Man Alive

The world is changing and fast! As a parent, brother, uncle or mentor to a young person, you are likely not as prepared to guide a kid into the future as you thought you'd be. It's not your fault! How could you keep up with the exponential growth and unraveling of the world as we know it? It has been a wild couple of years and most of us could use some help! Today's Man Alive Podcast guest, Matt Barnes, is someone who has answers. He is the father of three amazing teens who were educated in traditional, hybrid, micro, and self-directed learning models. He brings POWERFUL WISDOM in the field of education and parenting and from 25 years of experience, running an $18m hospital department, distributing $500m in philanthropy, leading an education reform nonprofit, serving on nine educational boards and coaching thousands of parents to "WIN" The Education Game. In this episode, we discussed:

• The 3 types of communication that are most important for kids to learn
• The role of dad and how it is changing because of technology and the state of the world
• What it takes for your child to become the curious, autonomous, high-agency learner the future will require
• Matt's Education Game and how to educate kids while also educating yourself
• Matt's book: Elon's Kids and Yours: A Disruptive Education Playbook for Non-Billionaire Parents

Matt's wisdom hit me in the heart and has already impacted my relationship with and how I educate my kid! Also if you haven't seen, we have 3 more days of our 6 Day Real Attraction Reboot and it's not too late to join! The recordings of days 1-3 are in the FB group. In the 6 Day Reboot you'll learn how to:

• Avoid repeating past mistakes and working hard at attraction
• Stop being the friend or the man a woman won't sleep with
• Understand Woman-Speak, and what women aren't telling you, so women are less maddening ;)
• Get back in the game when you've been out of it -- dating or even in your long term relationship
• Develop REAL Confidence...rather than what most people think confidence is, that keeps you lacking it
• Increase your mojo even as you get older and testosterone fades

>> Find out more and sign up for FREE here I want you to be able to say what one of my clients said: "Before working with Shana, I felt I had to conceal my sexuality with women so as not to offend them. It's like I've progressed 20 years in a few weeks. I've never felt so good about myself, or so secure. My NEW girlfriend came over and we made wild, passionate love until 4:00am. And I now see new possibilities in my life with everything I want to achieve." - Joe >>Click Here to Sign Up For the Real Attraction Reboot You'll have a chance to win prizes when you show up and participate ($1000 Value)! Connect with Matt Barnes www.theeducationgame.com Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today's guest, Connell Barrett, has a mission to help men attract a soulmate while being authentic and confident. He is the founder of Dating Transformation and shows men a new way to date with his new book, Dating Sucks But You Don't. We all know dating can be challenging. And as you get older it can become more challenging. Your body may not work the way it used to. You may not know what women are looking for as they get older. Online dating can be confusing and exhausting as you try to present yourself in a way that stands out. But one of the hardest parts many of my clients talk about is the self-doubt dating tends to bring up. It can make you question yourself and your worth, even if you normally don't. In this episode, we discussed:

• Why Nice Guys finish first, not last
• How you can use a great mindset to attract women, instead of a great line
• Focusing on connection rather than conquest
• Using courage as the currency to buy you confidence
• Why you get to be uniquely you, rather than trying to be who you think a woman wants

Also, if you haven't yet registered for next week's FREE event — the REAL ATTRACTION REBOOT — don't miss it! >>Learn more about the Reboot and register here! Connect with Connell Barrett https://datingtransformation.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women More about the REAL ATTRACTION REBOOT: In the 6 Day Reboot you'll learn to:

• Avoid repeating past mistakes and working hard at attraction
• Stop being the friend or the man a woman won't sleep with
• Understand Woman-Speak, and what women aren't telling you, so women are less maddening ;)
• Get back in the game when you've been out of it -- dating or even in your long term relationship
• Develop REAL Confidence...rather than what most people think confidence is, that keeps you lacking it
• Increase your mojo even as you get older and testosterone fades

After a crazy accident where he drove off a bridge, today's Man Alive Podcast guest was paralyzed from the waist down. He had such severe nerve pain that he was given a life expectancy of only a few years (similar to Christopher Reeves). Miraculously, while watching a movie in the hospital, his understanding of pain changed and he set out on a quest to relieve his, and others', pain. Richard Hanbury has experienced more pain than many of us will in a lifetime, but the important part is he did not give up. Amazingly he created a device that allows people to enter into the brain states that long term meditators reach to relieve many types of pain, sometimes even forever! His nerve pain has not returned in the years since the development. In this important episode, we discussed:

• How psychological and physical pain manifest and can feed into addictions
• Suggestions for more clarity and relief from pain -- physical and emotional
• The most important thing to do for yourself as a CEO
• Richard's story of paralysis and his diagnosis
• The device Richard created that took away his nerve pain in three months

I highly suggest listening to this episode for a dose of possibility and a reboot of courage and strength. Richard is one of the most inspiring humans I've met. To come through such intense pain and then use it to be in service of healing others is an extraordinary feat. Speaking of Reboot, if you haven't yet registered for next week's FREE event -- the Real Attraction Reboot, don't miss it! >>Learn more about the Reboot and register here! Connect with Richard Hanbury https://www.sana.io/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today's Man Alive podcast guest believes that even though nothing is perfect, you deserve a career you love. Kyle Elliott is a career coach in Silicon Valley and has worked in fast paced, high intensity atmospheres. He helps people understand how to know when to make a change in their career and when to move on to a different career. He also helps people own their fabulousness and achieve the impossible! Even when you love your career, there's going to be a time when work feels like, well, work! You likely spend MANY hours a week working ant that often takes up more time than anything else you do! It is natural to go through phases of enjoying what you do, and phases when work is frustrating, unsatisfying or even demoralizing. In this important episode, we discussed:

• The role risk plays in being satisfied with what you do
• How thinking about leaving a legacy can guide you to the right career now
• How to "caffeinate" your career process
• The overlaps between professional development, mental health and social justice
• Kyle's experience helping Silicon Valley executives find a meaningful career path

Kyle has a story of finding his career that I think you'll find inspiring! Connect with Kyle Elliott https://caffeinatedkyle.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

It can be challenging to find time to take care of yourself. As a single parent (who has homeschooled my kid for the past year during a Pandemic), who owns my own business and has aging parents, I get it. I know what it's like to push the limits of time and find ways to fit self-care into the nooks and crannies of life, but it is NOT easy. That's why this conversation with today's Man Alive podcast guest was so inspiring to me. Dai Manuel is a 43-year old dad of two teenage daughters, a busy entrepreneur and a community leader. He has figured out how to be a great husband, a loving father, an endearing friend AND prioritize his self-care habits. Dai is the author of Whole Life Fitness Manifesto and helps people take great care of themselves, in less time than they imagined possible. In this important episode, we discussed:

• The way to find more time for what you really want
• How to have a healthier mind, body and spirit in only 30 minutes a day
• The key to believing in yourself when you want to make a change you're not confident about
• How to change your language to achieve better results
• Dai's personal struggle with losing weight and how he courageously stepped into a healthy lifestyle

Connect with Dai Manuel https://www.daimanuel.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

While it may seem cliche, the reality is that you have one life to live! As you get older, it's important to check in with your goals and visions, to see if you've left anything or any parts of you behind. Life is too short to be defeated or drained, or to feel like a zombie in your work or relationships. If that's happening, it's time for a change!

Today's Man Alive podcast guest is a truly inspiring man. Dr. Tim Reynolds is not only a medical doctor and director, here is also a professor, a pilot, a world traveler, has been in the military and owns a ranch. He has written about his life and how he empowers himself and others to take control of their lives in his book: Living Every Minute. He writes about the seven pillars of creating a spectacular life, rather than settling or tolerating good enough.

In today's episode, we discussed:

• The 30 second make-out and other tips to keep passion alive with the same woman for decades
• How to not only raise, but be connected with your children
• What to do now to create an amazing life, even if you don't know your purpose
• Why adventure is necessary in life, especially for men
• Tools for being the best husband you can be and inspiring your spouse to be the same

Connect with Dr. Tim Reynolds livingeveryminute.com

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For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Robert Manni, is the founder of the Guy's Guy Podcast. He has a modern take on what a guy's guy is, beyond the stereotypes and limitations of past generations. Robert is a surprising guy. As an advertising executive who had two near-death scares he has been guided by a curiosity about energy and spirituality from a young age. He is a Reiki practitioner and hypnotherapist to name just a couple of his certifications. Never before in history, he said, have men had the choice of roles -- which you want to take on and which you want to do away with. You could choose to be the breadwinner if you want to, but you could just as easily choose to stay home and raise kids! You have the freedom to make choices based on what is meaningful and exciting to you, rather than follow a prescribed path. I know it's not always easy being a man, but according Robert, it is a great time to be a man! In today's episode, we discussed:

• How being a guy's guy moves you beyond the outdated idea of being a man's man
• What the re-emancipation of today's men looks like
• How to find power and inspiration in your most painful, and even life threatening, moments
• Robert's experience beyond the cognitive dimension, with healing, guides and spiritual dimensions
• The most important lesson about dating and relationship Robert learned from his wife

Links:

Connect with Robert Manni

http://robertmanni.com/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today's Man Alive podcast is focused on my favorite topic -- the overlaps between sales and sex, business and the bedroom! Our guest, Dave Dee teaches people to get more of what they want by being persuasive, without being manipulative. Dave went from being a struggling magician to an expert in sales. He is the author of Sales Stampede and has taught sales strategies to tens of thousands of business owners. He helps us look at life through the lens of sales. It is powerful and surprising to think about how you "sell" without realizing it, in many of your conversations! Even if you don't sell services or products in your work, you are still often "selling" your ideas and desires, both at work and at home. When you engage with others about what you want, or what you see as possible, you are "selling" as you attempt to inspire, get buy in and create agreements that forward your goals! In today's episode, we discussed:

• The difference between persuasion and manipulation
• How to lead with your needs rather than repel someone with neediness
• How to become more collaborative so you never have to "close" a sale
• The power of rapport and understanding a client, or a lover's, deeper WHY
• How to apply selling skills with integrity, in relationships and business

Connect with Dave Dee www.davedee.com Get the Sales Stampede book Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, film director and producer Roger Nygard, spent seven years creating the documentary The Truth About Marriage. This is the first documentary he has appeared in, though he has created many others, including the well-known Trekkies! (Fun Shana fact you might not have guessed: I've always considered myself a Trekkie though according to Roger I'm not an actual Trekkie because I've never been to a convention!) In this documentary Roger interviewed well-known psychologists, including John and Julie Gottman, and Pat Allen, as well as other therapists, sociologists, couples and singles with a variety of views on marriage. He and his experts share about common breakdowns that occur in marriage and how to have the best chance at success. Whether you're married now, or want to be someday, Roger brings important information and perspectives to break free from the norm of people struggling to keep marriage alive and exciting these days! In our conversation we discussed:

• How people tend to sabotage themselves and create dissatisfaction in relationships
• Simple ways to maintain relationship well-being over time
• What it takes to be happy on your own, rather than depend on your partner for it
• The root causes of relationship struggles
• What made Roger's best date ever and led to the best sex of his life!

I REALLY enjoyed this conversation with Roger and highly recommend watching the documentary after you listen. Connect with Roger Nygard http://rogernygard.com/ http://thetruthaboutmarriage.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

It's common to create a vision for your life and live into it for years, or decades. But at some point you may wake up and realize you have grown and your vision is no longer aligned with the current version of you! You may start to feel adrift in life, or on autopilot -- doing day to day tasks without feeling inspired. You may wonder if what you're doing is meaningful. Today's Man Alive podcast is with Taylor Morgan, a Holistic Lifestyle Specialist and founder of The Captain's Lifestyle. Taylor is an incredible and humble example of a man who is always finding and creating ways to optimize your life, while being more powerful, vital and impactful! In our conversation we discussed:

• The first thing you can do in the morning to make everything else feel easier
• How to have work-life balance without sacrificing business
• How men asking for help is actually a good thing
• Why no one can actually control you
• The difference between excellence and perfection
• Taylor's sniper platoon test and the important lessons it revealed

Pay special attention to Taylor's story about his sniper platoon test. Most of us never experience what Taylor did and he turned a potentially devastating experience into wisdom for himself and others! Connect with Taylor Morgan https://www.thecaptainslifestyle.com/ Connect with Shana James shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women