Man Alive

By Shana JamesSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Philosophy Sexuality

Man Alive episodes

November 06, 2018 Save Your Relationship With Fierce Love
In a time when most people struggle in romantic relationships, as evidenced by over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, we need some serious guidance for how to make relationships work. The person who guides us has to understand the root causes of struggle and how both men and women approach intimacy. Internationally recognized Family Therapist Terry Real is a masterful guide!
47 min
October 31, 2018 Eliminate Management Hierarchy to Drive Meaningful Change – Brian Robertson

What if the management structure most companies use causes preventable bottlenecks and breakdowns? Is it possible to challenge power structures that were put in place hundreds, if not thousands of years, ago? Brian Robertson did and his solution is awe-inspiring.
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Show notes
Have you ever been frustrated by power, hierarchy, or how these overlap in professional settings?
Have your ideas fallen on deaf ears? Or have the channels you need to go through to innovate or create change made it nearly impossible to do so?
It’s not often someone comes along and challenges power structures that were put in place before we were alive.
Brian Robertson, the founder of Holacracy, is one of these visionaries!
Holacracy is a management system for running purpose-driven, responsive companies. It makes use of the collective wisdom of individuals in an organization, rather than just a few. It also gives employees much more power to drive meaningful change. It is the first complete replacement for management where power rests in the CEO!
In this Man Alive Podcast conversation we discussed:

* What most commonly gets in the way of driving meaningful change
* How Holacracy is a revolutionary and effective replacement for management hierarchy
* The requirements of real empowerment and how to actually implement them
* Structures that re-organize power, give employees a voice and allow for more innovation
* How to learn from tensions that arise in business rather than avoid them

If you’ve ever been frustrated by corporate management structure, don’t miss this conversation! What Brian has created seriously blows my mind. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did and it empowers you to think outside the box.
Links:
Holacracy.org
Shana‘s Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women
Bio:
Brian Robertson is an experienced entrepreneur, organizational pioneer, and author of the book Holacracy: The New Management System for a Rapidly Changing World. He is most well-known for his work developing Holacracy, a self-management practice for running purpose-driven, responsive companies. Its dynamic approach integrates the collective wisdom of individuals throughout an organization, and empowers them to drive meaningful change. The result is dramatically increased transparency, accountability, innovation, and agility. Holacracy has been adopted by over 1,000 companies around the world to date.

33 min
October 31, 2018 Eliminate Management Hierarchy to Drive Meaningful Change
What if the management structure most companies use causes preventable bottlenecks and breakdowns? Is it possible to challenge power structures that were put in place hundreds, if not thousands of years, ago? Brian Robertson did and his solution is awe-inspiring.
33 min
October 23, 2018 Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love or Business – Susan Campbell

Telling the truth can be one of the hardest things to do, especially when you’re afraid to lose a relationship, job or something that matters to you. Dr Susan Campbell is a master of truth telling in a way that creates MORE connection and ultimately makes sure you don’t lose yourself!
http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/speak-your-truth-susan-campbell.mp3
Show notes
Some of us hold back our truth in big ways or outright lies.
Others bend the truth to look better or tell little white lies…
Why do we do it?
When you get to the heart of it it’s usually about the fear of losing a friendship, relationship, a job, or something important to you.
Or the fear that we’ll cause discomfort or unresolvable conflict in our relationships.
But then we end up dissatisfied and less alive and inspired by life.
I know this one too well. I’ve sat on truth, avoided conversations and tried to sugar coat my desires or disappointments. Instead of just telling it straight!
It costs us a lot when we do this.
We end up twisting into or hiding behind protective strategies, trying to cover up what we haven’t said or build a case for what we have.
Holding back truth is draining and eventually backfires.
Dr. Susan Campbell has written many books and facilitated thousands of people through this tender territory. She is a master of truth telling in a way that creates MORE connection and ultimately helps you not lose yourself!

In today’s Man Alive podcast conversation we covered:

* The 10 Truth skills you need to stay vital and connected
* The power and benefits of receiving feedback and how to ready yourself for it
* How to go from hours of processing to a 5 minute repair in relationship
* Surprising ways to bring your truth at work that make you more likely to advance and succeed
* What many people get stuck on and triggered by that you can shift to take control of your life

I loved this conversation with Susan and have been speaking my truth more often as a result!
Links:
Susan Campbell
Shana‘s New Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women
Bio:
Dr. Susan Campbell has authored nine books on relationships and conflict resolution, has delivered hundreds of seminars and workshop internationally, and has counseled thousands of individuals and couples. In demand with the press, radio and TV to help interpret the status of contemporary human work and love relations, she has appeared on CNN’s NewsNight and Good Morning America and Dr. Dean Edell.
Accomplished in the business world, Susan has directed a think tank, run non-profit organizations, consulted to Fortune 500 companies, and guest lectured at the Harvard, Stanford, and UCLA business schools.
An avid adventurer and proponent of “living your life out loud,” she has made millions, lost millions, lived in other cultures, and spent two years sailing her 47-foot sailboat halfway around the world.
Some of her more well-known book titles are: The Couples Journey, Beyond the Power Struggle, Getting Real, Truth in Dating: Find Love by Getting Real, and her new book The 5 Minute Relationship Repair.
42 min
October 23, 2018 Speak Your Truth Without Losing Love or Business
Telling the truth can be one of the hardest things to do, especially when you afraid to lose a relationship, job or something that matters to you. Dr Susan Campbell is a master of truth telling in a way that creates MORE connection and ultimately makes sure you don't lose yourself!
42 min
October 17, 2018 Shining Light On Sexual Blindspots – Bryan Stacy

Talking about sex as a man, whether in the realm of your desires or health, can be embarrassing or even seem to threaten your manhood. But this leaves many men at risk of everything from an unsatisfying sex to risk of early death. Bryan Stacy’s sudden diagnosis changed his life and made him an advocate for helping you feel safe to have conversations about sex.
http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/sexual-blindspots-Bryan.mp3
Show notes
Talking about sex, whether your desires or health, can be embarrassing or seem to threaten your manhood.
Unfortunately this could leave you with an unsatisfying sex life, or even at risk of early death.
Today’s Man Alive podcast guest Bryan Stacy experienced a major wake up call when he was diagnosed with testicular cancer and a sexually transmitted infection at the same time.
He created a company to make sexual testing more available, as well as to make it safer to have conversations about sex.
In this conversation we discussed…

* How to create a more conscious and intimate sex life without risking your manhood or taking a “leap of faith”
* What makes it safer for you to have conversations about sexual health and desires
* What’s possible when you let go of thinking you need to know what turns a woman on and makes her happy
* The complicated topics of consent, insecurity and toxic masculinity
* Bryan’s epiphanies that were inspired by his simultaneous diagnosis of cancer and a Sexually Transmitted Infection

This was a powerful conversation and one that could save your life!
Links:
BiemTeam Instagram: @talkingnut and @biemteam
Shana‘s New Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women
Bio:
Bryan left a career in corporate consulting to pursue a massive dream to change sexual health culture and behavior.
In 2011, fear and embarrassment left him unable to address obvious symptoms, causing his testicular cancer and chlamydia to go undiagnosed and untreated for months.
After writing and speaking to thousands about his sexual health journey, he co-founded Biem Health, an app that gives people access to sexual health doctors, the ability to get tested for STDs, and share verified test results with sexual partners.
With the right tools, Bryan believes others can develop the sexual confidence needed to live healthier, happier lives, make better sexual health decisions, and have more connected sex.
He and his team are currently building out the Biem platform to include additional sexual health services, and he co-facilitates a men’s discussion group in New York focused on sexual confidence and masculinity called “But, I’m One of the Good Guys”. His story can be found in Forbes, Bustle, or through one of his podcast interviews.

39 min
October 17, 2018 Shining Light On Sexual Blindspots
Talking about sex as a man, whether in the realm of your desires or health, can be embarrassing or even seem to threaten your manhood. But this leaves many men at risk of everything from an unsatisfying sex to risk of early death. Bryan Stacy's sudden diagnosis changed his life and made him an advocate for helping you feel safe to have conversations about sex.
39 min
October 10, 2018 How to Clean Up Your Finances – Joel Solomon

Joel Solomon believes we are heading toward a massive renewal in money and that money needs to be as good as it can be, so people, commerce and communities can thrive. In this conversation Joel talks about a Clean Money Revolution and how to be in integrity and align money with what is meaningful to you.
http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/money-joel-solomon.mp3
Show notes

Being faced with death at a young age can clarify life in a powerful way.
Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Joel Solomon, was faced with uncertainty about whether his life would be cut short by disease.
This set him on a course to deeply consider his choices and align them with his truest values.
Joel is the author of The Clean Money Revolution: Reinventing Power, Purpose, and Capitalism. He has directed over $100 million and influenced billions. He recognizes we benefit from our ancestors having done all they could to create a good world and life for us to come into. As well, we are borrowing heavily from the future and generations to come.
Joel helps people invest in a ways that are aligned with their integrity and support a healthy future. In our conversation we discussed:

* The “Meaning Economy” and how to start aligning money with your values
* Mindsets that allow us to take care of future generations with financial decisions
* How to use the concept of “how much is enough?” to shift financial stress
* The surprising answer to “What makes a successful entrepreneur?”
* Joel’s journey and brush with death that informed his career and life perspectives

Joel believes “there is enough money in the world to solve poverty and climate change.” I appreciate his perspectives and think you will too.

Links:
Joel Solomon
Shana‘s New Guide for you: 3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women
Bio:
Joel Solomon is the author of The Clean Money Revolution: Reinventing Power, Purpose, and Capitalism. He is a Co-Founding Partner of Renewal Funds, and he serves as a Senior Advisor with RSF Social Finance and speaks frequently throughout North America. He is a founding member of Social Venture Network (SVN), Business for Social Responsibility (BSR), the Tides Canada Foundation, and is board chair of Hollyhock. Joel has received a Lifetime Achievement Award from SVN and was recently inducted with Carol Newell into the SVN Hall of Fame. He speaks regularly to investors and wealth managers across the U.S. and Canada.

34 min
October 05, 2018 How to Clean Up Your Finances
Joel Solomon believes we are heading toward a massive renewal in money and that money needs to be as good as it can be, so people, commerce and communities can thrive. In this conversation Joel talks about a Clean Money Revolution and how to be in integrity and align money with what is meaningful to you.
34 min
October 02, 2018 A Man’s Path Through Fear – Ray Arata

Fear is one of the biggest things that stops men from having the success and intimacy they want. Becoming fearless is a far fetched goal, so it’s important to figure out how to move through fear when it shows up. This conversation with Ray Arata shows you how.
http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/fear-ray.mp3
Show notes

Many men come to me with a desire to be fearless. They say things like:
“I want to talk with women (in dating or relationship) without feeling anxious or afraid.”
“I want to lead meetings without feeling self-conscious or thinking I’m not good enough.”
Men tell me they think they have to get over fear in order to be powerful.
I help them feel less afraid and more confident but I also remind them that fear doesn’t fully go away.
In fact, fear can be a guide, showing you what matters to you, or what your next step is to grow and mature.
Sometimes fear isn’t even what it seems!
A Surprise Lesson From Fear
Fifteen years ago, in the midst of workshop I was learning to facilitate, I learned an important lesson about fear.
I witnessed a man expressing loud, intense sounds — grunting and stomping around the room.
My dad was a quiet peacemaker type so at that point I hadn’t been close to a man in that kind of powerful, primal expression.
As he got louder I felt more and more anxious, to the point where I thought I would explode.
I ran outside and found my mentor there.
“What’s going on?” he asked.
“I don’t know,” I gasped. “I feel terrified.”
He looked at me with a slightly amused look on his face.
“You don’t look terrified, he said. “You look alive and turned on!”
I started to open my mouth to argue but stopped. I paused to check in with my body.
Energy was vibrating and pulsing through my chest and belly. But I had labeled these sensations “FEAR.”
When I took a breath and allowed the sensations, without getting caught in my mind’s story, I realized I didn’t feel bad. I just felt A LOT of sensation.
I suddenly saw that it was more aliveness than I was used to and an internal alarm had been activated.
Danger danger, too much sensation!
After a few moments of breathing deeper I was shocked to find I was found the experience pleasurable!
The Path Through Fear
Sometimes the path through fear is simply recognizing there is too much life force (or energy) for the small space your body is containing it within.
Other times the path is finding the emotions the fear is covering over.
Whatever the case, it can create even more fear to explore this alone.
On today’s Man Alive podcast episode I talked with Ray Arata about a path THROUGH fear. Ray has spent thousands of hours guiding men to move through fear in the ManKind project and his consulting work. In this conversation we covered…

* The relieving truth you discover about fear when you understand it
* How to stay empowered when you find yourself caught in fear
* How to navigate fear of the #Metoo movement and current cultural context
* Who to surround yourself with when you’re ready to face your fear
* A question to ask yourself that could change your life

Also, Ray created a conference — the Better Man Conference — that provides men with resources, support and community to create an inclusive culture. This year it’s in SF and NY. I will attend the SF conference and would love for you to join me.
He is generously offering discount for the Man Alive community.
38 min

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