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Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Dr. Nell Smircina, said Andropause can start as early as your 30's these days. But wait, do you know what Andropause is? Most men don't and it's important that you do! Andropause can be likened to a woman's experience of menopause. It's very common in our culture to talk about women's hormonal phases but we rarely talk about men's and it's so important! I can't believe I'd never heard of Andropause, and neither have many men I asked about it. If you are struggling with brain fog, tiredness, lowered libido, midday exhaustion, or generally not feeling like yourself, this is something to look into.

Dr. Nell has a Doctorate in Acupuncture and Traditional Oriental Medicine, as well as many other degrees. With a predominantly male patient base, she became interested in this critical phase in a man's life. She created PIQUE Health for Men where she also focuses how to help men achieve peak performance, based on their individual needs with work and lifestyle.

In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• What Andropause is and how to treat it
• How to be truly healthy, beyond the western medical model (which often leaves men struggling and confused)
• The 3 Pillars of Peak Performance and surprising ways to optimize your performance
• The keys to both mental and physical stamina
• How to stop settling for brain fog, weight gain, exhaustion or low libido as a fact of getting older

Connect with Dr. Nell Website: piquebh.com

Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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On today's Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by David Wood, a former Consulting Actuary to Fortune 100 companies who became #1 on Google for "life coaching," serving 150,000 coaches around the world. David specializes in helping people overcome their fears and reach their goals. To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don't miss precious opportunities? David believes that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. They become the defining moments that shape our lives. He coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams – and even prison inmates – to create amazing results and deep connection, as well as to achieve more, by focusing on less. We discussed:

• How to shift your relationship with fear so it doesn't keep you stuck and unsatisfied
• Why fear tends to stop people but doesn't have to stop you
• When to move through fear and when to stop and nurture yourself
• How to share about your fear with others to create more connection rather than less
• What's possible when you let go of the fear of how you're seen or perceived

When you're done with this episode, check out David's first Man Alive podcast episode on How to Live a Regret Free Life. Connect with David Wood Website: https://focus.ceo/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

 

Most men have thought they should limit what they express, or even feel….that emotions are not manly and won’t be well received. Times are changing though and there is a call to support men to be healthier and happier, which includes welcoming mens’ vulnerability.  A Call to Men‘s Chief Development Officer, Ted Bunch, talks today about why it’s important to be bold, brave, and kind, and to teach your kids the same.

Many men grew up afraid of revealing their inner selves, causing them to hide their hopes, fears, desires, and emotions inside the “Man Box.” This limiting Man Box decreases healthy masculinity by telling you that you can’t express your weaknesses or ask for help. Thankfully times are changing. You are likely seeing and hearing more organizations and people talking about the importance of welcoming men’s vulnerability.

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Ted Bunch, is the Chief Development Officer of A Call to Men. He is a leading voice on building healthy masculinity to help prevent sexism, violence, and abuse. Ted is the co-author of The Book of Dares: 100 Ways for Boys to Be Kind, Bold, and Brave. This book has been called “a direct answer to parents’ cries for building healthy masculinity, respect, and emotional literacy in their sons.”

Today’s conversation is an important one to support men to be free from cultural limitations, creating more safety and well-being for all. 

We discussed:

* How being socialized into cultures of sexism hurts everyone, including men 

* Ways to welcome your kids’ emotions and authenticity 

* What it will take to decrease the astronomical rate of men’s anxiety, depression, and suicide

* The importance of speaking up rather than staying silent 

* The Book of Dares and integrating A Call to Men’s principles into communities

Don’t forget to watch my TEDx talk episode called: What 1,000 Men’s Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women. It’s important that you’re supported in your vulnerability and this talk is a great first step. Men and women have expressed how helpful this was for them to hear! 

Connect with Ted

Website: https://www.acalltomen.org/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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Building Healthy Masculinity With Ted Bunch

As I’ve supported men in their love and work lives for several years now, many men ask for the right words to say to be more successful, attractive, and desirable. I found it’s not so simple as giving scripts or lines because every man is different. Giving words or scripts would be like giving a tall and thin man, a shorter and wider man’s pants or vice versa. The words have to make sense for you and your personality. There’s so much happening beneath the surface that people are responding to. If you’re interested in how to become a better lover and leader in your own unique way, go to ShanaJamesCoaching.com/quiz,

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Ted Bunch, is the Chief Development Officer of A Call to Men. He is a leading voice on male socialization, the intersection of masculinity and violence, and healthy, respectful manhood. Ted is the co-author of The Book of Dares: 100 Ways For Boys to be Kind, Bold and Brave. The book has been called "a direct answer to parents' cries for building healthy masculinity, respect, and emotional literacy in their sons."

Many men did not grow up feeling safe to reveal all parts of themselves. They are then tempted to hide their hopes, fears, desires and emotions.

The Man Box is now understood as a way to view the limiting persona and characteristics many men have been trained to emulate. Whether its parents, teachers, media, or the culture, the message has been clear for many generations: In order to be manly, you have to be strong and tough. You can't fall apart, need help or ask for it.

Thankfully times are changing. You are likely seeing and hearing more organizations and people talking about the importance of welcoming men's vulnerability. Today's conversation is an important one to support men to be free from cultural limitations, creating more safety and well-being for all. We discussed:

• How being socialized into cultures of sexism hurts everyone, including men
• Ways to welcome your kids emotions and authenticity
• What it will take to decrease the astronomical rate of men's anxiety, depression and suicide
• The importance of speaking up rather than staying silent
• The Book of Dares and integrating A Call to Men's principles into communities

When you're done with this episode, I highly recommend watching my TEDx talk called: What 1,000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women. It's important that you're supported in your vulnerability and this talk is a great first step. Men and women have expressed how helpful this was for them to hear!

Connect with Ted Website: https://www.acalltomen.org/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

 

Gathering in a community of men can be a powerful accelerator of success and well-being. Why then do so many men resist men’s groups and gatherings that go deeper than small talk? Today’s guests, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy talk about the benefits of being part of a community of men. 

Have you always had feelings of uneasiness when it comes to the idea that men need community? It’s common for men to think, “No way am I going to ‘open up’ about my struggles or secrets,” when faced with the prospect of joining a community for men.

Today’s Man Alive podcast guests, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy, are the Founders of The Great Man Within podcast and community. Each has their own story of resisting men’s groups, and later finding incredible support, strength, and freedom when joining communities of men. Men need community for reasons far greater than you could’ve imagined!

In this conversation, we talked about:

* The sense of emptiness men often feel despite being successful

* Why taking the lone-wolf path is less effective than joining men’s communities

* The power of seeing another man express emotions and realizing you’re not the only one who feels that way

* Why men resist joining men’s communities

* The role of competition in both men’s success AND unhappiness

Connect with Dominick and Bryan

Website: https://www.thegreatmanmastermind.com/your-guide

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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Why Men Need Community With Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy

I’ve supported men in their love and work lives for years now, many men ask for the right words to say to be more successful, attractive and desirable. I found it’s not so simple as giving scripts or lines because every man is different. Giving words or scripts would be giving a tall, thin man, a shorter, wider man’s pants, or vice versa. The words have to make sense for you and your personality and there’s so much happening beneath the surface that people are responding to. If you’re interested in how to become a better lover and leader in your unique way, go to ShanaJamesCoaching.com/Quiz or you can text ALIVE to 44144. It only takes a couple of minutes and you’ll start to get an idea of how you can be both more respected and desired. After you fill it out, we can schedule a time to review your quiz and talk about your specific challenges and desires. Enjoy this episode of Man Alive.

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I’m excited to be here with two amazing men, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stacy. Thank you, guys, for being here.

Thanks for having us, Shana. You were on our show, so it’s great to be back on yours.

I love doing this together.

Amazing men that landed.

I’m so glad because it’s true. There are many things I appreciate about you, guys. I could name a long list but off the top of my head, one of the things that I appreciate about both of you is your willingness to be honest and vulnerable.

Today's Man Alive podcast guests, Dominick Quartuccio and Bryan Stace, are the founders of the Great Man Within Podcast and community. Each has their own story of resisting men's groups, but fast forward a few years and each has found incredible support, strength and freedom as they've joined communities of men.

Many men have "shoot the shit over beers" relationships, or "hang out and play sports" relationships with other men in their lives. And it's common, when men first hear about men's groups, to think "hell no, I don't want any of that emotional shit," or "No way am I going to 'open up' about my struggles or secrets with other men."

Whether it's a men's group, or hanging out with men in a way that goes beyond shooting the shit, time with men is vital to your well-being and success as a man.

In this conversation we talked about:

• The sense of emptiness or deadness men, who are doing everything they thought they should, often feel
• Why taking the lone-wolf path is slower and less effective than being part of a community of men
• The power of seeing another man express emotions and realizing you're not the only one who feels that way
• Why men resist joining communities of men
• The role of competition in both men's success AND unhappiness

Connect with Dominick and Bryan Website: https://www.thegreatmanmastermind.com/your-guide

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

 

The roots of success are deeper than most people realize. If you’re attempting to be more successful by managing your actions, but you haven’t looked at who you are and why you do what you do, today’s episode with former NFL athlete Anthony Trucks is for you! He lays out the path to success so you can achieve your goals. 

The roots of success are deeper than most people realize. Too often, what’s holding people back is continuing to operate within their present identity. There’s nothing wrong with it; it just needs to step up a bit. Your identity needs to shift for you to even start out on the path to achieving your goals. If you’re attempting to be more successful by managing your actions, but haven’t looked at who you are and why you do what you do, then this episode is for you. 

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest lays out a path where you can unleash your unlimited potential and carve your own way to success. Former NFL athlete Anthony Trucks, helps people Make SHIFT Happen! He sees possibilities where others see limitations. He boldly and humbly walks his talk. Anthony had an incredibly challenging childhood and has created a 7-figure business, helping people achieve their goals, while continuing to prioritize his kids and having a positive impact on the world.

In this conversation Shana James and Anthony talk about:

* Recognizing who you actually are as the door to success, joy and fulfillment;

* What it takes to make consistent and sustainable shifts in your life

* How to up-level your identity, rather than settle for its limitations;

* The uniqueness of the SHIFT method’s everyday doable actions; and

* Anthony’s personal journey walking his talk and applying the SHIFT Method to parenting.

Connect with Anthony

Website: https://anthonytrucks.com/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

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Listen to the podcast here:

Your Identity Is Your Key To Success With Anthony Trucks

As I’ve supported men in their love and work life for years, many men ask for the right words to say to be more successful, attractive and desirable but I found it’s not so simple as giving scripts or lines because every man is different. Giving words or scripts would be like giving a tall, thin man a shorter, wider man’s pants or vice versa. The words have to make sense for you and your personality and there’s so much happening beneath the surface that people are responding to.

If you’re interested in how to become a better lover and leader in your unique way, go to ShanaJamesCoaching.com/quiz or you can text Alive to 44144. It only takes a couple of minutes and you’ll start to get an idea of how you can be both more respected and desired. After you fill it out, we can schedule a time to review your quiz and talk about your specific challenges and desires. Enjoy this episode.

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, former NFL athlete Anthony Trucks, helps people make SHIFT happen! He sees possibilities where others see limitations. He boldly and humbly walks his talk. Anthony had an incredibly challenging childhood and has created a 7-figure business, helping people achieve their goals, while continuing to prioritize his kids and having a positive impact on the world. The roots of success are deeper than most people realize. If you're attempting to be more successful by managing your actions, but haven't looked at who you are and why you do what you do, today's episode with Anthony Trucks is for you. He lays out the path to success and achieving your goals. In this conversation we talked about:

• Recognizing who you actually are as the door to success, joy and fulfillment
• What it takes to make consistent and sustainable shifts in your life
• How to up-level your identity, rather than settle for its limitations
• The uniqueness of the SHIFT method's everyday doable actions
• Anthony's personal journey walking his talk and applying the SHIFT Method to parenting

Connect with Anthony Website: https://anthonytrucks.com/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

 

Despite all of the challenges when it comes to raising kids and the married life, what does it really take to become an awesome dad? Larry Hagner joins Shana James, the Founder of The Good Dad Project, to share his parenting strategies focused on calmness, allowing him to create a meaningful connection with his four boys. Larry boasts how this led to amazing communication between him and his kids, allowing them to become extremely open and frank to one another. He also presents some of the most common pitfalls fathers have to face to become more responsible and independent. Finally, he discusses the significant role of patience when dispelling the most dangerous masculine attitudes, often rooted in anger and discontent.

Connect with Larry

Website: https://gooddadproject.com/

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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Listen to the podcast here:

Be An Awesome Dad Without Losing Your Life With Larry Hagner

I’ve supported men in their love and work lives for many years now, many men ask for the right words to say, to be more successful, attractive, and desirable. I found it’s not so simple as giving scripts or lines because every man is different. Giving words or scripts would be like giving a tall thin man a shorter, wider man’s pants or vice versa. The words have to make sense for you and your personality. There’s so much happening beneath the surface that people are responding to. If you’re interested in how to become a better lover and leader in your own unique way, go to ShanaJamesCoaching.com/quiz, or you can text ALIVE to 44144. It only takes a couple of minutes and you’ll start to get an idea of how you can be both more respected and desired. After you fill it out, we can schedule a time to review your quiz and talk about your specific challenges and desires. Enjoy this episode.

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I’m excited to be here with Larry Hagner of The Good Dad Project. Welcome. Thank you for being here. 

What’s going on? It’s been a long time.

It’s been quite a while. Larry is a father of four boys, which I have mad respect for. We’re going to talk about The Good Dad Project and parenting. You have the number one podcast for dads on iTunes. You’ve been doing this for quite a while. One of the things I love about you is that you are willing to go first and say what can be scary for a lot of men to say. You talk about the vulnerability, which I know is not your favorite word, but talk about the feelings, the fears and the things that come up with having to make decisions and intimacy. Thank you for being a man who’s willing to risk that and show what it takes. 

Thanks for having me topics. The topics I do enjoy talking about never was comfortable with it in the beginning, but definitely, I am now.

The Good Dad Project, we’re going to talk about what it’s like to be a dad, some of the mistakes you see a man make. I was reading one of your book chapters around patients. I was relating to that as a parent of how impatient I can be with my child. I don’t know if you know Jed Diamond, but he is a psychologist, who’s worked a lot with menopause for men and this way that as men get older, that can be more irritability, anger, and frustration. I think that might tie into what we’re talking about as well.

It’s true. One of the things that you said in another conversation is that you have bold...

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Larry Hagner, is the founder of the Good Dad Project. He is the father of four boys and has been happily married to his wife Jessica for 17 years. Larry is the author of the best-selling book: The Dad's Edge. He also hosts a community of hundreds of men in the Dad Edge Alliance Mastermind. Being a dad is simultaneously one of the most amazing and challenging things you can do. We want to make sure you can actually enjoy your kids and your life, rather than being constantly exhausted, distracted or overwhelmed. With a busy life on top of parenting, do you have any time for yourself, to pursue your dreams and take care of your well-being? In today's episode, we discuss:

• What has created success and happiness in Larry's 24-year relationship with his wife
• How to cultivate patience and the ability to be calm and clear, rather than explode with your kids
• What men can do to shift from complaining and frustration to empowerment and clarity
• How to communicate in a way that allows your spouse and kids to open up and trust you with deeply personal stuff
• Common pitfalls dads stumble into on the parenting journey

Connect with Larry Website: https://gooddadproject.com/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women