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Anger is one of the scariest emotions for many people to feel. Often when it is expressed, it is not in a healthy way. But anger is important and we can't overlook it. It arises in moments when our boundaries are crossed, our needs are threatened or we feel disrespected. Today's Man Alive guest is a powerful example of a woman who has gone deep into her own pain to come out the other side with tools and understandings that work with the core of intense emotions and experiences. Ilan Stephani is the bestselling author of Skin and Games and a Somatic Researcher in the Fields of embodiment, sexuality, trauma, health and mysticism. She helps people unlearn cultural conditioning and gain back your natural orgasmic aliveness! Ilan helps us understand what to do with a woman's anger and your own.

In our conversation we discussed:

• Why women can get so angry
• Why it can be wise to hate your partner (and how to shift that!)
• How mastering rage, "No," and "Stop" naturally leads to love
• How sex becomes natural once people feel safe
• Your body's role in helping you release anger and be more alive and connected

Ilan's work is a breath of fresh air and is powerful. These ideas may seem strange at first but she and I agreed that if more conservative methods worked, people would be experiencing a lot more love and connection than they are these days. We cannot only explore the light side of life. We all feel anger, fear and grief and we need to bring them to the surface, rather than holding them in and on our own.

Connect with Ilan Stephani www.ilanstephani.com

Connect with Shana James

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You don't have to be the CEO of a business, to be the CEO of your life! The more you are following your visions, rather than the visions laid out by cultural or family expectations, the more you are the CEO of your life, and it will be meaningful, exciting, and successful.

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Rylee Meek, founder and CEO of Social Dynamic Selling System, has taken many businesses to 7-figures and produced $80 in sales in the last eight years. He is also the author of Food For Thought: How to Use Dinner Seminar Marketing to Grow Your Business in Ways You Never Thought Possible. Whether you run your own business or want to become the CEO of your own life, this episode is full of the incredible wisdom Rylee has gleaned on his path.

In our conversation we discussed:

• What it takes to not only grow a business but to create an inspiring life and legacy
• The path to predictable, sustainable and scalable revenue
• The language shifts you can make that create more and faster success
• The keys to effective sales in business, that also work in romantic relationships(!)
• How to avoid where most men get stuck in their business and financial journey

Connect with Rylee Meek https://ryleemeek.com/

Connect with Shana James

shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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When you hear the word "Manhood," what do you think?

It may have a sense of power for you. It may seem suffocating or stifling. It may even be both at the same time.

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Ilan Ferdman has done deep work and exploration around who he is beyond cultural constructs. He has even explored the Divine Masculine and shares his experiences of what it is and how it has impacted his life. Ilan understands that you are programmed into manhood and masculinity from the time you're born. The pressures and limitations are so much a part of "the water we swim in," it can be really hard to see or know where they come from.

Ilan is the co-founder of Satori Prime, a personal development, leadership and spiritual growth organization that has served more than 15,000 people with digital products, community events, coaching and corporate trainings. He is also co-host of the Old Souls and Seekers podcast, which blends life coaching, psychology, neuroscience, intuitive guidance and ancient energetic wisdom practices.

In our conversation we discussed:

• A process for working with catastrophic thoughts and fear of failure
• How to release the pressure of being the "rock" and provider, the one who holds it all on your shoulders
• The benefit of slowing down to become even more effective
• How to integrate masculine and feminine energies and what the divine masculine is
• Ilan's story of losing it all and the gifts that resulted from finally getting honest

Connect with Ilan Ferdman www.SatoriPrime.com

Connect with Shana James

shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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In today's episode of the Man Alive, we have a guest who has traveled the world and created businesses based on his passions. Jesse Krieger is the author of Lifestyle Entrepreneur and is now the founder and publisher of Lifestyle Entrepreneurs Press, helping people with great ideas publish their books. Have you wondered whether the thousands of hours you spend each year working could be more enjoyable, or whether you could have more success or make more money doing what you love?

Would you like your work life to include more freedom and adventure? If you've set these aside to take on adult responsibilities, this is a good time to reassess.

The world has turned upside down and we are creating new ways to work that never before seemed possible. Now is a great time to envision what would be fun and meaningful in your future! Ultimately Jesse believes that being a lifestyle entrepreneur is about living creatively expressed and free, having a network of friends around the world and opportunities that present themselves in auspicious ways.

In our conversation we discussed:

• First steps for entering the entrepreneurial world with low risk and high gain
• Reframing the idea of risk to allow for less fear and more traction
• How to get clear about your vision and mission -- the foundation of any business
• Ways to ride the waves of instability that can come with entrepreneurship and business growth
• How to start having more adventure and freedom wherever you are, before you start traveling for business

Connect with Jesse Krieger www.LifestyleEntrepreneursPress.com www.publishizer.com

Connect with Shana James

shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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Research shows 90% of adults suffer in love. You are not alone! The good news is, it’s not your fault and you can have a healthy love life. Today’s Man Alive guest, Riana Milne, MA, CCTP, specializes in helping people with childhood & love trauma heal and have the love they deserve.

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Show notes

You may have wondered what you’re doing wrong and why you’re falling into the same conflicts or patterns over the years. You may have even beat yourself up about it. 

 

Research shows 90% of all adults suffer in love. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! The reality is, most of us receive hardly any education in communication, emotional intelligence, eroticism or sex. You are not set up to thrive in love.The good news is it’s not your fault. This can be fixed.

In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

* The top 10 childhood traumas that negatively impact adult relationships 

* Some signs that you or your partner has past trauma that is sabotaging your relationship

* Why and how you can break free from toxic and unsatisfying relationship patterns you’ve repeatedly experienced

* The foundations of conscious love and communication

* Questions to ask, as you’re getting to know someone, that clarify whether they can create a healthy relationship 

No matter how much pain or conflict you have suffered you don’t have to give up! Riana clearly lays out why most of us struggle in love and how to stop repeating the same patterns.

 

When you’re done with this episode check out this Man Alive episode on how to stop love from fading or falling apart! Guy Finley is another brilliant relationship teacher. 

 

Links:

Connect with Riana Milne Website: https://rianamilne.com/Connect with Shana JamesWebsite: shanajamescoaching.com/3waysCurious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

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Bio:

Riana’s a Global Life, Love, Trauma Recovery & Mindset Coach who has appeared on CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News, a prior Advice Columnist, and an Author for top media outlets like eHarmony and Digital Romance. 

 

Riana specializes in helping those with past Unconscious Childhood & Love Trauma (Research shows 90% of all Adults Suffer in Life & Love) – Heal and Transform their Lives and go on to Create the Life they Desire & Have the Love they Deserve.

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, Riana Milne, MA, CCTP, is a Life, Love and Trauma Recovery Coach who has appeared on CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News. She is an author for top media outlets like eHarmony and Digital Romance. Riana specializes in helping people with childhood and love trauma heal and have the love they deserve. You may have wondered what you're doing wrong and why you're falling into the same conflicts or patterns over the years. You may have even beat yourself up about it.

Research shows 90% of all adults suffer in love. You are not alone!

The reality is, most of us receive hardly any education in communication, emotional intelligence, eroticism or sex. You are not set up to thrive in love. The good news is it's not your fault. This can be fixed.

In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• The top 10 childhood traumas that negatively impact adult relationships
• Some signs that you or your partner has past trauma that is sabotaging your relationship
• Why and how you can break free from toxic and unsatisfying relationship patterns you've repeatedly experienced
• The foundations of conscious love and communication
• Questions to ask, as you're getting to know someone, that clarify whether they can create a healthy relationship

Connect with Riana Milne Website: https://RianaMilne.com

Success in Dating Program: https://shanajames.krtra.com/t/QAx91SKCqNCp

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don’t miss precious opportunities? Today’s guest, coach and consultant David Wood, helps you move through fear, to the adventure, connection and success on the other side. 

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Show notes

On today’s Man Alive podcast episode I was joined by David Wood, a former Consulting Actuary to Fortune 100 companies who became #1 on Google for “life coaching,” serving 150,000 coaches around the world. David specializes in people overcoming their fears and reaching their goals.

To have an amazing career and relationships, a life full of passion, connection and adventure, it is inevitable that you will face fear at some point. Everyone does. The question is, what then? How do you move through fear so you don’t miss precious opportunities? 

David believes that the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and love. They become the defining moments which shape our world. He coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams – and now prison inmates –  to create amazing results and deep connection and achieve more, by focusing on less.In our conversation we discussed: 

* How to shift your relationship with fear so it doesn’t keep you stuck and unsatisfied

* Why fear tends to stop people but doesn’t have to stop you 

* When to move through fear and when to stop and nurture yourself 

* How to share about your fear with others to create more connection rather than less

* What’s possible when you let go of the fear of how you’re seen or perceived

When you’re done with this episode, check out David’s first Man Alive podcast episode on How to Live a Regret Free Life. 

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Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life, whether it’s more meaning, unshakable confidence, a bigger impact, more money, deeper love, a hotter sex life or a powerful legacy. Find out how good your life can be on this episode. Also, as I’ve supported men in their love and work lives for years now, many men asked for the right words to say to be more successful, attractive and desirable. I found it’s not so simple as giving scripts or lines because every man is different, so giving words or scripts would be giving a tall and thin man a shorter, wider man’s pants or vice versa.

The words have to make sense for you and your personality and there’s so much happening beneath the surface that people are responding to. If you’re interested in how to become a better lover and leader in your own unique way, go to ShanaJamesCoaching.com/Quiz or you can text, ALIVE, to 44144. It only takes a couple of minutes and you’ll start to get an idea of how you can be both more respected and desired. After you fill it out, we can schedule a time to review your quiz and talk about your specific challenges and desires. Enjoy this episode.

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Today’s Most of us weren’t taught financial literacy in school. Do you have a clear sense of your day to day financial life, for you and your family’s future? Today’s guest, William Matthews, gives us some foundational financial lessons and pitfalls to avoid, so you don’t end up heading toward a financially insecure future. 

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Show notes

How are you doing with money these days? Are you making as much as you need? Are you saving for your future? Do you have a clear sense of your financial life in the short and long term?

 

Money is one of the greatest causes of stress people face. It’s stressful on its own and then navigating it with a romantic, or business, partner magnifies that stress. 

Having clarity and plans with your finances reduces stress and allows you to strategize and navigate out of financial hardship. But most of us never learned how to create this clarity! Most education, at least in the U.S., does not include financial literacy.

 

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, William Matthews, is the author of three books, including Financial Lessons Learned From My Broke @$$ Friends. He brings lightness, humor and practicality to the financial domain, to help you make smart decisions with your money.In our conversation we discussed: 

* Common financial pitfalls and how to avoid them

* How to set yourself up for a more secure financial future

* Tips to save and be more conscious about how you spend your money

* Options for borrowing money when you don’t have it on hand 

* Why you may not want to close your credit card and other tips for managing debt

When you’ve listened to this episode, check out another Man Alive Financial Episode: How to Clean Up Your Finances, with author and financial guide Joel Solomon. He wrote the book The Clean Money Revolution: Reinventing Power, Purpose, and Capitalism and has directed over $100 million and influenced billions.

 

Links:

Connect with Will Matthews Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-s-matthews-b392b876/Connect with Shana JamesWebsite: shanajamescoaching.com/3waysCurious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

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Bio:

William S. Matthews is a modern-day renaissance man. Named one of Houston Business Journal 2019’s 40 under 40 honorees, Will’s unique blend of skills and characteristics makes for a powerful offering to his clientele, business associates, and community. He is soon releasing his third book, “Everything I Needed to Know About Corporate America,” on succeeding in corporate America geared towards young professionals. Previously, Matthews has written guides to personal finance and event planning. 

 

Today's Man Alive podcast guest, William Matthews, is the author of three books, including Financial Lessons Learned From My Broke @$$ Friends. He brings lightness, humor and practicality to the financial domain, to help you make smart decisions with your money. It's important to be current with yourself about how you're doing with money these days. Are you making as much as you need? Are you saving for your future? Do you have a clear sense of a financial plan in the short and long term? Money is one of the greatest causes of stress people face. It's stressful on its own and then navigating it with a romantic, or business, partner magnifies that stress. Having clarity and plans with your finances reduces stress and allows you to strategize and navigate out of financial hardship. But most of us never learned how to create this clarity! Most education, at least in the U.S., does not include financial literacy. In our Man Alive conversation we discussed:

• Common financial pitfalls and how to avoid them
• How to set yourself up for a more secure financial future
• Tips to save and be more conscious about how you spend your money
• Options for borrowing money when you don't have it on hand
• Why you may not want to close your credit card and other tips for managing debt

Connect with Will Matthews Website: https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-s-matthews-b392b876/ Connect with Shana James Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways Curious what you'd need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz For Women: Modern dating doesn't have to be a nightmare for women

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Dr. Nell Smircina, said Andropause can start as early as your 30’s these days. But wait, do you know what Andropause is? Most men don’t and it’s important that you do! 

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Show notes

Andropause can be likened to a woman’s experience of menopause. It’s very common in our culture to talk about women’s hormonal phases but we rarely talk about men’s and it’s so important!

I can’t believe I’d never heard of Andropause, and neither have many men I asked about it. If you are struggling with brain fog, tiredness, lowered libido, midday exhaustion, or generally not feeling like yourself, this is something to look into. 

Dr. Nell has a Doctorate in Acupuncture and Traditional Oriental Medicine, as well as many other degrees. With a predominantly male patient base, she became interested in this critical phase in a man’s life. She created PIQUE Health for Men where she also focuses how to help men achieve peak performance, based on their individual needs with work and lifestyle.In our Man Alive conversation we discussed: 

* What Andropause is and how to treat it 

* How to be truly healthy, beyond the western medical model (which often leaves men struggling and confused) 

* The 3 Pillars of Peak Performance and surprising ways to optimize your performance

* The keys to both mental and physical stamina

* How to stop settling for brain fog, weight gain, exhaustion or low libido as a fact of getting older

When you’re done check out another episode on health: How to Change Your Eating Habits to Become More Productive. 

If you are struggling with your health in any way please reach out to Dr. Nell or someone who can support you. Don’t try to go it alone! 

Links:

Connect with Dr. Nell Website: piquebh.comInstagram: @pique_healthLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nell-smircina-10094267/Connect with Shana JamesWebsite: shanajamescoaching.com/3waysCurious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

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Bio:

Dr. Nell Smircina graduated from James Madison University with a bachelor’s degree in Health Sc...