Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Riana Milne, MA, CCTP, is a Life, Love and Trauma Recovery Coach who has appeared on CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News. She is an author for top media outlets like eHarmony and Digital Romance. Riana specializes in helping people with childhood and love trauma heal and have the love they deserve.  You may have wondered what you're doing wrong and why you're falling into the same conflicts or patterns over the years. You may have even beat yourself up about it. 

Research shows 90% of all adults suffer in love. You are not alone!

The reality is, most of us receive hardly any education in communication, emotional intelligence, eroticism or sex. You are not set up to thrive in love. The good news is it’s not your fault. This can be fixed.

In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• The top 10 childhood traumas that negatively impact adult relationships 
• Some signs that you or your partner has past trauma that is sabotaging your relationship
• Why and how you can break free from toxic and unsatisfying relationship patterns you've repeatedly experienced
• The foundations of conscious love and communication
• Questions to ask, as you're getting to know someone, that clarify whether they can create a healthy relationship 

Connect with Riana Milne Website: https://RianaMilne.com

Success in Dating Program: https://shanajames.krtra.com/t/QAx91SKCqNCp

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

 

To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don’t miss precious opportunities? Today’s guest, coach and consultant David Wood, helps you move through fear, to the adventure, connection and success on the other side. 

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On today’s Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by David Wood, a former Consulting Actuary to Fortune 100 companies who became #1 on Google for “life coaching,” serving 150,000 coaches around the world. David specializes in people overcoming their fears and reaching their goals.

To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don’t miss precious opportunities? 

David believes that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. They become the defining moments which shape our world. He coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams – and now prison inmates –  to create amazing results and deep connection and achieve more, by focusing on less.In our conversation we discussed: 

* How to shift your relationship with fear so it doesn’t keep you stuck and unsatisfied

* Why fear tends to stop people but doesn’t have to stop you 

* When to move through fear and when to stop and nurture yourself 

* How to share about your fear with others to create more connection rather than less

* What’s possible when you let go of the fear of how you’re seen or perceived

When you’re done with this episode, check out David’s first Man Alive podcast episode on How to Live a Regret Free Life. 

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Overcome Fear and Boost Success With David Wood

Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life, whether it’s more meaning, unshakable confidence, a bigger impact, more money, deeper love, a hotter sex life or a powerful legacy. Find out how good your life can be on this episode. Also, as I’ve supported men in their love and work lives for years now, many men asked for the right words to say to be more successful, attractive and desirable. I found it’s not so simple as giving scripts or lines because every man is different, so giving words or scripts would be giving a tall and thin man a shorter, wider man’s pants or vice versa.

The words have to make sense for you and your personality and there’s so much happening beneath the surface that people are responding to. If you’re interested in how to become a better lover and leader in your own unique way, go to ShanaJamesCoaching.com/Quiz or you can text, ALIVE, to 44144. It only takes a couple of minutes and you’ll start to get an idea of how you can be both more respected and desired. After you fill it out, we can schedule a time to review your quiz and talk about your specific challenges and desires. Enjoy this episode.

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I’m excited to be here with my colleague and friend,

Today’s Most of us weren’t taught financial literacy in school. Do you have a clear sense of your day to day financial life, for you and your family’s future? Today’s guest, William Matthews, gives us some foundational financial lessons and pitfalls to avoid, so you don’t end up heading toward a financially insecure future. 

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How are you doing with money these days? Are you making as much as you need? Are you saving for your future? Do you have a clear sense of your financial life in the short and long term?

 

Money is one of the greatest causes of stress people face. It’s stressful on its own and then navigating it with a romantic, or business, partner magnifies that stress. 

Having clarity and plans with your finances reduces stress and allows you to strategize and navigate out of financial hardship. But most of us never learned how to create this clarity! Most education, at least in the U.S., does not include financial literacy.

 

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, William Matthews, is the author of three books, including Financial Lessons Learned From My Broke @$$ Friends. He brings lightness, humor and practicality to the financial domain, to help you make smart decisions with your money.In our conversation we discussed: 

* Common financial pitfalls and how to avoid them

* How to set yourself up for a more secure financial future

* Tips to save and be more conscious about how you spend your money

* Options for borrowing money when you don’t have it on hand 

* Why you may not want to close your credit card and other tips for managing debt

When you’ve listened to this episode, check out another Man Alive Financial Episode: How to Clean Up Your Finances, with author and financial guide Joel Solomon. He wrote the book The Clean Money Revolution: Reinventing Power, Purpose, and Capitalism and has directed over $100 million and influenced billions.

 

Links:

Connect with Will Matthews Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-s-matthews-b392b876/Connect with Shana JamesWebsite: shanajamescoaching.com/3waysCurious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

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William S. Matthews is a modern-day renaissance man. Named one of Houston Business Journal 2019’s 40 under 40 honorees, Will’s unique blend of skills and characteristics makes for a powerful offering to his clientele, business associates, and community. He is soon releasing his third book, “Everything I Needed to Know About Corporate America,” on succeeding in corporate America geared towards young professionals. Previously, Matthews has written guides to personal finance and event planning. 

 

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, William Matthews, is the author of three books, including Financial Lessons Learned From My Broke @$$ Friends. He brings lightness, humor and practicality to the financial domain, to help you make smart decisions with your money. It's important to be current with yourself about how you're doing with money these days. Are you making as much as you need? Are you saving for your future? Do you have a clear sense of a financial plan in the short and long term?  Money is one of the greatest causes of stress people face. It's stressful on its own and then navigating it with a romantic, or business, partner magnifies that stress.  Having clarity and plans with your finances reduces stress and allows you to strategize and navigate out of financial hardship. But most of us never learned how to create this clarity! Most education, at least in the U.S., does not include financial literacy. In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• Common financial pitfalls and how to avoid them
• How to set yourself up for a more secure financial future
• Tips to save and be more conscious about how you spend your money
• Options for borrowing money when you don't have it on hand 
• Why you may not want to close your credit card and other tips for managing debt

Connect with Will Matthews Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-s-matthews-b392b876/   Connect with Shana James    Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways   Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Dr. Nell Smircina, said Andropause can start as early as your 30’s these days. But wait, do you know what Andropause is? Most men don’t and it’s important that you do! 

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Andropause can be likened to a woman’s experience of menopause. It’s very common in our culture to talk about women’s hormonal phases but we rarely talk about men’s and it’s so important!

I can’t believe I’d never heard of Andropause, and neither have many men I asked about it. If you are struggling with brain fog, tiredness, lowered libido, midday exhaustion, or generally not feeling like yourself, this is something to look into. 

Dr. Nell has a Doctorate in Acupuncture and Traditional Oriental Medicine, as well as many other degrees. With a predominantly male patient base, she became interested in this critical phase in a man’s life. She created PIQUE Health for Men where she also focuses how to help men achieve peak performance, based on their individual needs with work and lifestyle.In our Man Alive conversation we discussed: 

* What Andropause is and how to treat it 

* How to be truly healthy, beyond the western medical model (which often leaves men struggling and confused) 

* The 3 Pillars of Peak Performance and surprising ways to optimize your performance

* The keys to both mental and physical stamina

* How to stop settling for brain fog, weight gain, exhaustion or low libido as a fact of getting older

When you’re done check out another episode on health: How to Change Your Eating Habits to Become More Productive. 

If you are struggling with your health in any way please reach out to Dr. Nell or someone who can support you. Don’t try to go it alone! 

Links:

Connect with Dr. Nell Website: piquebh.comInstagram: @pique_healthLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nell-smircina-10094267/Connect with Shana JamesWebsite: shanajamescoaching.com/3waysCurious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

Dr. Nell Smircina graduated from James Madison University with a bachelor’s degree in Health Sc...

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Dr. Nell Smircina, said Andropause can start as early as your 30's these days. But wait, do you know what Andropause is? Most men don't and it's important that you do! Andropause can be likened to a woman's experience of menopause. It's very common in our culture to talk about women's hormonal phases but we rarely talk about men's and it's so important!  I can't believe I'd never heard of Andropause, and neither have many men I asked about it. If you are struggling with brain fog, tiredness, lowered libido, midday exhaustion, or generally not feeling like yourself, this is something to look into.

 

Dr. Nell has a Doctorate in Acupuncture and Traditional Oriental Medicine, as well as many other degrees. With a predominantly male patient base, she became interested in this critical phase in a man’s life. She created PIQUE Health for Men where she also focuses how to help men achieve peak performance, based on their individual needs with work and lifestyle. 

In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• What Andropause is and how to treat it 
• How to be truly healthy, beyond the western medical model (which often leaves men struggling and confused) 
• The 3 Pillars of Peak Performance and surprising ways to optimize your performance
• The keys to both mental and physical stamina
• How to stop settling for brain fog, weight gain, exhaustion or low libido as a fact of getting older

Connect with Dr. Nell Website: piquebh.com 

Connect with Shana James  Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

On today's Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by David Wood, a former Consulting Actuary to Fortune 100 companies who became #1 on Google for “life coaching,” serving 150,000 coaches around the world. David specializes in helping people overcome their fears and reach their goals. To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don't miss precious opportunities?  David believes that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. They become the defining moments that shape our lives. He coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams – and even prison inmates –  to create amazing results and deep connection, as well as to achieve more, by focusing on less. We discussed:

• How to shift your relationship with fear so it doesn't keep you stuck and unsatisfied
• Why fear tends to stop people but doesn't have to stop you 
• When to move through fear and when to stop and nurture yourself 
• How to share about your fear with others to create more connection rather than less
• What's possible when you let go of the fear of how you're seen or perceived

When you're done with this episode, check out David's first Man Alive podcast episode on How to Live a Regret Free Life.  Connect with David Wood Website: https://focus.ceo/ Connect with Shana James    Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways   Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

 

Most men have thought they should limit what they express, or even feel….that emotions are not manly and won’t be well received. Times are changing though and there is a call to support men to be healthier and happier, which includes welcoming mens’ vulnerability.  A Call to Men‘s Chief Development Officer, Ted Bunch, talks today about why it’s important to be bold, brave, and kind, and to teach your kids the same.

Many men grew up afraid of revealing their inner selves, causing them to hide their hopes, fears, desires, and emotions inside the “Man Box.” This limiting Man Box decreases healthy masculinity by telling you that you can’t express your weaknesses or ask for help. Thankfully times are changing. You are likely seeing and hearing more organizations and people talking about the importance of welcoming men’s vulnerability.

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Ted Bunch, is the Chief Development Officer of A Call to Men. He is a leading voice on building healthy masculinity to help prevent sexism, violence, and abuse. Ted is the co-author of The Book of Dares: 100 Ways for Boys to Be Kind, Bold, and Brave. This book has been called “a direct answer to parents’ cries for building healthy masculinity, respect, and emotional literacy in their sons.”

Today’s conversation is an important one to support men to be free from cultural limitations, creating more safety and well-being for all. 

We discussed:

* How being socialized into cultures of sexism hurts everyone, including men 

* Ways to welcome your kids’ emotions and authenticity 

* What it will take to decrease the astronomical rate of men’s anxiety, depression, and suicide

* The importance of speaking up rather than staying silent 

* The Book of Dares and integrating A Call to Men’s principles into communities

Don’t forget to watch my TEDx talk episode called: What 1,000 Men’s Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women. It’s important that you’re supported in your vulnerability and this talk is a great first step. Men and women have expressed how helpful this was for them to hear! 

Connect with Ted

Website: https://www.acalltomen.org/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

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Listen to the podcast here:

Building Healthy Masculinity With Ted Bunch

As I’ve supported men in their love and work lives for several years now, many men ask for the right words to say to be more successful, attractive, and desirable. I found it’s not so simple as giving scripts or lines because every man is different. Giving words or scripts would be like giving a tall and thin man, a shorter and wider man’s pants or vice versa. The words have to make sense for you and your personality. There’s so much happening beneath the surface that people are responding to. If you’re interested in how to become a better lover and leader in your own unique way, go to ShanaJamesCoaching.com/quiz,

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Ted Bunch, is the Chief Development Officer of A Call to Men. He is a leading voice on male socialization, the intersection of masculinity and violence, and healthy, respectful manhood. Ted is the co-author of The Book of Dares: 100 Ways For Boys to be Kind, Bold and Brave. The book has been called “a direct answer to parents’ cries for building healthy masculinity, respect, and emotional literacy in their sons.”

Many men did not grow up feeling safe to reveal all parts of themselves. They are then tempted to hide their hopes, fears, desires and emotions.

The Man Box is now understood as a way to view the limiting persona and characteristics many men have been trained to emulate. Whether its parents, teachers, media, or the culture, the message has been clear for many generations: In order to be manly, you have to be strong and tough. You can't fall apart, need help or ask for it. 

Thankfully times are changing. You are likely seeing and hearing more organizations and people talking about the importance of welcoming men's vulnerability. Today's conversation is an important one to support men to be free from cultural limitations, creating more safety and well-being for all.  We discussed:

• How being socialized into cultures of sexism hurts everyone, including men 
• Ways to welcome your kids emotions and authenticity 
• What it will take to decrease the astronomical rate of men's anxiety, depression and suicide
• The importance of speaking up rather than staying silent 
• The Book of Dares and integrating A Call to Men's principles into communities

When you're done with this episode, I highly recommend watching my TEDx talk called: What 1,000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women. It's important that you're supported in your vulnerability and this talk is a great first step. Men and women have expressed how helpful this was for them to hear!  

Connect with Ted  Website: https://www.acalltomen.org/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

 

Gathering in a community of men can be a powerful accelerator of success and well-being. Why then do so many men resist men’s groups and gatherings that go deeper than small talk? Today’s guests, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy talk about the benefits of being part of a community of men. 

Have you always had feelings of uneasiness when it comes to the idea that men need community? It’s common for men to think, “No way am I going to ‘open up’ about my struggles or secrets,” when faced with the prospect of joining a community for men.

Today’s Man Alive podcast guests, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy, are the Founders of The Great Man Within podcast and community. Each has their own story of resisting men’s groups, and later finding incredible support, strength, and freedom when joining communities of men. Men need community for reasons far greater than you could’ve imagined!

In this conversation, we talked about:

* The sense of emptiness men often feel despite being successful

* Why taking the lone-wolf path is less effective than joining men’s communities

* The power of seeing another man express emotions and realizing you’re not the only one who feels that way

* Why men resist joining men’s communities

* The role of competition in both men’s success AND unhappiness

Connect with Dominick and Bryan

Website: https://www.thegreatmanmastermind.com/your-guide

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

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Listen to the podcast here:

Why Men Need Community With Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy

I’ve supported men in their love and work lives for years now, many men ask for the right words to say to be more successful, attractive and desirable. I found it’s not so simple as giving scripts or lines because every man is different. Giving words or scripts would be giving a tall, thin man, a shorter, wider man’s pants, or vice versa. The words have to make sense for you and your personality and there’s so much happening beneath the surface that people are responding to. If you’re interested in how to become a better lover and leader in your unique way, go to ShanaJamesCoaching.com/Quiz or you can text ALIVE to 44144. It only takes a couple of minutes and you’ll start to get an idea of how you can be both more respected and desired. After you fill it out, we can schedule a time to review your quiz and talk about your specific challenges and desires. Enjoy this episode of Man Alive.

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I’m excited to be here with two amazing men, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy. Thank you, guys, for being here.

Thanks for having us, Shana. You were on our show, so it’s great to be back on yours.

I love doing this together.

Amazing men that landed.

I’m so glad because it’s true. There are many things I appreciate about you, guys. I could name a long list but off the top of my head, one of the things that I appreciate about both of you is your willingness to be honest and vulnerable.