM...
JB said he wanted to stream/record but that, and he wasn’t “firing on all cylinders.” So we turned this week’s into a big (to us) announcement and a bonus section episode. In this episode:... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first...
We’ve teased this topic over the past several weeks, and we’re finally getting to it – the division of labor in your home and family while you also try to live your best D/s... The post Division of Labor in Power...
It’s the first episode of 2023 so we’re sharing our personal and professional goals and plans for the year! This episode actually focuses more on the personal side – both as individuals and our... The post Our 2023 Plans and Goals...
For this last episode before we take a couple of weeks off, we’re responding to questions and situations shared on the BDSM side of Reddit. And yes, there are rants in this one. In... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
We asked for your questions over at that handle we fucking hate on Instagram, and y’all delivered! We got so many we couldn’t answer them all! If you have BDSM-related questions for us, we... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
Ten years ago from the time we recorded this week’s episode, we were “meeting” each other through blog comments. On December 23, it will be ten years since our first conversation. Next year, we’ll... The post What We’ve Learned After a...
It’s that time of year again — time to talk about the sex toys we’ve loved this year, plus some Black Friday sales and specials. Because no one should pay full price for fuckery,... The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of...
This week is a bit different but something we’ve wanted to do a while. Our dear friend, Professor Sex, finished their thesis several months ago and generously allowed us to discuss their work on... The post Research on Kink Behavior vs....
The topic of toxic masculinity — in power exchange and kink or not — is a huge one. But as with all of these conversations, we have to start somewhere. In this week’s episode,... The post Toxic Masculinity in Power Exchange...
Spoiler: This episode is about sex, and it’s a TMI episode about the two of us, our sexual fantasies, turn-ons, and more. If that’s more than you want to hear, feel free to skip... The post Answering Spicy Questions appeared first...
We mentioned something in last week’s episode on people-pleasing — about needing to talk to JB about a stressor Kayla tried to handle alone — and it got us thinking about the things we... The post Sharing Burdens in Power Exchange...
People pleasing happens for a lot of reasons, and it manifests in a lot of ways. We’re talking about it this week, specifically as it relates to power exchange and D/s, based (primarily) on... The post People Pleasing in Power Exchange...
We’ve talked about intimacy before — link below — but this time, a post on Instagram gave me (Kayla) some specific examples of intimacy beyond the obvious. Also, yes, this is a solo episode... The post Different Types of Intimacy in...
This week’s episode was recorded while we waited for Hurricane Ian, so it’s more chaotic than usual. Also, we took help from kinksters over on Instagram. We asked, “What do you wish people (including... The post What Kinksters Want Others to...
This week, we’re reacting (or responding) to the BDSM questions asked on Reddit! In this episode: Live Stream/Virtual Munch this Friday, September 16! We’re taking next week off. Reacting/responding to BDSM questions from Reddit... The post BDSM Reddit Reaction appeared first...
This week, we answered listener questions about a variety of topics: masochism, kinky bucket lists, non-monogamy, and more! In this episode: Our first scene experience Where are all the middles? How do we deal... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
This week, let’s talk about voice kinks: what are they and do we have any? In this episode: Defining voice kinks What we like about voices Do we have a voice kink? Thanks to... The post Voice Kinks appeared first on...
This week, we’re talking about anger, upset, and other negative feelings specifically in terms of submission. How do you submit when you’re angry at your Dom? The answer is…it depends. In this episode: Want... The post Submitting While Angry or Upset...
This week, we get personal — more than usual — and have a formal check-in of our D/s relationship. We tend to do this on a frequent and casual basis, bringing up concerns or... The post Checking in on Our D/s...