By Loving BDSM
We help kinksters have happy, healthy power exchange relationships.
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This week, we answered listener questions about a variety of topics: masochism, kinky bucket lists, non-monogamy, and more! In this episode: Our first scene experience Where are all the middles? How do we deal... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
This week, let’s talk about voice kinks: what are they and do we have any? In this episode: Defining voice kinks What we like about voices Do we have a voice kink? Thanks to... The post Voice Kinks appeared first on...
This week, we’re talking about anger, upset, and other negative feelings specifically in terms of submission. How do you submit when you’re angry at your Dom? The answer is…it depends. In this episode: Want... The post Submitting While Angry or Upset...
This week, we get personal — more than usual — and have a formal check-in of our D/s relationship. We tend to do this on a frequent and casual basis, bringing up concerns or... The post Checking in on Our D/s...
In this week’s podcast, we discuss the term “service top” — and there are a lot of ways to define it! In this episode: Multiple definitions of service top What it means to us... The post What is a Service Top?...
We (kind of) get where this question comes from — submissives are seen to bend to the will of their Dominant partner, submissive training and behavior modification are tools used in some D/s relationships.... The post Does a Submissive Have to...
In this week’s episode, we took questions from Instagram and then from the YouTube live chat. Plus, the bonus section actually has bonus content about our power exchange. (Proving miracles can happen.) In this... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
We’re back with another BDSM Reddit reaction episode! And for once, the answer to all of these posts was something other than, “Talk to your partner!” In this episode: Why the podcast was late... The post BDSM Reddit Reaction appeared first...
A term keeps popping up in Kayla’s feeds: conscious kink. But what does that even mean? Is it a new way of thinking about BDSM or is it a catch-all term used in marketing?... The post What is Conscious Kink? appeared...
It might seem like a random topic but the joy we’ve felt (at times) in our power exchange is so powerful and amazing that it’s important to acknowledge. And also, we can’t be the... The post Joy in D/s Relationships appeared...
In this week’s episode, we talk about the label “alpha sub” — how it was defined when we first heard of it and what it means to many people today. In this episode: Thanks... The post What is an Alpha Sub?...
John Brownstone posed an interesting question when thinking about power exchange relationships and new potential partners: What do you bring to the table as a kinkster and just as a person? So that’s what... The post What Do You Bring to...
A listener sent us a question about telling the difference between love bombing and being an eager caregiver type with new relationship energy (NRE). We decided to talk about love bombing, ideas for figuring... The post Love Bombing and Power Exchange...
Assuming you’re in a mostly healthy, happy power exchange relationship, anger is something you’re going to have to navigate — your own and your partner’s. So this week, we’re sharing a few tips and... The post Minisode 57: Tips for Dealing...
This week, we’re revisiting a topic we talked about back in 2019: teamwork in power exchange. The conversation focuses on a book we recently read specifically on the idea of having a dynamic built... The post Collaboration and Teamwork appeared first...
Not every power exchange relationship needs (or wants!) an element of discipline, punishment, and consequences. But for those who do, there are a lot of things to keep in mind. This week, we’re sharing... The post Minisode 56: Punishment Tips appeared...
This week we’re talking about something near and dear to our experience — perfectionism, and how it can impact your power exchange relationship and you as a kinkster, regardless of your role. In this... The post Perfectionism in Power Exchange appeared...
We’re baaaaa-aaaaaack…and we’re trying to get back into a groove, both for the podcast and in our D/s relationship. This week’s episode is more like a giant bonus section with updates about where we’ve... The post Getting Back Into a Groove...
As you may know, JB has been pulled away from home and work to help take care of his ailing mom. It means he’s not at home as much, and he’s under a lot... The post Our Power Exchange During Times...
Subspace is just one experience submissives can have during a kink scene. As we’ve discussed before, subspace isn’t a guarantee for every scene, and some people may never even get there. So let’s talk... The post Minisode 55: Beyond Subspace appeared...
We’re back with another response (reaction?) to questions asked over on the BDSM side of Reddit. In this episode: This week’s episode is sponsored by Beducated. Answering questions on BDSM reddit. Thanks to our... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first...
This week, we’re sharing the audio version of a video we made recently on a few things to remember about consent in your power exchange relationship. Most (all?) of it will be familiar because... The post Minisode 54: Consent in Power...
We love a good process that we can (mostly) repeat over and over again. Yes, even in kink and for new kinky fuckery. This week, we’re sharing what we do when we’re ready to... The post Minisode 53: Trying New Kinks...
This week we asked for your kinky questions over on Instagram (at that handle I will forever fucking hate) and in the live chat on YouTube while we recorded. In this episode: This week’s... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
Too many kinksters chase subspace and then feel disappointed after their scene. Not because it didn’t go well but because they didn’t undergo a bio-chemical reaction that they had absolutely no control over. So... The post Minisode 52: Subspace appeared first...
This week, we’re going back in the archive to episode 6 where we talked about how we made the switch to DD/lg (Daddy Dom/little girl). This time, we’re asking ourselves – is that who... The post Are We Still DD/lg? |...
New to the idea of electroplay? Like all other kinks, you need to learn about it before you try it – especially the risks. Here are a few things to keep in mind as... The post Minisode 51: Electroplay Basics and...
Towards the end of 2021, we both admitted to each other we were starting to feel burnt out – in our power exchange! While our relationship wasn’t the source of the burnout, it could... The post Burnout in Power Exchange and...
For the big 5-0, we decided to talk about one of our favorite things in kink – impact play. Specifically, we’re sharing different types of toys we absolutely love to use for impact play!... The post Minisode 50: Our Favorite Impact...
This week, we’re talking about our experience during Kayla’s recovery from surgery – a time when she wasn’t able to be her service submissive self in her usual way. We share how we both... The post When a Service Submissive Can’t...
Too many people still ask, “Can you have a power exchange relationship and be a parent?” To that, we say, “YES!” As with all things parenting, compromises have to be made, but in our... The post Minisode 49: Tips for Balancing...
This week, we celebrate a major podcasting milestone – 300 episodes of our Friday conversations. So this week we’re reflecting on what we’ve learned – about BDSM, about talking about BDSM, and about ourselves.... The post What We’ve Learned After 300...
JB is a sadist and Kayla is a masochist, and it’s something we talk about in a lot of contexts. In this week’s mini episode, we’re sharing a few things we want people to... The post Minisode 48: Sadism and Masochism...
Not only is this episode filled with Kayla Rants™, there’s also the rare sighting of a JB Rant™! In this episode: The Patreon Membership Drive continues through February 15 Thanks to silentwinged for sending... The post BDSM Reddit Reaction appeared first...
We’ve talked about red flags that Doms show and red flags from submissives, but what about red flags in power exchange, regardless of the role? This week, we share a few that we tend... The post Minisode 47: Red Flags in...
This week, we’re taking a look at two newish-to-us terms – hard dom and soft dom. What do they mean and what do we think about them as terms? In this episode: The Patreon... The post Hard Doms vs Soft Doms...
Forced orgasms are our jam around here, and we love a good vibrator to help us both out. In this minisode we share a few of our favorite toys and why they’re our favorites.... The post Minisode 46: Our Favorite Vibrators...
This week, we’re re-visiting episode five from the archives. In that episode, Kayla answered common submissive questions regarding bad behavior that all seemed to end in, “Is this okay?” and “Is this normal?” This... The post Questioning Whether Bad Kinky Behavior...
All BDSM carries risk. Some is a little, some is a lot. And it’s easy to ignore the risks when you’re focused on fulfilling a fantasy, finally experiencing a power exchange, or exploring new... The post Minisode 45: BDSM Safety Tips...
In this week’s episode, we share our 2022 goals and how our power exchange impacts our goals and why we think goals are important. In this episode: Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring! Use code... The post Sharing Our 2022 Goals appeared...
We’re baaaa-aaaaack! But we’re not fully operational yet, lol. Instead of skipping this week, we turned this episode into a giant bonus section. If you only want the kink tips, help, and information, feel... The post One Big Bonus Section appeared...
We don’t make New Year’s Resolutions, but we do like to set new goals at the beginning of the year. In this week’s minisode, we share tips on how to set and reach your... The post Minisode 44: Tips for Setting...
It’s the last podcast episode of 2021 so we turned it into a Q&A;! Enjoy! PS: We were also extremely chaotic – more so than usual. You’ve been warned. In this episode: Kinky Book... The post BDSM Q&A; appeared first on...
New to impact play? Just starting to explore spankings and beyond? Here are a few tips to keep in mind! A massive thanks to our Patreon community for making these shorter episodes possible! Links... The post Minisode 43: Impact Play Tips...
In our third episode, Kayla shared a some characteristics on what makes someone a good Dominant. We revamped the list, slightly, for a YouTube video in 2021. But we’ve never really had the conversation... The post Good Doms | Revisiting Episode...
Not everyone cares if people know they’re kinky. Not everyone visits with vanilla friends and family during the holidays. But if you do care and you will be spending the holidays with non-kinksters, we’re... The post Minisode 42: Tips for Surviving...
We have a lot of fun with these BDSM Reddit episodes, and if you enjoy Kayla-Rants™, you probably do, too. This week, we talk about toxic behavior, unionizing submissives, and more! In this episode:... The post Responding to BDSM Reddit…Again appeared...
Whether it’s sub drop or top drop, it can happen to anyone. Here are a few things to keep in if you find yourself going through it. A massive thanks to our Patreon community... The post Minisode 41: Drop appeared first...
Another Black Friday, another list of sex toys and kinky gear we love and recommend! All the links to everything we’ve mentioned are down below! Kink up your holidays with something fun and new!... The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of...
We’re trying something new this week, y’all: BDSM book recommendations on the podcast! If you like this and want more recs, let us know. A massive thanks to our Patreon community for making these... The post Minisode 40: 3 BDSM Book...