Let’s be honest. . . 

You can still love your mom from afar, but what are these feelings of love and hate for our moms? 

Can we just “get over” it? 

Let's discuss the good, bad, and ugly of having a difficult, abusive mom. And by abusive, it can be emotionally abusive which is sometimes more hurtful than physical because the scars are on the inside. I sat with so many women who have stories of getting angry with their moms and I see others on social media who have excuses for their feelings. 

Some questions to think about this week are: 

• Is your anger valid?
• Do you need to tell your mom how you feel, or if she has passed, can you still feel anger and love?
• When is it time to let the anger go?
• Can you find peace through all of this?
• What does grieving look like if she has passed on?

Find ways to take care of your emotions on this. You need to get to a healthy place and let God guide you through it slowly! Do not rush this process. Scream in a pillow. Write a letter and burn it. Tie a knot with a ripped sheet or some kind of material. Pray and sit silently with some Christian (calming) music and when you are ready, untie the knot and the promise that you will NOT continue to let her control you anymore.

Don’t let these feelings overcome you.

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*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.