Make Your Damn Bed

This is a re-release of an older episode because I found out my resource for the planned episode was bogus and I have to rewrite around a more reputable idea. I'll be back tomorrow to wrap up the disinformation series!

- Julie

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Interacting with misinformation only is nearly unavoidable at this point, but spreading it further can be reduced if we're conscious of how it works.

THE SOURCE: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2018/03/largest-study-ever-fake-news-mit-twitter/555104/

THE COURSE: https://courses.sogicampaigns.org/disinformation/

PAYWALL BYPASS: https://12ft.io/

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The difference is in the intention, but the intention may surprise you.

SOURCES:

https://commonslibrary.org/disinformation-in-the-digital-age/

https://commonslibrary.org/disinformation-and-7-common-forms-of-information-disorder/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw5PK_BhBBEiwAL7GTPWE2DOUrW3xeY1ZONqvuHRGIJKJfrWaQrhZYLgA8cf3uJUxPmxjTyhoCC_8QAvD_BwE

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The goal is to “consume consciously” more often than you’re letting shit "consume you, unconsciously”.

James Baldwin puts it like this: “The industry is compelled, given the way it is built, to present to the American people a self-perpetuating fantasy of American life. Their concept of entertainment is difficult to distinguish from the use of narcotics. To watch the TV screen for any length of time is to learn some really frightening things about the American sense of reality. We are cruelly trapped between what we would like to be and what we actually are. And we cannot possibly become what we would like to be until we are willing to ask ourselves just why the lives we lead on this continent are mainly so empty, so tame, and so ugly. These images are designed not to trouble, but to reassure. They also weaken our ability to deal with the world as it is, ourselves as we are.”

Josh Johnson: “Art can save your life but entertainment will never be your salvation. Entertainment by and large is escapism and no one has ever escaped their chains by forgetting they were shackled.”

Watch Josh Johnson's special: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TgKsG6NZSIo

Read James Baldwin's words: https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/a23960/james-baldwin-cool-it/ (If there's a paywall, you can go to a paywall bypass site to avoid subscription fees!!!)

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We all have limited time and if shit doesn’t make us feel empowered or better or less nihilistic, then we have to remember we’ve ultimately got the power to change that. 

You’re allowed to and supposed to watch entertainment for joy and motivation and pleasure and curiosity and even to be petty as long as you don’t forget that the entertainment is affecting you in more than one way so in my experience being aware of the presence of a pipeline towards alt right extremism is a very crucial step in not sliding down it or unknowingly promoting it. 

Alternative influencers who "homestead" but aren't afraid to talk about the elephant in the room:

Alexis Nicole (Forager + Educational + So charming): https://www.instagram.com/blackforager/?hl=en

Science Based Homestead farmer: https://www.tiktok.com/@thezenhenandthehoneybee?_t=ZP-8wBf6CAjQ47&_r=1

Chaotic Forager: https://www.tiktok.com/@chaoticforager?_t=ZP-8wBeyyPNULv&_r=1

Homestead + Farmer: https://www.tiktok.com/@offgridhomesteadfam?_t=ZP-8wBeyOPObJX&_r=1

TODAY'S MAIN SOURCES:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tradwife#:~:text=A%20tradwife%20(a%20neologism%20for,of%20being%20a%20traditional%20wife.  

https://www.shatteringthesilence.org/blog/what-is-a-tradwife 

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The title buries the lede, because there is no upside, but there are ways to avoid falling victim to the trap of consuming with no idea of the impact.

It's good practice to assume that everything you're consuming online or on TV is marketing, either of a person, an ideology, or a product, which wouldn't be a big deal if it was honest with us.

The lie leads to shame and homogeny and an overall feeling of "insufficiency".

At the very best, it steals your time. At it's worst - it steals more.

Don't let it.

MAIN SOURCES:

https://www.mediamatters.org/tiktok/study-tradwife-influencers-are-quietly-spreading-far-right-conspiracy-theories 

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8022555/ 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tradwife#:~:text=A%20tradwife%20(a%20neologism%20for,of%20being%20a%20traditional%20wife.  

https://www.shatteringthesilence.org/blog/what-is-a-tradwife 

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These influencers make careers out of convincing you to give yours up.

It seems pretty obvious that it’s supposed to benefit men but in reality it benefits nobody - people that don’t fall sharply into a gender binary suffer, women suffer, and unfortunately even men suffer under this system.  

The whole thing contradicts itself. It’s snake oil. Toxic fumes to huff so you’re too high to notice them abusing your free labor and support.  

Pretends to be empowering, when it's the opposite.

Pretends to make you more secure, when it's the opposite.

Pretends to be aesthetic and peaceful, when it's the opposite.

These influencers make careers out of convincing you to quit yours.

It's a grift. Don't fall for it.

Glamorizing hard work without acknowledging the true difficulty and depths of demands of it is DANGEROUS.  

SOURCES:

https://www.mediamatters.org/tiktok/study-tradwife-influencers-are-quietly-spreading-far-right-conspiracy-theories 

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8022555/ 

https://www.shatteringthesilence.org/blog/what-is-a-tradwife 

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I think the skeeziest lie about the trad wife movement is that it’s just a type of stay at home mom. Unlike stay-at-home moms, who may choose to stay home for practical reasons, like saving money on child care or because they genuinely want to, trad wives adhere to incredibly strict traditional gender roles - regardless of what the woman actually wants. A woman's identity becomes "the family" and looking "good" for the family, anything outside of that is to be shamed explicitly.

According to wikipedia: Tradwives have been linked to the alt-right movement.

Patriarchy need the gender binary so they can claim that things fit neatly into it. If I say men and women exist and there’s no spectrum of how that presents, despite there being no proof - I also get to say that some work is women’s work and I won’t ever have to do it. 

Washing the dishes is a life skill that anyone who has eaten off of a dish should master. Laundry is a life skill. Cooking is a life skill. Child rearing is a life skill. Hygiene is a life skill. Communication is a life skill. If you have a life, it will benefit from knowing how to do these skills. 

Forced binaries are an attempt to control the uncontrollable. To justify rules where rules shouldn’t exist. 

Organically + intentionally falling into "traditional gender roles" is wonderful, but gender roles shouldn't exist in the first place, so we absolutely need to avoid forcing people into them.

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It's not the filters, or the photoshops, or the ads - it's a combination of all of it. It's keeping us so insecure that we don't do anything but focus on how we look.

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Bachelor Contestants have spoken out about how dates, meltdowns, and interactions were directed by producers. Pawn Stars admits to rehearsing and choosing their interactions.  House Hunters pretends to have them choose between three houses, but their house was already purchased. The other two were just for the show. Survivor contestants admit to getting help and storylines from off camera. Storage Wars producers place valuable items in the lockers to make it seem more exciting and profitable. Property Brothers is fake. Catfish is fake. Love Island is fake. 

And like - fine. It’s all fake. We can argue that because we all know, or because it is sometimes very obvious, that it doesn’t matter. But it does because it shifts our idea of normal and acceptable. It makes us feel like everyone behaves like a character. It convinces us that we're not normal if we're not always camera ready.

But because it’s normal to sell us things plan your vacation around instagram, or stage your house because you want to look cool on a tiktok, or have a face filter every time you post, It’s not just becoming harder to tell what’s fake, there’s simply very little left that isn’t. 

Ray Richmond quotes about reality TV:  https://www.today.com/popculture/just-how-real-are-reality-tv-shows-2D80554998

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